

Episode 8
Season 7 Episode 8 | 54m 57sVideo has Closed Captions
Elizabeth finds the last of her siblings on her father's side.
Team Red's 1st place prize results in an emotional video call home to their two sons. The twins call out team Red on their poor challenge performances. Joe and Anthony meet a relative with important answers about who their mother is and why they were put up for adoption as infants. Sean finds a connection with his biological father who served in the military.
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Episode 8
Season 7 Episode 8 | 54m 57sVideo has Closed Captions
Team Red's 1st place prize results in an emotional video call home to their two sons. The twins call out team Red on their poor challenge performances. Joe and Anthony meet a relative with important answers about who their mother is and why they were put up for adoption as infants. Sean finds a connection with his biological father who served in the military.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship♪ Dan: Previously on Relative Race... - Not messing with that stupid thing anymore.
Dan: Team Black earned their second strike.
- Tomorrow's another day.
Dan: Monika and Kacey both met their biological mothers.
Kacey: I will always remember this as the day that I met my mom.
Dan: Devin learned his father's identity may remain a mystery.
Devin: It's okay that I don't know the biological piece.
- Okay.
Devin: I'm a firm believer God does not make mistakes.
- All I ever wanted was just to meet you two.
Dan: And the twins hug their brother, Daniel for the very first time.
- My life will never be the same again.
♪ Dan: DNA tells us who we are and where we came from.
Following their own DNA, four teams are racing-- Sean: Come on!
Liz: Let's go, let's go.
- [screams] Dan: --to win $50,000-- Magen: Yes!
Dan: --and to find their family.
[knocking] ♪ Dawn breaks on Day 8 of Relative Race.
All four teams have made it seven long days on the road, searching for new family, and still competing for the chance to win $50,000 and be crowned Relative Race champion.
The teams are spread out hundreds of miles apart, with Team Red, Devin and Elizabeth, starting the day in Maryland.
Team Blue, Joe and Anthony, remain in the state of Florida.
Team Green, Monika and Magen, continue racing in the Midwest, while Team Black, Sean and Kacey, wake up this morning in Kentucky as Kacey shares memories of the journey with her biological mother, Rachel.
- Um, so, I have a couple pictures I wanted to show you.
This is a memory book that I was given on Day 1-- - Mm-hm.
- --by my first relative that I met.
This is, um, my little brother, Shawl.
He's 26.
I met him for the first time on this trip.
Rachel: Aw.
- It was really meaningful to be able to sit down with my biological mother Rachel and show her photos of my siblings on my father's side that I have met on this journey.
And this is us.
- Oh!
- This is us.
Uh, I love how, like, we have the same, like, smile line.
Look at that!
Rachel: Oh my gosh, I didn't notice that!
Oh my gosh!
Kacey: Yeah, we have that like-- - Oh, wow!
- Yeah.
We shared a really special moment getting to see those photos together.
It was so funny, 'cause the first thing I noticed in the one picture was that our mouths were exactly the same way and, like, we even had, like, the same smile lines and creases, and it was just kinda weird seeing that, like, it was like, a carbon copy, and it was kinda fun noticing, like, similarities that way.
So, what I wanted to do actually is give you a little something.
- Aw, that's adorable!
Thank you!
Kacey: So, now you can put that on your nightstand or wherever.
- Oh, I know exactly where that's going.
That is beautiful!
Thank you!
Aw.
Aw, that's sweet.
Thank you very much.
- I think that my mom is... probably at peace.
I think that this meeting together, it really brought a lot of healing on both of our ends, of course.
Getting to know that I was okay and I was well taken care of and loved and that now we can have a relationship going forward, I think that brought her a lot of healing and a lot of inner peace as well.
♪ [zing] Dan: In Iowa, Monika is getting ready to say goodbye to her biological mother, Robin.
- So, I have this little photo album to show you, and it's kind of me throughout the different stages of my life, and, um, I thought you would like it because I know you didn't get a lot of pictures of me throughout the years.
I know you tried, but Marge was super tight-lipped, and-- which is good, but I made this little album, so, to show you.
- Oh, nice.
Monika: These are my parents.
Robin: Nice.
Monika: Mom and Dad.
♪ - Nice picture, that's a nice picture.
You look enough like her that you can... - People always would say that, actually.
- Yeah.
I had not seen any of these pictures, so they were all nice to see her as she was growing up.
That's a nice picture.
Very nice.
- You can keep that.
You like it?
- Yes, I do, thank you.
Monika: I think it provided her with a sense of relief that I had a really good childhood, so it felt good to be able to show her that and show her that I was taken care of.
I know that that couldn't have been easy, what you did, but as you can see, I had a really, really, really good life, really good parents.
They were always super supportive and pushed me to do whatever I wanted to do.
They were supportive of that, and they've been there for me throughout my life.
I've been given tons of opportunities, and I hope that makes you feel-- - That makes me feel good, yep.
- Good, good.
- That's all what we wanted.
- Good.
Robin: Knowing that Monika had a good life with her parents, an incredible life with her parents, um, settled a lot of the questions I had.
It was a dream to meet ya.
I hope that we can form a relationship-- Monika: Yeah.
- --going forward.
- Give me a hug.
We will.
♪ [zing] Dan: In Hagerstown, Maryland, Team Red sits down to breakfast with Devin's cousin, Anthony, and his wife, Amanda, looking forward to their video call home later today.
- Liz, are you excited to speak to your kids today?
- I'm so excited.
I'm so excited.
I just-- this is the longest that we've been away from them, and we've been missing them a lot.
Anthony: Yeah.
- Um, so, you know, you just wanna, like, check in and make sure that, hear what they've been up to, what they're doing-- - See their little faces.
Liz: See their little faces!
[laughter] - Our prize for taking first place yesterday was a video call to anyone we want, and of course, we wanna call our boys.
♪ Joe: Thanks.
Anthony: Thank you, brother.
- Yeah, no problem, man.
- Thanks, man.
- We're so incredibly happy to finally get a chance to meet and hang out with our brother Daniel.
- We've grown up our whole lives without each other, so we decided it would be a good idea to snap some Polaroids together.
♪ [camera shutter] Anthony: Taking Polaroids with our brother, Daniel kinda felt like time was turned back, and it was really cool to take those tiny little pictures and kinda feel like we were back in 1996 with him, so, a lot of missed time, and it just felt so natural and so real, and it was a very, very, very wonderful experience.
[notification sound] - Oh, I got a text.
- Morning text, yay!
♪ - Good morning, teams-- - --and welcome to Day 8-- - --of Relative Race.
Liz: Team Red will be travelling to Philadelphia, PA. - Team Blue will be traveling to Rockledge, Florida.
- Team Black will be traveling to Nashville, Tennessee.
- And Team Green will be traveling to Omaha, Nebraska!
- Today's first place prize-- - --is a challenge benefit?
- Our time starts now.
- Give me a hug!
Sean: Okay!
Kacey: Okay, let's go!
Go, go, go!
Devin: That would be terrible.
Here, let me help you.
- Rockledge is actually, it's right, actually, it's about 30 minutes north of where I used to live.
Joe: We wanna get first place.
We already have the-- a second strike, and we definitely don't want a third.
Liz: Thank you!
Give our love to your kids!
Amanda: Yes, you as well.
Anthony: Wish you luck.
Devin: Take care!
- All right.
[door closes] ♪ [engine revving] ♪ Anthony: So, there's three teams.
If they get a strike, they're out, and we're one of those teams.
- You just never know how anybody's gonna do, like, you don't, like, we don't-- we don't know what their strengths are, we don't necessarily know their background.
Like, I know Team Blue, Team Black, and Team Green are gonna be insanely sharp today.
- Right.
Dan: Team Red is making their way from Hagerstown, Maryland, to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
Their allotted time is 3 hours and 8 minutes.
- It could be Black, it could be Green, or it could be us.
- Yeah.
- I just hope that it's not us.
Dan: Continuing their journey in the sunshine state, Team Blue is departing Port Saint Lucie, Florida and are headed to Rockledge, Florida.
They have an allotted time of 1 hour and 27 minutes.
♪ - We are number one, we are number one.
- Whoo!
- Whoo!
Okay, you know what way we're comin' in today?
Number one.
- We did first place Day 2 and 3, but I really feel like we needed to get one more under our belt.
- We need another under our belt before Day 10, I agree.
Let's do this!
- We broke out the green spirit gear today because we are pumped for another victory.
Magen: We have two first place finishes, and we want more.
And any victory over the Black Team's a good one.
Dan: Team Green is racing from Indianola, Iowa to Omaha, Nebraska.
With the challenge factored in, their allotted time is 2 hours and 30 minutes.
Sean and Kacey: ♪ Ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba.
♪ Sean: ♪ Ba, ba, ba, ba.
♪ - ♪ Goin' down to Tennessee ♪ ♪ to meet my new relatives.
♪ ♪ Who are we gonna meet?
♪ ♪ I don't know, ♪ ♪ but it may be for sho' ♪ Dan: Feeling the country vibes today, Team Black is leaving Lexington, Kentucky, and racing to the music city of Nashville, Tennessee.
They have the longest allotted time of the day at 3 hours and 32 minutes.
♪ [zing] Dan: As all teams hit the open road, Team Red's clock stops as they redeem their first place prize from yesterday: a video call home.
Elizabeth: [gasps] Hi!
Woman 1: Look, who is that?
Elizabeth: Here, give it to me, give it to me.
Devin: Yeah.
Wh-- Woman 1: Who is this?
Devin: What's goin' on, big guy?
Woman 1: Who is that?
Elizabeth: Yeah, and who else?
Devin: Who's Daddy's big boy?
That's right!
You been takin', you been taking care of Dillon?
Elizabeth: For the past seven days, we've been staring at the pictures of our two boys, David and Dillon on the dashboard of our car, so... to be able to video call them is the best first place prize ever.
Dillon!
Can you say Mama?
Aaah!
Devin: That's right!
Elizabeth: Yay!
Devin: We've never been away from our boys, David and Dillon, for this long.
Elizabeth: So to be able to see them on a live video call is definitely gonna give us an emotional boost because it's been difficult, so I know this will be the motivation we need.
I love you guys!
Devin: Love you!
Elizabeth: We have to go, okay?
Can I get one more big kiss?
Ah!
[kissing sound] Devin: Aight.
You take-- Elizabeth: All right.
Devin: Take care of everybody for me.
Elizabeth: Love you guys.
Devin: 'Kay, bye.
Elizabeth: Read the note, okay, I'll talk to you later.
♪ Anthony: Man, Joe.
We really just met our brother yesterday.
Joseph: And you know what was the most craziest part?
Anthony: What?
Joseph: The fact that the exact same time we were lookin' for him, he was savin' up and lookin' for us.
- I know it!
Ain't that crazy?
Joseph: He didn't fabricate that.
Anthony: Right.
Joseph: That's not a coincidence.
Anthony: Right, it's not.
♪ Joseph: Anthony and I spent a little bit of time today in the car just kinda reflecting about the different journeys that each team has been on.
Team Red has met brothers, they've met uncles, aunts.
I would say that they have met more immediate family than anything.
Joseph: Which is really cool to see.
Anthony: Yeah, it is.
That's cool.
Like, I was so happy for Kacey and Sean.
Like, that, that was the sweetest thing I could have ever seen, and to see Kacey just pretty much burst into tears and hold her mom like that... Joseph: It was a wonderful thing to witness.
Anthony: Yeah, it was.
Joseph: What's really cool is seeing just how much meeting new family members has affected each person on each team and how, al-all of us have grown because of it, have become stronger, have, have healed a lot of places that were broken, or understood things that we... were once a mystery.
So, it's just really cool seeing all of those positive changes in everybody as a whole.
Team Green, I, I... that was so touching.
Like, seeing how happy she was, and moved to tears that her, you know, her mom.
And, I just, I know that felt good.
I know that felt amazing, man.
I know it did.
I know it changed, I know it changed a life forever, I know it did.
Meetin' their mom, like...
I, I know that was amazing.
[Won't Let You Go by Ben Cocks plays] ♪ Oh won't you take me away from here, ♪ ♪ I hope you know, ♪ ♪ darlin' I won't let you go.
♪ ♪ Maybe a place far away from here ♪ ♪ For all I know, ♪ ♪ Darling, I won't let you go ♪ ♪ Oh, oh-oh, ♪ ♪ oh-oh, oh-oh♪ ♪ oh-oh, oh-oh ♪ ♪ oh-oh ♪ ♪ [phone keys beeping] Joseph: Before this challenge, we decided it'd be a good idea to get in Team Red's head a little bit.
[notification sound] Elizabeth: Okay, so Team Blue says Devin: [laughs] Elizabeth: So the twins are trying to mess with us out of desperation because they have two strikes now.
Devin: Yeah, and we're not fallin' for it.
We're focused on killin' this challenge to make sure we can finish the race.
- We are in the city limits.
Anthony: Rockledge.
Joseph: Yeah.
Anthony: One mile.
Joseph: Okay.
♪ Elizabeth: What do you see?
Right here, Philadelphia.
Devin: Philadelphia, yep.
- Oh, it's right here.
Okay, okay.
[jumbled chatter] Sean: Turn, turn, turn, okay.
♪ Elizabeth: Sit, baby.
Devin: [grunts] Elizabeth: All right, you're gonna hit this button.
Devin: I got you.
Kacey: Come on!
[phone dings] [dramatic music] ♪ Sean: Taking so long... [phone dings] Okay!
Here we go.
Sean: Okay, let's go.
♪ Sean: And... and, ope, there's the flag, there's the flag, there's the flag, let's go, go, go, go, go, go.
♪ Monika: Come on, let's go.
♪ Anthony: Okay.
'Kay.
Monika: All right.
It says... Kacey: Fuzzy Foto.
[funky bassline] Dan: The challenge for our teams on Day 8 is Fuzzy Foto.
Teams must correctly identify the main object from a photo that's out of focus.
Answer incorrectly, and the teams must use interesting eyewear as they move on.
Correctly identify five photos to complete the challenge.
The allotted time for Fuzzy Foto is five minutes.
♪ Elizabeth: Uh, marbles.
Devin: Field.
Elizabeth: Candy.
Um... Devin: Gumballs.
Elizabeth: Caterpillar!
Butterfly!
Kacey: Balloons.
Tulips.
Sean: Roses.
Magen: Lipstick.
Monika: Tulips.
Magen: Candy.
Monika: Tulips, roses.
Magen: Is this fruit?
Kacey: Um, oh, um, uh... Sean: Peaches.
Kacey: Yeah, it's peaches.
[wrong answer buzzer] Devin: Apples?
So the first picture comes up, and... [exhales] we weren't even close.
- Is that fruit?
Apple?
[bell dings] Anthony: Oh, I got it!
Apples.
Okay, sweet, good job.
Joseph: Good job, bro.
- So if we get a penalty, there's a deck of cards in front of us.
We gotta flip the card over, and whatever the card has on it, er, we have to wear.
'Kay, prism glasses.
Monika: This is crazy.
Magen: Are you kidding me?
Elizabeth: Butterflies, sticks, rocks, tractors, corn.
Devin: It was basically like, imagine you were a fly or some other type of insect, and you can see everything times 8 or 16.
Elizabeth: Yeah.
Devin: That's pretty much what it was.
So it was... Elizabeth: There were a couple different colors.
Devin: ...virtually impossible to, uh... To, to see what you were guessing.
- It's really annoying.
Um... Sean: You can't see anything.
Anthony: Giraffes, uh, dogs, uh... [bell dings] Both: A dog.
Anthony: I don't know how we're guessing these items right, but as long as we keep guessin' 'em right, we won't have to put the penalty items on.
- It's a baby, it's a... cat.
The strategy is no strategy.
It's say as many words as we can in the five seconds.
It's a dog, it, it's a-- [bell dings] Monika: [gasps] Good job!
Yes!
- Uh, bird, cartoon?
[wrong answer buzzer] Oh wow.
Yeah, there was no way.
Kacey: Oh, a dog.
Sean: A dog listening to music.
Kacey: I would've gotten that right.
♪ Kacey: Do I have 'em the wrong way?
♪ Sean: Face.
A person's face.
A man's face.
Kacey: How are you even seeing this?
Sean: Um...
I used the binoculars backwards, which I think actually maybe helped a little bit 'cause Kacey was like, I don't see anything, it's an even bigger blur, and I was like, oh, I can kinda see it, it's kinda like, you know, close in and stuff 'cause it was further away.
Child's face, uh, oh, nose!
Elizabeth: Snot, tongue, eyes, ears, child.
Devin: Uh, lollipop, lollipop!
Elizabeth: Lollipop.
Devin: Uh... Elizabeth: Candy.
Devin: Ice cream cone!
Elizabeth: Teeth.
Devin: Popsicle.
[wrong answer buzzer] Devin: Nose... 'kay.
♪ Anthony: Hat, uh... Joseph: Um-- Anthony: Music?
Monika: Clouds!
Magen: It's a sky, it, it, it's-- Monika: Sky, clouds.
Magen: It's a-- Monika: Clouds.
Magen: --it's water.
Monika: Water.
[rong answer buzzer] Anthony: Computer chip.
[wrong answer buzzer] Joseph: Microchip, really?
We said computer chips, but... Anthony: Same thing.
Magen: An old microchip in rubber gloves.
Okay.
- Some of these challenges are really hard, and our next penalty?
Man, you don't even wanna know.
[funky baritone saxophone riff] Joseph: Huh?
Anthony: Look through the mouth piece, okay?
Magen: Are you kidding me?
I'm thoroughly not amused by the horse head.
Kacey: I got pretty smart with the horse mask and realized that I could see not through the eyes, but I could see through the mouth, so then I was holding the mouth open like this, goin', "Where is it?
What's the picture?"
Kacey: Gnome, it's a gnome, it's a gnome!
[bell dings] Elizabeth: [muffled] Ooh, no, troll, gnome!
Garden gnome!
Devin: Oh yeah, the gnome, gnome, gnome, gnome!
[bell dings] Monika: It's a... Magen: It's a gnome, a travelling gnome.
Monika: A gnome, a gnome!
Magen: It's a-- Monika: A garden gnome!
[bell dings] Get this thing off of me!
Magen: [sighs] [wrong answer buzzer] Anthony: Oh, a gnome!
A garden gnome.
[wrong answer buzzer] Elizabeth: Okay.
Um, bar of soap?
A tub?
Devin: Spaceship?
Elizabeth: Spaceship, outer space!
Devin: Plane, uh... Elizabeth: UFO!
Devin: ...kite?
Uh... Elizabeth: Lava!
Devin: Octagon.
Uh... Volcano.
Elizabeth: A beach, beach umbrella!
[bell dings] Yes!
Devin: Two more, two more, two more.
Elizabeth: [relieved sigh] Devin: Good work, babe, good work.
Anthony: Looks like three dots, uh... Joseph: Balloons?
Anthony: No, yeah, balloons, uh, peppers?
Uh, slingshot.
[wrong answer buzzer] Joseph: Oh, skydiving.
Anthony: Oh.
Sean: Cups, toys... Kacey: Green and blue, I'm not quite sure.
Sean: There's like a yellow... Kacey: Sand, sand toys.
Ball, um, triangle-- Sean: Yoga.
Kacey: Kite?
[wrong answer buzzer] Magen: It's um... Monika: No, this thing.
Magen: A goldfish, it is a scuba diver-- Monika: Oh, oh!
Magen: It is a mermaid.
Monika: No, it's flying!
Magen: Then talk!
Monika: I don't know, a frog!
Magen: It's a skydiver.
[bell dings] Monika: [squeals] Anthony: Uh... Joseph: Uh, trees?
Fireworks.
[bell dings] Elizabeth: Um... Devin: Be a little bug.
Elizabeth: A snail.
Devin: A caterpillar-- Elizabeth: A chipmunk!
Devin: A butterfly.
Elizabeth: A squirrel!
[bell dings] [clapping] Elizabeth: [celebratory grunt] - Yeah Liz!
One more to go!
Anthony: A parachute?
Joseph: Um... Anthony: Beach.
Joseph: Uh, beach, uh... Anthony: It's something peach-colored, Joe.
Joseph: Uh... Anthony: Uh, umbrella.
Both: Umbrella.
Anthony: Uh, beach umbrella, a beach umbrella.
Joseph: Yes, beach umbrella.
[bell dings] Devin: Caterpillar-- Elizabeth: A snail.
Devin: --grean leaf.
Elizabeth: Caterpillar.
Leaf, frog... Devin: Um, insect, butterfly, ladybug, uh... Elizabeth: Marbles.
[bell dings] YES!
Devin: Is that that ladybug?
Magen: Uh, this is a, um... Monika: Jellyfish!
Monika: This is a, a UFO-- Monika: Bubblegum!
Magen: --it is a, it's a f-- Both: An umbrella!
[bell dings] Both: [excited screaming] Kacey: I see something round.
Sean: Okay, is this eggs again?
Look at that, it kinda looks like a yolk.
Eggs?
Kacey: No, uh-uh, uh-uh.
Sean: Is it like a pot thing?
Kacey: Yes, yes, yes, okay, I think you got it, I think you're right.
Sean: Um, copper pot?
Kacey: Cooking pots!
Both: Cooking pots!
Kacey: Cooking pots!
[bell dings] Kacey: All right, go, go, get it, get it, get it, get it.
Anthony: Here, you read it.
Monika: Your relative lives at-- Both: 1633 Lutona Street.
Devin: Okay, let's go.
Kacey: 4906 Dakota Avenue.
Come on!
Sean: Okay, let's go.
[guitar chord] ♪ Magen: It, it's out, not that way, not the way, I think it wants-- Monika: N-oh yeah.
Magen: It wants you to turn this way.
Dan: Tensions heat up as the difficult task of finding their relative's address begins.
Anthony: This person in front of us, seriously!
Joseph: I know, they're slow as all get out.
[horn honks] Anthony: Go!
Go!
- Come on, dude, you could've gone!
Magen: We're in the one-fours and fallin', okay?
Monika: Stay positive.
Magen: Stay positive.
We brought our own city map, so we had to make a call.
Were we gonna use the city street map, rely on the GPS, or a combination thereof?
No, we're just goin' to figure it out.
Maybe scream at somebody, I don't know.
♪ Sean: [exasperated sigh] Kacey: I feel like we're going straight-- Sean: I don't wanna lose because of this.
Kacey: Okay, stop panicking!
Sean: Turn left onto Rosa Parks.
Kacey: I, that's what I'm doing.
♪ Elizabeth: Is, does this cut through?
Devin: It's... Elizabeth: No, no, go through, can we?
Devin: It's like it's, uh-- Elizabeth: No, no, Allen Street, can Allen Street go over?
Devin: No, it does not.
Elizabeth: You can't cut through here?
Devin: Allen, no.
Elizabeth: Cut through here, cut through-- Devin: That is an alley-- Elizabeth: No, no, it's not an alley!
Devin: Wrong way.
Elizabeth: But, but-- Devin: That is an alley, wrongway.
Elizabeth: Okay, go down one more.
Devin: Because, you know, we've spent a lotta time here in Philadelphia, we thought that we'd be able to get to the location a little bit easier, and, uh, that was not the case, and it was hard to make decisions while we were drivin' on the fly.
- What?
Kidding me.
Kacey: Okay, you are literally giving me anxiety.
You need to stop-- Sean: Am I not allowed to react?
Kacey: Not whenever-- all you're doing is making me upset.
Sean: Okay, I will be silent.
- There is nothing we can do, and if you're panicking-- Sean: I know.
Kacey: --and having a meltdown... Elizabeth: I don't even know where we are.
All I know... Devin: Okay.
Elizabeth: ...is that we're around here, because-- Devin: Do you wanna go left?
Or do you wanna go right?
Elizabeth: [sighs] I wanna-- Devin: I think we should go left.
I think we should go left.
♪ Joseph: 116, 112, 1... 10!
110, right there.
Anthony: Okay.
We're fine.
Joseph: Blue house.
♪ Anthony: Okay, 110.
I see that 110, 110!
Yes!
Yes, we got to our relative's house, I'm so happy.
- Pulling up to the house, I looked at my brother, and I, I didn't really know what to expect, but I just had this feelin' like, this relative was gonna be a really big deal.
♪ Anthony: I come around the corner, and, I think to myself, is that mom?
Hello.
Woman 2: Hi.
Joseph: I'm, uh, my name is Joseph, and this is my brother, Anthony.
Anthony: How are you related to us?
- My name is Bobbie, I'm your mother's sister.
Anthony: Bobbie!
♪ Joseph: Hey.
[kissing sound] Bobbie: Look at you.
[crying] Hi, how are you?
You guys look so handsome!
You're so big.
Oh, my gosh, look at you.
It's so hard to explain when you meet someone that you've kinda been waiting your whole life to meet.
You wanna cry, you wanna scream, you wanna just... you just wanna explode inside, and then, being able to hold them and hug them and kiss them... [inhale] it just makes, it just makes your, just happy.
I'm like, in total shock.
Anthony: Yeah, me too.
- How are, [sighs] Anthony: How are you?
How have you been?
- Good, I'm good.
Gosh, oh.
Anthony: You look great.
Bobbie: Thank you, you do, too.
You got so big.
I remember when you were just little babies.
It's been a very long time.
Joseph: Yeah, it has.
I had to step back and pause and go, whoa, like, this is my mom's sister, you know?
And, that to me was like, oh my gosh, what do I say, what do I do, like, I have so many questions.
But all that kinda went away the moment she hugged both of us, and I was like, okay.
It's a safe place.
Bobbie: Oh, gosh, you guys look like, you look like family.
You really do, I know that's hard to believe, but I've got some pictures to show you, we're gonna go over some things, and... Anthony: Wow.
- I think you guys are really gonna enjoy it, so I can't wait.
[laughs] Joseph: I'm so excited.
- I know, so am I.
You guys wanna come in?
Joseph: Sure, we'd love to.
Bobbie: Yeah, let's do it.
Come on.
Anthony: We'd love to.
♪ Magen: Seven, three, five... Monika: This one.
Magen: Seven, pull in the driveway!
Monika: [squeals] I love you!
Magen: I love you.
Not when I'm navigating, though.
Monika: That was good, though!
That was good.
♪ Magen: Navigating a new city on the clock is incredibly stressful.
Monika: But, when we pull up to a relative's house, all that goes away, and it's just an incredible feeling.
Woman 3: Hi!
[baby squealing] Man 1: Hello!
Magen: Hi!
Monika: Hi.
Man 1: How's it goin'?
Monika: How are you?
I'm Monika.
Magen: I'm Magen.
Man 1: Nice to meet you both.
Magen: Nice to meet you!
Man 1: I'm Dave, this is Whitney, Huxley, and Bryley.
Magen: Hi!
Monika: Whitney, Huxley, Bryley.
Magen: Who are you related to?
Dave: Monika.
Monika: Okay, how are we related?
Dave: My father is your mother's half-brother.
So, I'm your cousin.
- AH!
That's awesome, nice to meet you guys!
Dave: Nice to meet you guys.
Monika: You're so beautiful.
Magen: Thanks for havin' us.
Monika: Oh, look at you.
You say hi?
Can I give you a hug?
Magen: It's nice to meet you.
Monika: You want a hug?
She's so cute.
Dave: I'm David Draheim, and I am Monika's first cousin.
Yeah, so excited.
Monika: You excited?
Dave: Yeah, I am.
I'm very excited to meet you and get into some conversation.
Monika: Yeah, I gotta figure out all this relationship stuff.
Magen: [laughs] Dave: Right?
Me too, actually.
Monika: [laughs] I love it, I love it.
Magen: We'd love to hear more and, and talk a little bit further.
Whitney: Yeah!
Monika: Get in some AC.
Magen: Yeah.
[laughs] Dave: Yeah, right?
Warm day today.
Whitney: It is, it is.
Well let's run inside, and we'll cool off.
Monika: Sweet, let's do it.
♪ Kacey: 4910, 11... Sean: There's no stop sign, right, keep going.
Yeah.
4907, 4906 right here.
We gave it our all today.
We gave it our all.
Kacey: Hello!
Sean: Hi there.
Man 2: Hey!
Sean: Hi, I'm Sean, and this is Kacey.
Kacey: Hi!
Man 2 : I'm David, this is my wife, Brittany.
Brittany: Nice to meet you.
Sean: Hey, guys, how are we all related?
David: Kacey?
Kacey: Yeah?
David: I'm actually related to Sean.
Kacey: [gasps] Sean: Really?
Kacey: What?
Sean: How so?
David: I am your cousin on your father's side.
Sean: Really?
That is so cool.
David: Yeah.
That is great!
Awesome!
It's so great to meet ya.
Brittany: Yes, awesome to meet you.
David: Nice to meet you, too.
Family's always been very important to me.
Even as you get kinda more extended out, I think it's valuable to know as much as you can about your family history and to get to know more people that are connected to you.
Sean: We come from a fairly large family, so it's, [chuckles] not hard to imagine that there's people that we haven't met, so... David: Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Sean: That's awesome.
It definitely was special meeting somebody from my dad's side, 'cause it's just nice having another piece of, you know, his family, even though I, I have lots of pieces already that I'm very grateful for, but... never too many.
David: Got a couple things to show you, so, yeah.
Sean: Absolutely.
David: You like to come inside?
Sean: Yeah, certainly, get outta, get outta the heat.
Sounds good to me.
♪ Elizabeth: We had a really rough time navigating the streets of downtown Philly.
Devin: Yeah, we finally found our relative's address, but we had to wind through all these downtown streets to get there.
Not a good day.
Yep.
Right here, right here.
Go.
Elizabeth: As we were running down the sidewalk, immediately I see a woman I knew right away.
Hi!
♪ [crying] [dramatic music] ♪ Elizabeth: [exhales] [sniffs] ♪ Woman 3: My name is Jennifer Willis.
I'm 32 years old, and I am Elizabeth's sister.
♪ Elizabeth: Let me see you, let me see you.
Jennifer: I know, right?
Elizabeth: Oh, man.
Oh, man.
Devin: Look at that.
Jennifer: You sound just like me.
[laughter] Jennifer: When I first saw her runnin' down the street at me, I thought she looks like us, and to see that and to feel that, and like, to hug her and finally touch her, and like, feel her and smell her, and like, she's real, and she's my sister, it was, it was beautiful.
It was great.
Elizabeth: Would you please introduce me to my nieces?
Jennifer: This is Kaori, she's 14, she's my oldest, and this is Cami, she's 8, our youngest.
Elizabeth: So in addition to meeting my sister, I got to meet her two beautiful daughters, my two wonderful nieces, Kaori and Cami.
I know that they're gonna keep me young.
I love their energy, their spirit, their light, their joy.
It's gonna be a lot of fun spending time, time with them.
Elizabeth: [crying] Devin: How long have you guys lived here?
Elizabeth: [through tears] We live, we live, like... we just live in Bethlehem.
We're just up the road!
We're just up the road.
- It'll be so close!
Devin: Right!
Elizabeth: I know.
I think why it felt so familiar with Jen is that I had already met our other siblings, Angelica and JJ, and there are some physical similarities between all of us, and there are some personality similarities between all of us, so... because I bonded so well with them, plus had some stories and context with her, it was just, it was just a moment we were both looking forward to, and, um... felt like I had known her a lot longer than those few minutes on that sidewalk.
I think it is safe to say that the Willis family discovery for me is definitely complete, and I am so grateful to, to be a big part of that family.
It means a lot.
♪ [tranquil piano music] ♪ Joseph: Our aunt Bobbie invites us in, uh, to sit down and learn more about our mother, Ruth Ann, and why were given up for adoption.
Bobbie: You know, our past wasn't super easy, and, you know, there wasn't a lot of money, in-w-you know, in our childhood.
Anthony: Hmm.
Bobbie: And so for Ruth, you know, she had a lot of, um, some, some mental issues as well as she had problems learning things, so she had some learning disabilities as well, so, for her to have four kids would have been very, very difficult, and you, you boys were just, um, you were sick.
You needed somebody who could take care of you properly.
Um, so, the state decided that it was best if she gave you guys to somebody who could properly take care of you, and it wasn't something she wanted to do, it really wasn't.
It crushed her soul, and, to this day, she's still, you know, not able to cope with it, you know, in her mind, the only way she could cope is to just pretend like you never existed.
But, it, it just, it ruined her in a way that, if you saw it, you would understand.
Anthony: The thing that stuck with me the most was when our aunt Bobbie said that our mother, how much she loved us, and how much she missed us, and what she did to herself because of us being gone.
That really, like, hurt, but...
I know that, now, she won't have to do that anymore, and, we're here, and we're okay, and we're healthy, and...
I think that we can begin to repair things and make up for lost time, and hopefully she won't feel this terrible.
- It was a very difficult thing I think that, in the long run, when she signed those papers, it was what was best for the two of you because she thought that somebody could do something better for you than she could.
You know, and it wasn't because she didn't want you.
That was the last thing.
She wanted you boys more than you could ever imagine.
- I am so relieved that I finally know what happened between Ruth, our mom, you, and the family.
'Cause for a while, there was a lot of fog and missing pieces, and today, I finally found out what happened with DHS and what happened with that, and I'm so relieved because now I understand the full picture.
Bobbie: Right.
I did notice in talking with Joseph and Anthony that a lot of things, all the questions that they had, and a lot of the questions that they had that I could answer for them, it, I felt like it kind of relieved a lot of tension in them and a lot of that not knowing the answers to questions, that, you know, they bothered them, and I'm glad I was able to at least answer some of those questions for them.
♪ Dave: All righty, guys, come on in, have a seat.
Monika: Thank you!
Dave brings us inside, we sit down, and we learn a little bit more about how we're connected as family.
Dave: So I'm right over here.
This is Dwayne.
Monika: And Dwayne would also be your grandpa.
Magen: And he's your grandpa.
- And he's my grandpa.
Magen: Yep.
Dave: Awesome.
Magen: Okay.
- You're younger than me.
Dave: Ooh!
[laughter] Monika: So Louise and Dwayne had my mom, Robin, and then Robin had me.
That's me.
Monika.
Dave: Oh!
There we go.
- That's funny, I love it!
Dave: Oh my goodness.
I didn't know exactly how vast our Draheim tree truly was, and it's nice to get a little more information about that today.
To be honest, I really don't know a lot because the portion where the little bit of Draheims that I did know in Northern California, I only lived there for about nine years in the beginning of my life, so we kinda moved away, and I haven't had a connection since, so... Monika: It's really interesting that my cousin David didn't really know much about the Draheim side of the family, and, so, it's really, really cool that I'm able to give back and show him some of the family that I've met along the way.
You have three other cousins.
Dave: Wow, that is, that's amazing 'cause for me, I haven't-- to be honest, maybe one other cousin that I can remember, so you're two, so three others that I get to know today, putting it at five, that's amazing.
Monika: Yep.
And they're all pretty close to this area, within a couple hours.
Dave: Wow.
That's crazy.
Monika: Mm-hmm.
Dave: Small world.
Monika: I'm glad that, like, my journey could potentially help your, you know, knowing of family.
That's really cool, so... - That is extremely awesome, so, that's amazing.
It's crazy to know that there's three other cousins out there, 'cause yesterday, there was only the one I knew about, and now, today, I have it on me that I got four on that side, so yeah, it's really, really cool.
Just that your family's growing so rapidly, and you had no idea about it.
[guitar chord] [piano music] Jennifer: So tell me about your journey.
Elizabeth: Yeah, uh, it has, it has been a whirlwind.
So a couple of days ago, I got to meet our dad, Jerome, for the first time, and, like, we were just a bucket of tears.
He showed me some of your baby pictures, uh, and, it was like, I was so excited.
I could tell right away, like, I mean, you could see similarities in all of us.
I could see pieces of myself in like, each one of you, between you and Angelica and JJ, and, um, like, you know, like all the cheeks.
[laughs] Definitely the cheeks, definitely the cheeks.
Jennifer: The cheeks.
Elizabeth: Even then, just through the photos, you've got a sense, I got a sense that I could just, I knew I was just gonna connect with you guys right away, and I was just so excited.
Jennifer: It's a blessing.
I'm so excited to have a sister.
We already feel the same things, like I'm listenin' to her speak, and I'm like, I don't have to say a word, she, she, she gets it, so... it's a beautiful thing to have her close.
So we've been, we've been waiting for you, and we're so blessed that you found us, and we're so happy to have you here.
It means a lot to us, especially the girls, they're like, we're have another Ti-Ti!
Elizabeth: Yay!
Jennifer: And then the fact that you're so close, too, because I really, you know, all of my, our family is in West Virginia, so now I'm like, I'm not alone.
Elizabeth: Right.
Jennifer: Like, my sister's here, so... Elizabeth: Yeah!
Ohhh!
That's awesome.
That's so awesome.
It's remarkable to be connected to a, a family member that is so close to you, in significance, like a sibling, but even more so being that they are close in proximity.
It allows for even more opportunity to connect in the future in a much easier way.
- It, it means the world to me that she lives so close.
Um, I, when I first moved to Philadelphia, I was in West Virginia probably like, every couple of months because I needed to, in my mind, have my own family close, but to know that, like, a piece of that is like, right here with me, and I'm not by myself, makes me feel so elated.
Elizabeth: I'm so grateful that the truth is as beautiful as you guys are, and as, as wonderful as you guys and the whole Willis family has been to me, I can't tell you how, how humbling and how honored I am, and how appreciative I am.
Like, I wish I could come up with other words besides grateful and appreciative, but that's, that's just it.
- Blessed.
Elizabeth: Like this, blessed, thankful, like, just beside myself-- this is better than anything I could have imagined, and it's just been such an awesome journey, and the love that radiates from all of you is just, like, man, this is why I feel like we could just pick up, like, okay.
So, no, we missed the first half, but... - Oh, we definitely can, and we definitely will.
Elizabeth: We've got a lot, we'll catch up.
We got a lotta catchin' up to do.
Devin: For Elizabeth, this really started with, she wanted to find out who her biological father is, and then she found out about these siblings at different points in the journey, so to watch her do that and then now get to the last portion of that first family, if you will, you know, her, her, her siblings and her father, it really does.
It completes the picture of that side of her family.
Jennifer: I am so glad that this is, like, the end of that part of her journey so that she can identify with who she is because I know that that was very important to her, and I'm glad that she knows what that is now, and hopefully we can bring it full circle for her and, um, just grow together and cr-- and be a part of her identity now.
I look forward to that.
♪ David: So I was just gonna show you kind of our shared ancestor and... Sean: Yeah, absolutely.
David: Little bit of information here.
Sean: Yeah.
David: Um, we actually have the obituary for our great-great grandfather, um... Sean: Oh, that is so cool.
- Hervey Chapman.
He lived to 104 after moving to California when he was 30.
Sean: For the first time ever, I got to see a photo of my great-great grandfather Hervey and his wife, Mary, which was really cool seeing the, the tie that binds us together.
- There were two of uh, four sons of Hervey's and my family, and I guess your family, too, I didn't know that previously that they had stayed out in California and then kinda just moved towards the Midwest over time.
Sean: Yeah, yeah, my family's kinda spread out over the whole country at this point.
But yeah, originally a lot more of 'em kinda lived on the, on the West Coast.
David: Yeah, where in California were you from?
Sean: Okay, well, I am, spent most of my life growing up in Monterey, but I was actually born down in San Diego on a military base, and, uh, my father, Phil, he was in the military, in the Marine Corps.
Uh, he was a Huey pilot, and, um, when I was about four and a half years old, there was a really horrible accident where the... long story short, that the rotor basically had a se-- it seized up in midair and the helicopter exploded.
My dad died instantly.
- Oh my goodness.
Sean: Um, not having my father around, you know, definitely left me with, not questions, but there were things that I, you know, wished I could've had a dad for, but, as I said, my, my grandfather was there, very earnestly, you know, and so I really, I ultimately don't feel like I missed out on anything other than not having my dad.
So I actually spent most of my, most of my childhood with my grandpa, Chuck, being a, kind of basically standing in for my dad.
David: I think tonight was meaningful for Sean, and uh, meeting more of his broader family, and when he shared the story of losing his father at a very young age, um, it seemed to me like we were able to connect a little bit, and I think that learning more about, for me, learning more about that part of the family was very touching.
Sean: I'm very happy I met a relative today.
You know, family is very important, and so it's wonderful to add more.
♪ - I've had cerebral palsy my entire life, and it's affected my coordination and my ability to walk, and I've always wondered in the back of my mind if I was born with it or it was a result of childhood trauma.
I have to ask, um, did I, was I born with CP?
- Um, you know, I don't know.
Joseph: I've always had a big question of where my CP came from, and...
I didn't really, I was told by my adopted mother that the CP was due to childhood abuse.
Here's, 'cause here's, here's the tough thing.
My, my adopted mom said that there was, um, there were certain things that happened, with um, as a baby, that caused the cerebral palsy, and I don't know if it's something that happened with Ruthie or, or... - Well, nothing happened with Ruth.
You weren't with her long enough for anything like that to happen.
There is no way that, and you weren't in her care long enough.
♪ By the time you came from the hospital, there was no time for her to do anything that would be any cause for anything like that.
Anthony: Does it feel good to know the truth, now, Joe?
Joseph: That makes me so happy because I knew in my heart, I've always known in my heart that Ruthie would never hurt my brother or me.
Regardless of how it happened, I did know, I did understand one thing, and that was that my mom didn't do anything, and that's something that I have felt to be true in my heart all along, but I just had to hear her say that.
It meant a lot.
It really did.
I just wanna thank you, Bobbie, because I... that's, that's been somethin', uh, that's just, [sighs] it's just been, quite so many questions, and, and... Bobbie: Yeah, I, you know, I don't know much about it, I wasn't even aware that that could be caused by a-abuse.
Is that somethin' the doctors told you?
- Yeah.
It's, uh, childhood trauma or birth complications.
- Birth complications, maybe.
But I know it wasn't abuse.
Based on the pregnancy issues and the fact that they were premature, I think that it's probably more likely that it happened, you know, before birth, and I think that's what he was worried about.
He was worried, I think, that Ruth had abused him, and that's something I know Ruth would never do.
♪ Everything's gonna be okay.
Joseph: Mm-hmm.
♪ Dan: Day 8 draws to a close, and tonight, three teams face possible elimination.
Kacey: I think it wasn't fantastic performance, but it by far was not a bad performance.
Sean: I don't, unless everyone else did really good, I don't think it was the end.
Dan: Teams Black, Blue, and Green all hold two strikes, and with only one day left, any one of them could be going home tonight.
Eight days into Relative Race, and once again, I'm very happy to see all four teams with us.
Today may be the most stress-filled day for each of you because every team, with the exception of Team Red, has two strikes.
Team Green, Monika and Magen.
Today's challenge was all about communication, so, how did you guys tackle that?
Monika: So Magen really killed it in the beginning, and then from there, we just kept talking.
I mean, as you can tell, we really like to talk, so it ended up working out really well.
Dan: But ultimately, all that matters is that you make it safely to a different home each and every day.
Kacey, when your clock stopped today, you probably assumed, here's another relative of mine.
- I did, um, but we had a really nice surprise, actually.
Sean: Things got changed up on us a little bit today.
I actually got to meet my third cousin, David, on my, uh, my dad's side, which is a-- Kacey: And his lovely wifey.
Sean: And his lovely wife, Brittany.
It's really neat meeting somebody from, you know, up the tree a little bit, but then, you know, back down because he's actually the same age as me only within a couple months.
We're both 32, so, it's really cool.
It was real, real exciting treat to get to meet him.
Dan: Fantastic.
Hey, boys.
You get back out on the road, and you navigate pretty well to another relative.
Who did you meet tonight?
Joseph: We got to meet our auntie.
Anthony: Bobbie.
Joseph: Bobbie.
Bobbie: Hi!
[laughs] Dan: Look at that wonderful smile.
As you meet these family members, are they able to provide answers for questions that you've had your entire lives?
Joseph: I had been, I had a question about my early childhood and what the situation was with my adoption, and Bobbie, she, she answered all of those questions, and, a lot of the mystery that was in my heart was just gone, and... where there was once, like, anger and hurt, it's not anymore.
Dan: We never know if the relative you meet on a given day is the one that can provide those answers to you, so, again, I'm happy for both of you, and it's so nice to meet you.
Thank you for having these boys and welcoming them into your home and into your, into your life.
Bobbie: Thank you for making this possible.
Dan: It's our pleasure.
Team Green, it's been quite a journey for Monika, and it's been quite a journey for Magen.
Who did you meet?
Monika: So today, I met my cousin, Dave!
Dave: Hi!
Monika: Dave, it was cool, 'cause I actually got to, um, give him some answers, which was kind of cool.
He didn't know much about that side, and, with the, uh, brother and sisters that I've met, those are actually his cousins as well.
Dave: Yeah, I found out I had three more, too.
Dan: Aw, that's awesome, Dave!
Now you guys really need to have that family reunion.
Dave: Yeah.
Yeah, no joke there.
Dan: Monika, congratulations on expanding your family once again.
We're really happy for ya.
Liz and Devin.
You guys got horribly lost negotiating to your relative's home.
But I always ask the same question because I think it's pertinent.
Even though you had a tough time getting to the house, was it worth it?
Elizabeth: Oh, it was worth it 110%.
I see this beautiful young woman standing there in red, and her, her two daughters also red, and I'm just running and running, you know, 'cause that's the nature of the race.
Probably about 20 feet out, she just starts sprinting towards me like we just couldn't wait to hug each other anymore.
And I, I already knew it was my sister, so, this is my oldest of baby sisters, Jennifer.
Kacey: Oh, yay!
Elizabeth: And her two beautiful daughters, this is Cami, and this is Kaori.
My husband and I, we live, my family, we live about an hour, hour and some change north of here.
So, to like, know, like, it almost... [emotionally] she's been here, like, for years, she's been right here, and so, to know, to now know her and her, her family, and to know that we're, like, we can be so close, it's just, it's unbelievable what, what has, um, how I've been connected and who I've been connected with through the show, and, it's just, it's better than anything I could've imagined.
Dan: It makes it all worth it for us, and I hope that it makes everything that you've gone through the last eight days worth it for each of you.
Who will continue on to Day 9?
♪ Team Black, Team Blue, and Team Green.
Each of you has two strikes.
A strike tonight and you're out of the race.
Team Red, you have one strike.
Once again, our first place finisher finished under their allotted time and will win a challenge benefit that will be revealed to them at a later time, and the team that has that advantage, finishing two minutes under their allotted time... [intense music] Team Green.
Magen: [gasp of shock] Dave: Knew it!
[laughter] Dave: Woo!
Dan: Congratulations, Monika and Magen.
So, will we say goodbye to Team Black or Team Blue tonight?
Finishing 13 minutes over their allotted time and safe for another day... Kacey and Sean, Team Black.
- Oh, thank goodness.
Sean: [sighs] Thank you.
Kacey: 'Kay.
Whew.
David: Good job, guys.
Dan: It comes down to Team Red and Team Blue.
Team Blue, you have two strikes, you know what a third strike means.
Finishing 14 minutes, just 1 minute behind Team Black... and still safe, Team Blue.
Joseph: [gasps] Anthony: [sighs] Dan: Team Red, the back streets of Philadelphia really caught you and cost you.
You finished 41 minutes over your allotted time, and so you have picked up your second strike on Relative Race.
For all of the teams, you've made it this far.
Three of you will be headed to day 10.
The reality is, somebody will be out of the race tomorrow.
Get some sleep.
Think about how you can make tomorrow your best day ever, because tomorrow is Day 9 of Relative Race.
Goodnight everybody, and good luck.
♪ Bobbie: Yay!
Joseph: Whew!
Anthony: We weren't kicked out again.
[laughter] Elizabeth: Okay.
Devin: We received our second strike tonight, and frankly, I have mixed emotions about it.
- So this just means we need to be sharp and ready for tomorrow.
Devin: Exactly.
[excited screams] [laughter] Magen: Oh, no!
Monika: So, for being in first place tonight, we win a challenge benefit for tomorrow.
We have no idea what it is yet, but we think it will definitely help us.
[trills tongue] Magen: [laughs] Kacey: Second place, I know.
Sean: Second place again.
Kacey: We've been in second place, like almost every night.
Sean: Yeah, if we can get second place one more time, then, then we're golden.
Kacey: Yep.
- We're all, it's a clean slate, everybody's in the same boat.
- Do or die.
Elizabeth: Yeah.
Devin: Winner takes all.
♪
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