Topic: TODDLER PREFERS FATHER Posted By: TERRI Date: 09 Sep 2000 9:50 AM
I am a stay at home mother of a 17month old boy. Lately he seems to
want his father all the time. If he had the choice between his father
or me he will pick his father. He also would pick a friend over me a
lot of times. Im really starting to feel rejected. Is this at all
normal??? I know we received information at his last doctor visit that
said children this age prefer their fathers but this is getting crazy!
Responses:
Subject: Daddy's boy From: Tracy Date: 09 Sep 2000 12:21 AM
It seems to me that your son is quite nowmal. I am a mother of a 3
year old girl and an 18 month old girl. I can remember when my oldest
displayed a great tendency towards her father which my 18 month old is
also doing now. I don't think that the problem lies in your son's
behavior but in your intense love for your child. As a mother myself I
understand the bond mother and child have through babyhood, it is
intense and uncomparible. Yet as the child gets older they develop
their own feelings which become separate from yours. Now as your son
is reaching a more independent age he will meet and experience new
things and carry his own feelings. This is good!! It shows that you
have done a good job as a mother in giving him the confidence to
display these feelings openly. Remember, the more people who love your
children, the better. I would try to encourage this relationship with
daddy because it will give your child not only your strength and
wisdom, but that of a man who loves him very much.
Subject: Toddler Prefers Father From: Sonya Date: 09 Sep 2000 9:49 AM
My 2 year old son is the same way. He is extremely thrilled once his
Dad comes home from work and is by his side until bedtime. I believe
that with a stay at home Mom young children are secure in the fact that
Mommy is always there and there is no real reason to fear otherwise.
Although Dad comes home routinely at the end of the day, he does leave
again the next day. I feel good about being a Mom knowing that I am
raising my children to feel secure that I am always there for them.
Subject: Daddy's boy From:Chalie Date: 09 Sep 2000 5:46 PM
Not to worry...It's hard to miss what's alway's there...It's not a
compition(please don't be offended)Just love your child and he will
love you back...even in the bad times
