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The only way you can be is yourself. If you're not yourself, you'll never really feel like you fit in; but, if you are being yourself, and still don't feel like you fit in, it doesn't matter because all that counts is that you be yourself.
You don't have to prove anything to anyone, no matter how much you think you do. Just know you're not the only one who feels this way. Look around-- someone else might feel the same somewhere around you.
Honestly, "fitting in" is not the biggest deal. I used to be the biggest loser, I had no friends and all I wanted was to be popular, but
once I did get into the "popular" crowd I thought to myself, "man what a
bunch of morons, these people don't care about me". Basically I'm saying, screw trying to fit in, some people are made for it,
some aren't. The "in crowd" are just a bunch of unstable people who also want to be acceopted and they all feed off each other because they're all constantly trying to be the center of attention. I've learned that it's always best to stick to your one true friend or a
few true friends, because those are they people that will count later on in life. People at school suck, no one's themselves when they go to school, we all pretend to be other people. But the most important thing is to love youreself. You have to enjoy spending time with you and yourself before you worry about anyone else liking you, because chances are if you can't love yourself, no one else will be able to either.
You are the one that is going to be with yourself for the rest of your life, not everyone else! If you are happy, that is all that really matters. Do whatever it takes to make you feel good.
I would say that you would need to let people know how you feel, and don't be afraid to speak what you feel. And if they laugh at you, that is their problem, because you should feel confident that you did it all on your own. And just let people get to know you. If you're in a History class where you have to give long answers aloud, say what you think about the problem. Who knows-- others may find it very interesting.
Who cares about the crowd? I know that I personally hang out with the "in crowd" but even they have times of doubt. But if you have true friends, who cares about those who do care about the stupid unimportant things. They are the ones that are truly missing out.
Don't worry! Don't pay attention to what people say, live your own life! Live life to its fullest and don't listen to what other people have to say about you.
My advice is to be happy to be who you are, and do not let what other people think of you bother you. If you love yourself, and like who you are, then that's all that counts. Be an individual, be you, and don't be what others want you to be.
Well, look at it this way. If you don't think that you fit in and you wanna change, then you should get a friend to help you out. Or just be yourself, and really don't care what people think about you!
If you don't feel like you fit in, well, honestly I don't know what to tell you. I mean, I see it like this: how you gonna fit in COMFORTABLY, if you can't be comfortable outside of fitting in? In other words, in order for anyone to love you, you gotta love yourself, then you can love someone else, and eventually you will find that they love you too.
Try to join groups that involve your interests-- there you can meet kids who have the same interests. Also, remember that in college there will be no "in" crowd.
I would say, don't worry. Just be you and there will always be someone who you will meet up with and then slowly, you will feel like you fit in more. And people are very rude, but remember: just because they are doesn't mean that you have to be.
Trying to fit in is a part of life. Everyone will go through it at one time or another. The worst thing you could do is not be yourself. Trust me, people see through you like an open window.
Make your own little group with other people. Don't try to change the way you are, just find people who feel the same way.
It shouldn't matter if you fit in or not. You are your own person and you are supposed to be unique. If someone doesn't like you or has a problem with you, that is their fault and they could be
missing out on an awesome friendship. Don't put your joy in people, put it in something that will always bring you happiness!
Who cares about fitting in? I mean...what's normal? Everyone fits in with somebody. I believe everyone is special and I really don't like when people put others down because they are different.
My advice to those who feel they don't fit in is, talk to the people that feel like you're not around. Don't be miserable. All you got to do is talk and tell them how you feel.
When everyone leaves and you're left to look at yourself, you have to love yourself. No one can see out of your eyes except you, and in turn, NO ONE should tell you how to see the world. Also, they shouldn't tell you who to be
and you shouldn't have to try and live by anyone's standards. Live your life for you. What other people think is not worth losing sleep over, because fitting in is overrated. Strive to set a trend. Strive to be yourself. In a time where we can't talk to anyone about our
problems, we have to learn to love ourselves...from there, we can find a piece of who we are and, and realize that conforming is just another way of being someone we are not.
Don't give in, and don't give up. You're the only person you have to live with your life!
If you don't fit in with the group you're trying to in with, then don't. Do not ever change yourself for someone else. You are your own person. If they can't accept you for who you are, then that's their loss.
Stand up to your own perspective and don't let anyone persuade you to something else. Don't be miserable about it. If you really want to "fit in", then ask to hang out with them more and show them the real you. Being yourself is always better!
You don't need to fit in. Be yourself and forget about fitting in. When you feel good about yourself, nothing else matters.
Think about whose world this is...this is God's world and everyone fits into his world. Also, God brought you into his world to create your own
world. So as long as you fit in with yourself, nothing or nobody else matters.
I would say, just be yourself and don't be someone you're not, because there is always someone who realizes you are a great person. And then you finally realize you have a friend.
Don't worry about fitting in. There are people out there just as scared of you as you are of them.
Ultimately, in the entire scheme of things, everyone "judges" people somehow. If you have any religious standpoint, you will know that we, as a human race, were not put on this earth to judge others. That is the job for one person only-- God, whoever your God may be. Fitting in doesn't mean anything in the end!
I have been attending my school for two years now, I mean you'd think I fit in right? Pullllllllllleez, I stick out like a sore thumb. The things I'm different, so...who isn't? But the thing is when one has to fit in, it usually means you have to give up being who you are and try to be like everyone else. You may also be forced to get into things you
aren't interested in as a result of fitting in. I decided that was a miserable way to live so I just concentrated on being me. What I want how I want it, I'm not concerened as to what so and so have to say about me. And by the way, I love the colour of my skin, it's a pity not every one agrees. Being the only African in a school isn't easy but once you realized what you believe in, it's all up to you to make the difference. It's your life and no one can live it for you. Absolutely no-one!
Just know that no matter what, there is somebody out there who cares about you and loves you very much. Think about everything else, but most importantly, think about how much you mean to someone else.
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