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Subject: Doesn't listen
From: Carol
Date: 04 Apr 2001 9:09 AM

I am looking for help with my 4 year old son who will not listen to anything. He is very head strong & I just don't know how to get him to listen. I know this is not helpful to you but at least you know you're not alone!

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Subject: Doesn't Listen
From: Kim
Date: 06 Jun 2001 8:06 PM

I too am having the same problem with my 3 year old soon to be 4 and we cant even get the grandparents to babysit for a night out to ourselves because he won't listen. I can't take him anywhere because of him not listen. We have tried everything. Our pediatrician says he will grow out of it but he doesnt see the everyday stuff I have to go through with him. Wish I had a camcorder to tape him and take the tape into the pediatricians office so he will take me seriously. I know this doesnt help you either. But just wanted you to your not alone. If you find anything please leave a message here. I too will do the same. I really feel for you cause I'm in the same boat. IM SCARED IF WE DONT DO SOMETHING NOW OUR SON WILL GROW UP TO BE A CRIMINAL OR SOMETHING WORSE. AND I DONT EVEN WANT TO THINK OF THE TEENAGE YEARS AHEAD. WE HAVE TO NIP IT IN THE BUD NOW!!!Thanks for letting me rant. Just fed up with no help from anyone.

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Subject: doesnt listen
From: Emilee
Date: 08 Aug 2001 11:00 PM

I also am dealing with a 3 year old daughter, who is very very stubborn and just will not listen, I also am not any help but I thought maybe someone out there could help with some way of disiplining my child to make her understand she has to behave. My friends' kids are all well behaved 3 and 4 year olds, and I have screaming 3 year old. Help anyone!!

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Subject: Doesn't Listen
From: Kristine
Date: 01 Jan 2002 12:33 AM

HI Moms. I have 3 boys....5,3 & 1. Although my children can be little devils here is my tried and true advice. Count. I know it sounds ridiculous but if you keep your cool and count when they don't listen eventually they will listen. Here is how it works. So you tell your 4 year old to stop throwing toys, dirt whatever...they keep doing it. You say "Thats 1, now stop throwing your toys." Like any little kid (especially on the first few gos with this) they will keep doing whatever it is that you don't want them to do. So you say "Thats 2, please stop throwing your toys." They keep doing it. So you say "OK thats 3, go to your room" Time out time. If your child won't go pick them up and put them in there. You don't have to hit, yell or swear (cuz really this only makes it worse) Just be consistent and follow through with whatever the "punishment" is going to be. But I must stress to avoid physical punishment because in the long run you will just be creating another problem.Give it a try, it can't hurt. Just remember not to back down no matter how much they scream and shout and cry, eventually they do get the message.Hope this helps and p.s. my kids are still adapting but I've seen a huge improvement.Good Luck!!!

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Subject: Getting 5 y/o to Listen to You
From: Brenda Nixon
Date: 04 Apr 2002 7:45 AM

Wow, already at 4 and 5 y/o kids can begin to rebel. BUT, stand firm because they're testing you. Kids feel safe when adults run the household. To them limits = love.When you give a promise - positive or negative - Keep It! When you set a limit - stick to it!Don't be afraid of him getting mad at you - big deal - he'll get over it. If he says "I hate you" it's only words (hurtful, I know) but the real test is if you get obedience.Be a good role model! DO the behaviors you want to see. For example, if you get angry and throw a hissy fit so will your child. Model kindness, patience, the right words, etc. Kids will follow your lead. You'll find more parenting tips and solutions on the Parent's Page - http://www.parentpwr.com/pp!tips.html. Hang in there, Brenda Nixon