|Before Julia Salinger got mixed up with that abusive boyfriend on "Party of Five", Neve Campbell teamed with ITM's Julio for this special.|
|Description | Warning Signs of Abuse
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|What's Your Dating Violence IQ?
Here are some statements that a lot of people believe. What are they – FACT or fiction?
THEY SAY.... Victims bring on abuse themselves. They ask for it.
FACT. Wrong. Abusers believe they have the right to use abuse to control their victims. They see the victim as less than an equal.
THEY SAY... If someone stays in an abusive relationship, it must not be so bad.
FACT. NO WAY! People stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons: fear, dependence (including economic), confusion, loss of self-confidence, not recognizing the relationship as abusive, belief that the abuser needs their help, belief that the abuser will change.
THEY SAY... Men are battered by women just as often as women are battered by men.
FACT. NO WAY! 95 percent of the reported incidents of assault in relationships are committed by males, according to the U.S. Bureau of Justice.
THEY SAY... Most batterers are crazy or uneducated.
FACT. Wrong! Batterers are found in all classes – rich, poor, and in between – professional and unemployed; and in all ethnic groups.
THEY SAY... An occasional punch is OK; it is not abuse.
FACT. NOT OK! It is abuse – and it is a criminal act.
THEY SAY... Jealousy and possessiveness are signs of true love.
FACT. NO THEY ARE NOT. They are signs that the person sees you as a possession. They are the most common early warning signs of abuse.
THEY SAY...fs There is nothing a victim of dating violence can do -- and no place for abusers to get help.
FACT. WRONG! There is help – counselors, teachers, parents, hotlines and specially designed programs. There are also some designed for young men who have abused their girlfriends. Check out the Dating Violence section under 411.