Support Families Grieving the Loss of a Loved One
Coping with the death of a loved one is a tremendous load to bear. It sparks a traumatic grief that can lead to feelings of abandonment or anger, in addition to deep sadness. During wartime, parents of fallen service members grieve the loss of the child they tried to protect. A grieving spouse or significant other may have the additional responsibility of caring for the children, helping them cope with the loss and change in their lives. Families also experience an additional sense of loss from having to move outside of their military community, which often includes a change of schools for their children. The surviving spouse or other family member may suddenly be solely responsible for the family’s financial situation or simply have to face the challenges of being alone.
This section of our site offers ideas and links to resources for caring for yourself and others after the death of a loved one. All people need, and deserve, help in healing. If you are a grieving family member of one of our fallen heroes or are coping with a loved one’s serious injury, please consider sharing your feelings with others. You may want to consult a mental health professional as well, not only for yourself, but also other family members, children in particular. However devastating, sharing what you are going through with others going through the same thing is invaluable. Never underestimate the power of your wisdom to help another going through a similar experience.
If you know families or friends who have experienced a tragic loss, consider reaching out and providing support. Be specific in your offering, but also be ready to listen and respond, as the family’s needs may be different than what you expect. Remember, too, that holidays can be difficult. Be in touch at those times.
If you have lost a loved one in service, please know that you are not alone. The following resources can help.
Families of fallen service members can feel isolated by their loss. For the three days of Snowball Express, children from around the world gather to have fun, meet new friends and share memories while making new ones. Snowball Express and related events are planned and staffed almost exclusively by volunteers, so there are many ways to help.
Created by bereaved military families, TAPS offers grief counseling, benefits counseling and support groups, as well as special programs for grieving children. Helpline team members are available 24/7 to guide callers to appropriate services or simply to listen and talk. Volunteer as a peer counselor or mentor, or help support camps, retreats and events.
Whether going back to school, reentering the workforce, or parenting a grieving teenager, widows face many challenges as they rebuild their lives. AWP offers peer counseling, a community of fellow survivors and educational programs to help widows plan the next chapters in their lives. Volunteer to assist with fundraising or organizing, or help staff the next widow getaway.
Honor and Remember’s mission is for every Gold Star family to receive a personalized Honor and Remember Flag — the only national symbol of appreciation that honors the fallen from every branch of the military. Sponsor a flag gift, or participate in a Run for the Fallen event in your area.
KOH recognizes that a Gold Star Child has lost a mentor, role model and source of guidance on the road to adulthood. KOH’s annual wilderness adventure camp provides positive adult mentors to help these children build skills, character and resilience while having fun and making friends. KOH welcomes families of all faiths and offers a program for moms as well.
Service members and their families may struggle with anxiety, depression, substance abuse or post-traumatic stress disorder. GAH's national network of volunteer mental health professionals offers free and confidential counseling to active service members and their loved ones. Volunteer as a mental health professional or to help with administration, fundraising and outreach.
Committed to honoring and celebrating the lives and legacy of fallen military service members, Dog Tag Brewing works with Gold Star Families to create dedication cans to raise awareness for the fallen and continue their legacy. More than that, Dog Tag Brewing also provides grants to legacy-building initiatives and broad-spectrum training and mentoring programs.
Hero Bracelets are just one of the organizations that honor members of the Armed Forces who have fallen in conflict around the world through the creation of memorial bracelets.
Links to Freedom provides wounded warriors, disabled veterans, their families and caregivers, Gold Star spouses and their children with rehabilitative golf programs at military and civilian golf facilities nationwide. These programs support the mental, social, emotional and physical rehabilitative needs of those struggling find a sense of normalcy and reconnect with civilian life and their families.