- We are honored to be joined by George Helmy, who as we do this program, is a United States Senator on the 4th of December.

For a few more days, he will be a senator.

Good to see you, George.

- Steve, so great to be with you.

And frankly, it's my honor to be on the program again with you, and thank you again for what you and your team do.

- Appreciate that.

George, let me ask you this.

As we were joking before, there's so many things about you in the news as we're doing this program.

You are leaving the Senate after the governor, Governor Murphy, appointed you.

Big picture question.

Number one lesson you've learned about leadership slash how the Senate works or doesn't work.

- You know, Steve, it goes back to conversations.

The lesson I've learned is the lesson you and I have discussed many times privately and publicly.

Is we are all in the relationship business.

And you can get here, get into your own camp, and scream into the cave and rile up those who are already on your side, or you can go outta your way, leave your office, go down the hall, shake somebody's hand, ask them for a cup of coffee or a drink, and get to know them and find the areas where you're gonna have agreement.

You know, everybody comes to this building, I believe, with the intention to create change for the people in their state or their district.

And if you can meet them on their field, you're likely to find some common ground.

You'll still disagree with them on 98% of things, but I didn't think I'd have relationships with some of the Republican senators just based on who I thought they were based on who I saw on CNN, or Fox News, or MSNBC.

And you get here and you say, "Hey, why are you here?"

And, you know, I've been able to advance real conversations that I think long after I take off this pin.

In a few days, I'll be able to really help New Jersey with the relationships we've built.

And so, the lesson in leadership is meet people where they are, get outta your bubble and go build relationships.

- You know, it's so interesting you say this, Senator, because, and again, this will be seen for several months into 2025, and the lessons in this conversation will be just as relevant.

But I'm curious about this.

A couple of your priorities in the 90 days you will have been in the Senate, youth mental health, and also talk about humanitarian aid to Gaza, Lebanon, and the West Bank.

First, youth mental health, I'm curious, and even when you leave the Senate and go back into the private sector, this will still be a priority for you.

Why youth mental health?

You have two young children, teens, if you will.

We have one who's at that age, and then some who are older.

But this youth mental health thing, an epidemic, George?

- An epidemic, a significant crisis that I felt was being undertold.

The story was being undertold in these incredible halls.

And, you know, being chief of staff to Governor Murphy during the COVID Pandemic, we already saw what kids were facing before the pandemic.

You and I, Steve, were talking about our children on the lead into the story, and our children, what they're experiencing.

And, you know, when we were kids, it wasn't that the world was great, but we didn't wake up to political turmoil, climate change, mass casualty events in schools.

The kids are being bombarded with negativity all day.

Then they get on their social media and big tech's creating algorithms that targets them.

They create massive revenue streams off of them.

So, kids are constantly in comparison mode, where are my friends versus where am I?

Whose life am I watching on a stream versus what my life looks like?

So, it's the thief of joy.

And I really do believe, honestly I believe it, the data is telling us our kids are not okay.

And you know, as you know me well, I am data oriented.

And I wanted to come here in 90 days and find an issue, or I thought that there was bipartisan ability to move the conversation, actually drive legislation.

And in those meetings that I mentioned earlier say, "Hey, look at this data on how many of our kids are creating suicide.

Look at the data just in 10 years about the doubling of kids being seen in emergency rooms, because of self-harm."

We have a problem, and it's our obligation as policymakers, whether it be at a local, state, or federal level to do something about it.

And I have just been so encouraged by the bipartisan support, and frankly, the uplifting that many of the members here have given me on that issue.

- To the Senator's point, please go on our website SteveAdubato.org.

We've done numerous interviews with experts in the field of youth mental health.

Put in the youth mental health name and under topic, and you'll see those interviews, check them out.

Senator, let me ask you this.

You talk about bipartisanship, making friends or building relationships with people both sides of the aisle.

But as we do this program leading up to a new president, new Congress, taking over, again, be seen in January, February, March, are we as polarized as it feels?

- I believe that the country may be that polarized, and I think there's a number of reasons for it.

I will tell you in the United States Senate, while you do have those folks at the polar edges, and that's just who they are and what they believe.

I still believe the majority of this body is able to meet somewhere in the middle, and to make progress.

And I think that's the importance of rules like the filibuster, the role of getting to know people down here.

And so, yeah, I have to agree, Steve, with that comment that I do think there's real polarization.

And I think it's driven, and, you know, by a number of factors, including sort of a 24-hour news media that really doesn't, unlike you and some of your colleagues, really get to the heart of issues and discuss policy and substance.

That has really become sort of an entertainment system in my opinion.

But I still believe having now come back from my third tour, as you know, I did two tours as a staffer here.

But doing this 90 days and getting to really, you know, sit with all these members, the body still is capable of doing big things on behalf of the American people.

And I leave here actually, more optimistic than where I came in.

- Really, more optimistic?

- I do, and look, I have significant, you're not gonna find me here as a defender of what the President-elect's policies are or many of his cabinet nominations so far.

But I've gotten to know Leader Sue, and I've gotten to know people around him, and I clearly know Leader Schumer and our leadership team, which now includes New Jersey Senator Cory Booker elevating to the fourth position in Democratic leadership, which is just tremendous for our state, and for the party.

And I do leave optimistic that the people here care about this institution.

They care about the obligations of duly-elected senators.

They're not gonna be rolled over.

And they're gonna try and find consensus on many of these issues that are troubling our nation and including obviously, the future and wellbeing of our children.

- You know, obviously, there are issues like youth mental health affecting our nation, and then there are issues that impact the world.

Your commitment, Senator, to more humanitarian aid to Gaza, Lebanon, the West Bank.

You come at this from a unique perspective.

People will say, "Which side are you on?"

That's not how you see it.

I know enough about you to know that it's not picking sides.

When you talk about more humanitarian aid to the people not places, but people there.

Why is that so personal for you?

- Yeah, and I appreciate the way you asked that question.

And it speaks also to the polarization question.

I refuse and have always refused in my public policy service to get boxed in to be told you're on this side.

The issues that we face are more complicated than that and the American people are smart enough and deserve, frankly, for us to speak to the complexity of complex issues.

And so, being on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, much of the conversation that was happening about the issue in the Middle East was defense, armaments, and really the armed conflict.

And I said, "Okay, you know, I'm gonna immerse myself in that I have foreign policy experience."

Clearly I worked under Senator Booker, who's a member of that committee, but I said, "Where is the commentary on the 50,000 lives lost in Gaza and the devastation that is currently happening in the West Bank?

And then when the crisis escalated into Israel's efforts against Hezbollah, what's happening with Lebanon, which already had an influx of Syrian refugees who had left the crisis there.

And so, you know, look, leadership requires courage and requires you to be bold and requires you to know that when you speak up on these issues, you're gonna get hit from both sides, because one side's gonna tell you're not doing enough here and the other side's gonna tell you how dare you.

But we spoke up with boldness and I can't tell you how much praise we got from, frankly, all sectors of the Democratic Party and Republicans who thanked me after my floor speech on Gaza.

And said, "Thank you for saying that, and we hope more members will come to the floor and speak the devastation."

We're seeing the decimation of the human population, because we can't get supplies that I personally saw on a trip to Jordan.

And I'm meeting, just so you know, with the king of Jordan, actually very soon.

Just so the New Jersey people know that we are truly running through the tape here in the honor they've given me in serving.

We saw in Jordan warehouses full of supplies, these is food, medication, winterized tents, as winter was approaching, that couldn't get over, because the checkpoints were really choke points and they weren't safe.

And from the checkpoint to the distribution center, we couldn't get the supplies.

And so, being a United States senator, one thing you have is you are one of 100 in the United States, and when you raise your voice, people take notice.

And, you know, so thankful that the team and we stepped up and said, "Hey, we're gonna take a position, we're gonna make a statement, we're gonna bring some attention to it."

I was able to advance that conversation with Secretary Blinken.

I'm talking to the Israeli embassy, literally right after I hang up with you, Steve.

And so, we're gonna continue to make progress, right?

I can assure the people of New Jersey.

My public service doesn't stop the day I give up the pin.

You know, I'm gonna continue advocating for these really important issues.

- Senator, the pin you refer to being in the Senate, the Senate pin, I don't mind the club of 100, this very special elite.

I know you don't like that.

I know you don't like the senators only, I know I've read that about you.

But I was a member of the state legislature of 120 for literally one term.

And then, bye Steve, you're out.

It's called losing an election.

But I have to ask you this on a, I don't have to, I choose to ask you this on a personal level.

I'm sure it was not part of your plan, your career plan to be in the US Senate.

How much of the appointment to the Senate, the serving in the Senate, is personal for you, because of so many reasons, but also because of your heritage?

- Without question, I mean, it's personal to me for all the reasons I think you just alluded to.

One, is when the governor came to me, and you're right, it wasn't my plan.

I had left government service.

I was enjoying more time home with the kids, you know, attending the games.

But, you know, a number of things came to mind.

One, is I knew I would be the only Arab American serving in the United States Senate during this Congress at a time in which there was a significant conflict in the Middle East, in which the humanitarian piece of it wasn't getting enough attention.

Second, is to be the first Coptic Orthodox in New Jersey, New York.

Pennsylvania have a huge Coptic Orthodox population, but to be the first to ascend from my heritage and my faith to serve in the Senate was just an incredible honor.

But I actually, I would tell you more importantly, is just my experience in New Jersey, working alongside you and many other leaders for so long, just knew the issues.

So, coming in at a time where there are important bills being considered, appropriations are taking all their steps, being able to advance the issues that I know Senator Kim will be able to carry on.

And to back up Cory on things that are important to us in terms of grant funding and our military bases, that was critical.

That we had somebody who, like it wasn't a learning curve for me.

I knew these issues.

I knew them from the Senate perspective and clearly, as the longest-serving chief of staff in the state's history, I knew these issues in and out.

So, for those reasons, it was just really important for me to say yes.

You know, one of my favorite passages from the Bible is in Isaiah, and where the Lord is seeking somebody.

And Isaiah says, "Here I am, send me."

And I've sort of looked at life that way.

When called upon, be ready to go.

- Well said, Senator, and on a professional and personal level, thank you for your service in the SenatE, thank you for your service in government, and public service for a long time.

And most importantly, wish you and your family all the best in the new year.

Thank you, Senator - Steve, thank you.

And honestly, thank you for what you do.

It's so important, well beyond the borders of New Jersey.

I applaud you and I applaud your team and appreciate our friendship.

- And you know better than most, it's really the team.

Thank you, Senator.

That is Senator George Helmy as we do this program, make sure you watch it over the next several months.

This conversation will be just as relevant as when we're taping it.

I'm Steve Adubato, that's George Helmy.

See you next time.

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