- I met her in 1978.
She's 20 years older than me.
We did this reading which turned out to be a fantastic combination.
And when we finished Toni said 'This is a great combination we should have a show and go on the road' It was like an instant friendship Which is not that common for me anyway.
It's extremely deep friendship and it's you know really long lasting one.
I have never really had a fight with Toni which is really unusual for me.
We did have a very lengthy argument as to whose mother made the best dessert.
Her mother's apple pie or my mother's apricots strudel.
Toni had to admit, upon tasting my mother's apricots strudel.
That they were equally good.
My mother who I bought Tony's mother's apple pie to my mother said that yes, it was as good as her apricots strudle.
And then my mother goes, I make apple Pie too I said mum, lets not.
Let's stop it at this.
Okay, you know, we used to go to the movies all the time.
And this is, you know, this is what people like we were once in line for the movies at the Angelika.
In our house history and a girl standing behind us in line said, I see you two together all the time.
Are you related?
And I said, Yes, she's my son.
When you do something with Toni or you go to something of Toni's a reading or something I've always said to her you don't have an audience you have a congregation.
I do readings I diss beaches.
I have an audience.
There's a lack of reference in my audiences that is not lacking in Toni's I have actually been to readings at Toni's given where people bring her books and they follow along with him like people do like in a church.
I think that what surprises me most about Tony always even though I know this is the case is tolerant she is.
When I was child, my mother used to always say to me can't you be the bigger person?
And you know truthfully i can't.
I'm by nature the smallest person.
Toni is a bigger person.
She's always the bigger person.
That's just character.
That has nothing to do with who you are, where you're from, you know what?
sexual or what?
You know, that's Toni.
She has a lot more sympathy for her fellow man than I do.
I have always sought advice from Toni.
I'm not like a world's big advice seeker.
You know, so I've always sought advice from Toni but what Tony is that almost no one else I know is is wise.
And that is not a function of age particularly part of that.
What wisdom is, is just this very large capacity that she has, you know, for human life and understanding of humans.
I mean, very often I've turned Tony for advice or solace, you know, because she could always think of something worse.