Julie Winokur: My name is Julie Winokur I'm 42 years old, I live in New Jersey and I'm a filmmaker. Hey Isabel, did you find the clips?

Daughter: Yeah.

Julie Winokur: O.K. You want me to put them in, come here?

Daughter: I do.

Julie Winokur: I'm taking care of my 83 year old father. I have two children and they are 8 and 11 years old.

Ed Kashi: My name is Ed Kashi, I'm 48 and I'm a photo journalist. We'll save the grace...

Julie Winokur: We lived in California, we lived in San Francisco and my father was living in New Jersey. We've uprooted our lives, our children, our business and we moved it 3,000 miles in order to be there to support my father. Oh you've got that Einstein look going, you didn't tell me you were a mad scientist. I am part of the Sandwich Generation. It's people taking care of their children and taking care of their parents and apparently I'm one of something like 20 million Americans who find themselves in that position. My father's 83 and he has dementia. He has good days, he has bad days, he has days where we kind of have the old Herbie back and he cracks some jokes.

Herbie: You notice I can...

Girls: We're teaching him a duck and weave

Herbie: ... their swinging to hit me, huh?

Girls: Yeah, exactly.

Julie Winokur: And there are days where he just rambles incoherently and nobody has any idea where his mind is. We'll see if you're up to it we'll go take a walk again, okay?

Herbie: [mumbles]

Ed Kashi: In one way I can see all the gifts bearing fruit in terms of how to care for him, how to touch him, how to react to ways he might behave.

Julie Winokur: My dad needs help shaving, bathing, dressing, getting his shoes on and off. He has to be given pills twice a day, his meds need to be managed so we get the right pills at the right times. You have it? I want you to do it yourself. He is a lovely man and he's an unassuming person and he's a great presence in the house, but it has added a layer of noise in our lives. Listen to me. Isabel I need your help. [sigh]

Daughter: My mom and dad have been much more stressed out cause there's more things to do in the house and I think that Poppy's a lot of work.

Son: It's pretty cool having my grandpa in the house with us, but it's a little stressful for my parents.

Julie Winokur: I'm really scared that they're going to feel like the day Poppy moved in is when they lost mommy and daddy. There's not a single minute of the day that somebody doesn't need something from me. So if I'm not careful, I'm going to get run down. Last night in the middle of the night he got up to go to the bathroom and he fell down. So this morning when we went downstairs we found him on the floor.

Ed Kashi: We're right now at a loss how to deal with his medical condition. Herb has gone into a free fall since he went into the hospital. There is a part of me that thinks, God wouldn't it just be easier if he passed now, but you know every time I'm around him when he shows the spirit to live it's like that's all I need to see.

Julie Winokur: I've already told my kids I'm going to move in with you some day, I hope you don't mind.

Daughter: I will let you guys move in, into a big humongous bed and then you'd press this button and then I would wake up and help you.

Ed Kashi: In the long run, the kids are being given this lesson, this life lesson in what it means to care for someone. What it means to come through for someone else.