With Halloween right around the corner, it’s a good time to talk about scary things.
Talking about what scares us is hard. In fact, it’s so hard, many adults avoid the discussion themselves. I’m guilty as charged. So, just imagine what it’s like for kids.
Of course, everyone is afraid of something. That’s normal, but it’s how we handle our fear that lets us move past it and grow or freeze up and never move from our spot.
The first step is talking. By talking about what scares us, we’re not only saying it’s okay to be afraid sometimes (which it is!), we’re also able to develop coping strategies to overcome our fear rather than let our fear overcome us.
Now, how to get kids talking? Try this Not-So-Scary Boo book. It’s a place for kids to write down what scares them and what they can do to tackle their fears. It’s great to do as a family, so that kids can see how grown ups handle their feelings too.
What You’ll Need:
- hole punch
- brad or piece of string
- crayons, colored pencils, or magazine clippings
How to Make
- Step 1: Print out ghosts. Each page has a scared ghost and a happy ghost. You’ll probably want about two sets per person.
- Step 2: Cut out ghosts.
- Step 3: Line up ghosts and punch a hole at the top of each.
- Step 4: Place a brad or piece of string through the hole so all the ghosts are attached.
- Step 5: Write, draw or tape a photograph in of something that frightens you on the scared ghost.
- Step 6: On the happy ghost write or draw what you can do to calm down and not be afraid. This may be different for everyone. No two strategies need to be completely the same and that’s okay. The idea is that kids are able to generate coping strategies themselves with some encouragement from us parents.
When kids are finished, you’ll have a better window into your child’s thinking and they’ll have some strategies to help make the scary things not-so-scary after all.