
Episode 4
Season 11 Episode 4 | 45m 55sVideo has Closed Captions
Paula is on a quest to discover her identity and Lisa longs for her sister.
Paula Stillie is on a quest to discover her identity and Lisa Harding longs for the sister she’s always wanted.
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Episode 4
Season 11 Episode 4 | 45m 55sVideo has Closed Captions
Paula Stillie is on a quest to discover her identity and Lisa Harding longs for the sister she’s always wanted.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship[woman] This one is the lady that gave birth to Daddy.
I wanna find her 'cause I wanna make sure she's okay.
[man 2] I would really like to see my daughter.
This is my last chance.
[man 3] It is hard, and you think about it every day.
I'll never, ever give up looking for me mother.
[Davina] There are many reasons why people across Britain are searching for missing family.
I can't leave it any longer.
I need that connection.
Keeping secrets and keeping people locked away... nothing good ever comes of that.
Some need to know their identity.
People take for granted having a family, it's just... who am I really?
Others have difficult questions.
Why hasn't he tried to find me?
Where was he?
So imagine the moment when the answer you need is just around the corner.
I'm not that far away so I should be with you shortly.
Oh, gosh!
[woman] My God, the wait's unbearable!
[Nicky] In this series, we uncover unexpected truths... Two daughters?!
What?
Another daughter?
...find people that no one else could trace... -We have found your mum.
-Blimey!
I didn't expect that.
...and reunite families after a lifetime apart.
-They found my mother!
-[woman] You're joking!
Mwah!
Oh, God, child.
[Davina] This week, one of our most remarkable searches leads to an incredible revelation.
What?!
I never in a million years dreamt that it would ever turn out like that!
And a sister is on a quest to set the record straight.
It was my mum's dying wish for me to find my sister.
She was loved, and I want her to know that.
Our first story comes from Scotland and a woman desperate to discover her origins.
[woman] I don't know where I come from.
What are my roots?
Who do I look like?
I don't feel as if I've got an anchor in life.
I could come from anywhere in the world.
I just don't know.
-You got it?
-Yeah.
Fifty-one-year-old Paula Stillie runs a bed and breakfast with her husband Euan in the northeast of Scotland.
I love it.
It's great fun.
So pop them on the pillows, please.
We get guests in from all over, from abroad.
I love hearing people's stories where they're from.
I think it's because I don't have that.
I don't know where I'm from.
I've always felt different.
Paula was adopted as a baby by Joyce and Jim Stillie and had a happy childhood.
[Paula] My mum and dad, they're really lovely, and they were very supportive.
They were always very open about me being adopted.
This one, I think I'm about two or three months old.
Very chubby cheeks.
Being adopted, you're different.
But also a mixed race as well makes you even more different.
You know, why did I have a different skin color to my mum and dad?
I can remember an incident in the bathroom when I covered myself in talcum powder from head to toe.
And I must have been about 4 or 5, and my mum came in and I said, "I'm the same color now as you, Mum, I'm white."
And I think that broke her heart.
I just wanted to be the same.
-Hello.
-Hi.
-How you doing?
-I'm good.
How are you?
-Good.
-Coming in?
Paula's 26-year-old son Kyle has his own interest in the search.
[Kyle] We are coming from a mixed-race background.
I mean we're quite clearly Scottish, but... in terms of our ethnicity, we're not from here.
So that's something that, like you, I'd quite like to find out where that comes from.
-Yeah.
-What was it like growing up?
It was hard and there was quite a few, you know, incidences of racism.
-Yeah.
-And I was very aware of, of being different in a small town.
I think times have changed, obviously, since you were younger.
-Yeah.
-But I feel for you.
I wish that wasn't something that you'd had to live through.
You know, you're my only blood relative, so, I mean, that is quite a... -Unique.
-...stark reminder, really, isn't it?
I think it's important to know where you come from, what your roots are, you know.
There's still that part of me missing.
Paula did some digging to discover her birth mother's name and eventually her mother was traced, living in England.
But sadly, as happens in some cases, she didn't want any contact with Paula.
[Paula] It was a shock that she didn't want to see me.
I was disappointed.
There is always the feeling of rejection there.
It's sad.
Sad that she'll never meet me.
With the knowledge that her birth mother is white and British, Paula's still no nearer to understanding why she looks the way she does.
She now wants to discover th e other half of her heritage.
[Paula] It's a real longing within me to find my birth father.
There's a whole other world out there that I don't know about that involves me.
But the desire to find out where I come from is so strong that I need to do it.
[Nicky] Although Paula's initial search didn't turn out as she'd hoped... Paula's birth mother gave her some crucial information in the search for Paula's father.
He was a man called Larry Smith who'd come over from America to the UK with the Navy.
But these details weren't enough to track him down.
Determined not to give Paula further disappointment, we turned to DNA testing and we found a distant match with someone who had his entire family tree online.
The tree revealed that Paula's family are in fact Native American.
And it included a man called Lawrence Robert Smith who was of the right generation to be Paula's birth father.
Further research revealed that, sadly, he died in 1982, but we did manage to trace somebody else, Lawrence's younger brother Joe.
He lives in Montana, America, and has agreed to speak to me.
The question at the heart of Paula's search is to understand where she comes from.
So what can her uncle tell us about her birth father and their roots?
Joe knew his brother by the name his family used, John.
It's so nice to see you, Joe, how are you?
I'm just fine, thank you.
Well, it's sad that Paula won't be able to speak to John.
What was he like?
He was a good brother to all of us.
He took care of all of us.
He had a great sense of humor.
He was always ready to tease somebody about something.
Did you know anything about Paula?
Or has this come completely out of the blue?
It's completely out of the blue.
It surprised all of us and we didn't expect it, but we're all excited to have a new niece.
Do you think John would have known about Paula?
And I wonder what he would have thought about this.
I think he would have been excited to meet her, but I don't believe he was aware of Paula.
It seems to me that he would have tried to make an effort to find her himself if he was aware of her.
And for her, of course, she's always wondered about her roots.
Well, she's Native American.
-That's gonna be amazing for her to find out.
-It is.
We're very proud to be Native American.
I have a photo of her father if you'd like to see that, of John?
This is his high-school graduation picture.
Goodness!
[Joe] He was a real good-looking young man.
John's dad was Comanche, but me and my other siblings, we're all Chippewa.
-So, yeah, she is definitely part of the Comanche tribe.
-Gosh, how fascinating.
This would be George, Paula's grandfather, in his pow-wow attire.
Wow!
That is Paula's grandfather?
-Yes.
-Wow!
Yeah, she needs to see these.
She needs to see those, all right, they're fantastic!
Oh, wow!
Let me show you one of Paula.
[Joe] She very well looks Native American.
Very much.
It'll be real nice to meet her.
I'm just curious about her life.
Does she have a family?
She lives in a small beach town in Scotland called Cullen.
She had a very happy adoption.
And, um, she's married to Euan, they have a son Kyle.
Oh, wow!
Yes.
That's incredible.
He looks to me like he's straight off the reservation.
Looks like John, his grandfather.
That's amazing.
So how many other siblings did John have?
We have another brother and two sisters.
And we all live here in northwest Montana.
This would have been us five kids back in the mid-'50s.
My sister Mary-Louise, and there's me and my sister, Nancy-Jo, and my brother Richard, and John.
Where are your siblings?
Where is everyone?
I have my sister Mary-Louise in the room right now.
-Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-This is amazing this, isn't it?
-It is amazing.
We're all very excited about the whole thing.
You know, we are... we're all a close family, so we always welcome more into the family.
It's so sad for Paula that she won't be able to meet John.
Yeah.
We miss him.
We miss him, you know.
Now that we've found Paula, we've got a part of him back.
That's kind of neat.
The niece that we didn't know we had.
Oh, that's so good.
[Nancy-Jo] Isn't that something?
Isn't she pretty?
Yeah, yeah.
I love her brown eyes.
-[Richard] This is John's daughter.
-Yeah.
-In all these years.
-You're not kidding!
Isn't this amazing?
Crazy.
Crazy, crazy.
-I can't wait.
-Yeah.
[Davina] But before we give Paula the news... the woman in our next story is searching for the lost sister she's never met but has always longed for.
[woman] Being brought up as an only child is a very lonely thing.
And I always craved a sibling.
It's a feeling that's deep inside that you're on your own.
Come on, you can flip.
Go on.
Let's see your flipping skills.
Oh, I can't do this.
[laughing] Fifty-three-year-old Lisa Harding lives with her partner Phil and daughter Lea.
-That's yours!
-I'll let you have that one!
That's yours.
That's Grandma.
She looks so prim and proper, doesn't she?
Like a ballerina.
How old was she there?
I think maybe 22, 23.
Lisa's own parents were divorced and she was raised by her mother Moyra.
You look like her so much.
-You think that's your favorite?
-Mm-hmm.
She was a hairdresser, so I think every day she had a different hairstyle.
She was just the best person I've ever had in my life.
But she spent time with you, didn't she?
-Yeah.
-Yeah.
That was the most important thing.
[Lisa] My mum was on her own, so she always felt she had to be the mum and the dad.
She was a hairdresser by day, taxi driver by night.
Very busy.
So growing up I did feel lonely.
I really was on my own, and that's why I thought, oh, if I had a sister, we could snuggle up in bed and share secrets.
It was always a sister that I wanted, to make things better.
[Davina] For the first 15 years of her life, Lisa believed she was an only child, until one day her mother confided in her.
We were having a heart-to-heart chat, and my mum said that at the age of 20, she'd been pregnant and she'd had a baby girl who she'd named Alexandra.
She was unmarried, and it wasn't the done thing to be a single mother in those days.
So at four weeks old, she gave her up to adoption, and she'd regretted it ever since.
It does sort of take your breath away to think, "Oooh, wow, I actually have a sister.
I'm not an only child."
It... changes your life.
-Hi.
Can I have a hot chocolate, please?
-Course you can.
[Davina] Because the subject was painful for her mother Moyra, they didn't speak about it again until Moyra was dying of cancer.
Lovely.
Thanks very much.
She just kept saying over and over how she wished she'd had two, two children, two girls to bring up.
She told me she started a search for Alexandra.
She tried to look for her.
It was my mum's dying wish for me to find Alexandra.
She was loved and wanted.
And...
I want her to know that.
Lisa had applied for her sister Alexandra's birth certificate, but she'd never been able to find out her new adoptive name.
So we used adoption specialists who discovered it had been changed to Lily Drummond.
We found a marriage record for a Lily Alexandra Drummond living in the northeast of England.
Was the middle name a clue?
Lily replied to our letter confirming her middle name Alexandra was her birth name.
We'd found the right woman.
Lily's only recently returned to her hometown after working abroad for many years.
She's widowed and has two step-children.
Lisa has lived her whole life with a sense of something missing and has always wanted a sibling.
But how will Lily feel?
And what does it mean to her to have the chance of meeting her younger sister?
We arranged to meet at a local pub.
-Hi.
-Hello.
[laughs] -How are you?
-I'm good.
You?
-Thanks for seeing me.
-Thanks for having me.
How did you feel when you found out that your sister was looking for you?
It was an absolute shock.
I've always said it, I know everybody says it, it's a cliché, that I would love to have a sister, but I always said it, you know, and it's, it's amazing.
I'm sorry we had to tell you that your birth mother... -Yeah.
That is sad.
-...is not with us anymore.
Yeah, that's sad.
It's a regret.
-You never searched?
-No.
Never did.
'Cause there's always that rejection that you think, "She didn't want me."
She did want you.
It was a matter of huge sadness in her life.
-Yeah.
-And something that she always regretted.
Wow!
That's terrible.
For her.
It's terrible.
It's very sad.
Did Lisa eventually talk to Moyra about it, then?
So Lisa found out about you when she was a teenager.
She always wanted to have a sister, but at that point, it was just too painful for Moyra to talk about in any detail.
Well, it's understandable.
She had a longer conversation just before your mother died of cancer, and what she also found out then, which I think will be important to you, is that your mother really felt the pain of it all her life and had tried to find you.
Must have been so bad.
I'm glad she looked for me.
I'm glad.
'Cause there's always that rejection that you think.
And that's probably, now when I think about it, why I didn't go looking.
I never, ever thought that my mother was looking for me.
It makes it better.
Would you like to see a picture of your birth mother?
-Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
-Yeah?
Wow!
She looks very, very pretty.
She was lovely.
I mean, it's my mother, I can tell.
And I've got a sister.
-A sister who... -Who always wanted a sister.
-We should get on!
-[laughing] I wonder if Lisa looks like me?
The red hair must come from somewhere.
[Nicky] Got a photo.
Oh, my God!
We've got the same nose.
Same eyes.
Yep.
Definitely look alike.
Yep.
Definitely sisters.
Yep.
-She's written you a letter.
-Thank you.
"Dear Alexandra, I'm longing to meet you face-to-face to tell you that you were a wanted baby and that our mum fought throughout her pregnancy to keep you."
Oh, God!
"It broke her heart.
And when Mum was sick, she told me how she had thought about you every day and how she tried to look for you.
I hope we can meet and start a few new chapters and a new life together.
Love, your little sister.
Lisa."
Oh!
What a shame.
But we'll make up for lost time, it'll be just good.
Can't wait to meet her.
Paula Stillie is determined to know where she comes from in the world, and using DNA, we've traced her birth father.
Sadly, he died in 1982.
Paula won't ever be able to meet her birth father, but I can tell her something that I know she's really longing to find out, that her father was Native American, and all her uncles and aunts can't wait to welcome her into the family and tell her all about their heritage.
We've told Paula the news of her birth father's death away from the cameras.
[doorbell rings] -Hey, Paula.
-Hi, Davina.
Hi.
-Would you like to come in?
-Yes, please.
Thanks.
Thanks so much for talking to me today.
-Okay.
-I'm really sorry that we couldn't bring you happier news about your father.
It was sad.
Yeah, it was sad to think that I'm never gonna meet him.
For so many years I haven't known any information about him whatsoever.
I just want to tell you that it's not the end.
Because we've found your father's siblings.
Really?
Wow!
I don't know what to say to that.
He was the oldest of five.
And we are in touch with his brother Joe.
Joe.
They are all so excited to hear about you.
Okay.
Right.
Yeah.
They didn't know.
And they don't think he knew.
I was gonna ask, did he know?
So it must have been quite a shock for them.
-But a happy shock.
-Okay.
And your birth father's name was Lawrence, but everybody knew him as John.
He's John?
It's...
It's making him real.
They talk about how brilliant he was.
He was the life and soul of the party and quite an athlete as well.
Oh, it's just...
I can't quite take it all in.
So to find out that he has a child, you know, that he lives on in you.
That I'm here.
It's incredible.
[laughs] I know a huge part of your childhood in growing up was about your ethnicity and where you're from.
Yeah.
I mean, that's been massive for me.
Just always not knowing.
He was Native American.
Really?
That's incredible.
That's incredible, it really is.
I've got some photos.
Oh, have you?
Oh, okay.
This is your birth father.
Oh!
Oh, my goodness!
My son looks like him.
Kyle looks like him.
Wow!
He is a very handsome man.
That is just so special.
I can't stop looking at him.
So your birth father's father was an elder in the Comanche tribe.
-What?!
-Yeah.
Oh, my God, that is incredible.
I cannot believe that.
So this is your grandfather George in full ceremonial gear.
Well, what can you say to that?
That is incredible.
I'm related.
Oh, I can't believe that.
That is just... that's mind blowing!
It really is.
I've also got a picture of your Uncle Joe.
Joe.
Uncle Joe.
Oh, Uncle Joe, hi.
He looks like a cheery chap.
He looks...
He looks really kind.
And here's a few words from Joe.
Thank you.
"Hi, Paula.
We're all excited to meet you and so happy to have another niece as part of our family.
You would have loved your father, John.
He was a sweet, intelligent man and fun to be with.
He had an adventurous nature and liked to tease.
We are looking forward to meeting you face-to-face, and until then, take care.
Uncle Joe."
Oh, wow!
It's life changing, this, just the feeling of belonging.
To me that's... You know, I know where I come from now.
That means the world to me in my heart.
It's that sense of contentment.
Thank you so much.
[Paula] So this is John, my birth father.
It's unbelievable.
[Paula] I'm shaking.
[laughs] -That's Kyle.
-[Euan] It is.
You've got his eyebrows, definitely.
-[Euan] That's crazy.
-[Paula] He's a handsome man, isn't he?
-Thank you.
-[laughter] So I'm Native American.
So you've got Native American in you as well.
I'm blown away.
Absolutely blown away.
-Yeah.
-Oh, just unbelievable.
[Kyle] I'm happy for you.
Very happy for you.
After a lifetime of searching, today Paula will see her Native American aunts and uncles.
[Paula] I can't believe it at all.
It's just like wow, this whole new door has opened in my life and who knows what I'm gonna find out?
I mean, it's massive.
Oh, I've got butterflies thinking about it.
As I'm sure they are as well.
Four thousand miles away, Paula's Uncle Joe and his siblings are preparing for their first video call with their new niece.
[Joe] John is very much in our thoughts, and getting to meet Paula is kind of bringing John back into our family.
[Mary-Louise] I cannot believe it.
It just kind of almost completes the cycle.
I mean, you know, here we have someone that we never knew all these years and now she's coming into our life, you know?
It's exciting.
-Oh, good morning.
-Howdy, little brother.
-Can I come in?
-Yes, absolutely.
-Thank you.
-Joe, Joe, Joe.
Little chilly outside.
Good to see you.
I know you're nervous, but we're right here with you.
-Good luck.
-Thanks, dear.
I love you.
[Paula] I'm excited to meet them and hear all about my birth father's life and about their lives as well.
Phew!
-[Mary-Louise] There she is.
-There's Paula.
-Amazing.
-Oh, wow!
Hi, Paula?
How are you?
-Oh, wow!
Hi!
-Wow!
How are you?
We are fine, how are you?
I'm good, thanks.
I'm really good.
Yeah, this is so cool.
I bet you got a real surprise, did you?
-Totally.
-But it was a pleasant surprise.
-A joyous thing.
-It was...
It was so amazing that John was your dad.
I don't know, I just could not get over it.
So can you tell me more about him?
He had a long Navy career.
[Mary-Louise] He was in the Navy for 20 years or more.
Very smart.
Wow!
He sailed around the world, basically.
-Yeah.
-And he loved to sing.
He was a good singer and a great dancer.
Okay.
I can dance.
[laughs] I may not be a great dancer, but I love dancing.
And he had a great sense of humor.
He sounds like a lovely man.
[Paula] I'm absolutely elated.
I mean, it's just incredible seeing them face-to-face.
It was really lovely the way they spoke about my birth father.
Just a lot of love there.
I think John would have been very excited to meet his daughter.
I know that he would have loved it.
To find out that my birth father was Native American, I mean, that's just incredible to me.
-Yeah, that's great.
-That's great.
Now you have answers.
I feel it was meant to be and I just can't...
I can't describe how happy I am.
I belong somewhere.
Yeah, that is something to be proud of.
Would you like to meet Kyle and Euan?
-Oh, yes, yes.
-He's the picture of John.
-He looks just like John.
-I know.
I know.
I couldn't believe it.
They look so alike.
Just hold on, I'll go and get them.
-Okay.
-Oh, that is so cool, I'm so excited.
-This is Kyle.
-Oh, my gosh!
-Can you see him?
-Can you see us all?
-Hi.
Hi, everybody.
-Nice to meet you.
I'm so excited, this is just more than I can handle.
-So are we.
-Kyle, what do you do?
Done a whole heap of jobs all over the world.
Actually, I think I travelled through Montana.
Yeah, how exciting.
Well, you need to come back again now that you know we're here.
Love to, yeah, absolutely.
You're such beautiful people.
-Oh, thank you!
-And you.
Can't wait to meet everybody.
It's so great to meet you and see you.
I'm so, so happy.
-So happy.
-Take care.
Lovely to meet youse.
-Bye-bye.
-Bye.
-Bye-bye.
-Bye.
I looked at her face and features, and I saw Native American.
That to me was such a wonderful experience.
[Nancy-Jo] Look at that, isn't that cool?
-Isn't it cool?
-It's a great photo.
She's a part of the family and will always be.
[laughing] I couldn't have asked for anything more, you know?
It's really exciting.
[Nancy-Jo] I just couldn't believe that it was John's daughter.
She's family.
I just...
I mean, I love her.
[Paula] I'm desperate to meet them, you know, we all are.
It's the start of a new chapter.
It's gonna be incredible.
Lisa is hoping to find her lost sister to fulfil her mother's dying wish.
[Lisa] It's really important that, you know, we try and find her.
In memory of Grandma.
-Not just for us.
-Yeah.
She brought everyone together.
And if we find her, then Grandma might be looking down on us hopefully and think, "Yeah, they're together."
Okay.
I'm on my way to County Durham to see Lisa.
[phone dialing] -[Lisa] Hello?
-Lisa?
It's Davina.
Hello, Davina.
-I'm just driving through the village.
-Right.
I'll see you soon then.
[exhales sharply] Oh, it gets a bit real, doesn't it?
[Phil] You all right?
-Hmm?
-You take the first steps, and then it's like a little bit more and a little bit more and a little bit more, and you think, "Ooh, am I getting there, am I getting there?"
Lisa had always longed for a sibling to share her life with, and it must have been torturous knowing that she's got a sister out there somewhere that she can't be with.
But now I can tell her, at last, Lily's been found.
-Lisa!
-Oh, hello, Davina.
Hi.
-Welcome.
-Thank you.
-Come on in.
-Thank you very much.
Thank you.
[Lisa] No problem.
And thanks for talking to me.
It's lovely to meet you.
Lovely to meet you too, yes.
Why would you like to find your sister?
Because when I was younger, I would be very lonely.
And I just always wanted a sister to look after me and give me a big hug.
And I want to tell her that, you know, my mum, throughout her pregnancy, fought to keep her.
Mm-hmm.
Well, your sister has been found.
I'm sorry.
Really?
And is she okay?
Oh, my goodness!
My mum's on the shelf!
[Davina] Is that her ashes?
Oh, my God!
I've found her, Mum.
What's her name?
-Lily.
-Lily?
Lily and Lisa?
Did she know about me?
-She didn't know about you.
-She didn't know.
Oh, my God!
She wants to see me?
She really wants to see you.
Oh!
Where does she live?
She lives in Northumberland.
Oh, my God!
Whereabouts?
Berwick-Upon-Tweed.
She's in Berwick?
She's in bloody Berwick!
-And that's not far at all.
-No.
It's not far at all.
-And she had a good upbringing.
-That's brilliant.
But she was really very sad to hear about your mum.
-Mm-hmm.
-And... -Oh, we've missed all this time.
-...that she died.
She was really moved when she found out that your mother had searched for her.
I don't think that's something that had entered her mind.
I'm pleased that she knows that now.
That was a big thing to me, for Lily to know that.
She has given me a photograph of herself to show you.
-Would you like to see it?
-Oh, God, yes, please.
This is your sister.
Oh, my gosh!
She's got the red hair.
My family are all redheads.
Yes.
Oh!
Wow!
It's... it's unreal.
I'm shaking, I am.
It's unbelievable to be sitting here looking at her.
As much as I've wanted it, I didn't know this day would ever come.
Yeah.
She's real.
I don't have to make her up in my head anymore.
It's 38 years since Lisa's mother told her she had a big sister.
And today Lisa finally gets to meet her.
First time we've laid eyes on each other, and I really can't wait.
I feel a few tears of sadness that, you know, Mum's not here today.
But... just happiness.
Right.
I'm off, guys.
-All right, love you.
-Thank you.
-Have fun.
-I will.
-Going to meet your sister.
-I'm going to meet my sister.
The sisters are meeting at a hotel close to where Lily was born.
[Lily] I feel like I'm in a surreal dream at the minute that I'm actually gonna meet a sister.
There's just no describing the feeling.
It's so exciting to think that in a few hours she'll be there.
I can't wait to see her.
[Lisa] I've longed for a sister for so long, all my life, and it's gonna be strange today to actually be able to touch her and to hold her and to give her a hug.
I feel almost as if I'm coming home.
As if somebody's waiting for me.
The sisters have been Covid tested so they can meet safely.
Hello!
-Little sis.
-Big sis!
This is so hard for me.
You've got no idea.
Hello.
Oh, my God!
It's one of the happiest moments of my life.
She hugged me, and it was just what I thought about from being tiny.
My big sister will give me a hug and it would make everything okay.
And it is, it's like I'm home.
I've got what I've wished for.
-Oh, no.
-All good.
It's all right.
It's fine.
Phew!
So do I look like anybody or... -Yeah.
-Yeah.
Yeah, you're definitely one of us.
I think that's got a lot to do with it.
-Oh, the nose, the hair.
-Except you're blondie.
Oh, no, that's to cover the white.
-I was red, then I went white.
-Were you?
Were you?
-Did you have red hair?
-Yeah.
The whole family have got red hair.
[Lily] I'd describe Lisa as being my twin.
[laughs] I can see very many similarities between us.
It was just easy and natural.
I think we're family through and through, it's just perfect.
Ever since I was young, I used to say, "Oh, what it must be like to have a sister!"
It would have been lovely to grow up and be close to each other and... -Be close.
That's exactly what I've always wanted.
-Yeah.
Even before I knew I had a sister.
-Yeah.
-But us being here today... -It's mad.
-It is mad.
It's opened up a floodgate of emotions, and I just know that my mum would be absolutely astounded that we found each other and that we're here together today.
This was taken, oh, my goodness, probably about 1999.
Wow!
Oh, she looks, she looks fun there.
I just wanted her to know that I had a great life with my parents.
She did the best thing.
She did.
And that's... well, she'll never know, it's sad.
She would have just thought all my dreams have come true.
I would have loved to have met her.
But you can tell me loads of things.
-I know.
-We'll finish the story.
We will.
-Hello.
-Hi.
Hello, darling.
-This is Lea.
-Hi, Lea.
This is Phil.
This is your Auntie Lily.
We'll be there... Oh, I wanna cuddle you.
-[Lily] Oh, she's crying.
-[Lisa] I know, but that's good.
-[Lily] Are you happy to see me?
-Yeah.
Good.
I'm happy to see you too.
Auntie Lily.
Do you think we look alike?
-Yes.
-Yes.
Yeah.
It's... -And eyes.
-We've got the same eyes.
Exactly the same eyes.
I'm so happy she came and found me.
I'm so happy.
I feel like I've known her for years.
It's natural, it feels wonderful, and I think this is just going to be the start of something amazing.
-[kisses] -Oh!
I've got a sister!
[laughs] [peaceful music playing]
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