

Episode 3
Season 5 Episode 3 | 44m 21sVideo has Closed Captions
In this episode we follow three stories of sons coming to terms with the past.
In this episode we follow three stories of sons coming to terms with the past.
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Episode 3
Season 5 Episode 3 | 44m 21sVideo has Closed Captions
In this episode we follow three stories of sons coming to terms with the past.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship[man] Can you find my son?
It would mean the world.
[woman] I miss my brother.
We just don't know where to turn.
Over the past decade, we've helped hundreds of people find long-lost relatives.
We've found him.
[crying] [mom crying] I don't want to let you go.
[laughter] -You've got five other siblings.
-Five?!
-Hiya!
-Hello!
Oh, lovely to see you!
[all crying] My God!
But meeting is just the beginning.
I knew there was gonna be twists and turns.
I said it.
How easy is it to build a relationship after a lifetime apart?
[woman] Will they like me, and will I like them?
Yeah, I'm a bit worried.
[woman] Oh, my God, can I do this?
I've never been anybody's sister.
[man] You always hope that it'll be like a fairytale, but, of course, it's not.
This is the series where we find out What Happened Next.
This week, three stories of sons coming to terms with the past-- A search that was too painful to share until now.
It upset my mum to such an extent, that I said, "I won't look for my birth mother."
-Marc!
Hi.
-Dad.
And for the first time on Long Lost Family, a son introduces his two fathers.
[man] I can't think of anything worse than them hating each other.
It's important for me that they get on.
-Hi.
-[man] Hiya!
But new relationships can threaten old bonds.
[man] When someone comes into a family, it can turn the family upside-down.
[dramatic music ends] Our first story features a man whose search for his birth mother led to a surprise reunion on the other side of his family.
[engine revving] 49-year-old grandfather Marc Wolfe was adopted as a baby.
He was brought up in a Jewish family and had a happy childhood.
His adoptive father, Terry, remembers the day Marc's adoption was finalized.
-That was a wonderful day.
-[laughs] We'd arranged for a professional photographer to come and take photographs at home, because we were so excited that, finally, you were definitely ours.
[Marc] Being brought up Jewish gave me a sense of belonging, which is important to someone who's adopted.
But when Marc was just 16, his adoptive mother, Ruth, who'd been suffering from leukemia, passed away.
Losing Mum was very, very difficult for me.
In my grief, I did feel that I'd lost two mothers-- my birth mother, and then I'd lost my Mum.
I started to feel insecure about where I came from, and so, for the first time, I felt I wanted to find out about my birth mother.
Marc began by ordering his birth certificate.
I was born to Esther Joan Howard.
She was about 19 years old.
There's no father listed on the birth certificate, so it's almost certainly unmarried.
My parents told me my birth mother went to a great effort to make sure I went to a Jewish family.
That's everything that I could find out.
Marc went on to have a family of his own but never stopped wondering about his mother.
[Nicky] When Marc came to us, he'd been thinking about finding his birth mother for over 30 years.
Our initial searches for Esther drew a complete blank.
So we changed tack and searched for her late father's will.
And that gave us a crucial breakthrough.
The will revealed that Esther was living... in New Zealand.
Esther had married and gone on to have two more children.
Esther.
-Hi.
-Nicky Campbell.
Pleased to meet you.
Do come on in.
Thank you so much.
So, what was it like when you heard that Marc was looking for you?
I couldn't believe it.
It was a huge surprise.
And I'm so pleased that he wants to meet me.
Had you searched for him or thought about searching?
No, I definitely thought about it, but I didn't know where to start.
So, what did happen?
I was brought up in a very strict, sheltered Jewish family.
They were all German refugees from the Holocaust.
-Really?
-Yeah.
My mother came out on a children's transport, and my grandfather had been put in concentration camp, so, you know, they had all that background between them, and Marc's father wasn't Jewish.
So, when your family found out you were pregnant, how did they react?
Well, my parents were horrified, of course.
They said it would kill my grandmother.
So, I wasn't allowed home while I was pregnant.
I couldn't have looked after him, so, I had no option... but to give him up for adoption.
It was awful giving him up.
If I'd had the support of my family, I would have kept him.
That's gonna be wonderful for him to hear.
Here's your son.
[Esther] My goodness.
Amazing.
Absolutely amazing.
All those years, I've pushed it to the back of my mind.
It was too painful.
[Davina] Marc had spent decades wondering about his birth mother.
And I could finally give him the news he'd been waiting for.
-[Davina] Hi.
-Hi.
-How you doing?
Davina.
-All right.
-Welcome.
Come on in.
-Thank you.
Why is it so important for you to find your mum?
I'd just like to know why I was adopted, because, whatever the reason, it's still a form of rejection.
Well, hopefully that will be able to happen, 'cause we found her.
She's living in New Zealand.
-New Zealand?!
-Yeah.
Your mum can't wait to meet you.
It's really good to know.
Here's your mum.
[whispers] Wow... Wow.
My mother.
I can already feel that empty part of me filling.
[sentimental music playing] Just two days later, Esther flew over 10,000 miles to London.
After nearly 50 years apart, she and Marc were reunited.
[Esther] Oh, bless.
Very nice to see you.
[Esther] Very nice.
Thank you so much for looking for me.
[Marc] No, I'm just pleased I've found you.
[Marc sighs] -Okay?
-Yeah.
It's just amazing, it really is.
[Marc] Can't believe you're here.
[Esther laughs] See, I've been thinking about it for years and years and years, and I finally get to meet my Mum.
I didn't know for sure if I was wanted.
I've always wondered, was there any choice in it for you?
No.
There was no choice.
Nobody wants to give a child up.
I certainly didn't want to give you up.
[Marc] I'm feeling elated.
I heard from my Mum what I've always wanted to hear-- I was wanted, and that I still am.
[orchestral music playing] It's been nearly 18 months since Marc and Esther first met, but with Esther living on the other side of the world, building a relationship has been complicated.
[doorbell ringing] -Hi, Marc.
-Hi, Davina.
-How you doing?
-All right.
-Nice to see you.
-And you.
Come on in.
Thank you.
Tell me how it's been since you first reunited with Esther.
Unfortunately, even though she is my mother, we are still strangers.
We don't really know anything about each other.
I think the distance really doesn't help, because, with her being the other side of the world, the only real communication is by email.
You can't really get a bond with someone from emails.
I suppose it might be difficult for her, because she hasn't had me in her life for 50 years.
She might not know how to deal with that herself.
So, it wasn't the journey that you were hoping for?
I would have liked to have had a good, long relationship with Esther, so, yeah, I am a little bit disappointed.
So, is that the end of your search for identity?
No.
It made me think maybe there was more to my story.
Marc's returned to his ordinary life driving HGVs, but his extraordinary journey is far from over, because he now wants to learn about the other side of his birth family.
I never went down the avenue of looking for my natural father out of respect for my dad.
But that's always something that's been in the back of my mind-- Who am I?
Where am I actually from?
Where's the interests in the military come from?
Where's the interest in heavy vehicles come from?
I want to know who my natural father was.
I want to know more.
[Nicky] And that's where we could help.
As in many cases of so-called illegitimate children, Marc's biological father was not listed on the birth certificate.
But Esther was able to give us a name-- David Ledwith.
Fortunately, Ledwith is such an unusual surname, we were able to trace David through electoral records.
We found him living in Lincolnshire, and our intermediary contacted him.
[David] I was a bit cautious.
I didn't know anything about Marc at all.
And so, she said, "Well, we can arrange for a DNA test."
Next day, I got an email with the photograph on, and...
I opened the email, and I took one look at the photograph, and-- "Forget the DNA.
That's my son.
I can't argue this one."
Marc and David initially met in private.
(GPS) Turn left and take the first right.
[Davina] And today, Marc is visiting David's home for the very first time.
(GPS) You have reached your destination.
[Marc] You know, this is someone who I've never spoken to in my entire life, suddenly found out who my natural father is.
It should feel very awkward and very strange to actually talk to him.
But it didn't.
It just felt normal.
We became close from day one.
And that closeness has just been reinforced each time we've spoken.
Marc.
Hiya.
All right?
-Good to see you.
-Good to see you too.
As they get to know one another, Marc and David have found they have a surprising amount in common.
-There you go, mate.
-Thank you.
Now then, where can I find some more batteries?
I want four more.
[David] I can look at Marc, and I'm looking in a mirror.
We're both ex-military.
We're both lorry drivers, we both like building things.
Many years-- many, many years, I've been building these.
Say, it's easy enough, but they're... [David] I've always been a loner.
I've spent most of my life hiding behind a brick wall that I've put up.
And Marc-- just-- just knowing Marc has made that wall come down.
The best one I ever built was a glider.
It was a four-foot wingspan glider.
That's quite small for a glider.
It is.
But my... [Marc] I want Dave in my life.
Considering the short time we've known each other, we are actually very close.
He feels like family.
I'm fortunate that I have two fathers.
But for Marc's family life to feel complete... a significant hurdle remains.
For the first time, my two fathers are meeting.
I can't think of anything worse than them hating each other.
I feel I don't want to upset my adoptive dad in any way.
But it's important for me that they get on.
-[Marc sighs] Right... -[David] That feels better.
[Marc] Yeah.
I'm gonna have a Southern Comfort, please.
And I'll have a Southern Comfort and lemonade, please.
Perfect.
Today, Marc Wolfe is introducing his birth father, Dave, to his adoptive father, Terry.
[Marc] There's obviously going to be a certain element of apprehension about the two of them meeting.
-Thank you.
-Thank you.
Dave is biologically my father, he helped create me.
Dad is my dad.
He brought me up.
I think bringing my two fathers together, it's a big day for me.
Definitely.
Terry has traveled from Stevenage to meet Dave and Marc at a pub in Lincolnshire.
[Terry] I got up this morning feeling quite excited that I was going to meet Dave.
It's not something I'd ever really expected to happen in my life.
Dad's always been in my life and always will be in my life.
[David] Yeah, yeah, of course he will.
But now, you're in my life and always gonna be in my life too.
It's that aspect that's important to me that everything works.
Yeah.
Yeah, I can understand that.
-Marc.
Hi.
-Hi, Dad.
-Good to see you.
-And you.
[Marc] Well, shall we go in?
[Terry] Yes.
-Dave.
-Hello, Terry.
-How are you?
-I'm well.
And how are you?
-Good to meet you.
-And you.
I've heard a lot about you from Marc.
-Me too.
-And, uh, it's a lot of opportunity to, uh... [David] Yeah.
...to get to know you in any way.
[Marc] Oh, it means everything to me that Dad's here.
To remind him as well that he's not gonna be replaced.
Because he can't be.
Meeting you is something Marc has-- has looked forward to.
He's always-- I think it's natural for adopted children to want to know their origins.
-Yeah.
-And Marc was always very keen.
It's really quite exciting in its way.
-It is, isn't it?
-Mm.
Just to say, I thanked Esther for giving me her son, so I really ought to thank you for giving me my son as well.
My thanks go to you for doing a wonderful job for bringing him up.
Thank you very much.
Thank you.
[David] What Marc is has come from Terry.
He's given him a purpose.
He's given him everything that I should have been around to give him.
That's my regret, that I wasn't there to give it to him.
[Terry] To actually experience meeting Marc's natural father has been, um, a wonderful experience in my life.
[Marc] It all makes sense now.
It sort of puts everything in place.
I know exactly who I am now and where I'm from.
It is fascinating to have both of you here, to have my natural father and my Dad here.
They're both definitely family.
They're both gonna be part of my family for, forever now.
-Cheers.
-Cheers, everybody.
Over the years we've carried out many searches that never made it to the television screen, usually because the situation was too sensitive.
Our next family reunited off camera, but they now feel comfortable enough to share their story with us for the first time.
Having him adopted was the biggest decision of my life, and having to make it when I was still a child myself... it was so hard.
64-year-old Sheila Knox came to us looking for her son, who she'd given up for adoption when she was still a schoolgirl.
She grew up in a rural village in West Yorkshire.
There was nothing there.
There was one pub and a telephone box.
That was your contact with the outside world.
Sheila lived in a small terraced house with her widowed mother, grandfather, and younger sisters.
Times were hard.
We didn't have a lot of money.
It was a struggle.
And I don't know how my Mum did it.
And when Sheila was a teenager and dating a local boy, their family life became even harder.
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant.
My mum was very supportive, but I was too young to care for a baby.
I knew how tight money was, and with another mouth to feed, it would have been even worse.
Sheila made the heartbreaking decision to give her baby up for adoption.
I wanted my child to have the things that I didn't have.
To have a better life than the one that I'd had.
She traveled to the nearby town of Halifax and moved into a mother and baby home with other young, pregnant girls.
-Hi.
-Hi.
Her roommate, Marilyn, also just 15 years old at the time, has become a lifelong friend.
[Sheila] Marilyn and I, we were both very frightened.
I remember that.
Really had no idea what was involved.
The schoolgirls went into labor on the same night, and both had baby boys.
[Sheila] Don't I look young on there, look?
Yeah.
We were.
Yeah, we were, yeah.
Not a line in sight!
The young mums had just a few short weeks with their babies.
We were bonding, weren't we, with the babies?
Yeah.
[Marilyn] And knowing that, at the end of the six weeks, we had to give them away, yeah.
[Sheila] It was quiet in the nursery at night.
I just used to sit there and cuddle him.
You're fighting all your motherly instincts.
I couldn't get too attached, because in six weeks' time, he was going to be somebody else's child.
Can't remember how long at that point we would still have before-- before he went.
[Marilyn] Yeah.
[Sheila] He'd go to his new mum and dad, wouldn't he?
Yeah.
Yeah, and we'd be left with nothing.
[Sheila] Mm.
Oh, it's sad.
Quite sad.
When the day came for the young mothers to give up their children, Sheila and Marilyn traveled to the adoption society together.
We were sat in a room with the babies, and we took a bag of clothes and some baby milk, I think, and somebody came in and just took the babies away.
Just like that.
I remember getting into the car just feeling empty.
Your life's never the same.
For 48 years, Sheila Knox dreamed of finding the baby boy she gave up for adoption when she was just a schoolgirl.
I had buried a lot of feelings a long time ago.
But things kept surfacing.
All these feelings and a sadness that I hadn't seen him growing up.
Sheila had gone on to marry and have two more children, but she never stopped wondering what had happened to her first baby.
I needed to find out that he had had a happy life.
I had to do it.
The time was right, I had to know.
[Nicky] We took up the search 18 months ago, and, using specialist intermediaries, we discovered that Sheila's baby had been named Mike.
He was now married and living in Leicestershire.
When we spoke to Mike, he said that he'd love to meet his birth mother, but there were reasons he didn't want this to happen on television at the time.
So, Sheila and Mike reunited off camera, and now, almost a year later, he feels able to talk about it.
-Mike.
-Nicky, good to see you.
-You too.
-Come on in.
[Nicky] Thank you very much indeed.
So-- why didn't you want to meet on camera?
I wanted to do it privately.
I wanted to do everything right by my adoptive mum.
I wasn't sure of my reaction, how my reaction was going to be.
I didn't want my Mum to see that, just in case it was too strong.
Many years ago now, my sister, who was also adopted, found her birth mother, and it upset my mum to such an extent that I said, "I won't look for my birth mother."
How old were you?
About 16, 17.
I kept my word all the way through until, um, Sheila came looking for me.
How did that impact on your Mum?
Was she pretty upset?
She was, um, but that was the first time that I'd explained to her the rule that I'd set myself of not going actively hunting.
And she was thankful for that.
Because, you know, she still means the world to me, and she always will.
-You're very close, are you?
-Yeah, yeah, very much so.
How's your mum about it now?
She's okay.
Um, but I don't talk about it too much.
So, how did you and Sheila-- how did you make the first contact?
Well, we were contacted by the intermediary, and Sheila sent a letter through, which I got.
What was that moment like?
It was relief, almost.
Even after all these years, she still wants to meet me.
There's still love there, in a way.
Today, Sheila is taking me to see Mike so they can tell me what that life-changing moment felt like.
How did you find out that Mike had been found?
I got a phone call from the intermediary.
Couldn't believe it, really.
The first thing I said was, "Does he want to meet me?"
-I think I was frightened... -[Davina] Yeah.
...that he wouldn't want to see me.
And I don't know how I would have coped with that.
It's almost a year since their first meeting, and we've arranged to join Mike at Hardwick Hall in Derbyshire, the exact place where they were reunited.
[Mike] I brought my wife with me.
She basically sat in the car.
She said that I should do it on my own.
I got there about an hour earlier than I needed to be.
I was a nervous wreck by the time Sheila came in.
[Sheila] My legs were like jelly.
I could hardly put one foot in front of the other, I was so nervous.
[Davina laughing] [Sheila] Hello.
[laughs] Hello, again.
-It's lovely to see you.
-And you.
Hi.
How you doing?
-Ah.
Nice to be with you both.
-[Sheila] Yes.
So, you guys talk me through that moment when you first met.
We did spend a lot of time in there, just-- just staring at each other's faces.
[Sheila] Yeah, yeah, we did.
Your first words were, "I'm sorry."
Just as we hugged.
I said it at the time, "There's nothing to be sorry for."
Because you had a happy time, didn't you?
I did, and I had a happy childhood, a happy upbringing.
And I know it's quite a difficult line you're walking, because you adore your adoptive mother, and she has been a brilliant mum to you all your life.
-My mum will always be my mum.
-Yeah.
And although Sheila gave birth to me, Sheila hasn't come to replace her, you know, we're more best mates than anything.
We are.
We're really good friends.
Yeah.
Mike, what were your main fears?
My main fears were were that-- almost like I could be a disappointment.
But it's, obviously, you always want to do well by your mum, you know, and it's-- I'm very proud of you.
Oh, bless your heart.
I am, I'm very proud of you.
And what did you do in the evening?
When we got back to the car park and we had to say goodbye, I didn't want to do that.
I think I clung on to you, didn't I?
I did not want to let you go.
It just sort of felt like, no, it's not enough yet.
After we'd said our goodbyes, because we're in different lanes of the dual carriageway, we kept on passing each other and waving again, you know.
-Stop it!
-Yeah, we did.
What's it done for you, finding your birth mother?
It's completed something that I didn't know wasn't complete, I think, is the thing.
I didn't know that I was missing this part of me.
But I'm happy that you looked for me.
[both chuckling] [Mike] Ahh.
Four months later, and Sheila has come to Leicester.
It's a big day for both her and Mike.
[Mike] Say when.
When.
I thought you were gonna go all the way to the top.
[Sheila] No!
-Cheers.
And happy birthday.
-Thank you very much.
Taken a long time for me to say that.
It's my 50th birthday.
It's the first birthday Sheila's been with me since that first day all those years ago.
[Sheila singing] Happy birthday to you When I gave him away, I never in a million years thought that I would be spending any birthday with him, never mind it being his 50th.
One of the good things about this whole process is as well as having a card from my Mum, I've also got a card from my other Mum.
So I've got twice the love.
Look at you there.
I couldn't have imagined what that little baby would have become.
This was the last contact that I would have for 49 years.
And now, here you are, in the flesh.
Looking pretty much the same as I did there.
[Sheila laughs] Yeah!
[Sheila] He has turned into a wonderful man.
And I am so pleased to be spending his birthday with him.
Hey.
[laughs] Often, when people reunite, it doesn't just affect them, it has an impact on the whole family, as our next searcher was to discover.
Richard Cue came to us five years ago, looking for his birth mother.
He'd been adopted as a baby by Florence and William Cue.
As adoptive parents, I couldn't have asked for better.
It wasn't a very financially wealthy family, but it was very wealthy when it came to love and affection, and I think that is probably more important than anything.
But as he grew up, Richard began to think about his birth mother.
My parents are the ones that sacrificed, brought me up, taught me right from wrong but nobody can tell me that a mother can give birth to a child and whether they've had to give it up or not, doesn't have a mother-child bond.
Following the death of his adoptive mother in 1997, Richard began to search for his birth mother.
His adoption records revealed that she was called Patricia Ann Howard and was a distant relative of his parents.
It's a sort of comfort in some ways, because at least you know that the family was looking out for you, rather than, uh, just being put out to-- to care.
But Richard couldn't find out any more.
And even after getting married and having children of his own... [Richard] That's it, whoa!
That's good.
...he never stopped thinking about his birth mother.
She went through a lot to have me, uh, only to give me up.
She's out there somewhere, and I would really like that opportunity to put a few ghosts to-- to rest.
But Richard's search for his birth mother would have consequences he could never have foreseen.
[Nicky] When Richard Cue approached us, he'd been looking for his birth mother for 17 years.
[Richard] That little hole that the adoption's left, it's not something that goes away.
You always want the answers.
Richard knew his birth mother was called Patricia Ann Howard.
We discovered she'd married and changed her name-- to Patricia Walker.
Now a grandmother, she was living with her husband in West Sussex and was keen to talk to me about her first baby.
-Hello.
-Hello.
Nice to see you.
-I'm Nicky.
-I'm Pat.
Come in.
Thank you.
Got a photograph of him, do you want to see it?
-Yes, please.
-He was a happy baby.
I tried to keep him, but circumstances wouldn't let me.
But I did try.
[Nicky] What kind of family support -did you have at the time?
-None.
So it was a pretty desperate situation?
I was really desperate, 'cause the money I was earning, I worked in a cigarette factory.
I was practically starving.
And then my aunt said, "Why don't you have him adopted?"
And she told me about her husband's niece.
So, when your aunt suggested this, it seemed just like the only way ahead.
Yeah.
It was the only way ahead for him.
And all I wanted for him was a good life, a better life.
But I used to think to myself, "Will their love be as strong as mine?"
You don't ever get over it, a child that you lose.
[gasps] Oh, gosh!
Oh, gosh!
Oh, what a lovely young man.
He's gorgeous.
Lovely boy.
He's turned out really well.
I'm so proud.
At last, I was able to give Richard the news he'd been longing to hear.
Hi, Richard.
-Davina!
-Hi.
Lovely to meet you.
I'm really pleased to meet you.
Come in.
Thank you.
Thanks very much.
Your mum's been found.
Oh, wow!
That's brilliant.
It's been a long time.
I can only thank you.
You can thank her.
There's your mum.
Oh, wow!
She's written you something.
Wow!
"My Dear Richard, Where do I start?
So many questions.
So many years gone since I kissed your sweet baby face.
[cries] But I was confident that it was going to be a better life for you."
She really wants to meet you.
I really want to meet her.
Two days later, Richard traveled to Sussex to reunite with Patricia after over half a century apart.
Bye-bye.
[emotional music playing] -Oh, my god.
-Hi.
Nice to see you.
[Richard] Ahhh... [Patricia] Gosh... [Patricia laughs] -Good.
Alright.
-Have a seat.
Yeah, let's sit down.
-It's lovely to see you.
-Oh...
I'm glad you found me.
Every year, I always said, "Happy birthday, Richard."
-Oh, thank you.
-Always.
Just hoping that somehow it got to you.
I always wondered if I came into your head.
Oh, god, always.
[Patricia] I'm proud of what he's turned out to be.
He's a nice young man.
Young to me.
[laughs] I just can't believe this is happening.
No.
You won't get rid of me that easily now.
-I don't want to.
-[laughs] Don't want to.
[Richard] It's a happy ending and a new beginning for me and my family.
It's been nearly five years since Richard and Patricia came back into each other's lives, and they're not the only ones affected by their reunion.
[Patricia] Oh, it's lovely of you to come down again.
Mother and son have become very close.
I'd like to come down more often, but... [Patricia] Yeah.
...work, it's sometimes a bit busy.
Oh, you youngsters are always so busy.
The process of meeting my Mum has been exciting.
Yeah, I'll tell you what, we'll do this selfie thing.
[Richard] We've missed a lot of time over the many years -Okay, here we go.
-Right.
Cheese.
Right, ready?
Happy days.
-Look at your double chin.
-Yeah, I know.
I mean, it was 57 years, so, to have him back in my life, it's much better than I hoped for, because it's just as if he's always been there.
[Richard] Ready... and there you go.
[Patricia] Good.
[Patricia] I love Richard very much.
But their blossoming relationship has not been easy for everyone.
Patricia's daughter, Dawn, has also had to adjust to having a new brother in her life.
[Dawn] Growing up as an only child, it was my Mum and I against the world, totally.
I always knew Mum had had a child out of wedlock, but I never really thought I'd ever meet him.
And I just didn't really understand why you'd want anyone else with us.
[Patricia] Dawn has always been the light of my life.
She was never spoilt, but I think she was spoilt with love.
At 52 years old, Dawn found herself having to share that love.
-Hello.
-Is it flowers for me?
Hello.
[kiss] [Dawn] Richard would say "Mum," and it just sounded so odd, someone else calling my mum "Mum."
It was so odd.
You never had a brother, you never had any-- there was only ever you and me, yeah.
[Dawn] There was me, feeling underlying jealousy.
Emotionally, I was very vulnerable, and I think it caused, um, a bit of a breakdown with me.
[Richard] Dawn had been an only child for many, many years, and, suddenly, this bloke turns up who happens to be her brother.
I understand that it could be a shock to her.
I was feeling bad, because you were hurting.
[Dawn] Yeah.
[Patricia] I could understand how she felt.
I could just keep reassuring her that I loved her.
You'll always be my baby I know.
That's it.
Lovely.
[doorbell rings] [Patricia] Could be Richard.
After seeking counseling and spending time with Richard and his family... [Richard] Hiya!
-[Dawn] How's it going?
-[Richard] Yeah, not bad.
...Dawn began the process of healing.
[Dawn] After getting to know Richard and seeing Mum obviously incredibly happy, everything kind of started to fall into place.
Those negative feelings were replaced with a lot of excitement.
Oh, that's lovely!
Yeah, it was taken at the... [Dawn] I did now have a brother.
Thank you so much.
I developed a very fond relationship with Dawn, you know.
And she's a larger-than-life character.
She's just a bundle of fun.
I suppose, yeah, I do sort of love my sister, really.
Lovely, thank you.
[Dawn] Oh!
[Richard] Over there... Having developed their own relationship, Dawn and Richard's families are now becoming closer too.
Just brought so much joy, the families all blending in.
[Patricia] Now that I see Richard and Dawn getting on, it's wonderful.
We love each other, so, we're always: "Love you, bro.
Love you, sis."
It's a good feeling.
I'm glad it happened.
-[all] Cheers!
-[Richard] It's all about us.
[Dawn] Wha-hey!
[glasses clink] [peaceful music playing]
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