Whenever I see an expecting mother with a small boy by her side, I always want to tell her a secret even if she is a complete stranger. Don't worry, I usually don't but I wish I could. I suspect there is probably a twinge of longing for a girl because we always are intrigued by what we do not know or have, but secretly I hope she will get to experience the joy of watching brothers grow together.
It's when you are in it together when your mother decides it would be awesome if you were Shaggy and Scooby for Halloween. Even though you both like the show, it isn't exactly what either of you had in mind.
There is also great joy when she finally buys the store bought Bionicle costume you both have been begging for. They still try to squeeze themselves into these costumes.
There are hours of legos, tinker toys, art projects and constructing of all kinds together. All roads lead to robots, especially the dream that together they might be able to build one that would clean the room they share, or just add a friend to the mix.
This partnership can welcome someone new into the mix because there is nothing like a brother. A sister has her own place in the family love. They seem to find their own peace in the midst of big family chaos.
Now with shaggy hair and long arms like their papa, I wonder how their friendship will change and grow. Everyday we get closer to the developmental place where independence must be tried on in new ways. The time when you stretch and learn how to be on your own, sometimes even with out those closest to you. I always hope they find their way back to each other, to the soft place of landing that is the brothers.
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