From taking their first steps to learning how to read, children gain self-confidence as they master new skills. This gives them the courage to continue to explore and expand their abilities. Seven-year-olds can set goals and make a plan for mastering new academic and physical skills – from math facts to soccer kicks. As you encourage their interests and independence, you may also need to help them talk through their frustrations and fears. They may be discouraged when a new skill doesn’t come easily to them or when a classmate or sibling seems "better than me" at a task.
Emotions & Self-Awareness Helping Your Seven-Year-Old Develop Independence and Self-Confidence
Encourage your child to be confident:
Kids may encounter intense feelings of self-doubt when they are overwhelmed by a task or situation. For example, instead of remembering that they already know how to dribble when joining a basketball team, a child might take in the whole scene — the hoop, the other kids, the fast movement, the size of the court — and become lost in self-doubt. Teach your child to "zoom in" on both strengths and challenges. Instead of looking through the wide-angle lens and assuming they can't do something, they can zoom in on what they can do and what they cannot yet do — and make a plan for improving specific skills. (For example: "I know how to dribble a ball, so that will help me play," "I don't know how to do a layup yet, but I can ask my coach for help with that.")
Definition of Cool
Brainstorming a list of talents and attributes can help your child build self-esteem and discover that being cool means feeling good about your actions and yourself.Do This Activity
Reframe Negative Self-Talk
Some children this age can sabotage themselves with negative self-talk. This often sounds like, "I can't _______," or "I'm bad at _______." Teach kids to reframe their thoughts by countering negative self-talk with self-talk that is both positive and realistic. For example, instead of saying, "I'm terrible at math," they can reframe the challenge as, "I'm working really hard to understand my math homework." That's more realistic and valuable than having them say, "I will get 100 percent on my next math quiz," because it focuses on their effort, not on an outcome.
Let Your Child Borrow Your Confidence
Kids look to parents to see, "Should I be scared here?" Psychologists call this "social referencing." For instance, when children see a dog for the first time, they'll look up to Mom or Dad to assess whether or not the dog is dangerous. If their parent looks relaxed, it's easier for the child to approach the dog. When kids are scared, our instinct might be to help them escape — or to avoid scary situations entirely. But that tells them, "This is too hard for you to handle!" Instead, provide encouragement. Tell your child, "It's hard, but I know you can do it." Show your faith in your child's ability to cope.
Never Do for a Child What a Child Can Do for Themselves
Identify what tasks your children are capable of handling and let them do these — such as getting themselves ready for school, keeping track of their belongings and tackling challenging academic tasks. Resist the urge to step in and make the process quicker. Instead, try to provide time for them to complete the tasks.
Playing Games with the Hundreds Chart
Build your child's self-confidence related to math by playing these games that focus on counting by ones, fives or tens, identifying even and odd numbers, or figuring out which numbers in the chart are missing.Do This Activity
Help Your Child Manage Emotions with Arthur
Whether facing down a bully, worrying about a new teacher or being the very last person on earth to lose his baby teeth, Arthur and his friends manage to solve their crises with imagination, kindness and a lot of humor.Find Activities
Activity Finder: Learn With Your Seven-Year-Old
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Learning to share can take a lot of practice! Your child can work on this important skill by sharing crayons or handing out a fair share of snacks to friends.
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Martha Speaks Word Spinner
Help your child build storytelling and oral vocabulary skills while playing six interactive mini-games with the whole family.
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Buster wants to make a movie that shows a specific emotion… sad, excited, happy, or funny. Your child can choose items to appear in the movie that best matches the selected emotion.