Dating Violence Show
Before Julia Salinger got mixed up with that abusive boyfriend on "Party of Five", Neve Campbell teamed with ITM's Julio for this special.
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Warning Signs of Abuse

Is trouble coming? Look at these questions, then think about how you're being treated...and how you treat your partner in return.

Are you dating someone who...

  • Embarrasses or makes fun of you in front of your friends and family?

  • Puts down your accomplishments or goals?

  • Makes you feel like you're unable to make decisions?

  • Uses intimidation or threats to get you to agree with them?

  • Tells you that you're nothing without them?

  • Treats you roughly-- grabs, pushes, pinches, shoves, or hits you?

  • Calls you several times a night or shows up to make sure you are where you said you'd be?

  • Uses drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?

  • Blames you for how they feel or act?

  • Pressures you sexually for things you aren't ready for?

  • Makes you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?

  • Prevents you from doing things you want, like spending time with your friends or family?

  • Tries to keep you from leaving after a fight or leaves you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson?"

And what about you? Do you...

  • Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?

  • Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's behavior?

  • Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?

  • Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner happy?

  • Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?

  • Always do what your partner wants you to do, instead of what you want?

  • Stay with your partner because you're afraid of what he or she would do if you broke up?
If you said "yes" to any of these, consider talking to someone. Confide in a trustworthy advisor, mentor, friend or relative. And check out the resources in 411's Dating Violence section. You don't have to suffer in silence. You don't have to be trapped!