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How to Cultivate Meaningful Experiences with Kids

Posted by Patience on January 23, 2009 at 10:09 AM in Family ActivitiesPatience
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It's been brought to my attention that my life appears to be, well, dreamy, chock full of meaningful art moments and conversation. There's something you should know my friends. The truth is for every dreamy moment there are 3 in which someone is complaining, crying, arguing and I wonder why I even suggested such a project in the first place. Remember this?

So here are the tips I've learned in squeezing out the moments in life and cultivating opportunities for connection.

1. Let your children lead. Projects always go better when the kids decide what and how we are going to do something. Ownership makes everyone responsible and creates space for everyone to contribute.

2. Start with a question. Ask your kids what they think about a particular topic or how they can approach a task. You can offer options after to guide the process.
Ex. I have a problem, can you guys help me? What do you think we should do about...?
How should we celebrate...?

3. Let it be. If everyone has a horrible time on your kindness mission, or they fight over color choices for your group art project, it's okay. Not every experience will be perfect or lovely. These are opportunities to navigate group dynamics, personal growth, or just be in a family funk together. Don't give up, keep trying.

4.Leave some space. Some of the best moments just happen on their own. It's the beauty of letting life unfold before you.

What are your tricks for creating family togetherness or meaningful moments? Tell us dear ones in the comments.

3 Comments

Anne writes...

You are so so smart, there is nothing I could add to this. And it's true, we usually only share all the good stuff right? But we all know that life is life and for every one great thing, there are all those challenges. That's what makes the sweet stuff so.... nice.

Amber writes...

I have learned that letting things be is key. It helped me to remember that a lot of the times I remember fondly from my childhood involved a pained look on my mother's face. Your kids will enjoy themselves in spite of you a lot of the time, so it doesn't matter if things aren't how you pictured them.

Like when we bake cookies, I sort of hate it because I feel like I'm constantly arguing with my daughter to not eat the batter, to not eat all the chocolate chips, please don't play in the flour, and on and on. But she loves it. So I'm letting go of my own stuff, and then everyone has a better time.

The tips suggested by you are very helpful.
Such activities will help in improving parents and kids relationships.

Thanks
Katherine

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