My greatest challenge is always being aware of my own self identity. I met a female bodied person and fell in love with her in 2002. Then in 2006 “she” began to transition to “he.” I lost myself for awhile in all my partner’s emotions and all the physicality involved in a gender confirmation process. I became an author and a public speaker on the platform as a trans person’s partner. Yet even in all my advocacy and my work, I still find myself struggling in being seen from the outside world as a “straight woman with a cisgender straight man.” It deletes some of my truths and I feel invisible. Everyday I work on finding connection with other queer identified people, in order to be seen for all the pieces of who I am. With current pandemic this process has proven to be even more challenging. It makes me feel lonely.