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Potty Training Success

Posted by Kristen on January 15, 2009 at 6:37 AM in KristenPotty TrainingRaising Boys
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My firstborn trained himself at 6 months.

Kidding. I'm kidding. Oh, laugh already. You guys need to lighten up. I like to think that without my potty training failures the other mothers in preschool would have to complain about my inability to control my children at drop off every day of school. And my excessive use of the word "FOCUS" as we try to navigate all those mothers with carefully coifed little girls who appear to always walk nicely beside their mothers.

Potty training is craziness. Some start it later, some start it sooner and there is not a person in the world who won't tell you EXACTLY how they did it successfully with their children. Which will, under all circumstances, NEVER work with your child.

Nathan has decided to potty train himself at just under two but I ask you, who is actually potty trained? Me or him? If I don't ask him, he can either stay dry or fill his diaper. If I ask him, he wants to go to the potty. He woke up in the middle of the night and if I had been able to understand him, I would have realized he was saying he had to go the bathroom. He ended up going in his diaper and then he was mad at me. Really, really mad.

Then we had the incident at the mall where I am positive he was wearing a diaper when we arrived but when he peed down the front of his father who was carrying him, we discovered no diaper. Nathan likes to take it off when it bugs him now. No, I don't know what happened to that diaper. Every once in a while I tell myself that I am sure I just forgot to put one on him but I know in my heart of hearts that is not true. Someone somewhere in a mall found a slightly used diaper under a rack. I just know it.

Me? I'm not so great at the remembering to remind. I'm all about remembering around that stinky time of the day because never have you known such a foul odor as the one that comes out of this child. Last week I timed it perfectly 5 days in a row. Then I got caught up one day at 8:55 a.m. with something important like Twitter or a rediscovered stash of chocolate or "look, something shiny!" and we were back to square one.

I mentioned at preschool that Nathan had expressed an interest in going to the potty and Miss J questioned me on my methods. A mother of 4 grown children and a toddler preschool teacher for 24 years, I knew my answer to this bastion of childhood development was going to be wrong.

K: Um, I sit him on the toilet and he goes.
J: Does he ASK to go or do you ASK him?
K: I don't know (wondering how I can't possible know the answer to this question. It's not complicated).
J: You don't allow him to stand.
K: Heck, no. I make him sit.
J: OH.
K: (realizing I just answered incorrectly and now I am NOT getting that rose that says I am still in the running). Isn't that what you do?
J: NO. We teach them from the beginning how to pee.
K: Miss J. You are more than welcome to teach him how to pee that way. Me? I'm too lazy and too fat to be cleaning the bathroom all the time while he is hosing it down. Knock yourself out.

The trouble is, I'm not even trying with this potty training thing. I'm sure this is a window and I should take it, but I have bigger fish to fry like heartburn and "look, something shiny." The whole stay at home for a couple of days in your birthday suit worked like a charm with Ethan. Maybe I just need a timer for Nathan. I mean for me. Well, you know what I mean.


ellen writes...

Now this, this is the Kristen I know and love! Potty trainin stinks - literally and figuratively. Good luck - and just think you get to do it at least one more time!

Becky writes...

Kristen, another hint, potty training while there is another pending birth probably won't work well. Everyone kept telling me how when a new baby comes, your child will start peeing themselves again. Well, thinking I was so very smart and with a 4 1/2 year old that had been potty trained for a year - I just threw my hand up in confidence because THAT wasn't going to happen to me. The twins were born and a month or so went by and THEN it happened, he was peeing himself at school, at home, at night - anywhere and everywhere. I took him to the drs to make sure there was not a bladder infection - nope. This went on for about 3 weeks when I couldn't take it any more. One day, in my hormonal state I yelled (okay screamed), if he didn't stop doing that, it was back to diapers for him. It stopped immediately, not another drop, not another accident. So it doesn't matter if they are 2 or 5, there is something to be said about a new baby being born to revert them back to those days. Just beware of that!

Amber writes...

My 3 1/2 year old stayed toilet-trained when the new baby arrived. She started waking up 3 times a night to chat, but she was dry. I was convinced she would start wetting herself, but I got extreme sleep deprivation instead. Yay me!

Anyways, I nearly peed myself at this:
"Miss J. You are more than welcome to teach him how to pee that way. Me? I'm too lazy and too fat to be cleaning the bathroom all the time while he is hosing it down. Knock yourself out."

I am so with you, sister!

Lawyer Mama writes...

I'm attempting to train my newly minted 3 year old. His older brother trained at 3 in about 2 weeks. Easy peasy. This one? Likes to finger paint in poo. We're giving it another week or so before we retire the undies for another few months.

ana writes...

What, you never heard of Elimination Comunication with infants? Not that I was brave enough to try it with my daughter, but I do have friends who swear by it (and who also had to buy a new couch, but that's another story... )

Kati writes...

I am still laughing... Potty training seems to be the universal "common denominator" for all parents. Except one friend of mine who says she LOVES it because it is the only parenting goal that is concrete and she knows if what she did worked or didn't work (and she didn't have to wait 10 years to find out).

Reframing it that way was helpful for my mindset. However, I still freaked one day when dirty underwear came home from school in a plastic bag. YICK! I had our prissy princess rinse it in the (clean, soon to be dirty) potty water and we haven't had a poo accident since. I try to match the cause and effect for our kids and why should I always be the one up to my elbows in poo soup!?!

hostgator writes...

My three year-old son just recently learned to go potty on his own. It took a couple of weeks of encouragements and saying positive things about his progress on the potty.
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blue hosting writes...

I wish I would of learn to go potty by myself.

paydayone writes...

I'm potty training my daughter. It's tough.

air purifier writes...

Kinda Sad. Potty training is the last part of being a baby.

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