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Bedtime


One of the best ways to deal with bedtime struggles is to set up routines and rules. Children are much more comfortable when they know what to expect and when they know what is expected of them.  Consistency and predictability go a long way toward helping children manage their behavior and their feelings at nighttime as well as during the daytime.

Bedtime can be a difficult time. Most children don’t like to stop doing something fun to get ready for bed, and they certainly don’t like being told when to stop what they’re doing. It’s only natural that they want to continue being a part of whatever is going on in the family, even at night.

Coping with Separation
Bedtime is especially hard for young children because it means being separated from parents. A child doesn’t understand much about time, so it’s hard to know how long it takes for morning to come. Young children can’t be sure when they’ll be back again with the people they love.  That’s why a time of calmness, closeness, and reassurance before bedtime can be really important.  Children need to know that their parents or someone else that they trust will be nearby when the day turns into night.

Testing the Rules

Be prepared, though, for children to test the rules that you make.  It may take a while for them to see that you’re firm about bedtime.  In the meantime, you can let them know that even if they don’t like the rules, it’s important to follow them.

No matter what, there may be some nights when your child might have an especially hard time saying good night. Your child might be overly stimulated, sick, upset by significant changes in the family or having a difficult time for no reason that’s apparent to you.  On evenings like that, you might want to spend extra time with your child before bedtime, sitting beside the bed a bit longer than usual, talking, singing softly, giving a hug.

Little by little, children learn that nighttime will come, separation will take place, they will fall asleep, and then daytime will come again, and they will wake up safely in their own beds, and the people they love still there to care for them.  That security is a wonderful gift for any human being!

Parents Have Needs, Too
No healthy parent likes to end the day with arguments and anger. We want to help our children get to sleep in an atmosphere of warmth and caring — for their sake and for our own.

There will probably be times, however, when your child pleads with you to stay up later.  It may seem easier to give in, but it can help to remember that children really do want to know that their parents are in charge and that they will be firm about the rules.  When we stick to rules and routines, we’re helping our children feel more secure — and therefore more loved.

It’s only natural that parents want to settle their children in bed so they can have some time to themselves.  Parents need some time without the demands of a child’s attention — for peace and quiet, for having adult conversation, for doing household chores, working or studying.  When parents have some time for their own needs, they’re often better able to nourish their family.

Your child might find it comforting to have something of yours to keep through the night, like a glove or a small scarf. Those personal things can help your child feel connected with you, even though you’re not right there.

If you feel comfortable about it, you may want to leave on a night light or decorate your child’s bedroom walls or ceiling with glow-in-the-dark stickers.  Having a bit of light reminds children that there is still light somewhere, and that before long the daylight will come again.


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