

Episode 3
Season 13 Episode 3 | 46m 15sVideo has Closed Captions
Caroline Kinsey and Paul McFarlane search for family and uncover truths about their pasts.
Caroline Kinsey seeks the son she gave up for adoption over 40 years ago, hoping for forgiveness. Paul McFarlane uncovers shocking truths about his late mother’s complicated past and discovers he wasn't her only child.
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Episode 3
Season 13 Episode 3 | 46m 15sVideo has Closed Captions
Caroline Kinsey seeks the son she gave up for adoption over 40 years ago, hoping for forgiveness. Paul McFarlane uncovers shocking truths about his late mother’s complicated past and discovers he wasn't her only child.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship[seagulls crying, piano music playing] [Paul Connolly]My mother put me out with the rubbish when I wastwo weeks old.
This is where my life started.
[Diane Kerridge] A social worker came.
I asked her, "Please don't take him."
But she did.
Every year, thousands of people come to us, looking for missing family.
[Rachel] My dad left my life.
I know nothing.
I feel like half of me is missing.
[Nicky Campbell] Sometimes, it's to solve a mystery that's troubled them for decades.
I've had in the back of my mind that my mom could have been murdered.
She took this to her grave.
[Davina McCall] Or to end the torment of what they don't know.
[Joseph]I've struggled with a sense of self because of my background.
[Sara Hathaway]Did she genuinely really not want me?
[Nicky]So, imagine the moment when the burning questions can finally be answered.
It's Davina.
Put the kettle on.
That's amazing.
It's just blown my mind.
[Davina] In this series, we discover extraordinary stories.
That's your mom.
[Mary] God, she's lovely.
Finding people around the world who nobody else could trace.
Sorry.
It's massive.
[Rachel] Oh.
Hello, beautiful.
[Davina] Reuniting families who've spent a lifetime apart.
Flippin' heck!
Hello, family.
[slow piano music playing] [Caroline Kinsey] I never held him.
I never even considered taking a photo of him.
I wish I had have done.
Today is his birthday, and he will be 43.
I hope that he has family around him, and they have a celebration for him.
Maybe he's never felt the need to find his birth mother, because he's been happy-- I hope.
[general chatter, phones ringing] [keyboard clacking] Deciding to give your baby up for whatever reason must be one of the hardest decisions a parent can make.
It comes at a huge cost, and for some, a lifetime of guilt.
[gentle music playing] Hello, can I help?
[Davina] 63-year-old Caroline Kinsey lives and works in Wisbech... That's £4, please.
...not far from where she grew up, in King's Lynn.
I was extremely close to both Mum and Dad.
Thank you.
Bye-bye.
My childhood was idyllic.
[Davina]She's raised twins with her husband, David, but for years, Caroline's been nursing a secret.
She gave up her first child, a son, 20 years earlier.
It hasn't stopped me from thinking about him every day for the last 43 years.
[Davina] When she was 18, Caroline moved out of the family home and wasmanaging her brother's sports shop in Essex.
[Caroline] Here's a picture of our shop in Epping.
Oh, here's me playing hockey.
They were good times.
My boyfriend also played hockey and cricket.
I'd been seeing him for a year when I became pregnant.
It took me a couple of attempts to pluck up the courage to tell him, and he was speechless.
It became apparent, seeing as he cut off contact, he didn't want to become a father.
It was a shock for me to be left living by myself, not knowing what to do.
[Davina]In January 1980, Caroline gave birth to a son in St. Margaret'sHospital, in Epping.
She named him Simon but had already decided to give the baby up for adoption.
This is my 1980 diary that opens automatically to the page when I had Simon.
It also tells me the day I came home alone.
The decision to put him up for adoption was entirely my own decision.
I do believe that a family unit should be a mother and a father, because you work as a team to raise a family.
I didn't have any money, and I wasn't able to give a baby the sort of upbringing and childhood I wanted to give him.
[Davina]Recovering in hospital after the birth, Caroline onlysaw Simon twice.
I never held him, because if I had have held him, I wouldn't have been able to have given him up.
I can just remember seeing this little bundle with lotsof black hair.
And that was the last time I saw him.
[melancholy music playing] [Davina]A few months later, Caroline was notified that he was being placed with a potential adoptive family.
I was so pleased.
This meant that he was on his way to having a great life, I hope.
My coping mechanism was to pretend it hadn't happened to me, and I think I've used that to protect my sanity and my life from hurting so much.
[Davina]It wasn't until 20 years later, when Caroline had her twins, that the feelings for Simon all came back.
[Caroline] To just hold him once would be nice, because to hold your baby for the first time is so special.
Sorry.
[Davina] Caroline's husband, David, has alwaysknown about Simon.
But their twins, Tom and Amy, didn't know.
When my daughter became pregnant at the age of 17, I thought that was a bombshell, so I just added to it.
So, what did you think about when I told you about Simon?
Strange that we've got an older brother out there.
[Tom] I was very shocked.
Does it make you think any differently of me?
No.
We still love you.
Don't make me cry.
[all laugh] [Davina] Four years after Caroline's daughter, Amy, gave birth to Bella, she had a son, Brody.
Brody, press it.
Brody.
[Davina]But, tragically, a few months later, Amy's partner, Jake, was killed in a car accident.
[Caroline] Watching Amy cope the way she has made me think even more of Simon.
I would love to find Simon and make sure that he's had a happy life.
It will put me at peace.
[general chatter, phones ringing] [Nicky]When we took on Caroline's search, she was able to give us her son's original birth certificate, which listed the name she'd given him, Simon Brown.
Our specialist intermediaries applied for his post-adoption name and discovered that Simon's name had changed, to Thomas McPhail.
It's an unusual surname, so the specialist research team scanned databases and came up with a match.
Thomas, now known as Tom, was living in Somerset, not far from where he grew up.
[upbeat music playing] [sheep bleating] [bleating] When she gave birth to Simon 43 years ago, Caroline hoped that she'd done the right thing.
Well, I'm on my way to meet Simon, now called Tom, to find out what his life has been like, whether he knew he was adopted, and if he knew anything at all about his birth mother.
[knocking] -[Tom] Hello.
-Hi, Tom.
How are you doing?
-Yeah, pleased to meet you.
-You too.
Come in.
[Nicky] Really good to meet you.
So, how are you feeling about this?
Excited, I think.
A bit apprehensive.
So tell me about your life, your...your own family now.
So, we've been married for nine years.
Two boys-- Harris, who's eight, Bern, who's almost three.
Yeah, they keep us busy.
You've always known you were adopted?
I can't remember not knowing, yeah, always known.
So, what was it like finding out that your birth mother, Caroline, was looking for you?
It was pretty overwhelming.
It's nice to know that she's reaching out, because it takes away the element of potential rejection.
Mm.
Is it something you've wanted to do?
Yeah.
I'd always thought I would wait until my parents had passed away, because that's just what felt right.
Yeah.
But she just... Caroline just wants to know that you're okay.
And she felt adoptive parents had to go through so many hoops in the process, and if they want it so bad, they're gonna be so good as parents.
Yeah, they've been amazing.
You know, they've given me so many opportunities and experiences.
She made a good choice, I think.
Depends what her situation was, but... -So, you were born in Epping.
-Mm.
She moved there when she was 18 to work in her brother's shop.
He was a hockey expert.
He'd actually coached the England hockey team a couple of times.
-Oh, right.
-Yeah.
And she played hockey in a mixed team every weekend, very sporty.
Are you sporty?
Um, I played sport when I was younger.
[Nicky] What games?
Rugby, played quite a bit of hockey.
I'm more into cycling now, but still sporty.
So then she became involved with your birth father, and she found that she was pregnant.
Went to him and said, "Look, this is the situation," and he felt he wasn't ready.
-She was 20 when she had you.
-Okay.
Wow.
She made the really tough decision to have you adopted.
She wanted you to have a mom and a dad.
She couldn't give you the life that she wanted to.
[Tom] Mm-hmm.
But she thought about you every day.
That's, like...
I just can't comprehend how someone can... be, like, strong enough to make that decision.
But it's selflessness, I think.
It's amazing.
It's almost committing them to a lifetime of... angst.
And when she had you, she only saw you twice.
Twice?
She said to the nurses that she didn't want to hold you, because if she had done so, she would have perhaps changed her mind.
[Tom] Mm.
And she had to be resolute and strong.
Yeah, I don't know how anyone survives that, really.
You know, carries on.
Has she had any more?
Yes, she's got the twins.
Oh, wow.
How old are they?
-Twenty-three.
-Yeah.
Tom... Are you joking?
[laughs] ...and Amy.
That's really a coincidence, isn't it?
Very strange.
Cosmic, some people might say.
Hmm.
Are they in the UK?
Yeah, they live near your birth mother, in Wisbech, yeah.
Have you got a photo?
-Yeah.
-Yeah?
Yeah.
[Tom laughs] Wow.
That's really surreal, seeing her.
[sentimental music playing] [Tom sighs] She looks kind.
Hm.
Yeah, looking forward to meeting her.
[phones ringing] Our next searcher spent his early life believing that no one was missing from it.
But as we so often find with these searches, one piece of paper can throw everything into question.
[wistful music playing] [Paul MacFarlane] I had no idea whatsoever that my mother had secrets.
No.
She took this to her grave.
She told nobody, not even my father.
[suspenseful music playing] [Davina] 57-year-old Paul MacFarlane has lived in the Netherlands for 36 years.
He and his husband, also called Paul, have come to the UK to visit Paul's childhood home.
Everyone was always running around here playing, knocking on doors, and running away.
[laughs] Lots of happy memories.
Absolutely.
Happy memories.
Happy memories.
[Davina]Paul grew up an only child with his father Alan and mother Ada.
[Paul] She used to sing songs to me.
Um... "You Are My Sunshine."
So, I can't listen to that song without bursting into tears.
[Davina]But at age nine, tragedy struck Paul's family.
[Paul] I heard all this commotion, and a couple of hours later, my father took me by my hand and said to me, "Your momhas died."
She had a heart attack.
She actually died here.
Yeah.
I missed her.
I missed her a lot.
[Davina]Six years after his mother's sudden death, Paul received another shock when he saw his birth certificate for the first time.
[Paul]Alan MacFarlane is my father.
And then, suddenly, I saw my mother's name was different.
"Ada Irene Leadbitter."
And I thought, "That's strange, Leadbitter."
"Formerly Hewett."
That's my mother's maiden name.
And that's when I started asking questions.
"Where's the MacFarlane name here?
Who is this person?
Who is Leadbitter?"
So, I confronted my father about it, and he said, "Oh, your mom was married before."
Her ex-husband had hit her a few times, and that's the reason that she'd left.
My father wanted to marry my mother, but she couldn't, because she was still married.
I asked my father a lot of questions.
All he said was, "Your mom came from London."
He didn't know more about her family.
Just-- yeah, it was just a complete mystery.
[Davina]For decades, Ada's life before Paul was born remaineda secret.
[mysterious music playing] But, today, Paul is in London to meet a cousin who unexpectedly entered his life four years ago, after he took a DNA test.
[Paul] The results came back, and I had a match with a Hewett, and that was like, "Oh, wow, after all these years, there's a link with me and my mother's family."
-[Paul] Hi, Tony.
-Oh, hi.
-Alright?
-Yeah, good.
[Davina]Paul and Tony Hewett are first cousins.
The first time they met, Tony told Paul about how his aunt, Paul's mother, Ada, lost contact with the family in the 1960s.
[Tony] So, this is a photo of my parents' wedding.
This is the only photo we have of Ada.
-This is your mom.
-Yeah, unbelievable.
Very sad that your mother disappeared from the family -after this happy day.
-Yeah.
[Davina] But before Ada vanished, the wider Hewett family did hear rumors that Ada had had two babies, one called Beverley and the other unknown, information which Tony shared with Paul.
So, the first time you told me about my half-sibling, I decided to do some research.
Beverley was my half-sister, adopted.
So, I had confirmation that she did exist, my half-sister.
What about the second child?
Have you found anything else about that?
Well, I guessed it was London where he or she was born.
[Tony] Yes.
[Paul] And I got a match with a Steven.
And it was in 1957.
And, suddenly, I had a sister and a brother.
[Tony] Yes.
So, that was a lot to take in as well.
[laughs] I walked around with the birth certificate for about a week in my hand.
And every time I just looked at the certificate, it was just disbelief.
After 53 and a half years thinking I was the only child, and then finding out that I've got two siblings was a lot to take in.
Yes.
I was a little bit angry with my mom in the beginning, because I thought, "Why did you not say anything, tell anyone?"
I couldn't understand why she would give the children up, because she was a great mother to me.
I would never get my head around that.
[Davina]Paul MacFarlane is looking for the siblings that he onlylearned existed nearly four years ago.
[Paul]When I found out about my brother and sister, it was complete excitement.
I just wanted to find them.
That was it.
I just wanted to say, "I'm your brother."
I need to find them.
This is the missing link.
[Davina]Paul approached our team for help.
But during our search, he received a call out of the blue from a specialist genealogist known as an "air hunter."
They told him that he had a claim to a small inheritance from his brother.
He told me the bad news that Steven had died three years ago.
I was just disappointed that I didn't get to meet my brother, because I would have just loved to have met him and built a relationship.
I was so close, but just too late.
[melancholy music playing] We knew that Paul's brother Steven must have died without making a will and with no immediate family around, as it's in special circumstances like these that air hunters get involved.
We were able to discover a bit more about Steven.
He had a learning disability and was in a care home at the time of his death.
With Paul's search for Steven brought so sadly to a close, we doubled down on our efforts to find Paul's sister.
Our specialist intermediary was able to identify the surname Beverley was given after her adoption.
From there, we were able to find her, now living in the North of England.
[upbeat music playing] Having been told the news about Paul, she was keen to meet me.
Paul is longing to find his sister, but will Beverley be able to tell Paul anything about their mother's mysterious past?
We've shared the sad news of her birth mother's death off-camera, and she's also been informed of Steven's passing.
-Hi!
-Hello!
It's so lovely to meet you.
-Lead the way.
-Fantastic.
Come in, yeah.
Come through.
It's great to see you.
It's great to meet you too.
Thanks for having me.
Oh, you're most welcome.
Did you know about Paul?
-No, not at all.
Nothing.
-Nothing?
I actually thought it was a scam.
When I found out it was genuine, I just went... [sighs] Because I didn't know what happened to my mother.
We were living with my grandmother, and she just said to my grandmother, "I'm just popping to the shops, Mom, I won't be long."
I was one year old when that happened.
And she was never seen again.
-Never saw her again?
-No.
They got the police involved, they tried to find her, and we couldn't.
It's like she disappeared.
How do you feel about your mother?
I've had in the back of my mind for 61 years that my mom could have been murdered.
But she started a completely new life, -didn't she?
-Yes.
That is amazing, isn't it?
To literally... -To up sticks?
-Yeah.
-Move on, start again.
-Yeah.
-As if the past didn't exist.
-Didn't exist.
Did you know your father?
I don't know anything about him, and neither did my family.
How old were you when you were-- adopted, were you?
Well, after my mom had gone, I don't think they knew what to do with me, and so, they put me into a foster home, and then I was fostered by a family, and they adopted me.
I had a wonderful relationship with my adopted father.
He was my dad.
But I had a very difficult relationship with my adopted mother.
-So, you've had your struggles?
-Yeah.
Did you know that you had an older brother, Steven?
Yes, I was told about him when I was a child.
He was in a home, and I just accepted that.
So what about Paul, then?
Paul lives close to Amsterdam with his husband, Paul.
They've been married for 20 years.
He's a home care assistant.
He's three years younger than you.
He lost his mom when he was nine years old, which was utterly devastating.
Awful.
He grew up as an only child, and you are his sister.
Oh, my God, it's amazing, isn't it?
He's been looking for you for years.
[Beverley sniffs] That's the most incredible thing.
Would you like to see a photograph of your brother?
Can I?
Oh, my goodness me.
[gasps] Hello, Paul.
[sniffs] Thank you.
Oh, my goodness me.
Such a kind face.
And you look so alike.
Yes, we do look alike.
We said to him, "Paul, if we ever find Beverley, will you write her a letter?
And if we do find her, we can give her the letter."
This is the letter.
Oh, gosh, this is huge.
Oh, good Lord.
[gasps] "Dear Beverley, in January 2019, I found out that I had a sister.
You!
I can imagine the shock of finding out that you have a younger brother must have been overwhelming.
I hope that you would like to reunite.
If so, I will be waiting with open arms.
Your brother, Paul."
That's incredible, isn't it?
-Incredible.
-I can't wait to meet him.
I can't wait to thank him.
I can't wait to find out his story about his life and his partner, Paul.
I have a brother.
I have a younger brother called Paul.
That's just-- it's just-- that will never not be amazing.
[cheerful music playing] [Davina]Caroline Kinsey is looking for the baby boy she gave up nearly 40 years ago.
[Caroline] I would really love to meet Simon.
I don't have any expectations from him.
The only thing that I would like to know, has he had a happy life?
Did he have the life that I hoped he had?
Caroline has spent years thinking about her firstborn son, Simon, hoping he's had a happy adoption and loving parents.
It's only recently she realized that she could search for Simon herself.
And today, I'm here to bring her the news that Simon has been found.
[car pulling onto gravel] -Hi.
-Hello.
-Come in.
-Thank you.
Thanks for seeing me.
I wanted to ask, what made you want to start searching for Simon?
I needed to let him know why I gave him up for adoption.
Mm.
How has it affected your life, him not being part of it?
I've put barriers up, um, hide the emotions and just got on with life.
But there's a gap there.
I know I've got another child.
Well, I have come here today because I have got some news.
Yeah?
Your son has been found.
Oh, God.
Was it a shock for him?
It was a bit, but a good shock.
Is he, um... Where does he live?
Close or...?
He lives in Somerset.
Really?
-Does he know about me?
-He does.
-That I've looked for him?
-He does.
Now.
There's always the possibility that he might just, "Oh, yeah, well, she gave me up.
I don't want anything to do with her."
Has he got his own family?
-Yes.
-Really?
[Davina] Yes.
He's happily married to Sam, and you have two more grandchildren, two boys-- Harris, who's eight, and Bern, who's three.
-Amazing.
-Mm-hmm.
His adoptive parents did change Simon's name.
And they changed it to... Thomas.
No!
[laughs] -Really?
-Yeah.
That's incredible, two Toms.
[laughs] -He grew up in Hertfordshire.
-Mm-hmm.
And then, when he was 11, his dad got a job down in the South West, and his mom and dad, you know, were able to give him a really nice life.
I'm just so... relieved.
And-- you'll like this-- he played hockey.
-No!
-Yes!
Oh, that has given me goosebumps.
Would you like to see what he looks like now?
Yes, please.
This is your son.
Oh, my goodness.
[gentle music playing] -Dark hair.
-Yeah.
[Caroline] Handsome.
-He looks lovely.
-Mm.
What would you like to say to him, do you think?
I'd like to ask him if he has forgiven me, because... how can anybody really give away a baby?
That's been hard.
[Davina] I've also got a letter he's written you.
[Caroline opening letter] "Dear Caroline, thank you for reaching out.
My feelings about being adopted is a true sense of wonder and gratitude.
Since becoming a parent myself, I've been able to imagine the level of courage and selflessness it would take to make such a decision.
And I feel compelled to say thank you."
[crying] "We are looking forward to meeting you.
Tom."
He just wants to meet his mom.
[lighthearted music playing] [Davina]One week after finding out that her firstborn son, Tom, wants to meet her, Caroline has traveled to Berkshire to see him for the first time in 43 years.
So, how do you feel?
Nervous, apprehensive, excited.
It's like meeting a stranger who should be really close.
[Davina]Tom has brought his wife, Sam, for support.
I'm so glad that she reached out to you.
-Yeah.
-Deep breaths.
Okay.
I'm interested to know where some of my quirks come from.
-Good luck.
-Thanks.
It's going to be great.
Because if you don't know me, you could misinterpret my general demeanor as not very affectionate.
I think he might be a bit shy to start with, if he'slike my other son.
But I hope things will just... fall into place.
-See you later.
-Okay, good luck.
-Thank you.
-You alright?
Yeah, bye-bye.
[Davina] They're meeting at a hotel in Newbury, halfwaybetween their homes.
[Caroline]I'm most looking forward to giving him a hug, because it will be the first time that I've ever held him.
[Tom] I'm not a hugger, [laughs] but I think we'll hug.
I think.We'll see.
[sentimental music playing] [Caroline] There's a good saying, "Everything comes to those that wait."
[music swells] -Hi.
-Hi.
How are you doing?
Give me a hug.
-[Tom] Nice to meet you.
-[Caroline crying] Wow.
Surreal.
This is so surreal.
Come on, sit down.
Are you okay?
-I am now.
-Yeah.
I'd waited 43 years for that hug.
[laughs] Yeah.
I was quite shocked when they said how briefly I was with you.
[sniffs] I thought it was going to be the best thing for you.
And I didn't think I had any other option.
How was your adoption?
Have you been happy?
Yeah, it was good.
I'm happy.
My parents have given me so many opportunities.
I'm so grateful to your parents, giving you what I couldn't give you.
Amazing people.
I'm grateful to them too.
[both laugh] So, I've had little snippets of information, but it'd be good to know some more.
I moved to Epping to run a sports shop.
And you've played hockey?
Yes.
I was average.
-It's better than I was.
-I played.
[laughs] I played.
And then we got another shop in Bishops Stortford.
I went to school in Bishops Stortford.
-Really?
-Mm.
So, I've probably been into the shop.
I might have bought a hockey stick off of you.
-Wow.
Oh, this is spooky.
-[chuckles] I was, um, very, very nervous before I came through the door.
But as soon as I saw Tom, it all disappeared.
It was like a dream come true, really.
There seems to be a lot of similarities.
We both speak quite quietly.
I've got some photos of our boys.
[Caroline] Oh, my goodness me.
They're gorgeous.
It's really nice to meet her.
I think we're quite similar.
Just the way we talked.
She's quite thoughtful.
I think we're quite similar like that.
-Hello.
-Hello.
Nice to meet you.
-A hug.
-[laughs] -How are you?
Nice to meet you.
-Are you alright?
I'm a bit shell-shocked, but questions, I guess, have been answered or started to be answered.
Hello?
Tom and Amy, this is your eldest brother.
-Hi.
-[Amy] Hello.
[Tom McPhail] We're trying to decide whether you need to change your name or not, Tom.
[Tom]Yeah, that's the problem.
Who's going to be Thomas?
[all laugh] I now have a missing piece of my life.
Over the moon.
[sentimental music playing] [upbeat music playing] [Davina] Paul MacFarlane is looking for his half-sister,Beverley, who he only found out existed four years ago.
I'm so determined to find her, to have the connection, and know that I'm here-- I'm her family, you know, I'm her real family, would be amazing.
Ever since Paul discovered he had siblings, he's been on a quest to find them.
He'll never get to meet his brother, but, today, I can give him the news about his sister that he's so desperately been waiting for.
[sentimental music playing] I'm meeting Paul where he's staying in North London.
-Hi, Paul.
-Come inside.
-Thank you very much.
-Welcome.
Oh, thank you for seeing me.
How-- how have you been?
-It's been a roller coaster... -Yeah.
...to be honest with you, with everything that's happening.
Tell me, what spurred you on to go and find Beverley?
It's something I couldn't let go.
It's so important to me, fundamental, that I find her.
And it's confusing then, because Steven and Beverley weren't together.
I don't know if they knew anything about each other.
It's all a mystery, and I thought, "I have to find this out."
-Family's important.
-It really is.
Yeah.
I wanted to let you know that Beverley has been found.
-Ser-- Oh, seriously?
-Yeah.
Okay.
And the $6 million question is, does she want to see me?
Does she want to meet me?
-She'd love to meet you.
-Would she?!
Okay.
[laughs] -Is she okay?
-She's fantastic.
-Is she happy?
-She's so happy.
And how did she react about knowing she's got a younger brother?
-She's thrilled.
-Is she?
[laughs] -Yes.
-Seriously?
She didn't know.
-She had no idea.
-Wow.
[laughs] I could tell you a bit about her life, if you'd like.
-Please.
-Yeah?
-Please.
-She was brought up in London.
And when she was one, Ada went out shopping and never came back.
Okay.
She grew up wondering if her mom had been murdered or if something terrible had happened on the way to the shop.
She just literally disappeared out of her life.
-Really?
-And Beverley went into care, and then she got fostered by a family, and then she got adopted by them.
Okay.
Wow.
I was scared, in case she had passed on.
As with hearing about Steven.
-I was too late with that.
-Mm.
Do you have a photograph?
Do you?
Oh, God.
[sighs] So, here is your sister.
Hello.
Oh, she's got-- She looks a lot like my mother.
Wow.
[soft music playing] Amazing.
My prayers have been answered.
[laughs] Yes!
Yes!
[Davina laughs] I can't wait to meet her.
I really can't wait to meet her.
-[Paul] Guess what?
-Well, tell me.
They've found my sister.
[laughs] -[husband] That's amazing.
-And she wants to meet me.
-That's great news.
-At last.
At last.
[Paul laughs] [husband] Oh, fantastic.
[Davina]Just a day after learning more about Beverley, Paul is meeting his sister for the first time.
[husband] You have an older sister.
Yeah, my dream has come true.
It's going to happen.
At last.
I've got my tissues at the ready.
[both laugh] [whimsical music playing] [Davina]Beverley has traveled down to London to meet Paul.
I can't believe I'm actually here today, and I'm going to meet my younger brother.
Makes my heart skip a beat.
Isn't life amazing?
It would be emotional to find out more about this ladythat's our mom.
"Our mom."
I'm now saying that.
"Our mom."
-Ready?
-Yeah, Ready.
Okay.
Enjoy.
I will do.
Thank you.
Trying to keep calm and collected and just wait for the moment.
When I'm going to see her, give her a hug, and say, "This isa moment to cherish for the rest of our lives."
[sentimental music playing] Thank you.
That's so kind of you.
Thank you.
[sighs] Hello.
-[Paul] My sister.
-Oh, hello, Paul.
My sister!
[Beverley] I can't believe this.
Hello.
My brother.
It's wonderful to meet you.
[Paul] It's okay.
It's okay.
I knew you'd be a hugger.
I knew you... -It's okay.
Yeah?
It's okay.
-Oh, yeah.
I've been looking for you for three and a half years.
I know!
I heard.
I'm going to need a tissue.
[both laugh] -You want to come and sit down?
-Yeah, yeah.
This is fresh tea.
Do you like tea?
I can't pour, because I'm shaking like a leaf.
No, no, no, I know.
I'm going to need a tissue.
Oh, dear.
I knew I'd do this.
[laughs] Was it a shock for you?
-Yeah, oh, just a surprise.
-Yeah.
A wonderful surprise, Paul.
I mean, goodness me.
-And we look like each other.
-We do, don't we?
-[pow] -Boom!
Yeah.
Mind-blowing.
You know, I had no idea what happened to our mom.
I can tell you some things about her.
Yeah.
Well, that would be wonderful.
I've got pictures.
I've got something for you here.
-Oh, my goodness me.
-Can I show you?
Oh, yes!
Oh, goodness me!
-Oh!
-Ta-da!
-What is this?
Can I open it?
-[Paul] You can open it.
This is our family.
Oh.
Oh!
Come round, come round.
Yes.
[Paul] Do you recognize anyone?
[Beverley] Oh, my goodness me.
This is amazing.
-[laughs] -That's our mom.
[Paul] That's our mom.
[lively piano music playing] That's our mom.
Just looking at you, you just look like Mom.
Thank you.
Thank you.
-Thank you, Paul.
-It's okay.
[Beverley] I only had her in my life 'til I was one year old.
-I don't know why she left.
-No.
I don't know what she was going through in life.
I don't think we'll ever find out.
-No.
I don't think we will.
-I just have no idea.
No, I don't have any resentment towards her, no.
-All I tried to do is-- -To me, she was-- -She was a wonderful mom.
-She was a great, wonderful mom.
I'm glad that she found happiness.
[Paul] She was happy with my father.
-He was crazy about her.
-And he loved her.
He did.
[Paul] I think she looks like my mom.
My mother also had the bubbly personality.
She was well-loved, and it just, yeah, it's a piece of my mom, but also my big sister.
Look at us.
We inherited those genes, didn't we?
[Beverley] There is a connection.
Although we've never met before, we share a mom.
She was our mom.
I have this wonderful brother.
[Paul laughing] -Oh, my sister.
-My brother.
He's a hugger.
I love it.
We are so alike.
And I just thought, "We are gonna have a whale of a time."
I'm so, so pleased that you didn't give up.
No.
You kept searching, and you found me.
[Paul] It makes me feel elated.
I'm just the happiest guy in the world.
[laughs] -[Paul] Alright... -That's it.
-Okay.
[laughs] -Okay?
She's a huge addition to my life.
My hopes for the future is to get to know each other and have fun and see what the future brings.
That's my hope.
[Beverley laughs] [end music playing]
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