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Inside are nametags and somethings.

Grab something to drink.

Find a spot.

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This is your first time?

Yeah.

Cool.

I'm Laura.

Nice to meet you.

Welcome to death.

Over drinks.

We're drinking is not required, but we hope you lean into conversations about death, dying, and end of life.

I started coming to Death over drinks over a year ago.

I enjoy the people.

I enjoy the community.

And the purpose of why we get together, and to find like minded people who want to talk about it versus, you know, not talk about it.

I've been interested in death and dying for a while.

I believe that we need to have more spaces to talk about death.

Age wise, there are people dying all around me.

So I want to get a little wisdom.

I think it's hard to talk about.

I think it's hardest to talk about with people who you're very close with.

We talked about that tonight.

The fact that, like, sometimes it's the in-laws or the cousins or like those slightly more removed people.

And so coming and talking with total strangers just strangely, is much more comfortable and easy to do.

And it sort of gives you practice so that you can go back and have the conversations with the people that it's harder to have them with.

Yeah, I think people people are like, okay, interesting.

And then usually the first question is like, is it a grief club?

And no, it's not really.

It's more of a curiosity club.

It's more of a curiosity about like humanness, you know, about living and dying and, and, you know, I'm, I'm a younger one of the group, and I feel really just grateful to be around so many people with decades of life experience.

Like, that's kind of why I come back.

It's just they're telling about what happened to them when they were my age or, you know, what they're going through now.

It's cool.

It's cool in that way to connect an intergenerational ways.

As a person who lives by myself, I need social.

So I never know who I'm going to meet or what I'm going to to learn here.

Based on my personal experience, it really helps to talk about it before you need to, and to think about it before you need to, because everyone's going to experience it.

It's just a matter of when.

Not if we're all going to have to do this.

How about what?

The more I know and understand about.

Death and dying.

I feel more centered and grounded in living today.

There's an app out there which I have never looked into, that apparently randomly reminds you throughout the day that you're going to die.

And and supposedly the research behind it is that people who get those reminders live happier and fuller lives.

So I think, yeah, not taking days for granted, knowing that, you know, it will end for all of us at some point, I think does make you notice the things that you might have otherwise taken for granted.

We feel all spectrums of human emotion.

I think when people usually associate death, they think about grief, sadness.

But there's so many other things that come along with that happiness, laughter, regret, you know, shame.

So many other parts of being human that are wrapped in that death bow.

And we get to kind of unpack it in a really light hearted way sometimes, but really also heavy topics, which is cool.

And I mean, I don't think it's just death, right?

I think we shy away from a lot of hard conversations.

We have a hard time telling our friends they have spinach in their teeth or that their fly's down.

Right.

So when it's like, let's talk about death, that's a very big leap.

I wish people knew that it's not going to kill you to talk about death.

Yeah.

You're not going to bring it on, by talking about it, you're only going to reduce your anxiety.

The last thing I wrote was something Shelby just said.

Dying is a process, but death is an event.

Super cool.

Thank you so much.

Yeah.