By — Jaimie Ding, Associated Press Jaimie Ding, Associated Press Leave your feedback Share Copy URL https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/what-erik-menendez-said-in-his-hearing-before-being-denied-parole Email Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr Share on Facebook Share on Twitter What Erik Menendez said in his hearing before being denied parole Nation Aug 22, 2025 2:51 PM EDT LOS ANGELES (AP) — Erik Menendez was denied parole by panel of California commissioners Thursday. During his hearing he offered his most detailed account in years of how he was raised and why he made the choices he did — both at the time of his parents’ killing and during his decades in prison. READ MORE: California parole board denies release for Erik Menendez due to misbehavior in prison He and his brother Lyle were sentenced to life in prison in 1996 for fatally shooting Jose and Kitty Menendez in their Beverly Hills mansion in 1989. The state corrections department chose a single reporter to watch the videoconference and share details with the rest of the press. Here’s a look at Erik’s remarks. His upbringing “I was not raised with a moral foundation,” he said. READ MORE: The Menendez brothers are getting parole hearings in California. Here’s what to know “I was raised to lie, to cheat, to steal, steal in the sense, an abstract way. When I was playing tennis my father would make sure that I cheated at certain times if he told me too. The idea that there is a right and wrong that I do not cross because it’s a moral bound was not instilled in me as a teenager.” Erik Menendez appears before the parole board via teleconference at the Richard J. Donovan Correctional Facility on Aug. 21, 2025, in San Diego. Menendez was denied release more than 36 years after he and his brother Lyle killed their parents in their Beverly Hills mansion. Lyle appears before the board Friday. Photo by California Department of Corrections via Getty Images Relationship with his father Menendez has said for years he was sexually abused by his father. He told commissioners: “I fantasized about my father not being alive.” Prosecutors asked why Menendez chose to kill his father rather than leave the family home, as he was already 18. He said: “In my mind, leaving meant death. There was no consideration. I was totally convinced there was no place I could go.” He also spoke about the fear of his father: “It’s difficult to convey how terrifying my father was.” The murders The panel of commissioners asked Menendez why he killed his mother as well, if his father was the abuser. READ MORE: What’s next for the Menendez brothers after their sentences were reduced? Menendez explained that he did not see any difference between his parents because he found out that his mother knew about the abuse: “It was the most devastating moment in my entire life. It changed everything for me. I had been protecting her by not telling her.” On shooting his mother: “I wish to God I did not do that.” Breaking the prison rules Commissioners focused on numerous rule violations Menendez committed in prison, including drinking alcohol, affiliating with a gang and having a cellphone. On why he chose to use a cellphone: “What I got in terms of the phone and my connection with the outside world was far greater than the consequences of me getting caught with the phone.” On substance abuse: “If I could numb my sadness with alcohol, I was going to do it … I would have taken other drugs to numb that pain … I was looking to ease that sadness within me.” Changing his life Menendez decided to become sober in 2013 and found faith, he said: “From 2013 on I was living for a different purpose. My purpose in life was to be a good person … I asked myself, ‘Who do I want to be when I die?’ I believe I’m going to face a different parole board when I die.” Why he was denied parole A panel of two parole commissioners said Menendez was unsuitable for release. They said his actions in prison, including affiliating with a prison gang and having a cellphone in violation of the rules, showed he was a risk to public safety. Commissioner Robert Barton said: “One can pose a risk to public safety in many ways, with several types of criminal behavior, including the ones you were guilty of in prison.” Menendez can come before the parole board again in three years. Barton encouraged him to change his behavior. “You have two options,” he said. “One is to have a pity party … and then you become a self-fulfilling prophecy, probably not getting granted next time. Or you can take to heart what we discussed.” We're not going anywhere. Stand up for truly independent, trusted news that you can count on! Donate now By — Jaimie Ding, Associated Press Jaimie Ding, Associated Press
LOS ANGELES (AP) — Erik Menendez was denied parole by panel of California commissioners Thursday. During his hearing he offered his most detailed account in years of how he was raised and why he made the choices he did — both at the time of his parents’ killing and during his decades in prison. READ MORE: California parole board denies release for Erik Menendez due to misbehavior in prison He and his brother Lyle were sentenced to life in prison in 1996 for fatally shooting Jose and Kitty Menendez in their Beverly Hills mansion in 1989. The state corrections department chose a single reporter to watch the videoconference and share details with the rest of the press. Here’s a look at Erik’s remarks. His upbringing “I was not raised with a moral foundation,” he said. READ MORE: The Menendez brothers are getting parole hearings in California. Here’s what to know “I was raised to lie, to cheat, to steal, steal in the sense, an abstract way. When I was playing tennis my father would make sure that I cheated at certain times if he told me too. The idea that there is a right and wrong that I do not cross because it’s a moral bound was not instilled in me as a teenager.” Erik Menendez appears before the parole board via teleconference at the Richard J. Donovan Correctional Facility on Aug. 21, 2025, in San Diego. Menendez was denied release more than 36 years after he and his brother Lyle killed their parents in their Beverly Hills mansion. Lyle appears before the board Friday. Photo by California Department of Corrections via Getty Images Relationship with his father Menendez has said for years he was sexually abused by his father. He told commissioners: “I fantasized about my father not being alive.” Prosecutors asked why Menendez chose to kill his father rather than leave the family home, as he was already 18. He said: “In my mind, leaving meant death. There was no consideration. I was totally convinced there was no place I could go.” He also spoke about the fear of his father: “It’s difficult to convey how terrifying my father was.” The murders The panel of commissioners asked Menendez why he killed his mother as well, if his father was the abuser. READ MORE: What’s next for the Menendez brothers after their sentences were reduced? Menendez explained that he did not see any difference between his parents because he found out that his mother knew about the abuse: “It was the most devastating moment in my entire life. It changed everything for me. I had been protecting her by not telling her.” On shooting his mother: “I wish to God I did not do that.” Breaking the prison rules Commissioners focused on numerous rule violations Menendez committed in prison, including drinking alcohol, affiliating with a gang and having a cellphone. On why he chose to use a cellphone: “What I got in terms of the phone and my connection with the outside world was far greater than the consequences of me getting caught with the phone.” On substance abuse: “If I could numb my sadness with alcohol, I was going to do it … I would have taken other drugs to numb that pain … I was looking to ease that sadness within me.” Changing his life Menendez decided to become sober in 2013 and found faith, he said: “From 2013 on I was living for a different purpose. My purpose in life was to be a good person … I asked myself, ‘Who do I want to be when I die?’ I believe I’m going to face a different parole board when I die.” Why he was denied parole A panel of two parole commissioners said Menendez was unsuitable for release. They said his actions in prison, including affiliating with a prison gang and having a cellphone in violation of the rules, showed he was a risk to public safety. Commissioner Robert Barton said: “One can pose a risk to public safety in many ways, with several types of criminal behavior, including the ones you were guilty of in prison.” Menendez can come before the parole board again in three years. Barton encouraged him to change his behavior. “You have two options,” he said. “One is to have a pity party … and then you become a self-fulfilling prophecy, probably not getting granted next time. Or you can take to heart what we discussed.” We're not going anywhere. Stand up for truly independent, trusted news that you can count on! Donate now