Compassion means we care about others, treat them with kindness, and feel a strong desire to help people in need. Compassion is empathy in action. For a six-year-old, compassion might look like giving a hug, making a card, or saying something kind to help a friend or family member who is feeling sad or upset. It can also look like reaching out to a peer who has been left out – or hearing about a community need and wanting to do something to help others, even if they do not know them.
Character Empathy in Action: How to Raise Your Six-Year-Old to Treat Others With Compassion
Raising a compassionate and caring child:
Talk Through Discomfort
Children are sometime wary when they encounter people who look, sound or behave differently than those in their immediate circle. And young kids sometimes ask questions or make statements that parents find awkward or embarrassing, such as "Why is she in a wheelchair?" "How come he talks like that?" or "That's a funny-looking outfit!"
"Don't come down hard on your kid" for sharing these reactions, says Harvard psychologist Richard Weissbourd. Instead, listen empathetically and talk through their questions. Ultimately, he adds, "the best way to assuage children's fears is to engage [those we meet] in a very normal way." In other words, children take their cues from adult reactions. In the "Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood" episode "Daniel's New Friend," Daniel has lots of questions when he meets Chrissie, who uses braces to help her walk. The episode's "strategy song" provides simple language parents can use to help children: "In some ways we are different; in so many ways, we are the same."
A Folktale Play
Listenting to and learning about folktales can help children better understand cultures from around the world. Together with your child, choose a folktale and perform it as a play.Do This Activity
Encourage Their Kind Impulses
Use descriptive praise when you see your child reaching out to someone else with compassion. This reinforces their impulse to act with compassion. This might sound like:
- "Thank you for giving me a hug when I was feeling frustrated yesterday. That was just what I needed to help me feel better."
- "That was a thoughtful note that you wrote to your friend. I know she's sad about moving away, and your note will remind her of how much you care about her."
Use Empathy to Guide Giving
Before performing a kind deed for someone in need, ask kids to think about what they know about that person — their needs, interests, likes and dislikes — and then write a note, make a gift or perform a small act of kindness that matches them.
George loves to give presents. Your child can help George pick and wrap a present for one of his friends.Play This Game
Build Good Character Skills with Arthur
Whether facing down a bully, worrying about a new teacher or being the very last person on earth to lose his baby teeth, Arthur and his friends manage to solve their crises with imagination, kindness and a lot of humor.Find Activities
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The Flurry of Fifteens
Franny Fifteen is on her way and she needs lots of 15s ready for her when she arrives! Your child can help by figuring out all the different ways that two numbers can be added together to make the number 15.
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Daniel Tiger's Stop & Go Potty
Use this app to encourage children to practice stopping their play when they have to go potty and learn about important bathroom routines at the potty and sink.
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Daniel and His Friends
In this interactive storybook, your child can read along with Daniel Tiger as he thinks about ways that he is different from his friends and ways that he is the same as his friends.