The following Featured Post comes from TV Series Group 11, Thread 11.
1. Why Is The Number of White Women/Black Men Relationships So Much Higher Than Black Women/White Men?
I am truly baffled as to why there are so many more white women/black men relationships than black women/white men relationships. I am not even going to list my theories here because I would like to get your ideas without you feeling you have to respond to what I have written. I really would like some feedback on this issue. Thanks.
2. HELLO TO ALL!
Hill, in response to your question: I have my own ideas as to why this is. I think in general women tend to be more compassionate people (not that men can't be.) I think we are more open and less afriad of straying from cultural norms. I think men are much more prone to socital pressures. Of course these are generalizations and there are always exceptions.
3. Response to hill
Well, this is my opinion: history, history, HISTORY! Over 2/3 of this country's history involves slavery. During slavery, as I'm sure you're well aware, the occurence of white slaveowners raping their black female slaves and biracial daughters was extremely common. I think there grew such a hatred of white men, especially representing slavery and the whole power structure, in general, that it became taboo for black women and white men to be involved.
6. Brain Washed!!!
I believe some black men have such a warped sense of who they really are. During slavery their identity was totally stripped from them. I've heard some black men talk about why they date white women and they say black women have an attitude problem and give them too much lip. In their mind white women act the total opposite.
They do as they say and really i think that means when they tell them to bend over they do so. Not only that but i also think it's an economic status they think they are reaching. White women are usually associated with money and class where as black women are usually associated with section 8 and five kids with five different fathers at the age of 16. I say this only in saying what i think they believe. In no way do i believe this.
7. black/white relationships
I think ancientapple is absolutely right that it comes down to compassion. Women ARE discriminated against, so there's a basic level of understanding that's available for WW/BM couples. As to the reverse, my GUESS is that it's a societal norm. WW are "allowed" to think that BM are sexy, think athletes and male models, while the messages targeted to single men are thin white lingerie models. Why would a WM look to a BW when that's not what they are "supposed" to think is good-looking or sexy (and neither are their friends, who are, in my experience, often the litmus test to a successful relationship, perhaps even more than women's friends).
My hope, however naive, is that people will begin to see each other for what is really there and not for base their experience on the media messages we receive.
As to ravenc1's belief that WW "bend over" for BM, I have to say that my (black) husband would never treat any woman with disrespect or expect that they would bend to his will, mostly because of his awesome mom. Teach and they will learn.
9. Response to ravenc1
I agree with you, that for some black men, white women is the ultimate ideal, or whatever. It's like the movie "Jungle Fever," when Lonette McKee tells Wesley Snipes that he dated lighter and lighter until he got himself a white woman. I have also heard many black men say that black women are "too strong, too opinionated, too independent, too whatever..." and that white women will just do whatever they want, give them their credit cards, let them walk all over tham and not think twice.
That is not all relationships, but I know this goes on a lot. That is one of the reasons I detest the stereotype of the "typical" black male/white female relationship, where she is rebelling against her parents and venturing into the exotic realm, and he is just looking for a bank and a free car. I have to disprove that a lot, and another stereotype is that the white one wants to be black and the black one wants to be white...nonsense. Well, maybe for some, but not for me, my boyfriend, or most of my friends.
It is interesting to me that the majority of people posting are white women in interracial relationships or parents of biracial children seemingly wanting validation or feel the need to defend there relationships.
11. How To Make White Men Appealing To White Women
I do not believe some white women would seek out
12. Response to hill
Do you honestly think that white men are THAT concerned with whether or not certain white women are interested in dating black men...enough to CHANGE THEMSELVES??? I think that is a bit naive. Men in general are comfortable and not interested in changing themselves just so a few women who didn't look at them before would give them a chance now...plus, I wouldn't date a guy if I knew he was only dating me to keep me "out of some black guy's hands."
13. Response to Britt
Yes, I do admit that I am naive as far as white
14. Resonse to hill
Why do you think that white women "run after black men?" What about the other way around? Why is it white women's fault that there are interracial relationships? It takes two to tango, and I'm sure if black men were not interested, it would be a different story.
I do not happen to chase black men down and beg them to date me...if my boyfriend and I should happen to break up, I won't go running around town looking for my next black victim!
15. Response to Britt #14
Before I answer the questions you raised, I most
Unfortunately, I have seen some white women make
Question 2: What about black
Question 3: Why is it white women's fault
Question 4: How do I think the
Black women are not thought of
16. response to hill #15
Hill, would I be right if I guessed that you
Example: I know a black woman who only dates
I guess I'm against
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