His reminder about indifference helped me weather a short but intense spiritual storm. As it turned out, that extra year, spent working at AMERICA magazine, was a wonderful period in my life -- one that helped me dream about a new career as a writer -- and also helped to better prepare me for theology studies.
A few years later I said to my provincial, "You know, I finally realize that I did have to wait that extra year. You were right."
"I know I was!" he laughed.
But indifference can be a costly grace. Ignatius and the early Jesuits understood this well. In 1539, when a Jesuit whom Ignatius has hoped to send to the Portuguese colony in India fell ill, Ignatius's best friend, Francis Xavier, volunteered. Faced with the decision of keeping his friend at his side or sending him away "for the greater glory of God," Ignatius chose the latter.
It must have been a painful step, one he was able to take only with true indifference. It was this radical kind of freedom that enabled Ignatius to let his friend go, and it was the same freedom that enabled Xavier to become one of the world's greatest Christian missionaries. But the two men, best friends since their university days, would never again see each other. After spreading the message of the gospel in India and Japan, Francis Xavier died off the coast of China in 1552.
Before his departure for India, Francis wrote his best friends a letter from Lisbon, in 1541. To my mind, it is the most moving thing he ever wrote, as it captures both his love for Ignatius as well as his dedication to his new mission:
"There is nothing more to tell you except that we are about to embark. We close by asking Christ our Lord for the grace of seeing each other joined together in the next life; for I do not know if we shall ever see each other again in this, because of the great distance between Rome and India, and the great harvest to be found."


