Good friends provide us with support from childhood through adulthood. It takes practice to learn how to be a good friend – practice at being kind, supportive, trustworthy, and a good listener. These are skills kids can begin to learn at an early age. Seven-year-olds care a lot about friendship and belonging. They are moving past the “playmate” stage of friendship and begin to form relationships based on mutual interests, support, and trust. At this age, they are very sensitive to social rejection and may become jealous when their friends play with other people.
Social Skills How to Help Your Seven-Year-Old Build Healthy Relationships
Help your child build good friendship skills:
Talk About Friendship
Help children draw the connection between their kind, cooperative behavior and friendship. This might sound like, "I noticed you went and sat by your friend when she was upset. You're a good friend"; or "Let's help clean up before we go home — it's nice to help our friends." As the Daniel Tiger song reminds us, “Friends help each other. Yes they do, it's true."
Playdates are not only fun, they are a great opportunity for young children to practice friendship skills, as they learn how to share toys, take turns, cooperate and work through problems that inevitably arise. Help them expand their circle by scheduling playdates with kids outside of their familiar peer group. While kids need some supervision, make sure you also give them room to figure out how to play independently, using their own imagination.
Be Sensitive to Temperament
A child's basic temperament is hard-wired. Some children are more cautious than others, eager to observe before diving in. Some children are more naturally comfortable with big groups and new social settings. If your child is on the introverted side of the scale, they might need support in learning how to interject themselves into a group at the park, and they may prefer smaller playdates to big group activities. If your child is on the extroverted side of the scale, they may need reminders about reaching out and listening to the ideas of children who are less bold about speaking up. And all children need alone time sometimes to wind down and enjoy their own thoughts.
Help Your Child Manage Emotions with Arthur
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Activity Finder: Learn With Your Seven-Year-Old
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All On Board!
Your child can work on coping with separation by being the conductor of her own train in this Daniel Tiger activity.
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PBS Parents Play & Learn
Designed specifically with parents in mind, this app provides more than a dozen math and literacy games that parents can play with their kids. Each game builds on the natural curiosity of children and is themed around a familiar location like the garden or grocery store.
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Grover's Rhyme Time
Grover is driving a train of rhyming words. Your child can help Grover drive the train and collect the items he needs to fill the rhyming train cars.