Character Beyond “Thank You:” Helping Your Seven-Year-Old Understand and Express Gratitude

Gratitude involves both feeling and expressing our thankfulness; it means we show our appreciation for others.  According to the Harvard Healthbeat, “Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” For a seven-year-old, gratitude includes recognizing how others help, expressing thanks to others for this help, and identifying and talking about things that make them feel thankful. 

Three tips to get your child in the habit of expressing gratefulness:

Model Gratitude

Children imitate adult behavior. In your daily interactions, model saying "thank you" to store clerks, teachers, librarians and family members. Encourage your child to follow suit. When you write a thank you note to someone they know, let them add a picture or dictate a few words. As they get older, encourage them to write their own thank you cards or make thank you gifts for people who have touched their lives, such as teachers, coaches or community helpers.

Create a Gratitude Jar

A gratitude jar is as simple as it sounds. You need a large clear jar, a stack of sticky notes and a pen. Have each family member write (or draw) something that they are grateful for a few times a week. It can be small things, like a favorite food, or big things, like time spent with a grandparent. At the end of the week, read the gratitude slips together as a family. 

Share "Three Good Things" Each Day

As a family, make it a ritual to share three good things that happened that day. This is a perfect way to connect at dinnertime or bedtime. Simply ask children, "What made you happy today? What are you thankful for?" And don't forget to share your own reflections, modeling for your kids a daily attitude of gratitude for the small things in life. 

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