Column: Don’t confuse forgiveness in Charleston with forgiveness for racism
For me, two themes emerged from the discussion: forgiveness and reconciliation. While the national narrative about Charleston has been one of instant forgiveness, it was clear from the discussion that many people are troubled by that narrative. I wish we had had more time to unpack that multi-layered concept.
As a Christian, I was certainly moved by the forgiveness that the families of the Charleston victims extended to the shooter at his arraignment. I believe — as they likely do — that Christ requires His disciples to personally forgive those who harm them. But I also understand the frustration of family members like Malcolm Graham, the brother of Cynthia Hurd, who admit their struggle to forgive and who wish to be able to struggle openly with their hurt.
And I also understand the frustration of people like Willie Glee, a member of Mother Emanuel. We had a chance to talk in the green room before the taping. He told me that he was very concerned that the broader community was hiding behind the families’ forgiveness as a way to deflect dealing with centuries of racial division and hierarchy.
This type of introspection should also extend to policy discussions in at the local, state and national level. The shooting served as a triggering event, the type of exogenous shock that can help clarify a public policy debate. We have to come to grips with the fact that it took the savage murder of nine innocent people to jumpstart a symbolic policy debate that had stalled for decades. Don’t get me wrong — I am happy to see the Confederate flag leave the South Carolina State Capitol, and I am happy that nationally, people are much more conscious of the ways that memorializing Confederate sympathizers and segregationists is painful to many people. However, if the legacy of Charleston is that a few flags came down and few streets got renamed, then the Emanuel Nine died in vain.
The best way for us as a nation to honor the victims of the Mother Emanuel shooting is to do more than just pat ourselves on the back because their relatives took the bold, courageous and painful step of publicly starting their personal healing process. Their personal journey is not our collective journey. Our task is to interrogate the systems, institutions and practices that taught Dylann Roof that he should be superior to blacks because of the color of his skin. Our task is to reform an educational system that failed Roof and many others by not teaching them to be more discerning of historical perspectives that fail to tell the truth or the whole story.
And our task is to have a better national conversation about race: one that doesn’t assume that every racial critique of America is unpatriotic; one that doesn’t hide behind party lines, class divisions or outdated racial assumptions; and one that doesn’t ignore evidence of obvious racial inequality or automatically dismiss such evidence on the grounds that inequality stems from bad “culture.” This is the only way to promote real racial reconciliation. If we don’t have this kind of raw, authentic conversation now, then sadly, we doom ourselves to have to repeat this kind of forum later.