Getting Off the Streets: Healing Hurts (Chapter 3)

In the Interfaith Homeless Outreach Council’s homelessness rehabilitation program, participants are encouraged to confront the internal struggles that led them to addiction and homelessness. As they come face-to-face with their inner demons, it becomes harder to stay in the program.

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It's a no tolerance program,

zero alcohol.

I had to be saved 4 times in

the past year.

It's an everyday fight with

the demons.

We randomly test and if their

urine comes up dirty then

they're automatically

terminated.

I told him,

you have opened up Pandora's

box.

And now it is going to be hard

to close it.

The temptation is always going

to be there, it never leaves.

We just rotate for 28 weeks.

The men load their cots up,

all their belongings and move

them to the next congregation.

(singing)

I think the men don't like it

because they get to one

location.

Things are going well and then

they have to move again.

(singing)

We got four more churches to

go to,

and after that we are on our

own.

[Beep beep from truck backing

up.]

The church we are at this week

is Collingswood Presbyterian.

This is where we come in every

day at 4:30 since they don't

have a shower here this is

what you're forced to use for

2 weeks.

90% of time that is what you

have to use to get clean.

There are 7 of us in the

program still.

That's a lot of people to wash

out of a sink, but,

it sure beats the alternative

of the streets.

Bill, he is a good person.

It takes a lot to gain any

trust from me.

Me and Mike,

we talk a lot together,

we joke so much.

We have a connection in that

way.

I fell in love with this young

lady.

We were married for like 13

years before she passed away.

Gone.

I kinda got myself back

together again and then I

apparently found someone my

childhood sweetheart and we

took up and got married and

life was good again.

Beautiful.

Then,

one day her son went down to

the park.

He's playing basketball and

his ball went into the lake.

She dived in the lake and she

never came back.

She drowned.

So guess what happened.

Back to the bottle.

So I went to California,

here comes again,

I am with a girl and we are

together five years.

Don't you know,

she had a heart attack.

Three times.

This time full blown drunk.

Drunk as a skunk everyday.

And of course homeless.

I have three daughters.

This is my grandkids,

all seven of them.

I love you.

My mom you

know passed away,

very young from alcohol.

Me and my husband don't drink.

There's just no drinking at

all.

This is me, my sister Rachel,

this is my sister Stephanie.

I don't have my mom because of

that and my father was hurt by

it.

Him having to try to raise

three girls on his own was

very difficult.

It's just been a lot of

heartbreak, depression,

and he's always looked to

alcohol.

The difference with the

program is,

it's not just about housing.

It's about even spiritually

changing him.

He's always liked to sing.

So when we got to

St. Michael's Lutheran in

Cherry Hill,

he got invited to come to

choir rehearsal.

I'm glad that he's found a

spiritual connection.

It's really helping him stay

sober.

I've been pretty good, zero,

zero, zero on everything.

I know my triggers.

I just prefer to not be around

people.

When you are being babied for

weeks at a time,

if you are an independent

person, ah well,

it'll start to get to you.

We are only as sick as our

secrets and a lot of these men

bring a lot of secrets.

Every morning when Mike signed

out in parentheses he put

"work," but, Friday,

he put "life."

Mike

got up for work one day and

never returned.

We all hope he is safe.

The hardest part of it is

losing people.

Me and him,

we were real tight.

It's a piece of your heart

that breaks off because you're

used to being with somebody to

go through this journey with

you.

Things went downhill for me.

We go over to buy beer and

we'd sit in the lot,

get drunk, and go to sleep.

I kept on living in the past

till now.

At the end it gets crazy,

'cause now we are trying to

find a place for everybody to

live.

I put together this

spreadsheet so that we could

track down some housing for

you.

It's just not enough housing

out there.