Joe and Marilyn went to Japan in 1954, after they were married. Joe had a business promotion out there. And while they were in Japan, the United States government, the army, asked Marilyn to come to Korea and entertain the troops and sing a few songs for them.
And she did that. She left DiMaggio. It was their honeymoon. He wasn't too happy about that. And she did go to Korea and when she came back from Korea, back to Japan, she said to Joe she was so thrilled by the crowd and there were 100,000 soldiers out there.
You never heard such cheering. And Joe said, yes I have. And it was just a kind of ego conflict between this great movie star and this great former baseball player by that time.
And I think that was the damaging aspect of their relationship. I think they loved each other. I think DiMaggio loved her, clearly as the evidence of the years later proved. But I think what he really wanted down deep in his own heart was for Marilyn Monroe to leave the movies and become a wonderful Italian housewife and cook spaghetti for him and to be with him all the time.
Q: Did Joe think about her feelings, her insecurity?
A: I think Joe DiMaggio never really understood Marilyn's insecurity and Marilyn's approach toward her professional life and what she needed in her own life. When they were married, this is the highest profile actress in America marrying the highest profile athlete in America. And maybe they thought that was enough. How important each of them were and they really didn't give a great deal of thought or a great deal of attention to what kind of a marriage they could possibly have and to be recognized every place they went. To be fussed over every place they went. Equally fussed over. Or maybe Marilyn more than Joe on certain occasions, Joe more than Marilyn on other occasions, depending on the crowd. And I think it made for a very, very difficult relationship, and I guess the best description of that is that it's very difficult to have more than one star in a family.