Even in grief, you can celebrate the deceased person’s life and important place in your family.
Your child may need lots of time, sometimes even years, to understand the permanence of death and to say good-bye. The funeral or memorial service may be the occasion for taking the first step in the grieving process. Your family may also benefit from these other meaningful ways of saying good-bye and sharing memories:
Plan an intimate memorial. With your child, plan a smaller memorial gathering for close friends and family. Allow everyone to share memories and stories. It’s OK to share funny memories and laughter, too!
Dedicate a special moment. Listen to or sing a favorite song or eat a favorite meal dedicated to the memory of your loved one.
Document memorabilia. Gather your loved one’s pictures, clothes or favorite things. Then, take turns telling stories or writing about each item to remind all of you of the good times you shared. You could also record stories on your video camera or cell phone.
Plant a living memorial. Working together to plant a garden bed of your loved one’s favorite flower or a tree in his or her honor can help you and your child connect with your loved one’s memory—and with one another.