
Phyllis George
Season 3 Episode 1 | 27m 51sVideo has Closed Captions
Phyllis George discusses her reign as Miss America 1971.
Phyllis George discusses her reign as Miss America 1971, her term as first lady of Kentucky, her business ventures, and her current role as spokesperson for the National Alzheimer's Association. A 2008 KET production.
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Phyllis George
Season 3 Episode 1 | 27m 51sVideo has Closed Captions
Phyllis George discusses her reign as Miss America 1971, her term as first lady of Kentucky, her business ventures, and her current role as spokesperson for the National Alzheimer's Association. A 2008 KET production.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship>> WELCOME TO "ONE TO ONE" SHE'S COME BACK TO KENTUCKY, A FORMER MISS AMERICA, A FIRST LADY OF KENTUCKY, AUTHOR, NETWORK BROADCASTER AND A NATIONAL SPOKESPERSON FOR ALZHEIMER'S, BACK TO THE BLUEGRASS, PHYLLIS GEORGE, NEXT ON "ONE TO ONE" >> WELCOME.
>> THANK YOU SO MUCH, AND THANK YOU FOR THAT INTRODUCTION.
>> SO NICE TO HAVE YOU HERE.
>> I LOVE THIS.
>> WE'VE TRIED TO GET TOGETHER SEVERAL TIMES, AND NOW YOU'RE HERE AND WE HOPE TO HAVE YOU BACK.
YOU HAVE, BY RECOGNITION AND SO MANY THINGS YOU HAVE DONE, BEEN RECOGNIZED AS ONE OF THE MOST ACCOMPLISHED WOMEN IN AMERICA, CERTAINLY IN KENTUCKY.
AND IT STARTED A LONG TIME AGO BACK IN TEXAS.
BEFORE WE GET TO THE PRESENT-DAY STUFF, TELL ME ABOUT TEXAS AND ABOUT HOW YOU GOT TO KENTUCKY.
>> I GREW UP IN A SMALL TOWN IN TEXAS, DENTON, TEXAS, BINDFUL PARENTS, BOB AND BOUISE, A BROTHER ROBBY IS SEVEN YEARS YOUNGER, STILL LIVES THERE.
THE CHILDHOOD WAS NORMAL.
AND THEN I DID WIN MISS AMERICA, REPRESENTING TEXAS.
DECIDED TO MOVE TO NEW YORK, GOT MY FIRST JOB WITH HOSTING CANDID CAMERA AND A LOT OF NATIONAL COMMERCIALS IN BETWEEN TO PAY THE RENT.
MISS AMERICA UP IN NEW YORK, ANOTHER BEAUTY QUEEN, IT WAS A LOT OF EFFORT.
YOU COULD GET YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR BUT YOU HAD TO WORK HARDER TO KEEP IT THERE.
GOT THE JOB IN SPORTS AND HAD A 13-WEEK OPTION, INTERVIEWED, IT WORKED, PICKED UP THE OPTION, HAD THREE YEARS ON THE NFL "TODAY" SHOW.
AND JOHN WYATT BROWN SAW ME ON THAT SHOW, NEXT THING YOU KNOW I MARRIED HIM AND THE REST IS HISTORY.
I HAD LINCOLN BEFORE I WAS 30.
ALL THAT HAPPENED IN MY TWENTIES.
>> BACK TO TELEVISION, CBS SPORTS, WORKING WITH "JIMMY THE GREEK" AND MR. MUSSBERGER, MUST HAVE BEEN REALLY EXCITING.
>> IT WAS A GREAT TIME FOR ME, TO BE THE FIRST WOMEN TO PIONEER.
I CAN CALL MYSELF THAT NOW, BEFORE I WOULD NEVER SAY IT.
BUT I THINK IT IS TRUE WHEN I LOOK AROUND AN SEE WHAT HAPPENED, THERE WAS NO PERSON ON NATIONAL TV.
I GUESS WHERE HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT KIND OF IMPACT WE HAD ON THE NFL TODAY.
PEOPLE TO THIS DAY TELL ME THEY RUSHED HOME FROM CHURCH AND COULDN'T WAIT FOR THAT HALF-HOUR SHOW.
IT WAS ENTER TRAINING, AS SPORTS SHOULD BE.
WE HAD GREAT CHEMISTRY AND "JIMMY THE GREEK", YOU SORT OF LEARNED TO WORK WITH HIM AND IT SORT OF MADE IT DIFFERENT.
WE HAD FANTASTIC RATINGS, AND THAT WAS BEFORE CABLE, BUT WE DID BLOW AWAY THE COMPETITION.
I DID THAT FOR TEN YEARS, HAD BOTH CHILDREN DURING THAT TIME, BECAME FIRST LADY, STILL HAD A CONTRACT WITH CBS.
THEY KEPT IT.
I WAS DOING BOTH.
IT WAS A LOT OF WORK.
>> BEFORE YOU CAME TO KENTUCKY AS FIRST LADY, HOW MANY TIMES HAD YOU BEEN HERE AND WHAT DID YOU THINK ABOUT KENTUCKY?
>> I HAD BEEN HERE MANY TIMES DOING DIFFERENT EMCEE JOBS FOR A PAGEANT, OR DOING SPEAKING ENGAGEMENTS.
I FLEW WITH MY MOTHER WHO TRAVELED WITH ME A LOT, AND I JUST TOLD HER I WOULD LIVE IN THIS STATE SOMEDAY.
AND THINGS HAPPEN.
IF YOU DREAM IT, IT CAN COME TRUE.
I LOVED IT.
EVERY TIME I CAME HERE, IT IS A BREATHTAKING STATE.
I FEEL SO FORTUNATE TO HAVE RAISED MY CHILDREN HERE AND TO HAVE BEEN FIRST LADY HERE BECAUSE I REALLY GOT TO SEE IT, APPALACHIA ALL AROUND WITH THE CRAFTS, MET WONDERFUL PEOPLE, DID A LOT OF WORK WITH SPOUSE ABUSE AND CHILD ABUSE.
I RESTORED THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION.
THAT WAS HARD.
IT WAS CONDEMNED.
WE HAD TO RAISE A MILLION AND-A-HALF DOLLARS.
>> IT WAS CONDEMNED?
>> IT WAS.
THE FIRE MARSHAL CAME OVER AFTER JOHN GOT IN AND HE CONDEMNED IT AS A FIRE HAZARD.
IT WAS CLOSED DOWN.
PORCH FITLY WE FOUND SOMEWHERE TO LIVE, IT TOOK THREE YEARS TO RESTORE IT, WE RAISED A MILLION AND-A-HALF DOLLARS, PRIVATE FUNDS.
AND BILL YOUNG, THE FAMOUS KENTUCKYIAN WE ALL MISS GAVE US THE FIRST 5,000 TO SAVE THE MANSION.
PEOPLE WERE SKEPTICAL IN THE BEGINNING, WHY CAN'T THEY LIVE THERE WHEN OTHER GOVERNOR'S DID, BUT WHEN IT IS CONDEMNED, IT IS CONDEMNED.
IT IS LIKE THE FIELD OF DREAMS.
PEOPLE CAME TO SEE THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION.
THEY WERE SO PROUD OF IT.
A LOT HAPPENED, I WON'T GET INTO IT TO GET IT TO THAT POINT, BUT IT WAS FEATURED IN ARCHITECTURAL DIGEST.
WE WERE PROUD OF THE ACCOMPLISHMENT.
>> WHAT DO YOU REMEMBER ABOUT THE DAYS AND FIRST LADY, AND ESPECIALLY, YOU BEGAN THE KENTUCKY ARTS AND CRAFTS MUSEUM.
>> NOW CALLED KENTUCKY MUSEUM OF ARTS AND CRAFTS.
>> TELL ME ABOUT THAT AND ABOUT YOUR LOVE FOR KENTUCKY CRAFT.
>> DURING THE CAMPAIGN I JUST BECAME ENAMERED WITH THESE BEAUTIFUL HAND-MADE THINGS.
IN TEXAS I HAD A FEW THINGS, BUT I NEVER GOT INTO THIS AMAZING LEGACY YOU HAVE HERE, OR THAT WE HAVE HERE, I AM NOW A RESIDENT AGAIN.
I JUST STARTED COLLECTING THINGS ON A CAMPAIGN TRAIL.
THEY HAD TO SEND AN EXTRA CAR FOR EVERYTHING I BOUGHT, CRAFTS AND BASKETS.
>> YOU WOULD SEE THINGS OUT IN THE COUNTIES.
>> YES, AND PEOPLE KNEW MY LOVE.
THEY WOULD START BRINGING THINGS TO ME OR SAYING YOU NEED TO GO SEE MARY JO'S GUILTS.
I BECAME A PART OF THE KRART WORLD HERE AND I LOVE IT.
TO THIS DAY, I AM KNOWN FOR IT AROUND THE COUNTRY.
IT IS AMAZING.
WE GOT THE CRAFTS INTO NEIMAN MARCUS, AND PEOPLE KRAFD THEM.
WE PUT KENTUCKY ON THE MAP AT THE MUSEUM OF ART AND CRAFT.
THE KENTUCKY DEPARTMENT OF ARTS AT THAT TIME, THEY ALL DID A FABULOUS JOB.
WE CELEBRATED THE 20TH ANNIVERSARY IN MARKET, YOU CAN IMAGINE, I HAVE WRITTEN THREE OR FOUR BOOKS ABOUT IT.
>> I WANTED TO ASK YOU ABOUT THAT.
IT WAS A BEST-SELLER AND YOU CAN'T HARDLY FIND IT.
>> YOU CAN'T.
A WOMAN DID FIND IT IN FLORIDA, AND THAT WAS LIKE A COLLECTOR'S ITEM.
AND SHE WENT ON AMAZON.COM BUT THERE IS ANOTHER BOOK PLACE TO GO AND FIND OUT THESE BOOKS.
>> SHE BROUGHT IT TO YOU?
>> YES, AND I SIGNED IT.
SAME THING WITH "NEVER SAY NEVER" IT IS HARD TO FIND BUT ALL THE SUDDEN, IT WILL SHOW UP.
I THINK THE CRAFT PEOPLE IF YOU LIVE WITH THEM AND GROW UP WITH THEM, YOU THINK THEY ARE GREAT, YOU GREW UP WITH IT.
BUT SOMEBODY COMING IN FROM THE OUTSIDE, BILL, AND SEEING THIS AFTER LIVING IN THE CONCRETE JUNGLE IN NEW YORK, IT JUST TOOK MY HEART.
>> ARE YOU STILL A LOVER OF THE KENTUCKY CRAFT AND ART AND DO YOU COLLECT YOURSELF?
>> YES, I DO.
I DON'T MAKE THINGS.
EVERYBODY THINKS I DO.
>> WE WILL GET TO THE RECIPES IN A MINUTE.
>> THAT I DO.
>> BUT YOU JUST COLLECT.
>> I COLLECT.
WHERE WE LIVE NOW HERE, IT IS FILLED WITH MY THINGS, A QUILT ON THE WALL, BASKETS OVER THERE, THROWS FROM CHURCHILL WEAVERS, NO LONGER WITH US, VERY SAD.
I AM AN THE APPALACHIA ARTISAN'S FOUNDATION NOW.
I HAD IS A VERY BUSY SCHEDULE, AND STILL DO.
>> YOU GOT TO KNOW KENTUCKY AS FIRST LADY.
NOT A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE TRAVELED IN OTHER PLACES EITHER IN APPALACHIA OR WESTERN KENTUCKY FOR THAT MATTER.
BUT RUNNING FOR OFFICE AND BEING FIRST LADY, YOU WERE ALL OVER THE PLACE.
AND THAT IS WHERE YOU REALLY DEVELOPED THIS PASSION.
>> A PASSION, YOU'RE RIGHT, IT IS A PASSION FOR KENTUCKY.
MOVING BACK HERE AFTER BEING AWAY, I WAS ALWAYS HERE FOR MY CHILDREN AND DIFFERENT THINGS, BUT YOU CAN'T STAY AWAY LONG.
WHEN I DECIDED THAT I DO LOVE NEW YORK NEW YORK, THEN MOVED TO LOS ANGELES FOR A YEAR, AND IT DIDN'T GO WELL, TOO FAR AWAY FROM MY KIDS, THE THINGS I KNEW BEST.
I CAME BACK TO KENTUCKY AND LINCOLN AND PAM AND I DISCUSSED IT AND I KNOW THEY WILL COME HOME TOO.
MY ROOTS WERE IN TEXAS, BUT NOW WITH MOTHER AND DAD GONE, THIS IS MY HOME AND THIS IS WHERE I COME HOME TO AND I SEE THE KIDS A LOT MORE BY DOING THIS.
>> IN BETWEEN THAT TIME AND NOW YOU DID SOME OTHER PRETTY INTERESTING THINGS AND STILL ARE.
FOR EXAMPLE, YOUR BUSINESS ENTREPRENEURALISM "CHICKEN BY GEORGE" >> YES.
>> THAT WAS A TREMENDOUS SUCCESS BOUGHT BY HORMELL IN THE '90S.
>> WE STARTED IT IN OUR KITCHEN.
JOHN WAYNE HAD SOME HEALTH ISSUES.
HE HAD TO EAT BETTER AND CUT THIS OUT AND THAT OUT OF THE DIET, MORE LEAN AND MEAN DIET.
A GENTLEMAN CAME OVER ASKING ABOUT MARINATED CHICKEN BREASTS, WHY CAN'T WE SELL THEM AT HOME, IT WOULD HELP ME AT HOME WITH THE KIDS.
I WROTE IT ON THE BACK OF A NAPKIN "CHICKEN BY GEORGE" BECAUSE AT FIRST I WAS TOTALLY OPPOSED TO GETTING INVOLVED.
BUT THERE WAS A NEED FOR IT.
WHEN I READ IT ON THE NAPKIN, IT IS NOT A BAD IDEA AS LONG AS THEY DON'T KNOW I'M THE "GEORGE" SO WE DID IT SORT OF SECRETLY AT A KROEGER'S IN LOUISVILLE AND WE HAD 88% REPEAT BUSINESS.
>> IT WAS REALLY THE FIRST TIME A RETAIL STORE THAT SOLD A PRODUCT LIKE THAT.
>> EVER.
>> ANOTHER FIRST.
>> YES, ABSOLUTELY.
TAKING PART OF THE CHICKEN THAT YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO CUT AND DEBONE, THE MARINATED BREAST.
AND WE HAD 11 DIFFERENT FLAVORS AND A SECRET WAY OF DOING IT.
I WAS AT A FOOD OF THE FUTURE SHOW AND THE HEAD OF HORMELL, AND HERE WAS TYSON OVER HERE, AND HERE I AM WITH MY FILETS THERE.
YOU HAVE TO BE CREATIVE.
I WAS DRESSED UP LIKE A CHICKEN.
AND HE COPIED US EXACTLY.
LONG STORY SHORT, THE CHAIRMAN OF HORMEL SAYS WE WANT TO GET IN THE CHICKEN BUSINESS, IS YOUR COMPANY FOR SALE.
SO "CHICKEN BY GEORGE" WAS FONDED HERE AND WENT ALL OVER THE COUNTRY.
HORMELL OWNED IT 15 YEARS.
IT STARTED IT THE LATE '80S, NO, IN 1987.
NOW I HAVE IT BACK.
>> THE NAME BRAND?
>> I CAN USE IT NOW IF I WANT.
THE DEAL WAS THEY COULD HAVE IT FOR 15 YEARS AND THEN WOULD SORT OF BLEND IT INTO THE HORMEL.
NOW I HAVE THE NAME BACK SO PEOPLE HAVE ENCOURAGED ME TO BUY THIS BECAUSE I STILL HEAR ABOUT IT AS I TRAVEL.
>> THAT'S INTERESTING.
THIS IS THE PHYLLIS GEORGE BEAUTY LINE OF COSMETICS?
>> YES, ON HOME SHOPPING NETWORK, ALL THE THINGS I KNEW AS A TRAVELING WOMAN AND A MOTHER OF TWO, WHAT YOU NEED.
I NAMED THEM ALL SOUTHERN NAMES, HYDRATING CREAM, BUT A LOT OF THINGS IN THE LINE WERE VERY SUCCESSFUL.
WE ARE RESTRUCTURING THAT LINE RIGHT NOW.
HOME SHOPPING NETWORK IS A DIFFICULT PLACE, AND QVC.
IF YOU WATCH IT, IT IS A HARD SELL IN A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME.
THE BIG MAKEUP PEOPLE WILL GIVE YOU A HUGE HANDDRAG FOR THE BEACH AND SUNGLASSES, AND YOU HAVE TO BE VERY COMPETITIVE.
MY PRICES WERE MUCH HIGHER, AND I THINK THE QUALITY TOO, SORT OF LIKE THE GOURMET CHICKEN.
BUT IF YOU DON'T GIVE THE GIFT, THEY WERE SELLING LIKE TEN THINGS FOR WHAT I WAS SELLING THREE THINGS FOR, AND I WASN'T GIVING A GIFT.
WE DID SELL VERY WELL.
THE VANISHING LINE CREAM WAS GREAT.
BUT AFTER A WHILE, I DECIDED I DIDN'T WANT TO DO THAT HARD SELL ANYMORE.
WE'RE TALKING TO PLACES, DIFFERENT PLACES ABOUT BRINGING IT BACK AND HOPEFULLY GIVING PART OF THE PROCEEDS TO THE ALZHEIMER'S ASSOCIATION.
>> BEFORE WE TALK ABOUT THAT, YOU HAVE BEEN AN AUTHOR, ARE AN AUTHOR AND THAT IS ONE OF THE THINGS YOU ARE DOING FOR ALZHEIMER'S.
BUT YOU WROTE SEVERAL, I MENTIONED THE ONE, BUT YOU HAVE DONE OTHERS TOO.
>> "NEVER SAY NEVER CONDITION" AND I SPEAK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME.
>> FAIR TO CALL THAT MOTIVATIONAL?
>> YES, MEN AND WOMEN, ALL AGES.
I STILL PICK IT UP AND READ IT SOMETIMES.
I HAVE SUCH A BUSY SCHEDULE.
BUT YES, WOMEN GRADUATING COLLEGE OR WOMEN WHO WOULD BE MY AGE, SORT OF STARTING OVER, HOW TO HELP THEM AND MOTIVATE THEM, PEOPLE IN THE MIDDLE CHANGING JOBS, HOW TO STAY POSITIVE AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND THAT CHANGE IS OKAY, AND THE WORD WE HEAR A LOT IN THE CAMPAIGN "CHANGE" REASONING TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF, KEEPING YOUR PERSPECTIVE.
I HAD SO MANY WONDERFUL LESSONS THAT I LEARNED IN MY LIFE.
I INTERVIEWED A LOT OF WELL-KNOWN PEOPLE LIKE LARRY KING AND ROGER STAUBACH, TALKING ABOUT ADVERSITY, HOW THEY OVERCAME IT AND STAYED POSITIVE AND NOW THEY ARE ALSO SUCCESSFUL.
I FELT LIKE NOT JUST MY STORIES, BUT OTHER PEOPLE'S STORIES WOULD INSPIRE PEOPLE.
I HAD TO OVERCOME A LOT OF ADVERSITY IN MY LIFE, BEING IN SPORTS, THE FIRST WOMAN.
THERE WERE DOUBTERS.
>> AND A BUSINESS WOMAN TOO.
>> YES, WHAT'S SHE DOING IN THE CHICKEN BUSINESS.
I TRAVELED ALL THE TIME TO PROMOTE THAT.
BUT YOU HAVE TO BE A RISK-TAKER AND I WANT YOUNG WOMEN TO HEAR THE MESSAGE.
MY DAUGHTER, SHE IS A REPORTER FOR THE ABC AFFILIATE, WJLA IN WASHINGTON D.C., PAMELA BROWN.
SHE'S DOING GREAT.
LOOK AT ME.
I'M SO PROUD OF HER.
I DIDN'T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH T NEVER CALLED ME FOR ADVICE, BUT SHE SAYS I'M HER MONITOR AND SHE'S ON THE WEEK NDZ THERE IN WASHINGTON AND DOES HARD-NEWS STORIES DURING THE WEEK.
>> TELL ME ABOUT THE INVOLVEMENT WITH ALZHEIMER'S, TRAVELING SO MUCH FOR THEM AND IT MEANS A LOT TO YOU.
>> MY MOTHER HAD ALZHEIMER'S, I WAS HER LONG-DISTANCE PRIMARY CAREGIVER.
IT IS PAINFUL TO TACK ABOUT FOR ALL WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED IT IN YOUR LIVES.
IT IS THE SEVENTH LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH IN THIS COUNTRY, AND MOVING UP VERY FAST.
MY GOAL IS TO MAKE PEOPLE AWARE.
I AM A PASSIONATE ADVOCATE ABOUT THIS.
EVERYTHING I DO I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT IT, BUT I HAVE A REASON.
I SAW MY MOTHER GO THROUGH ALL THE STAGES.
I WAS TOTALLY ILL-EQUIPPED, UNPREPARED.
I DON'T WANT ANYBODY TO GO WHAT I WENT THROUGH.
WE WERE IN DENIAL.
MY MOTHER GRADUATED COLLEGE AT 19, A BEAUTIFUL, BRILLIANT WOMAN, ALWAYS BEAUTIFULLY DRESSED WITH HER HAIR DONE IN A SMALL TOWN.
SHE WAS NEVER A STAGE MOTHER, BUT WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME IN ANYTHING I EVER DID IN MY LIFE.
SHEET COULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY I JUST DIDN'T SETTLE DOWN, AND I ALWAYS SAID I DIDN'T KNOW.
BUT SHE ALWAYS SUPPORTED ME WITH DADDY.
SHE MADE ME AWARE THROUGH THIS HORRIBLE DISEASE THAT I NEED TO HELP OTHERS.
EARLY ONSET, IT SNEAKS UP ON YOU VERY FAST.
AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, YOU HAVE THE FULL BLOWN ALZHEIMER'S.
>> DOES THE FAMILY KNOW AT THIS POINT?
>> SURE, THEY SHOULD.
BUT MANY PEOPLE FOR YEARS HAVE BEEN IN DENIAL OVER THIS.
I HAVE LOTS OF RESOURCES, I KNOW LOTS OF DOCTORS, BUT THERE WAS NO WAY MY MOTHER COULD HAVE THIS.
BUT AS I LOOK BACK NOW AND I KNOW THE SYMPTOMS, THEY WERE ALL RIGHT THERE AND I FELT SO BAD I COULDN'T HELP HER MORE.
A FRIEND SAID FINALLY, IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS ALZHEIMER'S AND I WAS STUNNED MORRIS WAS MY BEST FRIEND, I DIDN'T WANT TO ADMIT IT.
YOU GO THROUGH DENIAL AND YOU GO THROUGH DEPRESSION BECAUSE IT IS VERY TOUGH TO DEAL WITH WHEN THEY START LOSING THEIR MIND.
BUT THEY LOOK NORMAL.
AND THEN THEIR BODY STARTS BREAKING DOWN, IN AND OUT OF THE HOSPITAL.
BUT THEN AFTER THE DENIAL AND DEPRESSION, WE WENT THROUGH THIS DETERMINATION THAT WE WERE GOING TO HELP HER AND HELP OTHER PEOPLE NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS IN THEIR LIFE.
THAT HAS BEEN MY GOAL.
I JUST CAME FROM FLORIDA SPEAKING TO A GROUP.
I SPEAK ALL OVER THE COUNTRY ABOUT IT.
I CAN GET INTO SOME OF THE PARTS OF IT THAT REALLY SCARE PEOPLE.
I ALMOST WANT TO TELL PEOPLE ABOUT IT.
MY MOTHER WOULD LOOK AT ME, AND SHE WOULD NOT KNOW ME AT FIRST.
SHE WOULD SAY: WHO ARE YOU?
I SAID I'M YOUR DAUGHTER, PHYLLIS.
SHE WOULD SAY OH, YES, MY DAUGHTER.
THE FIRST OR SECOND TIME IT HAPPENED I WENT AND JUST CRIED.
I COULDN'T BELIEVE SHE DIDN'T KNOW ME.
THEN THE NEXT DAY, SHE WOULD KNOW ME.
IT WAS SORT OF LIKE A LIGHTBULB FLICK ORING ON AND OFF.
WHEN IT WAS ON AND SHE KNEW ME, I JUST WANTED TO GRAB EVERY MOMENT WITH HER THAT I COULD.
>> DID YOU SEE JULIE CHRITIE'S PERFORMANCE?
>> YES, AMAZING.
>> THAT MOVIE IS A TRUE PORTRAYAL OF WHAT A FAMILY GOES THROUGH AND WHAT A PATIENT GOES THROUGH.
>> SHE WILL GET THE ACADEMY AWARD FOR THAT.
>> I HOPE SO.
I THINK MORE PEOPLE WILL SEE IT BECAUSE OF THAT.
WHY DO YOU THINK IT TAKES SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU OR -- AND NOT YOU, BUT THE GENERAL PUBLIC.
WHY DOES IT TAKE A FAMILY MEMBER WITH ALZHEIMER'S OR WAITING SO LONG TO UNDERSTAND THE DISEASE BEFORE WE ALL RECOGNIZE HOW, AS YOU SAID, HORRIBLE IT IS.
THAT BOTHERS ME MORE THAN ANYTHING.
>> I DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT.
BUT I THINK MAYBE SOMETIMES GOD HAS SENT PEOPLE GO THROUGH SENT THINGS AND HE USES THEM AS A TOOL TO GO OUT AND SPREADED WORD.
I DON'T KNOW.
I KNOW THAT -- GET ME ON THE SOAPBOX -- BUT I PERSONALLY THINK IT IS UNFAIR THAT MORE PEOPLE DON'T TALK ABOUT IT AND DOCTORS DON'T MAKE MORE PEOPLE AWARE OF IT.
BUT WE WANT TO SCARE THEM AND TELL THEM IT IS PROBABLY GOING TO HAPPEN TO ONE OUT OF FOUR PEOPLE IN THE COUNTRY BECAUSE THE NUMBERS ARE RISING.
WE ARE DOING A LOT OF RESEARCH.
WE HAVE THE CENTER FOR AGING HERE AND THAT IS ONE OF THE 32 ALZHEIMER'S CENTERS FOR EXCELLENCE IN THIS COUNTRY.
>> THEY DO SUCH GOOD WORK THERE.
>> THAT YOU ARE WHOLE CONCEPT OF ALZHEIMER'S, A FEW YEARS AGO PEOPLE DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO SPELL IT OR SAY IT.
IF I CAN GO OUT THERE AND DO WHATEVER I CAN TO HELP PEOPLE, AND IT IS FUN A WHEN YOU TALK TO SOMEBODY WHO HAS EXPERIENCED IT, YOU LOOK AT EACH OTHER WITH TEARS IN YOUR EYES BECAUSE WE BASICALLY WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING.
WE TRIED TO KEEP MOTHER AT HOME.
SO AFTER THE DENIAL, THE DEPRESSION AND DETERMINATION, WE JUST WANTED TO GET HER THE DIGNITY SHE DESERVED.
>> WERE YOU ABLE TO DO THAT, KEEP HER AT HOME?
>> WELL, SHE BROKE HER HIP AND DON'T GET ME STARTED ON NURSING HOMES.
I COULDN'T FIND A GOOD WITHIN.
BY THE WAY, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT.
7 OUT OF 10 ALZHEIMER'S PATIENTS LIVE AT HOME.
THAT MEANS CAREGIVERS HAVE THIS RESPONSIBILITY WITH NO HELP.
>> QUICKLY, YOUR BOOK AND THEN THE DOCUMENTARY.
>> THE BOOK ON CARE GIVING BECAUSE I FEEL THERE IS A NEED.
THERE ARE 44.3 MILLION CARE-GIVERS IN THIS COUNTRY.
WE GO THROUGH AS MUCH AS THE PATIENT DOES, PAIN, IRRITATION, IRRELEVANTABILITY, WE ARE TRYING TO MAKE DECISION WE AREN'T ALWAYS EQUIPPED TO MAKE.
I WILL GET A LOT OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE COUNTRY WELL-KNOWN, THEIR STORIES ABOUT WHAT THEY WENT TO IN ORDER TO HELP OTHERS, AS SORT OF A GUIDE.
WE ARE WORKING ON A DOCUMENT MEANT REE.
WE WANT TO PUT IT ON FILM AND LET PEOPLE SEE IT AND HEAR IT AND TELL THE STORY OF WHAT WE HAVE ALL GONE THROUGH WITH THIS DISEASE.
>> WOULD IT BE PEOPLE TELLING THEIR OWN PERSONAL STORIES?
>> YES, IT WOULD.
AND I HAVE THE ALZHEIMER'S ASSOCIATION WORKING WITH ME AND PART OF THE PROCEEDS WILL GO TO THEM.
WHEN I SPEAK I CAN SELL THE BOOK AT THE END, BUT IT WILL BE AVAILABLE.
BUT NOW PEOPLE WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT, WHEREAS BEFORE A LOT OF PEOPLE DIDN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT CARE-GIVING.
BUT WE GO THROUGH A LOT OF STRESS TAKING CARE OF THE LOVED ONES.
WE NEED TO DISCUSS IT.
>> THERE IS A LOT OF WONDERFUL WORK BEING DONE ALL ACROSS THE NATION, CERTAINLY IN KENTUCKY, IN THIS REGION, IN LOOKSING TON, LOUISVILLE, THE BEST FRIENDS CENTER WHICH IS REALLY A VERY SOPHISTICATED WAY, IF YOU WILL, OF TAKING CARE OF SOME OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO HAVE JUST SORT OF LOST THEIR WAY AND WOULD BE IN A HOME BY THEMSELVES, BUT THEY ARE WITH OTHER PATIENTS AND PEOPLE WHO TAKE CARE OF THEM.
>> YOU SAY IT SO WELL, THEY CAN'T TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES.
I AM NOT FAMILIAR WITH IT.
I WANT TO VISIT.
>> WE WILL TAKE YOU TO THE BEST FRIENDS CENTER.
>> WANDERING IS A PROBLEM.
ONE NIGHT MOTHER WANDERED OUT AND FELL.
WE DIDN'T KNOW WHY SHE WAS OUTSIDE.
I HAD TO HAVE PROFESSIONAL HELP AT THAT POINT.
CARE-GIVING IS A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION.
BUT PLEASE, PLEASE GIVE THESE PEOPLE THE DIGNITY THEY DESERVE.
THEY ARE WONDERFUL PEOPLE.
THERE ARE CLOSE TO 80,0000 WITH ALZHEIMER'S IN THIS STATE.
IN FLORIDA THERE ARE 450,000, THEY GO THERE TO RETIRE, BUT IT IS NOT AN OLD PERSON'S DISEASE, WE NEED THE KENTUCKY LEGISLATURE TO PAY ATTENTION TO US AND HELP US FUND RESEARCH AND HELP THE CARE-GIVERS RIGHT NOW WITH OUR COUNCIL.
MUCH YOUNGER PEOPLE ARE GETTING IT NOW.
>> I HAVE ABOUT 30 SECONDS LEFT.
YOU KNOW TIME CUES.
>> YES, I DO.
>> WHAT NOW, ARE YOU GOING TO LOVE LIVING HERE?
>> YES, I LOVE IT, THE SPRINGTIME.
I HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS HERE I HAVE KNOWN SINCE 1979.
IT IS MY HOME.
THIS IS WHERE YOU WILL FIND ME WHEN I AM NOT SPEAKING ABOUT "ALZHEIMER'S" >> THIS WILL SERVE AS A GREAT BASE TO CALL HOME AND COME BACK TO.
>> THANK YOU.
>> THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING AND WE WILL HAVE YOU BACK SOMETIME.
>> I WOULD LOVE TO.
THANK YOU.
>> FOR "ONE TO ONE" I'M BILL GOODMAN.
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