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Birth order and the baby

Posted by Patience on October 21, 2008 at 7:00 AM in Patience
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Josiah (the oldest): Mom, I just can't stop looking at her. (while holding Lyra)
Jack (the older middle): Has Josiah held her? I haven't held her yet!
Lucy (the younger middle): Can I pet your baby?
Lyra (the baby): the look on her face as interpreted by her mother-
"Are they gonna hold me again?"

Birth order is just one of the 57,000 ways I like to analyze my children and my parenting. Scratch that, it's more like one of the theories I like to use as a filter when I'm trying to figure out if I'm screwing them up.

Do you think he feels left out?
Do you think we are expecting too much of him?
Do you think we are spoiling her?

I promptly call one of my sisters who remind me of all the best parts of being the oldest, middle and youngest sibling depending on which child I am obsessing over at the moment.
PBS kids suggests you talk to your older kids about this directly which I thought was a fabulous idea.

Tell me Supersisters, do you think you fit the mold when it came to your place in your family growing up? Do you see certain characteristics unfolding in the birth order of your kids?


Sarah writes...

I am an oldest girl, and I think the stereotype there is verbal and bossy. I definitely fit the stereotype, as does my oldest daughter.

Amy writes...

my husband and I are both the youngest of two. if we were stereotypical we'd both be the oldest. you know, responsible, practical, care-taking. our kids on the other hand I think do fit the mold. oldest: leader, confident, responsible, looks after his little sisters. middle: dreamer, artist, head in the clouds, happy-go-lucky, can entertain herself silently for hours. youngest: giggliest, girliest, loudest, littlest, bossiest, yells/whines/fusses to get what she wants and gets it (just not from her parents). I too find this birth order stuff fascinating and love to observe my kids without judging. I just try to remember 3 things: not to make the oldest responsible for everything, that the middle one is capable of remembering things like shoes, backpacks and where the laundry basket is, and that the youngest is capable of age appropriate self-restraint.

patience writes...

Amy- you should have written this post! Exactly and yes to all of it...

and Sarah, have you seen The Darjeeling Limited? It's my favorite play on birth order movie.

So I just took a personality test based on birth order and I came up Only Child- what does that mean? :)

jen lemen writes...

this post cracked me up.
i want to pet the baby too.

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