My father's family always spoke about their grandparents, Phillipe Lieteau and Amelia Loughbporouh-Lieteau. However, when I would ask about their parents, the conversation would quickly change. It wasn't until about 5 years ago I found a Jacques Lieauteau in a 1860 census. By this time all the relatives who had accurate info on this person had died. The only one who had vaque information is a couisn who finally told me the truth. Jacques was a Frenchman who fatherd one(?) a child, Phillip, with a non-white woman. Since my family are devoute Catholics, I assumed this was considered a sin and would not talk about it. I think there is more to the story than this but I cannot find any more information.
This is only one side of my family. There are more stories about my maternal great-great-grandfathers. One is rumored to have been a slaver and a pirate who settled with a black woman, and the other was a plantation owner who gave up his fortune to be with a black woman.