When I was growing up, my mom served us a mouth-watering dinner every night at 6:30. Sitting around our sturdy dining room table was usually the only time the five of us were all in one place during the day, and it gave us a chance to detach for a while from friends, work, homework, and the television, and connect with each other.

In my own family, we’ve made it a priority to have a similar dinner ritual, but I have also realized that getting dinner on the table isn’t as easy as my mom made it seem. Most of us know intuitively and intellectually that family dinners are vital for healthy families, but it’s the practical matters that get in the way; challenges like how do I get my kids to eat what I make, how do we manage family dinners when the kids have sports practices at dinnertime, when both parents work late, or when there’s only one parent at home? 

Fortunately, film producer and environmental educator Laurie David has come to our rescue with The Family Dinner: Great Ways to Connect with Your Kids, One Meal at a Time, a fantastic how-to guide for families who want to eat dinner together more often. With contributor and chef Kirstin Uhrenholdt, David gives us luscious recipes such as the Maple-Soy Salmon recipe below that will lure our families to the table.  But David also gives us the whys, and even more importantly, the hows we need to succeed in all aspects of our families’ food life from setting the table, to engaging kids in the shopping and cooking, to expressing gratitude for the food and finally to savoring dessert.

I’m grateful that David took time out of her hectic schedule to share with Kitchen Explorers some insights from her own experience raising and feeding two daughters who have learned to love lingering around the family dinner table.

Laurie, why do you believe family dinners are so important, and what results have you seen in your own home from your family’s dinner ritual?

I see the power of regular family meals every time I sit down to dinner.  My kids are teenagers now and as any mom of teenagers knows, it gets harder and harder to find connecting time.  But because I started this ritual with them when they were young and have continued it with them throughout the years, it’s really non-negotiable. I can’t urge you enough if you have young kids, to start the ritual as soon as possible and to continue it as your children grow.   Also, I have to mention that the research on this topic is really mind blowing.  Basically, the more meals you eat with your kids, the healthier that child will be.  Do we need any more impetus than that?

You suggest playing games and using conversation starters at the table as a way to keep the dinner dialogue flowing.  What are some of the games your daughters have loved the most over the years?

There are two reasons for playing games at the table.  One is to get great conversation going.  The other is to make mealtime fun.  If everyone is having fun, they’re going to look forward to coming back to the table tomorrow.  For some people, coming up with conversation is just as difficult as figuring out what to make for dinner.  So I include all of my family’s favorites in the family dinner book.  I particularly like verbal games that give you an insight into your child’s minds.  When my girls were young, we always played things like “What do you like about you?”, “What do you like about me?”, and “What are you afraid of?”, “What makes you laugh?”  As they grew older, the table became the perfect place to talk about current events and debate issues.  To that end, every Friday on the Huffington post, you can subscribe (for free) to The Family Dinner Download.  It’s a short, snappy synopsis of a major news story with a great, age appropriate question for the table.  These Dinner Downloads are fantastic fodder for any dinner table.

I know you’re extremely eco-conscious, as am I.  What are a few practical, hands on ways we can we teach our kids “green values” in the kitchen?

It goes without saying that this is one of my favorite topics!  There are so many easy ways for us to practice and teach green values to our families.  Just the simple act of banning plastic water bottles in the kitchen is a good first step.  Filtered water should be served in a glass.  In fact, we should be trying to reduce the amount of plastic we use in our kitchens in general.  Glass is the healthiest and most environmental way to store leftovers, drink out of, eat off of.  Of course, composting is a fantastic science lesson you can teach your kids and it’s darn fulfilling to boot.  Buying local and in season and even growing a few simple herbs or greens on your windowsill or backyard is not only green, it tastes best and is rewarding too.

In your book you talk about taking family field trips to the grocery store, farmer’s market, and fish market. Why do you think it’s important that kids accompany us on these outings?

Unfortunately we are at a point in time where there is a huge disconnect between where our food comes from and how it ends up on our table.  These family field trips will help connect the dots.  Also, ethnic food stores are really fun to visit and inspiring as well.

One thing I love about your book is that you advocate family dinners for all kinds of families, including families like yours where the parents are divorced. That’s a practical challenge that we don’t hear enough about, even though so many families are in this situation. What suggestions do you have for single parents to make family dinners easier?

I’ve got tons of suggestions and many of them are in the book.  Buddy up is suggestion number one.  This means that you share the duties of dinner with friends or family.  Split the weeks, double your recipe for your friends and get her doubles back for a meal for your family on another night.  And when your family is going through a crisis, reach out to others.  I could never have gotten through those first few difficult months of divorce without all the friends and family who came for dinner and helped elevate the mood at the table.  Ease up on what your requirements are for dinner.  You can scramble some eggs and throw in some broccoli or have soup and a salad.  The most important part of family dinner is sitting down together. 

Recipe: Soy Good Maple-Glazed Salmon

  • Servings: 6
  • From The Family Dinner by Laurie David with Kirstin Uhrenholdt. More great recipes, dinner ideas, and conversation starters can be found at www.thefamilydinnerbook.com

    Ingredients

    • 1 cup maple syrup
    • ½ cup low-sodium soy sauce
    • 3 cloves garlic, finely chopped
    • 2 Tbsp. peeled and grated fresh ginger
    • 2 Tbsp. Asian fish sauce (optional)
    • ¼ tsp. chili flakes
    • 6 salmon fillets, 4-6 oz. each
    • Salt and pepper to taste

    Instructions

    1. Combine the first six ingredients in a medium-sized pot and bring to a simmer for about 15 minutes, or until the sauce has thickened and has the same consistency the maple syrup had.
    2. Cool the marinade to room temperature (you can make this in advance). Put the salmon in a small container and pour half the marinade over it, making sure the salmon is submerged. Save the rest of the marinade for a glaze.
    3. Marinate the salmon in the fridge for at least 20 minutes, preferably 1 – 2 hours.
    4. Preheat the broiler. Take the salmon out of the marinade and blot it dry with paper towels. Discard the marinade. Put the salmon on an oiled broiler pan if you have one; an oiled baking sheet will also work just fine.
    5. Put the salmon under the broiler 5 to 6 inches from the heat source. Broil for about 4 minutes on each side, until the salmon is just cooked through and golden brown on top. Be careful—it does like to burn.
    6. In the meantime, gently heat up the remaining glaze.
    7. To check if the salmon is done, stick a pointy knife into the center of the thickest fillet, then touch the tip of the knife. If it’s warm, the salmon is ready.
    8. Scatter some herbs on a platter, put the salmon on top, and drizzle with the warm maple soy glaze.

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    • http://www.feedourfamiliesblog.com Gina

      I met Laurie at a Motherhood Talk & have been using some of her ideas since. A simple one that has had huge impact is the High/Low game where we take turns sharing our high & low from the day.

      This gives me insights into my child’s day that I normally wouldn’t. I’m not the only mom who gets “school was great” each day.

      My kids also see that my day isn’t all rainbows & unicorns, but that overall I still have a great day. There’s so many great lessons.

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    • http://savorysweetlife.com alice

      This recipe looks so simple yet delicious. I hope my kids will also love to linger around the family dinner table.

    • Gabrielle

      This recipe may be just what I need to get my kids to eat salmon. :)

    • peggy

      Here is one that is even easier- it is the family favorite when the boys are home from uni.
      1/2 c orange juice
      1 table molasses
      1 grated garlic clove
      1/4 light soy
      whisk together, put in a stonewear baking dish. Add salmon fillet (this works for about 9-10 oz but just add a bit more juice&soy if your fillet is bigger. Marinate about 20 minutes while you get your salad / whatever together. (we love sweet potato oven fries with this- bake in the oven at the same time as the fish). Cover loos

      • peggy

        with foil and bake until tender- the marinade keeps it moist. You can cover with plastic and microwave if time is really short.

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      when i go home i will try this recipe..i miss the days when we have familly diners

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