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I'm Glad I'm Me:
Do's and Don'ts
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Things to Remember
  • Give your children opportunities to learn different types of skills through activities that are challenging. Activities such as puzzles, sewing, swinging and ring toss help children feel successful and competent.

  • Pay attention to how your child feels when she has accomplished something. Say something like, "You've been working so hard on that puzzle. How does it feel to finish it all by yourself?"

  • Creative activities such as clay and dance help children feel competent by allowing them to use their own ideas to create something or express themselves in a way that is uniquely theirs.

  • Children need lots of encouragement, especially when they are not successful. For example, you might say, "It takes a lot of practice to learn how to swing without anyone pushing. Every day, you'll get a little better."

    Things to Avoid

  • Avoid using comparison and competition to motivate good behavior. It's better to encourage your child by commenting positively on his progress. For example, "You're pouring better every time you try!"

  • Try not to help your child too much when she's trying something new. Give her a chance to try out her ideas and do things for herself.

  • Avoid talking about your child in a negative way in his presence. This can hurt his feelings and make him think he's not important enough to be included in the conversation.

  • Try not to discipline your child in front of other people. It's better to do so in private.
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