
Fiona and Robert in a scene from Hold Me Tight, Let Me Go. Courtesy of Women Make Movies
How do you assess which children might benefit from going to the school?
This process usually starts with a conversation between a social worker or parent / carer and the head of the family and professional networks team. The school then receives papers that provide historical information about the child's life experiences, presenting difficulties and how they have been understood. If the child seems as though they may benefit from a place at ‘the Bush,' then a more formal process begins. The assessment is made during meetings which involve staff from all the children's services departments, in conjunction with the referring authority and family and of course the child. Visits are made to the school by the professionals and parents / caregivers and then a meeting held in the child's community with representatives of all those who have an interest in his or her future. The director then visits the child at home to make the final decision.
How are you funded?
The school is funded by the fees paid by referring authorities: health, social services and education. These are increasingly now integrated into the children's services departments.
Where do the children come from?
The children come to the school from all over England and Wales. Although some travel a long way, the most important thing is the emotional link developed in the relationship with the school. A child who lives locally but whose relationship between the school and the family or local authority is not good, may as way be a million miles away. Children make best progress when they experience all those interested in their care working closely together.
Who refers them?
Children are referred by their social workers, education departments, psychiatrists or by the courts. Increasingly parents are fighting for their children to be placed at the school through the tribunal system.
What is the involvement of the local authorities?
Local authorities have statutory responsibilities to remain involved and interested in the lives of the children they place at the school. Some carry these out with more energy and commitment than others. Some display their interest in the child's development beyond their statutory responsibilities, others are less supportive. Nevertheless, we are aware of the sometimes overwhelming pressures of caseloads on the referrers.
How long do the children stay at the school?
The children stay at the school on average for three years. We generally find children need a year to settle in, a year to really engage in the work and a year to prepare to leave.

Michael on his last day at the school from Hold Me Tight, Let Me Go. Courtesy of Women Make Movies
How are children helped at the school?
We offer them a chance to re-experience caring and clear relationships with adults and other children. The adults do this by carefully planning for each child's needs, then using the opportunities that arise through group living to give the child very clear expectations, routines and rules for how to live with and get on with others. The adults work closely alongside the children and help them understand and manage all the experiences of the day — everything from mealtimes to bedtimes. This takes a long time, but as the children start to make sense of this new way of living together, they gradually start to grow and change.
The children are also closely supported in and throughout the educational day. Our education area is welcoming, serious and fun and caters to the children's different and special abilities. With small classes and energetic teaching, the children start to enjoy learning. As a result, they catch up on schoolwork that they previously did not feel confident about.
What is the therapy?
As a therapeutic school, we try to meet children's needs and manage their behavior, so that they start to feel better about themselves. We help children raise their self-esteem in a number of ways. First there is "planned environment therapy." We have to make sure on a day-to-day basis that children who find it hard to think and plan ahead are living in a place where adults can provide safe routines. Then there is the therapeutic value of living together with others in households. Many of our children have found sharing with others very hard in the past. In the households at the school, they are helped to learn to think about the needs of others and to start taking responsibility for their actions. Some children need to be looked after closely, because they are still "little" inside, while others are a bit more mature. Sometimes children need more help, so the school also has a psychotherapy department.
Some of the children have individual psychotherapy, and the staff teams also consult with psychotherapists to develop their understanding of the children. We plan our care, treatment and education to meet the needs of each individual child.
In the film, the teachers sometimes hold or embrace the children while they are in the midst of a tantrum or are upset. In some cases, particularly when the child does not want to be held, the embrace is quite forceful. Can you explain why the technique is used? Is this practice generally accepted as an effective treatment for attachment disorder?
One of the aims of the school is to allow children to have normal experiences and for them not to become more institutionalized through their being in residential care. To that extent staff will be affectionate and caring when children are upset and in distress. However, the staff working with the children are sensitive to each child’s needs and to the context of events and would not force an embrace or physical contact upon a child who does not want or need it. We also have to be aware of a child’s promiscuous affection and/or the pre-existing sexualization of some of the children due to their past experiences of abuse.
At times when children find themselves uncontrollably angry, they may need to be physically stopped and all of the staff are specially trained to be able to do this. At the Mulberry Bush School we use a technique called PRO-ACT-SCIPr which, as well as providing physical and emotional containment, is used to prevent children from hurting themselves and others. Often, understandably, the child does not want to be held but it would be dangerous to let them go before they have calmed and it prevents them from doing harm (which they may also find intolerable to reconcile themselves with after the event). It is the most uncomfortable part of the work for children and staff but is necessary to prevent physical and emotional harm.
How is the staff chosen?
The staff are very carefully chosen. They are our most valuable resource. The vast majority of the staff is very well qualified with relevant higher educational qualifications. However we need staff to be good at relating to challenging children and to be emotionally and physically very resilient. The recruitment process is carefully designed to test applicants in these areas. We know that this sort of work is not for everyone and that staff is pushed to their limits and beyond.
What kind of staff do you have? What qualifications do they need?
All our staff are professionally qualified for the roles that they fulfill: teachers, psychotherapists, social workers, school nurse, family therapists and play therapists. We also have many staff with psychology degrees, who are nurse trained, who have master's degrees in therapeutic child care, organizational consultancy and so on. We also have many staff who do not have many paper qualifications but who are enthusiastic and passionate about the work. All our staff have regular training from our training department.
How long does the staff stay?
We ask for staff to give a three-year commitment to working at the Bush, so as to avoid too many transitional relationships for the children, most of who have experienced far too many losses or broken relationships.
How do you measure the success of the school?
We try to remain open minded as to what success is. We collect a considerable amount of data and know that the children's incidents of aggression drop by 95 percent during their stay, that 100 percent of leavers are able to access learning at school whereas before they came only 8 percent could do so. We also know that 84 percent of children, who were unable to be placed long term with a family when they arrived, were fosterable when they left.
We know that Ofsted (the Office for Standards in Education) rate us as "Outstanding."
We also know from ex-pupils that sometimes it is years later that individuals understand what the school did for them. One student wrote us:
"I used to be a pupil at your school, from 1976 to 1981. I have never forgotten how the school shaped my life. I am now a senior associate within a large architectural practice."
What happens to the children when they leave?
We work hard to ensure children move on to somewhere that will best meet their needs. This depends on the individual child and their family circumstances. The majority of children return to a stable home base and attend a local school. Some children move on to another residential school with more frequent home visits.
What work do you do with the children's families?
We have a families and professional networks team who work with the families. They aim to help develop the understanding in the family of the difficulties they are facing and join us in find ways forward together. The team comprise social workers and a family therapist. We also work with parents / caregivers in groups and provide some family therapy.
Have the children been abused?
Many of the children at the school have been neglected and abused, either sexually, physically or emotionally. Others have seen or experienced awful things. Sometimes these things have happened when the children were very young, or even babies. When neglect or abuse happens before a child has learnt to speak, they still carry the memory of what happened but find it almost impossible to put it into words. Instead they ‘act it out' and one of our aims is to try to understand the underlying meaning of their complex behavior and feelings.
Which children receive psychotherapy?
All children received a story stem and psychotherapy assessment during the first twelve weeks of their stay and then at the end of their penultimate year. This helps us to assess their inner world and gauge how they have grown. About a third of the children also receive individual psychotherapy once or twice weekly. The school's internal treatment team refers them if it is felt they would both benefit and make use of the additional help.
What support is the staff given?
High levels of staff support are essential in enabling the staff to both survive and make sense of the children's behavior. All staff attend meetings each week which focus on developing an understanding of the children and attributing meaning to the behavior. This is supported by regular training sessions that are underpinned by psychodynamic theory. All staff attends weekly ‘reflective space' meetings that are facilitated, and allow exploration of the emotional impact of the work. There are regular spaces to meet with the consultant psychotherapist and her team. The treatment team for each child has regular meetings to review the work being done with the child and ensure a consistent understanding of the therapeutic intent behind it.
What are the aims of the school?
The school aims to be in partnership with an actively involved referring authority, to equip each child with age appropriate personal, emotional, social and learning skills to cope in a family and in a local school and community.
How does the staff deal with the challenges?
It is important when dealing with challenges that the children experience the staff as calm, thoughtful, caring but authoritative. The children need to know that what they are doing is wrong, and then what they could do differently.
How many children are diagnosed with mental health problems such as depression, ADHD, etc.?
Approximately half the children at the school are diagnosed with some form of attachment disorder or have a mental health diagnosis prior to referral.
How can children's mental health problems be avoided?
Children learn about their feelings when their parents/caregivers help them understand and cope with the normal ups and downs of life. If children experience many separations, have been abused and/or witnessed very frightening things then they will need the adults to give them lots of help in making sense of the world. It can be extremely difficult for these children if the adults have not been able to help them in this way.
Are there schools for older children like this?
Yes there are schools that work along therapeutic lines for secondary aged pupils.
Why are there no girls in the film?
The children in the film were really identified by two main criteria. Those for whom we had permission to film and those who were happy to be filmed or who were comfortable in front of the camera. It just so happened that this led to no girls being included, which was a shame.
To learn more about the Mulberry Bush School, please enter a question below or visit the Mulberry Bush School's website. The Mulberry Bush School is non-government maintained special school with charitable status. Find out how you can support the school.

Talk About This
Do you have another question for the teachers and administrators at the Mulberry Bush School? During the week of broadcast, we will send a selection of viewer questions to the school. Post yours below.God bless you all for what you do! Our grandson has a similar problem. I was struck by the fact that the children have the same type of violent reactions that my grandson has. How strong you must all be to stand the heartache. That is our biggest challenge. Again, thank you and God bless you.
by dan rochte
July 28, 2009, 11:48 PM
I'm a retired special education teacher. The behavior i saw in the program is familiar to me though not on that scale. I was surprises to see how the children were able to express themselves. They also seemed to be higher functioning. Is this true in general of ypur students?
by Linda Smith
July 29, 2009, 9:52 AM
Is society experiencing more disturbed childern in the past 20 years than before? Has proper parenting declined?
by sylvia dillon
July 29, 2009, 12:36 PM
I am in total awe of all the staff members that appeared in this documentary. The way they maintain a consistently even composure is beyond words. You could see that they are 100% focused 100% of the time. It's a pity that their even tone, saintly patience and focus can't be bottled and sold. They all deserve medals!
by Lynda
July 29, 2009, 4:18 PM
Watched your program last night 07/28/09 and i could relate with everyone of those kids. Can you imagine how difficult it was for me growing up and still now ? Your program opened my eyes, i thought i just had the problem. I was punished just about everyday of my childhood life right on up into my teens and adulthood. I want to purchase a tape of that program to send to my parents who have abondonded me. My father was very abusive to me when i was a kid because i was labeled as a problem child, my mother called me the seed of the demon. I'm a good person now but i had to learn the hard way on everything. I think i still have a few issuses though.
by T Green
July 29, 2009, 4:35 PM
Are the children allowed to receive/respond to mail from penpals? I watched the program last evening and WOW what an eye opening experience.
by elizabeth
July 29, 2009, 5:24 PM
Do you find that many of the children at "the Bush" are adopted, or have been in foster care? When they leave, do most of the children go back to their bio or adoptive families, or do they go into (or return to) the foster system?
by Debbie
July 29, 2009, 6:20 PM
While watching the program,I was amazed by how patient and even-tempered the teachers were . I am a teacher myself, and know how difficult it can be to maintain one's composure when students are displaying challenging behaviors. The teachers at this school are special people, because many could not do the work that you do. Bravo to the staff of Mulberry Bush School!
by Susan
July 29, 2009, 6:41 PM
This film provided such a wonderful insight into how adults can intervene in such a positive way with these children. I am curious as to how much focus is placed on academic work in the school. Most of what we saw was play therapy and I wondered if academics play a role too. I am also interested to know how much help parents get on ways to intervene with their children once they complete their time at the school.
by Susan L.
July 29, 2009, 8:09 PM
Thank you for bringing this film to public television. My grandson has just returned
home after a stay at a similar residential treatment center in the US (Villa Santa Maria in Colorado). It is wonderful to see what a well-constructed program like this can do for these kids and it helped me to understand what the program is like.
I am curious that medication was not mentioned at all and yet I know that my grandson must be on some medication indefinitely to function even with all the behavioral changes. I am curious about what percentage of the children at your school also need the additional help of medication.
by Niela Miller
July 30, 2009, 10:25 AM
I ended up staying up late watching the film on the
Mulberry Bush school. I am the Guardian and Grandfather
of a 12 yr old boy (Josh) who is a student at the
Orthogenic School at the University of Chicago. Josh has
been at the O school for 6 months and I can see alot of
improvement. He does have to be restrained occasionally.
He has very impulsive behavior and has been diagnosed with
ADHD. Possible Attachment Disorder and Possible BiPolar
symptoms. His main problem is his innapropriate behavior
but the school is working on that. He is on medication.
My son Andrew, Daughter in-law Cathy and 3 grandchildren
lived in Oxford for 10 years and they now live in North
London. Josh's mother Patricia lives in downstate Illinois
and is not capable of raising Josh,so thats why I have
Josh. Josh has had alot of loss in his life. His father
died two years ago. His grandmother my wife passed away
suddenly last year and his paternal grandmother kicked
him out. She had Josh for 5 years before my wife and
I became Guardians.
Anyway, I can thank PBS for the very interesting film on
the Mulberry Bush school.
Cordially
John L. Shapin
by john l shapin
July 30, 2009, 11:40 AM
wow, I watched this last night and it brought me to tears.
I was these very children, i am these children...
only i am 29 years old now.
and still havent gotten things figured out.
these adults are amazing....
i wish there was something like this for children a long time ago.
for a long time... i thought i was the way i was... just because.
however, that is not the case.
I dont even know what to think, or say, or feel..
but thank you for this documentary.
It is a beautiful thing you all are doing.
I would love to be able to work with kids like this someday.
Thanks again, Much Love,
Andy
by Andy
July 30, 2009, 4:43 PM
I watched this show and since have not been able to get the children out of my mind. You can tell they are over stimulated by the staff and the constant questions. The medications may need to be reduced to get better attention and less violent episodes. The adults need to be more loving to the children have been left by their parents and need some comfort and the parents are the one's who need counseling to help them and how to deal with the children. I was saddened to see a little boy want a bigger hug from his mother for her to only push him away. She looked totally grossed out by her own son, and he was so cute and only wanted to be held by her. I wish more parents would take the responsibility that they brought in to this world.
by Brandy Himes
July 30, 2009, 6:18 PM
I watched this over and over even at 2 a.m. "Angels" do not adequately describe the staff. May God bless you a million times over for your dedication and patience. Please never up on these " Little Angels". They don't deserve any of this only love and compassion.
by Barbara
July 30, 2009, 7:58 PM
I tuned in to the program to see examples of teaching reading, math, and science to the children. I did not find what I was looking for. Because of IDEA (the Individuals with disabilities education act) I believe that in the US it is considered to be among the civil rights of mentally handicapped children that they are entitled to learn reading, math, and science. I tuned into the program to see how this is done. I would still like to know how, I didn't get it from watching the program.
by Vincent Evangelisti
July 30, 2009, 11:45 PM
I was intrigued and heartened by watching this program. I really appreciated the care that the staff take to make the children think about their actions and that they encourage thought instead of allowing the easy, violent, attention getting actions that the children have learned as coping skills for the crap that they have had thrown at them. How sad that the youngest members of society have to work so hard to overcome their early experiences. The use of physical restraint to control the children when they are acting out was encouraging to me - I think we here in the US have become afraid of physically interacting with disturbed children as a result of overactive litigation. For any child sometimes the only thing that can break into a mental spiral is a kind but forceful physical interaction,. Other respondents have wondered about the children's medication and one suggested more meds and less talking, but I think that is the easy way out for everyone except the child who stays dependent, whether on people or medication. Often children are unable to articulate the side effects that meds may bring - their behavior improves, but sometimes only because they are too much in a fog to formulate disruptive coping behaviors. So the meds mask the problem instead of confronting it and teaching the child appropriate societal coping mechanisms for when they feel hurt or unhappy. I applaud this program and wish its' participants the best of futures.
by Jessi Peterson
August 1, 2009, 12:18 AM
I'm the parent of three daughters (one grown, two young). Naturally all children have their times which try our patience. I watched this film and cried at times at seeing these kids suffering their own internal turmoil. The thought that so many lacked loving parents and a "normal" household hurt me to watch. The patience of the staff was nothing short of amazing. I would have liked to have seen how the staff members were able to release their pain or frustration off camera (in one case, one staff member left and went up a flight of steps.) I imagine there are times when these people cry with frustration or tense their fist away from the children angry of how they've been treated. Certainly this is a fair and very human reaction. But when they work with the children, they show compassion and clearly make every attempt to teach the kids how to express their feelings in words.
Thank you for such an insightful production. And God bless these people who work with these children.
by Dan
August 1, 2009, 12:40 PM
Others who have been touched by this video may want to go to justgiving.com and enter the school name to donate as I have done. There are instructions above.
by Dan
August 1, 2009, 1:00 PM
For me reading about the school made me crave to watch the movie. It was excellent - a must for all teachers - I am now retired but would have profited early in my career from seeing this. My last post was in the Western Arctic - this would be a very helpful and validating movie to see. Thank you so much! Mary
by Mary Morican
August 3, 2009, 1:50 AM
elementary teacher
All I can say is "brilliant!" The teachers and staff at "the Bush" are amazing. I really sensed that the adults see and honor the intelligence of each student. The boys were really quite bright and perceptive. As an educator, I learned some valuable tips on how to redirect students who use their behaviors to distract others from what's really troubling. Thanks so much!
by Meredith from Fairfax, VA
August 14, 2009, 1:00 AM
therapuetic foster parent
does your school also use medication therapy for the children
by jill from portland, oregon
September 25, 2009, 7:23 PM