This supersister is exhausted this morning--mostly from going way too long without touching one thing on my list-of-things-to-do-when-you're-not-feeling-so-super. You know the list of which I speak, right? That secret list of things every parent needs and every parent neglects when things get too crazy and overwhelming. I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours. And then let's promise each other to cross something off sometime soon, okay?
1. Go to the movies in the middle of the day. This is the true purpose of the sick day, the real reason children go to school, the most essential indulgence of parenting ever. I promise you the scandal of it alone will make everything feel better. Add snowcaps and you're golden.
2. Go for a walk. And I don't mean a power walk to get rid of that last ten pounds. I'm talking a walk in the park, a stroll, a meander. Go slowly and please smell the roses. Extra points if you can pick a path that includes a river, stream, fountain or some other soothing sound of water.
3. Buy groceries that you actually want and that are good for you, not what's on sale or what you think your kids will eat. There are all kinds of foods that never make it on my list because I'm the only one who will eat them. I promise just the sight of that pomegranate in your crisper will make you happy every time you open the frig.
4. Lie in the grass and look at the sky. I'm not kidding. When was the last time I did this? Oh yeah, the very last time I felt totally like myself. Pretend you are seven and that there's nothing to do but pick out Orion's belt or imagine the clouds are heart-shaped just for you. Only good can come from it.
5. Create your own personal chocolate stash and stock it. I knew a woman (a very wise woman) who hid little individually wrapped chocolates above the child proof line of discovery. Coming upon that blissful goodness long after the fact was her lifeline to sanity. I. must. do. this.
6. Collect your own bunch of wildflowers and display them prominently. Do you have any memory of wearing a dandelion necklace? gathering a buttercup bouquet? soaking queen anne's lace in food coloring? Any one of these activities will still make me happy. How about you?
7. Make a mixed tape or iMix or whatever it is the kids are calling it these days. Go ahead. Download Karen Carpenter. You know you still love her. Need to relive your glorious eighties? Madonna is still your girl. Need more cheese? How about Air Supply? Celine Dion? It takes energy to maintain your sophisticated musical taste and sometimes you just want the most over-the-top playlist on earth. I say no one has to know. Go for it.
I hope you're feeling more better than I am this morning. Feel free to say what's not feeling so super in the comments below. And *please* pretty please tell me what's a must-have, must-see, must-do on your list. (Superdads, too!)