
Episode 2
Season 7 Episode 2 | 45m 6sVideo has Closed Captions
Catch up with two women whose searches took us to opposite sides of the globe.
We catch up with two women whose searches took us around the globe. Yasika searched for her Sri Lankan birth mother and Paula explored her Native American heritage.
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Episode 2
Season 7 Episode 2 | 45m 6sVideo has Closed Captions
We catch up with two women whose searches took us around the globe. Yasika searched for her Sri Lankan birth mother and Paula explored her Native American heritage.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorshipI've found them here on the electoral roll.
Have they already accessed their adoption file?
Over the last 12 years, we've taken on more than 700 searches for long lost children...
I would really like to see my daughter.
This is my last chance.
...absent parents... Did she not want me?
And why did she not want me?
...and separated siblings.
[woman] They took my sisters.
I just want to know what happened to them.
We've found family members who have been missing for decades, and relatives people didn't even know existed.
I knew there was gonna be twists and turns, I said it.
[Davina] But meeting is just the beginning.
[woman] You have to be open to what you find, not just a fairy tale.
-And searching doesn't always go as planned.
-[gasps] This is the series where we find out what happened next.
-This week... -Bohoma istuti.
[Davina] ...two daughters whose searches took us to opposite sides of the globe...
He's probably stood here at this spot and looked out.
...and whose journeys had consequences they couldn't have imagined.
Just gobsmacked, like this is my story she's saying.
When watching Long Lost Family, viewers can often see their own lives reflected.
But when one of our stories was first shown, we could never have predicted the response.
[woman] After the program aired, I had quite a few people message me on social media saying that they were adopted as well from Sri Lanka.
I think they recognized themselves in me, in the sense we share the same feelings.
But there was one message I received that really stood out.
And it was just mind blowing.
Yasika Fernando was searching for her Sri Lankan birth mother.
-Hi.
-Her parents had adopted her from a convent in the capital Colombo.
This is the first picture we have.
They didn't give any information about the mother.
For them it's confidential.
So you never saw her at all?
No, we didn't see her, but we think it's your mum.
She was crying in the back somewhere close to where we were.
-Aww.
-Yeah, so...
It would have been very hard for... for her.
The adoption paperwork held the only clues Yasika had to her mother's identity.
All I know is her name, which is written here, which is Niramana, and that she was 31 years old when she had me.
Ivani, let's brush your teeth, please.
[laughs] Sri Lankan law states that only the adopted person can access information.
So Yasika's one option was to search on the ground herself.
-Look at the snow.
-But making the trip meant Yasika leaving her two-year-old daughter Ivani in London for the first time.
[Yasika] Leaving your child and going away is, yeah, it's hard.
It must have been a hundred times more for my birth mother leaving me, 'cause I know I'll be seeing Ivani when I come back.
So I wanna know, why did you give me up?
Why?
Yasika set off with her husband Tillek on the 5,500-mile journey to Sri Lanka.
I hope she'll find her mum.
[father] That she knows that where she has come from.
And I think she will be really happy after that.
And Ivani, she will have two grandmas.
It's nice.
They were met off the plane by specialist people finder Siri Silva.
-Hello.
-Pleased to meet you.
Nice to meet you.
Tillek.
The first stop on their search was Ragama General Hospital, where Yasika's paperwork states she was born.
As it was common for unmarried mothers to give false information to hide their identity, Siri first had to check whether the few facts Yasika had were actually true.
[Siri] Please check this name.
Niramana Gamage.
[speaking Sinhalese] [woman] [Siri] [woman] [Siri speaking Sinhalese] All right, yes.
Okay, your birth is correct.
Yeah.
Yasika, there's your mother's name.
They also mention Marawila.
That's more to the north.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
There is the city your mother... -But no address.
-Wow.
It's just not knowing anything.
It's just having it here is amazing.
[Yasika] It's unbelievable.
I was not expecting that.
It's not made up, it's actually on paper that I was born here and my birth mother exists.
-Thank you very much.
-Bohoma istuti.
-Bohoma istuti.
-Yes.
Thank you.
[Davina] Knowing the name was one thing, but with no address, the only place to go was the location from where Yasika was adopted, the Good Shepherd Convent.
A lot is riding on this because where else would I get any more information from, you know?
The cameras were not allowed inside.
-[Siri] Good afternoon, Sister.
-[nun] Afternoon.
But Yasika was able to see where she'd spent the first few months of her life.
[Yasika] She did show me the room that I would have been in.
That was difficult.
To give me away after looking after me for three months, that's hard.
That is so hard.
The nuns agreed to search the convent's adoption records for any information.
But after days of waiting, Yasika still hadn't heard, so she decided to call for an update.
[phone dialing] -Hello?
-[nun] Hello?
-Hi, Sister, this is Yasika.
-Yes, yes.
I found information.
[Yasika] Can you tell me?
No, no, you know I can't give you the information.
I have to go and search for your mother.
Sorry, Sister, Sister.
[speaking Sinhalese] Thank you.
God bless.
She said, yes, we have information.
She doesn't want to disclose it.
-[Siri] This means she has an address.
-She knows.
That's something.
More than the name, you know?
Yeah.
Sadly, Yasika had to return to the UK without having found her mother.
-See you soon, okay?
-See you soon, yeah.
But five days after their return, Siri contacted us with an update from the convent, and I went to tell Yasika the news.
-Hi, Yasika.
[laughing] -Hi, Davina.
Ivani, how are you?
It's lovely to see you.
-Awww.
-Do you want to come inside?
[women laughing] So, five days after you came back... -Yeah... -...Siri and the nun went to the last known address...
Wait, though... because your mum wasn't there.
-Mm, okay.
-The person that was living there is your grandmother.
Oh, no!
You're joking!
-You're joking?
-No.
Oh, my God!
My God!
So your grandmother gave the nun a phone number for your mother.
Oh, my God!
So she's still alive?
-She's still alive.
-[Yasika sighs] So they called the number.
-And?
-[Davina] She's overjoyed.
[sobbing] -She wants to see me?
-Mm.
Oh, my God!
Oh, my God!
Oh, bless... oh, bless.
Oh, my God, this is like the best news I've ever had.
Oh, thank you so much.
Thank you.
Thank you.
I feel so light now.
[laughs] -Hello.
-Hello.
-I've got some news.
-Oh.
They've found my birth mother.
Umma, are you okay?
I love you.
-I love you, Dad.
-That's good news.
But any plans for Yasika to visit her birth mother were derailed by the global pandemic.
Instead, she met her mother, who didn't want to appear on camera, privately online, and introduced her to Ivani and her newborn daughter.
They say Iyla looks like me when I was little.
Is that true?
[Siri speaking Sinhalese] [Siri] Yes, she says yes.
[woman and Siri laughing] It's been a year since Yasika met her birth mother online, but things haven't turned out quite as she'd hoped.
Mummy, I need to put it there, Mummy.
-[Davina] Hi, Yasika.
-Hello.
Nice to see you.
-Do you wanna come in?
-Yes, please.
How was meeting your birth mother online?
I still get goose bumps now.
It was just amazing.
We were both crying because she didn't think she'd ever see me again and I got to see my grandmother.
It was just so frustrating not being able to actually be close and hug.
-And has she got other kids?
-Yes.
She has a son, but he does not know about me.
It's been hard because she wants to keep it a secret from him that I exist.
-That must be difficult.
-Yeah.
Would you say culturally there are differences?
Yeah.
On the video call I could tell they weren't very open because they don't want other relatives knowing.
'Cause there would be shame around her giving a child... -Yeah, exactly.
-So what contact have you had since?
Nothing.
-Nothing?
-Hmm-mm.
-That's so hard.
-Mm-hmm.
-Yeah.
Obviously with the whole secrecy... -Secrecy.
...she has to go to her mother's house.
Because of the whole lockdown situation, that's-- they couldn't go anywhere.
So it's... obstacle after another.
It's just been hard.
So what are your hopes then?
Hopefully to go out there, finally meet her.
Have her meet the kids.
-And does she think that can happen?
-Yeah.
She gave me hope on the video call that we will be able to meet.
Despite the outcome not being what Yasika had wanted, there have been repercussions from her search that she could never have expected.
[indistinct voices on video] Literally, I was just watching the episode.
First of all they said 1988.
Then her birthday of 19th February, and I just thought, that's not right.
I was born on the 13th February, 1988, so we're just six days apart.
And I was brought up in the Good Shepherd's Convent.
That's the exact same convent that Yasika was brought up in.
We would have been babies together.
I'm just gobsmacked.
Like, this-- this is my story she's saying.
When Thilinie Horne watched Yasika's search, she was blown away by the similarities with her own adoption.
[Thilinie] I couldn't believe this.
It's just so surreal.
Thilinie came over from Sri Lanka as a baby when she was three months old and grew up near Dublin with her adoptive parents, who also adopted another daughter.
Growing up in Ireland as a Sri Lankan, there wasn't very many other people of different ethnicities or backgrounds.
Her older brother Malcolm is her parents' only biological child.
Hiya.
[Thilinie] My brother is a bit of a second dad to me.
He's always been there for me no matter what.
Mum and dad have always been really good at keeping Sri Lanka a really big part of my life.
I think, like, all the little elephants she's always given and cooking Sri Lankan food.
I think Mum was really conscious of that it's important you had a connection back to Sri Lanka.
I guess it provided some, some connection to that identity.
Yeah, but at times it's been quite lonely because no one gets it.
Like Mother's Day and my birth mum's birthday, which I don't think anybody else would ever think that I think about.
-Yeah, yeah.
-But for me is always a day where I kind of struggle.
I think I've always-- always known how much this meant to you.
You know, it's something that you've always wondered about, but it's-- it is hard to hear.
Like Yasika, Thilinie wants to find out more about her past.
So her adoptive parents have given her the paperwork they've kept surrounding her birth.
My mum, she's done amazing at keeping all the documents and really nice sentimental things, like the first dress that I came back in.
Although the documents tell me that I was illegitimate, I believe from conversations that the nuns had with my mum, that my birth mum had been courting my dad.
So I do believe that actually there was a relationship there.
She was under some pressure from her parents to give me up.
It wasn't her choice.
But this information is not enough.
The reality is, this paperwork, it's not anywhere near to finding her.
I really wanna find out if my birth mum's still around, and I think seeing Yasika's video has really made me think this is probably the best chance I have.
The first step for Thilinie is to see if she has enough information to enable a search in Sri Lanka.
So she's calling the people finder, Siri Silva.
It feels like I am sitting in Yasika's chair and going through the exact journey that she did.
It's, er, little bit nerve-racking.
Hi, Thilinie.
Hi, Siri.
So I've got some of my documents from my adoption, and I'm curious to see whether or not we'll be able to use them to do any searching.
Okay.
And when did it happen?
So I was born on the 13th February, 1988.
-Um... -1988.
Uh-huh.
Yeah, so six days just before Yasika was born.
And then we were both in the convent.
Yasika was born in one hospital in Ragama.
My documents suggest that I was born in Chilau Hospital.
I know the hospital, but I've never been in for the, er, search.
-Okay.
-So, you have to come over to Sri Lanka because they are not giving any details to anyone, outsiders, because they want to protect the children's mother.
-Yeah.
Okay.
-So... yeah.
Thank you, Siri.
Bye.
[Davina] As Thilinie prepares to start her journey for answers, we catch up with another complicated foreign search.
[Nicky] In Sri Lanka, finding a specialist on the ground was our only option.
But in some cases we have so little information that the only hope of finding relatives is through DNA databases.
Well, they share 2,000 centimorgans.
What is so incredible about DNA is that it leads to discoveries, and family members, we may otherwise never have known existed.
When is it we go?
How long till we go?
-Five sleeps till we go!
-Five sleeps.
Counting the sleeps.
My heart's actually beating really fast when I think about meeting them.
-It's gonna be quite cold, isn't it?
-It's gonna be freezing.
A few years ago I just couldn't have imagined we would be heading off to Montana.
I'm so excited.
I just can't wait.
Paula Stillie was adopted as a baby in Scotland and came to us desperate to discover her origins.
[Paula] Being adopted, you're different, but also a mixed race as well makes you even more different.
You know, why did I have a different skin color to my mum and dad?
I can remember an incident in the bathroom when I covered myself in talcum powder from head to toe and I must have been about 4 or 5.
And my mum came in and I said, "I'm the same color now as you, Mum, I'm white."
And I think that broke her heart.
I just wanted to be the same.
-Hello.
-Hi.
-How you doing?
-I'm good.
How are you?
-Good.
-Coming in?
The question of their heritage had always affected Paula's son Kyle too.
[Kyle] We are coming from a mixed-race background.
I mean we're quite clearly Scottish, but in terms of our ethnicity, we're not from here, so that's something that, well, like you, I'd quite like to find out where, where that comes from.
Yeah.
You're my only blood relative so, I mean, that is quite a... -Unique.
-...stark reminder, really, isn't it?
There's still that part of me missing.
We took on a search for Paula's birth mother and father.
But as her mother was white and British, her father was the key to uncovering her heritage.
[Paula] What are my roots?
Who do I look like?
It's a real longing within me to find my birth father.
There's a whole other world out there that I don't know about that involves me.
The desire to find out where I come from is so strong that I need to do it.
[Nicky] Paula had absolutely no information at all about who her birth father was, so our only possible route was DNA.
After uploading Paula's to an online database that finds blood relatives, we found a distant match with a man who had his entire family tree online.
And that's when we discovered something extraordinary.
The tree revealed that Paula's family are in fact Native American, and it included a man called Lawrence Robert Smith, who was of the right generation to be Paula's birth father.
Further research revealed that sadly he died in 1982.
But we did manage to trace somebody else, Lawrence's younger brother, Joe.
He lives in Montana, USA, and agreed to speak to me.
Joe knew his brother by the name his family used: John.
It's so nice to see you, Joe.
How are you?
I'm just fine, thank you.
Well, it's sad that Paula won't be able to speak to John.
What was he like?
He was a good brother to all of us.
He was always ready to tease somebody about something.
Did you know anything about Paula?
It's completely out of the blue.
But we're all excited to have a new niece.
And for her, of course, she's always wondered about her roots.
Well, she's Native American.
That's gonna be amazing for her to find out.
It is.
I have a photo of her father, John.
This is his high-school graduation picture.
Goodness.
John's dad was Comanche, but me and my other siblings, we're all, um, Chippewa.
So, yeah, she is definitely part of the Comanche tribe.
Gosh, how fascinating.
This would be George, Paula's grandfather, in his pow-wow attire.
-Wow!
-Yes, she needs to see these.
[Nicky] Fantastic.
Oh, wow!
Let me show you one of Paula.
[Joe] She very well looks Native American.
Very much.
It'll be really nice to meet her.
How many other siblings did John have?
We have another brother and two sisters.
And we all live here in northwest Montana.
-Where is everyone?
-I have my sister Mary-Louise in the room right now.
-Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-This is amazing, isn't it?
-It is amazing.
We're all very excited about the whole thing.
You know, we're all a close family, so we always welcome more.
[Davina] We told Paula the news of her birth father's death away from the cameras.
But I went to see her to explain what we'd discovered about her heritage and her new aunts and uncles.
-Hey, Paula.
-Hi, Davina, hi.
-Would you like to come in?
-Thanks.
I am really sorry about your father.
It was sad to think that I'm never gonna meet him.
I just want to tell you that it's not the end.
Because we've found your father's siblings.
Really?
Wow!
[laughs] I don't know what to say to that.
He was the oldest of five, and we are in touch with his brother Joe.
Joe.
They are all so excited to hear about you.
-Okay.
-I know a huge part of your childhood and growing up was about your ethnicity and where you're from.
Yeah.
I mean, that's been massive for me.
Just always not knowing.
He was Native American.
Really?
That's incredible.
That is incredible!
It really is.
This is your birth father.
Oh, my goodness!
My son looks like him.
I can't stop looking at him.
[Davina] So your birth father's father was an elder in the Comanche tribe.
-What?!
-Yeah.
Oh, my God, that is incredible.
So this is your Grandfather George in full ceremonial gear.
Well, what can you say to that!
That is just... That's mind blowing.
It really is.
I've also got a picture of your Uncle Joe.
Joe.
Uncle Joe.
He looks really kind.
It's life changing, this.
To me that's, you know, I know where I come from now.
Thank you so much.
[Davina] With travel restrictions in place because of the global pandemic, Paula could only meet with her Native American aunts and uncles for the first time via video call.
-There she is.
-Amazing!
-Oh, wow!
[laughing] -Hi, Paula.
-Hi, Paula.
-I bet you got a real surprise, did you?
-Totally.
It was amazing.
-But it was a pleasant surprise.
A joyous thing.
It was so amazing that John was your dad.
I don't know, I just could not get over it.
So can you tell me more about him?
He had a long Navy career.
[Paula] Very smart.
Wow.
[Mary-Louise] He was a good singer and a great dancer.
And he had a great sense of humor.
He sounds like a lovely man.
I think John would have been very excited to meet his daughter.
He would have loved it.
-Bye-bye.
-See ya.
-Bye-Bye.
-Bye.
I looked at her face and features, and I saw Native American.
[Mary-Louise] Look at that, isn't that cool?
[Paula] I'm desperate to meet them.
You know, we all are.
It's the start of a new chapter.
It's gonna be incredible.
Unfortunately, Paula's delight at finding a whole new family has been tinged by sadness.
When she came to us, she was also looking for her birth mother, and the outcome of that search was very different.
[Paula] When I was younger, it was always my birth mother that I was interested in finding.
Given birth to a child, giving them away, you can never forget that, ever.
And part of me was hoping she'd want to meet me.
Paula had enough information for our team to trace her birth mother.
But when our trained intermediary reached out, she didn't want contact with her daughter.
A social worker explained this to Paula in private.
[Paula] When I was first told, it didn't really sink in.
There was no anger, there was no resentment.
I really feel for her.
This is an outcome all our searchers have to be prepared might happen.
And it's something Paula's been dealing with, with the help of her husband Euan.
I have to be content with that decision.
Life's not all rosy, and it doesn't always go the way that you want it to.
But those are her wishes, and I respect that.
-Do you feel a sadness?
-'Course I do.
I think the majority of adopted people struggle with rejection.
You know, because you've been rejected once in your life, so it was almost a sense of being rejected again by her.
Yeah.
You don't know her circumstances, that's the big thing.
Exactly.
I mean, it must have been really traumatic for her, and I do, I feel really sad for her.
Really sad.
I think I've come to terms with the fact that I'm never gonna meet my birth mother.
And it helps a lot that on my birth father's side, I have family who are just absolutely delighted to find out about me.
I mean, it's... it's overwhelming, it really is.
Paula's family now spans from Scotland to Montana.
But so far she's only been able to communicate with her new relatives online.
And now that's all about to change.
-You excited?
-I am, yeah.
Are you?
Excited.
Oh, can't wait.
-Cup of tea?
-A cup of tea?
Yes, please.
When Yasika Fernando's search for her birth mother in Sri Lanka was first broadcast, it was watched by someone else... Oh, it's too hot!
...who unbelievably was born in the same week and adopted from the very same convent.
[Thilinie] It's incredible that we both got the same story, and it definitely spurred me on to try to start the search.
Now, before Thilinie Horne heads out to Sri Lanka herself, she needs to meet the kindred spirit who's inspired that journey.
[Thilinie] I've just got a lot of love for Yasika because she knows so much about me without even knowing me.
There's just nothing equivalent to knowing somebody who has gone through that life experience with you.
[Yasika] I'm really excited to meet Thilinie.
It's mind blowing to finally connect with someone who has the same feelings as me.
I'm so glad she got in contact.
It really does feel like being reunited with family because at the minute, she's closest I've got to somebody from the earliest of my days.
I just can't wait to give her a big hug.
The two women are getting together 33 years after their lives began in neighboring cots in a convent 5,500 miles away.
-So nice to see you.
-And you.
-You okay?
-Yeah, good.
You?
Oh.
Oh, you look lovely.
We would have been like tiny little babies the last time we were together.
-Literally.
-And now back together.
Yeah.
So glad you got in contact with me.
Oh, it's so exciting.
So exciting.
-You've brought photographs?
-Yes.
-Do you wanna have a look?
-Oh, it'll be amazing.
[Yasika] Oh, my God, so cute.
-Oh.
-Yeah, this was all in the convent, so I'm sure you would have visited this room.
Oh, my gosh!
Yeah, it's amazing.
-It's so similar to your pictures, innit?
-Yeah.
[Yasika] That's my mum with me, when they're handing me over.
[Thilinie] So we're literally the same age?
-Yeah.
-Size?
-Crazy.
-It was just amazing to see her face in person, and I think we look quite similar.
It was like meeting a long lost sister.
She's like me, we bounce off each other.
It's made me feel really happy, you know, to finally find someone who understands what I've gone through.
I keep thinking that your mum would have been at the same time... -At the same time as yours.
Yeah.
-...as my mum.
So your mum, birth mum, she was feeding you.
-Yeah.
-Until, like, three months?
-Yeah.
Yeah.
-That just shows, like, they cared for us.
It wasn't like just given away, like abandoned.
There was some sentiment.
-Yeah.
-Definitely.
-Come on.
-Okay.
Always.
[Yasika] Are you still thinking of searching, then?
Yeah.
I think the last thing to do is to literally go out there and do what you've done.
That's the bit that makes me nervous.
I completely get where you're coming from.
I think the connection is definitely different to any connection I've ever had before.
It's somebody who gets years of curiosity and yearning and loneliness.
So lovely to see you, honestly.
It's like... it's like I've known you a long time.
It is, really, isn't it?
I'm just really glad that we can be there for each other.
-Aww.
So happy.
-Me too.
I didn't get to meet my birth mother yet.
However, like, this is just something else that I never dreamt of that would even happen.
I've got another sister now, so, I'm happy.
[laughs] When Paula Stillie came to us, desperate to discover her heritage, she had no idea that her search would eventually bring her across the Atlantic to the American west.
[Paula] Can you believe we're here in this beautiful, beautiful place?
-Stunning.
-It's just incredible.
Today she's going to meet her father's family in person for the first time.
-You nervous?
-Er, I am feeling nervous.
Being here just doesn't feel quite real.
You know, that I'm minutes away from meeting my family.
It's just like this massive bubble of emotion ready to burst out.
-[Mary-Louise] Sun shining.
-[Nancy] Actually a beautiful day.
Unfortunately, Paula's Uncle Joe is unwell, but her aunts, Nancy and Mary-Louise, and Uncle Richard are all coming to meet Paula at her holiday home.
This has been a real long time coming.
-Ho, ho, ho, ho, ho!
-Ah, there she is.
Paula!
[relatives exclaiming] [Richard] Oh, my goodness!
Oh, it's been... Oh, I can't believe this.
Mwah!
Oh!
And this is your uncle.
-[laughing] -My goodness.
[Richard] So nice to see you.
Hello.
-Oh, goodness.
-Oh, Kyle.
-Are you well?
-How are you?
-Good.
Thank you.
-[Euan] How are you doing?
That was incredible.
Opening the door and seeing them standing there, it was just...
I can't describe the feeling.
I've waited for this moment for so long.
I can't stop looking at you.
[laughter] It almost took my breath away.
She belongs with us.
So that's the feeling, I guess, is that we're all together again, as a family.
[Mary-Louise] That medal, I don't have that, you may have that.
I do have some things, but I don't know... For her aunts and uncles, Paula's trip is an opportunity to share everything they can about her father.
Now, Paula, this was your dad's scrapbook.
-Okay.
-And it contains all of the things that he put together from his high school... -[Paula] Goodness!
[gasps] -[Mary-Louise] Here he is.
That's his basketball.
-That's me, that.
-That's you.
Oh, my gosh!
Just change the basketball to a rugby ball and that would... -Exactly.
-[laughter] When I saw Kyle for the first time, I saw my brother John.
No question.
-Wow!
-He was so thin.
[Kyle] It's cool to see that there still is a little bit of him living on through me, and I'd like to honor that as much as I can.
This is very, very special, and, of course, I want you to have it.
This is your grandma's locket.
And there's your dad.
That's really special.
And I'll treasure that.
-It's yours.
-It's beautiful.
Thanks.
[Mary-Louise] Welcome to the family.
Today, Paula's aunts and uncle have brought her to the place where they lived with their parents for 15 years: Glacier National Park.
[Mary-Louise] I just wanted to share this beautiful place with you and let you know how much it means to all of us and how much it meant to John.
[Paula] It's just stunning.
It's breathtakingly stunning.
-It really is.
-Yeah.
I remember being out here with John for picnics and all of us worried about bears and John continuing to eat and figuring the bears weren't gonna bother him at all.
It was just a wonderful time when we could all be together.
[Mary-Louise] We have quite a history here and a lot of memories.
So that's why I think it's just important, and I think you need to know that.
Yeah.
I can see that, yeah.
The significance of this place makes it ideal for Paula to honor her father in her own way.
So she's written him a letter.
[Paula] He's probably stood here at this spot and looked out, so I feel more a connection to him knowing that I'm walking in his footsteps here.
And I just hope that, I just hope that somewhere that he's, he's listening and hears it.
"Dear John, I would like to say how heartbroken I am that we'll never get the chance to meet.
I've spent most of my life wondering about you, and never in my wildest dreams did I imagine my search would lead me here to this stunning part of the world.
And I hope that somewhere you hear me, and I want you to know how very, very happy I am that I've found you and my beautiful Montana family.
All my love, your daughter, Paula."
As Paula's trip draws to an end, the family has organized a big get-together at her new cousin Keela's bar.
[cheering] We wanna welcome Paula and her family!
We're so glad to have you guys here.
I can't believe it.
But big cheers from everybody.
-Cheer!
-[cheering] [indistinct chatter] Paula, Paula, Paula, this is for you, honey.
-This is for you, sweetheart.
-That's beautiful!
-Thank you.
-How nice.
She belongs to a family that really cares about her.
How am I gonna get all this stuff home?
[laughter] Just to be able to hug her and hold her and Euan and Kyle, it just was more than I could possibly have ever imagined happening to us.
-[cheering] -[man] Oh, there!
There you go!
[Paula] They're just the nicest people that I've ever met, and it's just like we've slotted right in.
-It was gorgeous.
-Yay!
And I've got so much more to look forward to, you know.
This won't be the last time that we're out.
We'll be here, we'll be back, and I hope that they come to Scotland to visit us as well.
[peaceful music playing]
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