The Whole Child
Dealing with Feelings
Do's and Don'ts
abc's of child development
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Do's and Don'ts
Dos and Don'ts

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Things to Remember
  • It is very important for your children to learn how to openly acknowledge their feelings.

  • In conflicts, it is vital that your children learn how to describe what they feel like doing, using their words instead of actions.

  • Try to really listen to your children. Get down to their level to let them know you are listening. This communicates respect, warmth and empathy. It tells your children they are important.

  • Encourage your children to explore, make decisions and attempt challenging projects.

  • Children's needs are immediate, intense and personal. The longer you keep your children waiting, the more irritable they become.

  • Play is a very important way for children to learn to understand and express their feelings.

    Things to Avoid

  • Avoid misrepresenting your feelings to your child; for example, saying, "I'm not angry, just worried you'll hurt yourself," when you are really angry!

  • Try not to make a lot of demands on a tired or hungry child.

  • Avoid name-calling, blaming or yelling. It's better to calm down for a few minutes, think about what you want to say to your child, then simply and calmly say how you are feeling.
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