the farmer's wife

letters to the buschkoetters


Dear Juanita,

I have never been so moved by a story as I was by yours. It is no wonder YOU are the focus of the film, and indeed its title. I am 32 years old, I have a wonderful wife and family and thanks to some good fortune, am enjoying the opportunity to return to school to get my teaching degree. When I look back at what I beleive to be the most trying times in my family's life, I wish I could have faced them with your strength and undaunted vision of the life you knew you would some day have.

I do not share your religious convictions, though after watching your story, I wonder if a faith like yours can only be born of a strength like yours. I give your husband some credit too-he was able to overcome the anger inside and understand what he stood to lose.
In a way, you have also become the previously unheard voice of untold thousands of frontier wives who were the real founders of this country. Their sacrafice, like yours, was the price paid for taming the land. Thank you for my new perspective on the enormous hardships of farming, the power of faith, and the miracle of love. I wish you and your family all the best.

Christopher Raino
Peru, NY


Thank you for sharing your story with so many. I was touched and greatly encouraged in my own struggles.

I don't know where people would "come off" to tell you to get a job in town. I am a town dweller with serious struggles right know, in spite of being categorized by Texas Workforce commision as a "high earner". What makes them think you would be better off in "town"?
I am pleased to see you get to do what you love and am encouraged to continue to pursue my own dreams.
By the very virtue of being alive, we will have stuggles, but I hope the worst of it is behind you.
I visit "The Farmer's Wife" website often just to keep my own morale up, I'll let you know how it turns out.

Sherry Everitt
Euless, Texas


You are true Heros in a time when Heros are hard to be found.

If Americans are looking for role models, they need not to look any further than the Buschkoetters.

Tony C.
St. Louis, MO


Dear Juanita and Darrel,
I first viewed The Farmer's Wife last year and I have been watching again tonight. I am so moved by your story. Your strength and courage are phenomenal.I am from a small town in CT, then moved to Boston for 10 years. 2 years ago I moved to Western MA and feel at home again in this rural area. I have thought of you when I'm walking with my dogs in the fields behind my house. Your story has stayed with me, I share your appreciation for the land and you have been an inspiration to me when my family and I have encountered difficult times. Juanita, I admire your courage so much.

To see such a good mother and partner, with the inner strength to surpass so many obstacles, go to school, work hard, become an advocate for others and still have a sense of humor makes for an outstanding role model and inspiration to all women.Thank you and your family for sharing your story. I wish you all the best and much success and happiness. Melissa

Melissa Lehr


I found myself talking to the TV and rooting for you both and not able to turn it off. I had actually seen the first 4 hours a year or so ago and hated that I had missed the ending and not knowing what had happened.

I watched those 4 hours again and taped the final two earlier this week and just finished watching it. Anyway, I hope that everything continues to go well, financially and personally for both of you and your three girls. Good Luck and God Bless.

Vicki Stanford


dear juanita and darrell, my wife and i have been watching your story on t.v. we feel as though we're right there struggling with you each sunday night dealing with not only our own trials and tribulations but trying to give you guys strength to make it through your tough times too!

life is certainly full of ups and downs and just when you think it can't possibly get any worse, it sometimes does. But as you have demonstrated, if true love and courage exists anything can happen. i can only hope that the example i'm setting in my life for my daughter is close to what you two are showing yours. good luck in the future and remember - above all each other.

kelly wright
norway, maine


I so much admired the strength and diligence your family showed during your hard times. Being a city-slicker, I really did not truly under- stand the trials my brothers and sisters in rural America are faced with. I pray that your family's story touches others like it has touched me. Stay faithful and continue strive for excellence in all that you do. May God continue to bless you and your family.

p.s. Try not to let your new found fame change the humble spirits you showed during the documentary.

jason thompson
st. louis, mo


Dear Juanita and Darrel,
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing these very private moments in your life. I enjoyed the film tremendously. I know I will reflect on it often. I am a city girl with a city life. Your film has opened my eyes to a way of life much different than mine. In many ways, much richer. I must say, watching you both struggle, working yourselves to exhaustion, I felt guilty having the time to watch 6.5 hours of television! I work full time, and I am enrolled in two graduate classes, but it was time well spent.

Claire Horneffer
Euless, Texas


Dear Juanita and Darrel,

I have had the pleasure of watching The Farmers Wife twice now. I am not surprised it moved me as much the second time a the first. I live in the city and even though we can take a short trip south to see people farming their land, I had no idea how bad it could be.

Farm Aid has made the farmers plight a little more visible, but nothing like your show. We just don't think of all the other problems on the farm besides the weather. Such as the machinery breaking down,which hinders the farmer from his work. I would really like to see how you family is doing today. It would be a nice follow-up to the show.
Thank you for telling your story. It was a valuable lesson for all of us to lean.

Maureen Negulescu


Americans sometimes, in this day and age of "having it overnight," forget that achieving goals takes hard work, tenacity and faith. Your story is the true "Real World" -- and something we all should hear about more often.

Thank you for sharing your story; I certainly hope this summer's drought has passed you by -- has not affected you.

Harper Wood
Montgomery, Alabama


Being only familiar with city life, I never realized how diverse our country really is, until viewing your program. I had never been so emotionaly involved with a television show before. I am a college student myself, when i saw you Juanita earn your degree I can't tell you how proud of you I was . I think the reason why there has been such huge response is because people can relate to the family.Everyone basically has the same dreams desires and goals for themselves and their loved ones,what do you think?

David Neal
Philadelphia , PA


At the time "The Farmer's Wife" aired last year, I did not have a computer capable of going on the web to contact you. Now that I do, I wanted to take the opportunity to share with you how special I found your story.

I'm a 38 year old man who's never lived in the country. My father was in the Air Force before going into commercial aviation. My parents and sister have always lived in larger cities or metropolitan areas. As is typical of a military family, we moved around during my father's 20 year career. I never did master the skill of building strong relationships.

After a failed four year marriage in 1997 and the heartbreak that followed, your story touched my heart. The commitment to your marriage, your children and your way of life is just as inspiring and moving to me today as when I viewed the show last year.

I can only trust the Lord will one day entrust to me a special woman that I might share such a committed and rewarding relationship with.

May the Lord continue his blessings on you, your family and your relationship. Thank you for being such a good example for myself and others.

Arthur Throckmorton
Las Vegas, NV


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