Emotions & Self-Awareness “I Can Do It:” Building Your Four-Year-Old’s Self Confidence

From taking their first steps to learning how to read, children gain self-confidence as they master new skills. This gives them the courage to continue to explore and expand their abilities. As you encourage their independence, you may also need to help them talk through their frustrations and fears. As you see them express interest in trying something new, teach them strategies that will help them master the skill. They will develop confidence as they practice these new tasks and recognize their progress. 

Help your child build self-confidence with these tips:

Start Small

Stay alert to the cues your children are sending you that they are ready to get themselves ready for school, wash their own hair or fix their own snack. Responding positively to these first steps will build a foundation for raising a capable and responsible young person. Allow children a chance to struggle before rushing to end their frustration. Sticking with a task and working hard to solve a problem fosters self-confidence.

PBS Parents Play & Learn

Designed specifically with parents in mind, this app provides more than a dozen math and literacy games that parents can play with their kids. Each game builds on the natural curiosity of children and is themed around a familiar location like the garden or grocery store.

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Practice, Practice, Practice

In order for children to develop resiliency to forge on through the ups and down that go hand in hand with all learning, they will need oodles of practice time. As parents, we need to step out of the way and allow our children to make mistakes and encourage them to keep trying. If your four-year-old made lunch for the first time (after many failed attempts and with jelly all over the floor), pause for a moment and celebrate. This is progress! Acknowledge it and move forward to the next thing.

Hold a Family Awards Ceremony

Recognizing your child's personal strengths and abilities with these homemade awards can help boost your child's self-esteem.

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Never Do for a Child What a Child Can Do for Themselves

Identify what tasks your children are capable of handling and let them do them. If he can zip up his own coat, let him. If she can pour her own glass of milk, let her. Resist the urge to step in and make the process quicker (or cleaner). Instead, try to provide time for them to complete the tasks.

In My Bathroom

Daniel Tiger is learning how to take care of himself by brushing his teeth and washing his hands. In this game, your child can play about and practice some bathroom routines.

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Help Your Child Manage Emotions with Daniel Tiger

Through imagination, creativity and music, Daniel and his friends learn how to manage big and overwhelming feelings using strategies grounded in the teachings of Mister Rogers.

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Activity Finder: Learn With Your Four-Year-Old

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