I recently spent time with three women friends who are amazing, strong, and interesting women. Two are in their mid sixties, one in her fifties and all of them mentioned that they want to find love, again. Needless to say, sometimes, when a woman of certain age decides to date and open her heart again, it brings up a host of concerns, beliefs and insecurities.
The biggest belief is the one that has been statistically proven—there are more available single women than single men in the pool when you get to your fifties, sixties and beyond. The other belief and worry, of course, is that a woman of a certain age is going to be hard pressed to find a guy who can be the right match in intellect, education, accomplishments, spirit and interests, and also be able to love the way they women want to be loved.
Then of course the fears come flooding in – I’m too old, wrinkled, flabby, picky, and I feel unattractive. There is the fear that there might not be someone who can embrace you as you are.
I believe we have to start by embracing ourselves for who we are.
My three friends, who are fit and beautiful women, shared that the idea of “dating” is a little unsettling and sometimes seems fruitless. But they are open and trying to stretch. And that is exactly what you need to do when you are looking for love – open the windows and the doors to life so love can find you.
One of the most important parts of the journey to finding true love is faith. You have to believe in your soul mate or true love, and trust that there is someone special out there, just for you.
I wrote these prayers to offer a boost in those times when it feels as if true love has passed you by, or that it will never come again.
Pray for healing of past heartache, to be made ready for a true and healthy love, and pray for the soul mate who is meant to be by your side. No matter what your faith or background, it can’t hurt to say a little prayer.
Try these prayers to help bring love closer:
Reawakening to Love
The season of love is upon us.
The heart reawakens I reclaim my birthright
and take a stand for my own self- worth
and innate ability to love and live in the embrace of love.
I have had trouble with love in the past.
I have been disappointed.
My heart has been hurt.
I was once lonely, angry, unhappy, sad, and worried.
I used to believe you can’t find true, lasting, soulful love.
But I choose to heal this now.
I choose love. And to find true love.
And I make a new choice to reclaim the innocence of the heart
and reconnect to soulful love.
Please Heal My Wounded Heart
Please help me heal
From grief, loss and the pain of love gone wrong.
And love that has been lost.
Let me leave deep heartache it in my past.
And be whole and happy again.
In my fear of never finding true love
I have been needy and overly-anxious,
Desperate and too willing to settle.
Please calm the need in me that leads to unwise choices.
Fill the emptiness in my heart that makes me crave unhealthy love.
Restore my faith in love and relationships
And grant me the ability to love myself fully.
And to feel lovable and wanted from within.
Let the healing process must begin inside my heart.
30 Day Soulmate Prayer: Say this prayer each morning and evening for 30 days.
Loving Essence of all there is.
Please fill me with your sacred presence.
I ask for your Love and Guidance
And for your blessings
As I explore the deep reaches of my heart
I ask for you assistance
In releasing that which stands in the way of true love.
May I be embraced in a circle of your love
An uplifted by your grace.
And so it is.
I Am Ready for Love
I am ready to have a relationship
with a wonderful person,
who truly gets me, loves me, adores me,
and is ready to build a life with me.
I choose to believe there is a special person out there for me.
My name is written across his/her heart.
Please put me on the right track toward true love.
and lead me to a place of committed love.
I am willing to work on myself and
To make myself ready for love.
Please grant me the power
to look at love through spiritual eyes,
And to remain sincere about
finding the relationship I have longed for.
Calling Out to Love
I call to the Cosmic Match Makers and Guides
Please assist my efforts to find love.
I open to love in all ways.
Let love meet me around the next corner.
I throw my arms open to love.
Exceprted from Rituals for Love and Romance: Attract Your Soulmate with Ceremony and Self-Love (HealingEbooks, May 2009, by Laurie Sue Brockway). Join Rev. Laurie Sue in the Facebook group, The Soulmate Project