
Episode 5
Season 6 Episode 5 | 55mVideo has Closed Captions
Ray makes a meaningful connection and learns about his mother’s extraordinary legacy.
DeShae discovers a special bond with her uncle Gary. Sumo suits, chopsticks and sushi have the teams racing against the challenge clock on a slack line! Anitra looks into the eyes of her closest family member yet! JD learns more about his father as a young man, and an aunt he never knew about. Ray learns amazing details about his mother’s legacy and where he came from.
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Episode 5
Season 6 Episode 5 | 55mVideo has Closed Captions
DeShae discovers a special bond with her uncle Gary. Sumo suits, chopsticks and sushi have the teams racing against the challenge clock on a slack line! Anitra looks into the eyes of her closest family member yet! JD learns more about his father as a young man, and an aunt he never knew about. Ray learns amazing details about his mother’s legacy and where he came from.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorshipDan: Previously on Relative Race, Raymond saw a picture of his grandma for the first time.
- It just felt so familiar, so good.
Dan: Team Blue grew their family tree.
Paul: That meeting that was, that was meant to happen.
Dan: DeShae closes in on her parents' identity.
DeShae: Rick is one of three possibilities that could be my parent, but if he is my father, I'll never get to meet him.
Dan: JD met his sister, Angie.
JD: There's this moment where I felt at peace and more complete than I knew I could feel.
Dan: While Team Red earned their first victory and a frustrating challenge gave Team Green their very first strike.
DNA tells us who we are and where we came from.
Following their own DNA, four teams are racing.
- It's on.
- Oo!
[grunt] Dan: To win $50,000.
- Let's get 'em!
Dan: And to find their family.
[knocking] ♪ [birds chirping] ♪ Jenn: Waking up today, I decided I needed to recenter and so I went for a run because it gives me just a chance to clear my head, to have some me time, and I think it gives me a little bit boost in my mood.
JD: I'm so inspired by Jenn's desire to recenter herself.
While she was gone, I spent time with my sister Angie.
We took photos of us and placed them into my album.
Oh, man, I love that picture.
I love all the pictures, but... Angie: I love Jenn's reaction.
JD: Yeah.
- It's so amazing that when we go through exciting moments in our life we don't always have it documented right then and there.
JD: Often not.
- So we can see it and this just, we have that documentation of that special moment.
JD: Wow, look at that.
This has been really difficult this morning.
Over the last 12 years, I've wondered if I've had any siblings.
I finally meet my sister Angie and now I have to say goodbye.
♪ Now the time of questions comes, ♪ ♪ We can talk about the sun, ♪ ♪ we can talk about the sea, ♪ ♪ we can grow in other dreams.
♪ - You know, I heard one time that a picture's a thousand words and these are like a million.
Angie: They're worth more than that for sure.
JD: And I'm so thankful to be able to add this to my journey.
I love it.
Thank you so much.
♪ ♪ We can talk about the dream.
♪ ♪ Dan: Waking up in beautiful Arden, North Carolina, Team Red, Raymond and Nicole enjoy the outdoors with Ray's cousin Mike.
Nicole: Day five.
Raymond: Oh, yes.
Nicole: Our cousin Mike.
- Hello!
- We finally came in first yesterday and got a hint for the challenge.
I can't wait to get on the road to see what it is.
Team Red on three.
- One, two, three.
All: Team Red!
[laughing] Dan: In Hattiesburg, Mississippi, DeShae says goodbye to her uncle Gary.
DeShae: Meeting Gary and finding out that he's my uncle has been amazing and it's getting me one step closer to finding out who my parents are.
- I need to tell you something, and this is very special to me.
More than you know.
Because I too... man, I'm looking for a daughter.
- Really.
- [sigh] I thought, "Could it be?"
♪ This is special.
- So now we need to help you get where, get your answers.
- Well they're out there somewhere.
- They are out there somewhere.
- Being able to share that with them today was pretty emotional.
That in itself made this reunion even more special to me to know that she has family that she's searching for and she's finding answers and for me, I hope I get some answers as well.
- I can completely understand where he's coming from, and now I'm driven to help him any way that I can, because we're getting pretty good at finding family and connecting the dots, so I am willing to do whatever I can to help Uncle Gary find his daughter.
♪ - I love you.
♪ ♪ Anita: I was so excited about the start of this new relationship with my cousin that I wanted to give her something to remember us by, something to symbolize our newfound relationship.
I just wanted to give you something to start in your garden.
[laughing] - Thank you!
- This is zucchini and this is a pepper plant.
Anitra: Oh, zucchini and pepper!
Thank you!
Anita: And they'll grow a little bit in the cup.
Anitra: Will they really?
- Yeah, yeah, and you just kinda keep it watered and then just kind of transfer it.
- Okay.
When she gave us the plant, she talked about how it, you know, represented our relationship and it's new and we'll take care of it and it's going to grow and that was just a beautiful way to put it.
- So that's the start of your garden, symbolizing the start of our new relationship as a family.
- That's right!
- So we're having a beautiful moment, having a great conversation, and lo and behold.
Oh, o-o-o-o-oh.
- What?
- Got a text.
- Oh, Dan?
- Yep.
♪ [dinging] - That's a message from Dan.
Do you want to read it or should I read it?
- It says, "Good morning teams and welcome to-- - "Day 5 of Relative Race."
- "Team Red will be traveling to Winston-Salem, North Carolina."
- "Team Blue will be traveling to Rock Hill, South Carolina?"
What?
Paul: Okay.
As soon as we heard we were heading to Rock Hill, South Carolina, it's like, her second home.
- It's where I grew up.
- "Team Black will be traveling to Grand Junction, Colorado."
- "And Team Green will be traveling to Natchitoches, Louisiana."
- "Today's first-place winner" - "Will get step-by-step directions from the challenge location" - "To their relative's home tomorrow.
Your time starts now."
- [both] Your time starts now!
[shouting] - Gotta go.
- I'm so excited, I know exactly where I'm going.
- We both actually went to college in Natchitoches so we know exactly how to get there.
- Appreciate it.
- Yes.
- Thank you.
- What?!
- We can handle Rock Hill.
- Rock Hill?!
- Yes, baby.
We got Rock Hill now.
- What?
♪ ♪ Dan: The race has begun for Day five and all teams are still in it.
Racing to meet family with no GPS technology and with different allotted times, each team now carries one strike, which means it's still anyone's game.
Today, both Team Green and Team Blue are in familiar territory.
- So, let's check the map, folks.
Oh wait, that's right, we don't need a map.
Dan: Heading to their old college town of Natchitoches, Louisiana, Team Green has a total allotted time of 4:49, that's including the city selfie, a common challenge, and navigating to their new relative.
- We have strong ties to Natchitoches, that's for sure.
- ♪ Reunited and it feels so good.
♪ [laughing] - [beatboxing] - [rapping] ♪ My name is Anitra and I love to rap, ♪ ♪ I'm going down the highway to see what's next, ♪ ♪ and the sky is blue and the clouds are white, ♪ ♪ but I'm sitting next to my best friend so it's all right.
♪ ♪ Lovin' lovin' lovin', ♪ [stammering] - You know what, you were, you were right there.
- [laughing] - You were right there.
- All right, give me a beat.
- No, that's it.
Give me a beat!
Oh, okay.
- That's it, that's all I got for you.
Dan: Singing all the way to Anitra's hometown of Rock Hill, South Carolina, Team Blue has the shortest allotted time of the day at 1:50, but remember, the team that finishes over their allotted time the most receives a strike, and three strikes, you're out of the race.
- That view of Denver is nice.
- That's nice.
- Do you see the stadium from here?
- No, that's nice.
I, honestly, not that interested in Denver right now.
- You're interested in getting out of Denver?
- Well, I want to know more about Grand Junction.
- I know.
- Let me look, surely you'll feel better.
Okay, yep, it's beautiful.
Beautiful!
- Stop.
- It's beautiful.
- Gotta stop and smell the roses when we can.
Dan: Starting the day off enjoying the sights, Jenn and JD continue west towards Grand Junction, Colorado.
They have an allotted time of 4:11.
Team Red finished first yesterday and is now hoping for some help with today's challenge.
Raymond: [reading text] So we get on the road, we get our game day hint, and it's a... unique kind of hint.
What?
Look at this.
Chopsticks.
That's it?
This is what we get for first place, we got chopsticks?
- Yes.
- Look here, how you feel about it, can I see?
- I mean, I'm feeling pretty confident if we have to eat sushi with chopsticks, however, knowing the challenges that we had, we probably building sushi probably or we might have to get in a big fat, like, sumo wrestler suit and try to make the sushi from that.
Dan: With a hint of today's challenge in hand, Team Red is racing from Arden, North Carolina to Winston-Salem, North Carolina with a total allotted time of 2:23.
- I'll show you how to do this, son.
Here, right there, boom, right there, now watch how I grab that.
Oh.
That's not how you do it.
Maybe it's a good thing we got these chopsticks so we can practice a little bit.
♪ ♪ Dan: As the day rolls on, teams move closer to their destination cities and new family.
With the open road ahead, Team Blue takes the time to reflect.
♪ As we're driving, Paul and I are talking about how awesome it is that so many of us are meeting all these important family members.
- JD met his sister, that is huge.
- Yeah, it's super huge.
I'm really happy for him, too.
- That's so huge.
- Yeah.
I couldn't be happier that JD met his sister yesterday and it really makes me wonder if I'm gonna meet mine.
Growing up, I knew that I was adopted and that I had a biological sister that my mother kept.
Been on my mind a long time, I mean why did my mother decide to keep my sister and not me?
That's something that I hope to answer on this race.
♪ Nicole: Wait.
- What?
- Wait a minute.
Raymond: What're you talkin' about?
- Look forward.
So we're havin' a great day, I feel like we're making great time.
We're almost to our city and then bam-- dead stop traffic.
This one is creeping.
Why though, whyyy?
- All right, it's cool.
It's cool.
I'm tryin' to keep my wife calm, she's gettin' really, really frustrated.
- Yeah, because I don't wanna be the first team with two strikes.
- [exasperated] Okay, okay.
- Is it like, one lane?
- Oh look, it says left lane is closed.
All right, that's all it is.
So, it's a lane-- - [yelling] Why would they close the left lane?!
- Why are you yelling?
- Because... - Chill.
Chill, what is yelling going to, yelling is not gonna make this traffic move.
- But me yellin' is not goin-- We ain't stoppin'.
- Okay, but it's making the situation worse.
Just chill.
We cool.
Once we get past this traffic, we're good.
It's only gonna set us back about ten minutes.
Told you, we all right.
'Cause I've been ready to map out another way to get there, even if we couldn't.
Either way, we got so much positive momentum.
We're not gonna let it get to us.
♪ Anitra: I'm trying to think of the first sign that I see.
Like a, something Rock Hill on it.
- Okay.
If worse comes to worse, we can head downtown.
- Okay.
JD: Visitor information, next right.
We're gonna go to the visitor's center.
[high-five] - We're gonna get this big ol' sign up here, I'm gonna try to get in this turnin' lane.
Anitra: Yep, it says Rock Hill.
- ♪ It says Rock Hill diner ♪ ♪ It says Rock-- ♪ - Wait, hold on.
You gotta turn after this car, though.
- Right there, right there, hurry.
Pull in.
Pull in, pull in, pull in.
All right, let's go.
Jenn: A'ight, let's go.
- Give me the phone, I've gotta frame you.
- Yeah yeah, come on.
[camera shutter sound] [camera shutter sound] - Gettin' low right here.
[camera shutter sound] [ding] ♪ - All right.
- All right, let's go.
- I know exactly where that is.
- 'Kay, let's go.
- All right.
♪ - We gotta get our selfie as fast as possible.
We can't afford to lose any more time.
See that sign?
- Yep.
- Turn right into there.
It says, "Winston-Salem, North Carolina."
- Right here, right here, right here.
- Right there.
There it is, there it is.
♪ [camera shutter sound] [ding] [ding] - Yes.
Wait a minute, it's not showing the whole thing.
Let's go.
♪ ♪ Dan: In Rock Hill, South Carolina, Team Blue, Paul and Anitra, have a plan.
- Spring Road.
[indistinct] that neighborhood.
Paul: Today's first-place prize is step-by-step directions, and that's huge.
I really wanna win it.
- So I'm writing down every single street we pass on the way to the challenge.
- I like how you're plannin' ahead.
- Look at that, look at that.
Balance.
You gotta hold me on the balance.
Whatever this sushi chopstick challenge is, we got it.
I mean, my finger muscles are jacked.
We're good to go.
♪ - Woo!
♪ - All right, what do we got?
- Sumo Slackline.
[Japanese gong] [traditional Japanese flute music] - Huh!
[electronic music] Dan: Day five's challenge is Sumo Slackline.
Teams wear Japanese-style sumo suits and must walk across slacklines to carefully retrieve pieces of sushi using only chopsticks.
The sushi must be placed on a plate in the center platform.
If a teammate falls off or drops the sushi, they must start over.
Four pieces of sushi in the center completes this challenge.
The allotted time for Sumo Slackline is ten minutes.
Jenn: 'Kay babe, balance, balance, balance.
Balance, balance, ah.
- There you go, there you go, there you go.
- [exhales] - Roll over here.
Roll over here, let's go.
- [laughing] Chris: Roll, roll.
- I can't.
JD: Come on, just go with faith.
Ooh.
- [screams] - Are you okay?
- I'm fine, I didn't hit anything.
- This slackline is like, two inches wide and we're like, five feet wide in these suits.
Oh.
- [laughing] - You feel like a total doofus trying to cross this slackline.
♪ - Oh.
- [laughing] - [grunt] - Come on babe, you got this.
- I'm tryin' to get across this slackline any way I can think of.
First I'm taking little tiny, balanced steps.
- Ahh, so close.
- That's not workin'.
Then I'm tryin' to take, you know, bigger steps, foot over foot, but I'm wearin' this so that's not workin' either.
Anitra: You got it.
No no no!
Nicole: You got this.
And you lookin' good in your outfit.
- Do I look good?
- Yes.
- [heavy breathing] Jenn: Okay, y-y-y-y-y-yes!
DeShae: Good job!
Chris: I finally got that first piece of sushi.
Okay.
But then you have to get back with the sushi and the chopsticks, on the slackline, in these suits.
♪ Paul: [grunt] - Can you just come a little fur-- Ah.
[grunt] - She's been doin' it all by herself this whole time, so we start thinking to ourselves, what if we actually work together and help each other across?
Go go go.
- [grunt] - Yes!
All right.
We got it.
Our strategy now is I meet her halfway and help pull her back across the slackline.
- All right.
- Come on, come on.
But now we both have to balance.
Both: [scream] - Okay, I gotta let go, I gotta let go.
JD: I finally get the sushi in my chopsticks, and now all I have to do is get back across.
Jenn: 'Kay, 'kay, good job, good job, good job.
- I had it right there, and then I dropped it.
- Come back, come back, come back.
Come back.
- [grunt] - All right.
- [heavy breathing] - There we go.
All right.
- [grunt] - Yes!
- Okay.
Jenn: Hey, you got it, you got it, you got it!
Good job, good job, good job!
Oh, my stars.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Raymond: Come on [indistinct] We just can't get across this slackline.
We're tryin' everything.
At one point, I even tried to lay down across the line.
- [grunt] [exhales] Dan: It's the five minute mark of the challenge.
Now, teammates are allowed to help their partner across the slackline.
JD: There you go, one underneath and-- There you go.
Just like that.
Great job.
Anitra: This is a balance competition, and Paul and balance don't mix.
Paul: Not at all.
I've almost fallen three times as I've been standing here.
- Let's get me through these two.
We really didn't think that we were gonna need the assist, but I'm so short, I think I'm gonna need Chris' help on this one.
Raymond: Five, six, seven.
♪ JD: Great job.
- Okay.
- You did it, girl.
You did it.
Once we got it down, - It was then game on to get those last couple rolls of sushi.
♪ - Go.
- [grunt] - Good job!
♪ JD: Hold your sushi.
Hold it, hold it, hold it, hold it.
Great job, girl.
Both: [sigh] [oof] - Come on, come on.
- [grunt] - Got you.
♪ [ding] [ding] [ding] - Dinner's served!
[ding] - Goooo!
JD: We finally get to rip those ridiculous suits off.
Jenn: Sweaty suits.
- And go find some family.
- "Your relative lives at... - "1116 West End Boulevard."
- Where we goin'?
- "Your relative lives at 304 Mill Street."
Go go go!
♪ DeShae: Yes, let's go, let's go.
Dan: All four teams have completed their challenge, and it's now an all-out sprint to find their relatives.
- Yeah, if you can.
I'm gonna keep looking at this.
- Instead of jumping in the car and just driving aimlessly in any direction, - We tried to find some people right near the challenge and get directions from them.
- So there's, that's the street.
Nicole: Excuse me sir, do you know where West End Boulevard is?
- Down this way.
- Straight, so go straight past this light?
-Yeah, and go all the way around.
- All the way around?
- Yeah, you go all the way to the bottom, you'll be at West End.
- Thank you so much.
[cross talking] - Right, right, right, right.
- And then turn right again.
- Love it.
We found the guy who had exact directions on where to go.
Thank you.
- Perfect, thanks so much.
[high-five] - We're goin' the right way.
This is, I remember this way.
- On the way to the challenge, I wrote down every street name we passed.
- Guess what?
Our relative lives on one of those streets.
DeShae: Wait, are you goin' out?
Are you going to ask?
- Absolutely.
- Take your paper, I'm just gonna sit here.
- Well, it's Sunday, and in Natchitoches, everything closes early.
But do you know what's open?
Church.
[church choir singing] Very sorry to interrupt you, but I'm on a T.V.
show and I'm tryin' to find Mill-- [clock ticking] [church choir singing] - It looks like he's getting directions.
- Okay, so I'm gonna pass Walmart, before I go across the river.
Churchgoers: That's right.
Chris: If I've crossed the river, I've gone too far.
- Please tell me he's getting directions.
- The congregation was actually really helpful.
Uh, but come to find out, our relative's house is on the outskirts of Natchitoches.
- Good job.
We didn't lose too much time.
Come on, let's do this.
Raymond: This is West End Boulevard.
Nicole: Yes, it is.
- Okay, good w-- Just a 400 block, it's down here.
JD: We're gonna go across the bridge, and as soon as we get over the bridge, we're looking for something called Riverside Parkway.
Anitra: This is Springdale?
- Yes, it says Springdale.
Now what's the address?
- It's 844.
DeShae: Maybe this one?
Chris: Patrick.
- Patrick!
Turn left.
- Yes, yes, yes.
- 1106 is gonna be on this side.
JD: It's gonna be the bridge-- Okay, so Riverside-- Jenn: Riverside Parkway.
- Great.
- 844.
- Yep, 844.
DeShae: Now turn left.
Turn left.
Chris: What's the number?
- Yes.
- What's the number, what's the number?
- 304.
♪ ♪ Paul: See?
844.
Anitra: It's right there.
Yep.
- There it is.
- Aaaand, there's 844!
[laughs] - All right.
- We pull up to our relative's house and I feel pretty good.
- Hey now, how are y'all?
- Hi, how are you?
- Good, good.
My name's Paul, this is Anitra.
- I'm Kim, my husband Will.
Paul: Nice to meet y'all.
- Whose relative are you?
- I'm your relative.
- How are we related?
♪ [sniffle] [laughs] ♪ - When I hear the words, "I'm your sister," I break down.
I became emotional.
I saw that she was emotional and I wanted to just be in that moment.
I wanted to feel that moment and let it work through the both of us.
♪ So good to meet you.
- You too.
♪ [exhale] [laughing] [sniffle] Kim: We just stood there, looking for each other for a minute.
I guess come to terms that my sister is in front of me, looking at me.
You know?
♪ Anitra: It's such an intense moment and I wanted to feel it.
I wanted to let it happen.
I didn't wanna rush it, I didn't want to talk through it, I just wanted to let it be.
♪ [exhale] - Speechless?
- Yeah.
Both: [laughing] Once I found out I was adopted, from the time I was a child until probably my mid-twenties, I felt like a part of me was a mystery and now, I feel like I can get some closure on that part of my life.
- [joyful crying] ♪ ♪ ♪ Both: 304.
DeShae: Turn left.
Go go go.
♪ Come on, come on.
- Hey there!
- Hi!
- Hi, I'm Chris.
- Hi, I'm Becky.
- I'm DeShae.
- Becky.
- Kevin.
- Nice to meet y'all!
- Nice to meet you.
- So, who are you related to?
- I am related to you.
I'm your second cousin on your father's side.
- Oh wow, that is great.
- Wow, that's so cool!
- I'm related to him too, I'm his wife.
Kevin: [laughs] - Nice to meet you.
Becky: Nice to meet you.
My name is Becky Emerich and I am Chris' second cousin.
It was just so amazing to tell him that he's my relative and I was, I was really excited.
Did you guys find it okay?
'Cause there's some street signs missing.
Chris: Yeah.
- We did find some really good Samaritans that got us to the street, um, that was just awesome.
Chris: I'm not sure GPS would've found this place, actually.
All: [laughing] DeShae: But it's beautiful and it's quiet, so we're excited to spend some time with y'all tonight.
- Well, we'd like to do something really cool for you guys, so we'd like to take you downtown.
- I love downtown Natchitoches, there's so much to do down there.
We're excited.
- Yeah, let's do it.
- Let's go.
- Let's go.
♪ JD: It's right here.
Slow down, slow down, slow down, slow down, slow down.
No, we're right here somewhere.
Okay, wait wait wait wait.
What?
- We pull up to where the house is supposed to be, and there is no house.
This is the address, honey.
- I know, but-- wait wait, no, stop, stop.
Do you see anything?
- We turn the car around and we begin to think okay, we need to look for clues or signs or something that's obviously not a home.
Okay, I'm a little nervous.
- If we messed up the map again-- This has to be it.
- There's no way... - This is the, this is the place he showed me on the map.
We follow the step-by-step instructions, this is nonsense.
- There's some people... - Whoa-oa-oa, there are people waving.
- Ohh, there's people.
- Oh, and theyre all in black.
- There on the side of the road, two people in black shirts and black hats waving their arms and we knew right then and there they were for us.
- We were in the right place.
I'm JD.
- JD, I'm David.
- David.
- Kristin.
- This is my wife, Kristin.
- I'm Jenn.
- This is Jenn.
- Nice to meet you.
- Good to meet you, I am your first cousin on your dad's side.
[joyful exclamation] ♪ David: Hi, I'm David Jarrett, I'm 53 years of age, and I am JD's first cousin on his father's side.
- I don't know how I know you or how we're gonna know each other or how it connects, but the fact that you would stop your life and come here and be with us, I love it and I appreciate it very much.
- I was shocked.
[laughs] I really thought that I knew all of my cousins and was surprised to find out that one of the cousins I did not know, which was JD.
You're probably wondering why I am dressed like this, it's n-n-- - You look beautiful.
- Obviously Team Black.
Jenn: Yes, obviously.
- But we were going to take you to the Renaissance Faire, but it got shut down due to the high wind.
- I can tell David and I are gonna get along great, and I can't wait to find out what else he can share with me about my dad.
- JD, there's a lot we need to talk about, a lot that uh, a ton of questions that I have, so we're going to head out.
♪ Raymond: Is that it?
Nicole: Yeah, 1116.
Right here, right here.
- A'ight, cool.
It's the best part of the day.
Running up to your relative's house and knowing that your life is about to change.
♪ - Hey.
- Hi.
- Hi.
- I'm Paula.
- Paula.
- I'm Alaina.
- I'm Ray.
This is my wife Nicole.
- Hi there.
- So, whose relative are you?
- We are your first cousins.
- First cousins?
What-- I'll give you two hugs at the same time.
How you doin'?
From which side?
Mom, dad?
- On your mom's.
- Mom's side.
So how do you all know my mom?
- Um, she's our aunt.
- Yes.
- Right.
Paula: Hi, I'm Paula Brown.
- And I'm Alaina Moore.
- And we're from Winston-Salem, North Carolina.
Both: And... We are Ray's first cousins.
- Meeting Paula and Alaina for the first time just felt like I was continuing to build my family tree.
It made me feel like my family is still growing.
- Well, we got some stuff we wanna show you.
You wanna come on inside?
- Yeah, yeah.
Let's go.
Ladies first.
♪ ♪ [birds chirping] Anitra: I've been standing here, holding my sister for as long as I can; but there's still something that I need to know.
So you said I look like our mom?
- You do.
- Has she passed away?
- Um, Um, it was October '85.
- In '85?
- Yeah.
- What happened?
- Heart attack.
- A heart attack?
- Mm-hm.
- She was young, then.
- Twenty-two.
- Twenty-two?
♪ - I had to be the one to tell her.
It was heartbreaking.
♪ - When I need to process something, when I need to pause and take a second, I take that time.
Because I think, especially in this situation, things have to be genuine, they have to be real.
I can't rush through things, I can't do any of that.
I gotta sit with these feelings to make sure that they're comin' out the right way.
[sigh] ♪ - [laughs] - [sigh] This is extremely hard to take in and it's gonna take awhile to process it.
But all that matters is that I got the chance to meet and reconnect with my sister, and that means everything.
♪ ♪ Sitting here with my sister Kim, and there's so many questions in my head.
I just wanna know more about my mom.
What was our mom's name?
Kim: It was a lot to take in.
I didn't want to rush her.
I just want her to, if there was anything she wanted to tell me, now would be the time.
I'm here to listen.
Any questions she wanted to ask, I will do my best to answer.
- To have a heart attack so young, did she just have a-- - Well, she worked at this place and they deal with a lot of chemicals and it was a coworker who tried to get something out of, it was a barrel that they'd get stuff out of.
So, our mom bein' the person that she is, did it for her and the chemicals splashed on her and caused her to have a heart attack.
- So it was an accident, it wasn't even-- - It was the accident.
- My mother died in this tragic accident.
All this time I thought that Kim was raised by our mother, but she wasn't.
Do you have any pictures?
- Mm-hm.
[chair scoots] ♪ - [laughs] Paul: Oh, wow.
- [laughing] ♪ She died so young.
- And I share with her our mom's prom picture, which I hold very dear to me and is somethin' I wanted to give to her.
- My first thought, looking at my mother's picture for the first time, I wondered what she must've been thinking in that picture that I saw because she looks so happy.
Really happy, really peaceful.
♪ [sniffle] ♪ I was hoping to meet our mom and tell her thank you for, for what she did.
I had such a good life growing up.
♪ I wanted her to know that she made the right choice, or, you know?
Now I can't tell her.
Honestly, I've been focused on, well, why did my mother have a heart attack?
Well, why didn't our father step in?
Well, why this and why that and why this and why that?
And those emotions that can breed a lot of seething resentment and negativity and all this other stuff can overshadow the fact that hey, look who I got to meet today.
Who cares about all that other stuff?
Let's get to know Kim.
Do you have any children?
- I have four.
- Four?
- Two bonus daughters, and I have two of my own.
- Oh, good.
- Mm-hm.
Do you?
- I have a five-year-old.
- Okay.
Just one?
Boy or girl?
- Girl.
- What's her name?
- Ava.
- Ava.
That's a pretty name.
- We have the same father?
- Mm-hm.
- Wow.
- After this happened, grandma got full custody of me.
- Okay.
- So, that was that.
- Okay, okay.
I'm happy that we found each other.
- Me too.
- And I'm so ready to get on your nerves like the little sister I should have been.
- I'm ready for you too.
It's been 39 years.
- A long time ago, yes.
- Yes.
Reuniting with Anitra felt, I'm just gonna say I felt complete.
Everything that happened in the past, though it wasn't great, but maybe it happened for a reason for us to get to this point, for us to be united and to stay united.
Now that-- I know she's not goin' anywhere.
Mm-mm.
And I love her, just like that, already.
♪ ♪ JD: We get back to my cousin David's house and he has some photos he wants to share with me.
- There's your grandma, Emma, your grandpa, Glenn, that is your dad, Steven, and his sister, Linda.
- [sniffle] ♪ This is the first time I'm seeing a photo of my dad as a very young boy, and I can see some resemblance.
♪ I wondered if I would ever see or hear really what he was about or what he looked like, and as I look at the picture, I feel like I'm looking in a mirror.
♪ - I think if you have the chance to meet Linda, she'll have a lot more answers than what I can give you about your father.
- David didn't really have a lot of information about my dad because of the significant age difference, but he told me that if I were able to meet my dad's sister Linda, she would be able to give me all the information I ever wanted.
I sure hope I get to meet my aunt Linda.
- [sniffle] - We'll fill it up when we bring all our kids to your house.
Jenn: [laughs] ♪ ♪ [honk honk] Woman: Welcome aboard the Cane River Queen, downtown Natchitoches, Louisiana.
♪ [paddles splashing] Chris: After meeting my cousin Becky, she takes us on a riverboat tour so we can get to know each other a little bit better.
- This just opened up and we thought it would be really fun to come out on the paddle boat and take you down the river and see what's new.
- I love it.
I mean, it's a beautiful day for it.
DeShae and I actually went to school here at Northwestern.
- So you grew up here?
- She actually grew up uh, down south Louisiana, outside of Baton Rouge.
Um, my dad was in the military so, you know DeRidder kinda happened to be the last place I was with them, I graduated high school there, came to college here in Natchitoches, and...
I was in a military family, so I was very um, guarded sometimes.
I had a lot of aquaintances but not what I would call a lot of good friends because either I moved away or they moved away, it was just the fact of life.
So to meet more family members like my cousin Becky, at this point in my life really does mean a lot.
I wasn't really expectin' to meet much family 'cause like, you know, I have one sister.
You know, my dad only has one sister, my mom only has one brother and sister, so I'm like, just-- I didn't feel like there was really very far to go.
- Right.
- But you know, I guess I never thought about the generation above that and you know, that it all is, it compounds.
It really was nice to sit down and talk with Becky and share a lot of things about myself that most people don't really know.
♪ ♪ Dan: Back in North Carolina, Raymond is continuing his discovery about his mother, Katrine.
- So you all know or knew my mom, right?
- Yes.
- Yeah.
Raymond: 'Kay wh-- How, what's she like, from your like, tell me something like stories, somethin' good.
- So I don't know if you know this, your mom was a librarian.
- Mm-hm.
- She worked at two different, um, libraries within Burlington and one was North Park.
At this North Park, it was just a lot of at-risk kids and she would be there and she was kinda like a second mother, she was mentoring.
You know, just kinda helpin' them with books and you know, just showin' them a different way of life.
So not only did our aunt um, Ray's mom, have a impact on our lives, she had a impact on so many other kids, so many other people, families, um, people around the community.
In Burlington, they named a day uh, about her and this is the proclamation of that day.
- Wowww.
Raymond: Each day, it feels like I'm learning more and more.
But more than learning, is being validated the kinda person that she is.
It just makes feel like I come from a bloodline of people who are over-achievers, life-affecters, and just overall positive, good people.
Mm.
- That's awesome.
- Sunday, September 28 is Katrine Moore Day in the city of Burlington.
So every September 28 is her day?
That's awesome.
It was a proclamation from the mayor of Burlington saying that um, they actually named a day after her.
It was like feelin' that awesome feeling of not completion, but just validation that someone, um, that's directly connected to your mom was honored in the city and a day was named after her.
That's amazing.
♪ Alaina: This is a picture of who would be your grandfather, um, Mr. Joe Lee.
- This is crazy to see this history.
Paula and Alaina showed me a picture of my grandfather for the very first time.
His name was Joe Lee Moore.
So to see a photo of him and to add him to my family tree, that's an awesome feeling.
But over these past days, it's-it's been amazin' to see the amount of love that I get, how welcomed I am, and it feels like you went from nothing to something really, really quick.
Thank you.
I wanna keep that and put that on my wall.
Thank you ladies.
♪ ♪ Becky: We get back to the house, and I wanna pull Chris and DeShae aside because I really wanna tell them my story.
Chris, I just wanna explain why I'm like, so excited to meet you.
- Mm-hm.
- So, I'm adopted, I am one of four, but three of us are adopted and knowing you is the first relative, blood relative, that I have ever met which is-- - [joyfully exhales] - Oh, wow!
- That's amazing.
- That is so crazy.
Chris: Because of my DNA test, she was actually able to find her first blood relative, which is actually me.
I, I didn't even know how to respond to that.
It's absolutely amazing.
Becky: Being related to you has opened the doors that I actually know who my parents are now.
- That's awesome.
- What?
Becky: Yes.
And I have half siblings.
- Wow.
- Oh my gosh, I have chills.
- Both sides.
Growing up being adopted, I've had wonderful parents.
I can't say anything more than they have given me everything I ever needed or wanted.
But there's this blood relation, this relation of looking like somebody that really means something to you, and you just wanna find it.
So when you find it, it's-it's awesome.
It's great.
- I'm really excited to know that somethin' that I thought maybe I was just doing mostly for my wife, and you know, on the off chance for me too, has had such an impact on you and your life and finding your answers.
- Meeting Chris today gives me hope that I will meet more, and I've made a new friend, relative, and uh, it-it's gonna be great.
♪ ♪ Dan: It's the end of day five, and all teams are currently tied with one strike each; but that is about to change as today's final results are being calculated.
♪ [click click] ♪ Welcome to all four teams and welcome to the halfway point of Relative Race.
Let's start with Team Black and JD, how difficult was it for you to pack your bags this morning and say goodbye to your sister, who you just met?
JD: It took everything in me to pull out of that driveway this morning, Dan.
The only thing that got me through was the fact that her husband promised me that we could meet halfway in a month.
- You guys are gonna drive back out and have another reunion?
- Yes sir, we are.
- Team Green, no surprise, well-prepared, but you guys are headed to another city that you know really well!
How is that?
Tell us.
- When we found out that we were goin' to Natchitoches, Louisiana, I was over the moon excited.
You guys, I graduated from college here, I knew my direction, I mean it was smooth sailin' today as far as navigating.
- Team Blue, you also went to a familiar city today.
- Yeah, we actually ended up in Rock Hill, South Carolina and I grew up here pretty much.
I spent my summers here, my family on both sides are from here, so I felt good about bein' here.
It felt like I was home-- Comin' home again, so.
Dan: Team Red, despite all of the challenges, despite all of the obstacles that you had to overcome, was it worth it when you met your relative?
- Oh, absolutely.
So, yes, the challenge was what it was, but I did get to meet not one, but two first cousins so I'm-a introduce them to you.
And it's Alaina and Paula.
Dan: So Raymond, not only do you meet your cousins, but they had some great things to share with you, didn't they?
- They were able to share with me that my mother actually, I'm-a show this to everybody, had a day named after her, um, by the mayor of Burlington, North Carolina.
I felt honored by that because somebody thought enough of someone of my own bloodline to say, this day is all about you and will forever be about you.
- And we appreciate you sharing that story with us and we're thankful to your cousins that have those stories to share.
That's the great thing about family, is everybody knows a little something different and when you come together, the picture starts to evolve.
JD, who did you meet today, and did it help fill in some of those family questions?
JD: Absolutely.
Actually, the wind, we've had such incredible wind, the entire Renaissance Faire got shut down, but our first cousin was kind enough to bring Jenny and I an outfit.
This is David and his wife Kristin, and they are honestly some of the loveliest people we've ever met and we're so excited to be a part of their family and have this now be a part of our journey.
- Well, thank you for sharing another piece of your family puzzle with us.
We really appreciate that.
Team Green, you come on the show thinking that it will unravel all of the answers for DeShae, but there's been a few surprises for you, Chris.
- There actually has been, um, and it's definitely been an exciting bonus uh, for me and for both of us actually.
I mean, today I was actually able to meet my second cousin, Becky.
- Well, you can see the family resemblance, I'm serious.
You never know what's going to happen when you submit DNA.
You never know who else is out there searching and doors open up, that's the really great thing.
And speaking of great things, Anitra.
- [sniffle] So, [sniffle] I got a chance to meet my sister today and I found out that our mother passed away in 1985.
Um, a work accident.
But, we were also ten months apart, um, but this is my sister, Kim.
♪ So it's uh, it's been overwhelming, emotionally, but I just-- I really, I can't believe the doors that've been opened up just from this.
- Anitra, it's the kind of day that JD has had, or Raymond has had.
There's this wonderful news, there's this wonderful relationship that you meet, but then they share something that has to be so difficult to hear.
But I hope, Anitra, that you're still happy that you're on this journey.
- I am.
I-I wanted to get a chance to tell my mother how thankful I was for her decision because I've had such a great life, um, but I know that she sees me, so.
♪ - Man, uh, I just wished I didn't have to give a strike...
But it's that time.
The team that finishes in first place today will have a next-day benefit.
And that benefit for day six is receiving step-by-step instructions to your relative's home after the challenge.
The team that will receive the next-day benefit, finishing only nine minutes over their allotted time...
It's been a really good day for Team Blue.
Congratulations.
[light clapping] Anitra: Finishing first and meeting my sister in the same day, this is as good as it gets.
- Finishing 17 minutes over their allotted time... Congratulations to Team Black, finishing in second place.
[light clapping] Finishing in third place, 30 minutes over their allotted time, and free of another strike... Is Team Green.
Team Red, you finished 44 minutes over your allotted time today, you have picked up your second strike on Relative Race.
And so to all of our teams, I say goodnight and good luck, because tomorrow brings more adventures, it brings more challenges, but it will always bring another relative.
One more thing-- Tomorrow, I have a little something extra for you in your cars, and I can promise you this: At least one of you will absolutely need it.
Goodnight, everybody.
All teams: Goodnight.
Paul: Love you guys.
Goodnight.
- Love you guys.
Chris: Love you guys.
- See ya, love you.
♪ Raymond: So, gettin' the second strike today stunk.
- [indistinct] reboot, and that's it.
It's all we can do.
- I'm tryin' to separate the two, between family and a game.
Um, but gettin' the second strike stinks.
♪ JD: Who is it?
Maybe it's-- Ah, it's us.
- Surprise!
Black Team here.
We can't believe it's halfway over.
Does it feel like it could be halfway over?
- See you all tomorrow, day six.
The Campbells will wanna do anything they can, the best we can d- -we can, 110 percent to make sure that we're not on that bottom block.
See y'all tomorrow.
- Take care.
- Fist bumps.
- Boom.
♪
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