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Kristen

Taking the Danger Train

Posted by Kristen on October 16, 2008 at 6:39 AM in Kristen
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It has come to my attention recently that perhaps I allow my children to engage in endeavors that may be construed to some as "slightly" or even "egregiously dangerous." I know that boys will be boys but my father-in-law did bring to my attention that the dimple on my son's cheek was most likely caused by his jump from the top of the futon onto the floor by way of the edge of the speaker.

I maintain that he was born with that dimple but that it got lost somewhere along the way and has recently decided to turn up again. OK, maybe not. I mean, he did have that bruise on his cheek for two whole weeks and when it went away, there was still that mark on his face. What can I say? I tell them not to jump from the furniture but every once in a while someone initiates some game while I have to get all crazy and take a bathroom break. I can honestly say that before kids, I never realized how much could go on in two minutes. These kids can toss a room, release huge bottles of paint back into the wild, cut expensive throw rugs in half with craft scissors or color in Sharpie on the computer monitor. You think I would learn and just stop going to the bathroom when I am left unattended in my home with my children.

Then there was that time when we had to take The Boy to the hospital for stitches on his face. I feared for his fear and pain but the thought never crossed my mind that he would be "scarred for life." Hmm.

I have to ask. Would I act differently if I had girls? All of you out there, let me have it.

7 Comments

Naomi writes...

I have two boys and one girl. Little Miss is the youngest and by FAR the most adventurous and dangerous!

I'm a "lax" mom too and let my kids do things that others raise their eyebrows at ...

Eh ...as long as no one gets hurt .... (right?)

Kelly writes...

Puh-leassse!
You will not "get it" from me! I come from the time way back when...no helmets on bikes...wear a seat belt-what?...playing unsupervised -running the neighborhood with my friends AND I'm still alive to document it all!

Children are designed for adventure. Parents are designed to worry and hopefully have a cup of coffee every now and then. I absolve you my dear.

I'll tell you later Betty

Jess writes...

Can't help you with the girl perspective, as I have three boys. We're told to fear so many things in life, and over the past half decade my husband and I have learned that when we start making rules that restrict our kids' exploration of the world, we have to stop and ask, WHY? What's really going to happen? How likely is it to happen? It's all about the risk/benefit ratio - most childhood excitements have far more benefit than we parents realize, and far less risk than we worry about. :)

Jennifer writes...

I have a friend who's son might as well be wrapped in bubble wrap every time he gets further than 2 feet away from her. She gets extremely nervous when they come to our house for a visit - my son is free to explore his world and his physical ablilities. **Gasp** What a concept. I don't think it's a matter of boys vs. girls - I was such a tomboy growing up that I had more stitches and broken bones than my brother ever even thought about having.

Kids need to be free to explore the world as they know it. Cause and effect - if you ask me kids learn that one best through their own personal eperiences.

Amy writes...

would you be different with girls? chances are you wouldn't even have to ask. if they're like my girls, they just aren't interested in exploring the huge tractor and gigantic mowing deck (and underneath it) at 18 months of age like my son. To the girls "no" meant no and to my son "no" meant go right ahead! and do it faster next time. a friend eyed me suspiciously with the tractor incident, but as it was a daily occurence, I wasn't overly concerned. I was right there, and hey, the thing was not turned on.

the way I see it is they all have their own little personalities and supervised exploration is learning in my book. things are going to happen, regardless. and we all know what happens when kids come from a severely strict household, right?

Jene writes...

I have a 16 month old daughter (my only child) and so far she's pretty adventurous. She's an avid climber and explorer. I'm trying hard to find the balance between safety (I have, not one, but *two* scars from jumping on furniture as a child) and fun/development. It's an ongoing challenge.

I know what you mean about those bathroom breaks, though. What? Parents have needs? Just don't tell my daughter. Seriously, though, even though my family thinks I overdo the nurture thing, I'm also trying to teach my daughter that other people do, occasionally have needs!

Becky writes...

I think kids will be kids whether boys or girls (I have 3 boys and 2 nieces) but I had to laugh at your comment on the craft scissors. I dared to take a potty break, then later that day I noticed a pair of purple childrens scissors dangling high up on my living room curtains (they were stuck). The twins at age 2 managed to cut up one side and down the other on both pairs of curtains and the sheers. I have yet to figure out how they got that HIGH up and in only a few short moments, unless I passed out from exhaustion in the bathroom, I swear it was only a few minutes. Those curtains still hang in our house as my reminder - to just chill out and go with the flow.

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