
Episode 6
Season 1 Episode 6 | 44m 38sVideo has Closed Captions
Samantha searches for her father and Carole wants to find her long lost relatives.
Samantha is hoping to find her Caribbean father to help her make sense of her cultural identity. Carole wants to find relatives she has not seen for 50 years.
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Episode 6
Season 1 Episode 6 | 44m 38sVideo has Closed Captions
Samantha is hoping to find her Caribbean father to help her make sense of her cultural identity. Carole wants to find relatives she has not seen for 50 years.
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Learn Moreabout PBS online sponsorship[Davina] For thousands of people across Britain, someone is missing from their lives.
He may not even know that he has a sister who's missing.
[woman] To think that she didn't want to see me, wasn't interested, would be heartbreaking, absolutely heartbreaking for me.
[man] The major mystery for me is, who is he, where is he, and what did he turn into?
[keying] But all too often, years of searching lead nowhere.
Well, this is the series that steps in to help, offering a last chance to people desperate to find long lost family.
They found her!
[screaming, laughing] I've always known that you were going to come and find us.
-Always.
-I've been trying for years.
Your son has been found.
Oh, wow!
Our searches have uncovered family secrets and taken us all over the world, finding people that no one else has been able to trace.
Two walks in a park, two different families.
-Yeah.
-And one incredible story.
[Davina] And finally, answering the questions that have haunted entire lives.
I don't know if you can understand what that means.
[clicks tongue] It's fantastic, fantastic.
[Davina] This week two women who grew up without their father's love, following bitter divorces.
Because my dad wasn't there, I felt angry that he wasn't there and thought I must have done something wrong, and I didn't know why.
[woman] I'm hoping that I just have this person that I've been longing for and wanting to be part of my life, even if it's just a phone call, even if it's just for five minutes, I just want to see my dad.
[dramatic music playing] [peaceful music playing] [Davina] Our first case starts here in the valleys of South Wales, where we were contacted by a woman who is desperate to find a whole side of her family that she's never known.
-[man] Here, you have this seat here.
-[woman] Here you are, babe.
[Davina] Carol Davies has recently retired and her large family mean everything to her.
-[woman] Going on holidays next week as well, yeah.
-Where are you going?
Uh... Pontins.
-[women gasp] -Will you take me away in your suitcase?
-[boy] No.
-Oh!
-[family laughing] -Please?
[Davina] She and her second husband Des have seven children, 18 grandchildren and six great grandchildren between them.
-[woman] Oh!
-Oh, that's brilliant!
It's a far cry from her own childhood.
[Carol] I didn't have any brothers and sisters.
I didn't have a father figure, it was all... my mum, my gran, and that was it.
[contemplative music playing] Carol grew up an only child in Cardiff in the 1950s.
[Carol] Growing up without my dad was quite a lonely time.
Everybody else seemed to have a dad.
That was quite upsetting because I felt as if I was missing out on an awful lot.
Carol's parents divorced when she was still a baby.
Back then divorce carried a huge stigma and was incredibly rare compared to today.
[Carol] A taboo thing to talk about, and when I did ask questions, it was, "Oh, it was a bad marriage, we didn't get on very well."
My mum was a bit anti-men in the end, I think, because of such a bad... bad marriage.
But never bothered with anybody ever again.
I was very curious, I wanted to know an awful lot about him, but because I loved my mum and I respected her so much, I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I just kept it inside.
The only thing Carol was told was that her father, Gerald Thomas, had remarried and gone to live in London, and as far as she knows, he never had any contact with her mother again.
Because my dad wasn't there, I felt angry.
I felt he could really have got in touch with me and sent me birthday cards, that sort of thing, but he never did.
Then one day when Carol was 14, her mother made a surprise announcement.
She just said to me, "your dad's coming today, wants to take you out."
I think I was so excited, it was all sort of jumbled up that I can't remember how he did.
He just came to the door and he said, "I'm your dad."
And I said, "Yes, I know."
And this wasn't the only surprise.
Carol's dad also had two young children with him.
[Carol] I didn't know he had any children until that day, and then I found out I had a brother and sister.
They were called Keith and Lynn, and their father took all three of them for a day out to Roath Park in Cardiff.
[Carol] We went in the rowing boat and we were all rowing together.
To know I had a brother and sister was amazing, because I thought, "Oh, gosh, I've got brothers and sisters like other people have got brothers and sisters.
I'm not just an only child, it's lovely."
At the end of a perfect day, Carol's father promised to come and visit her soon.
[Carol] I thought he would call back in a couple of days' time and spend an hour with me and then go back to his house, home, in London.
And I waited and waited and waited, and no sign of him.
Carol's father never came or contacted her again.
That day in Roath Park was the first and last time she ever saw either him or her brother and sister.
I was upset for a long time afterwards.
I was very angry and thought I must have done something wrong and I didn't know why.
I felt cheated, I felt hurt, because I had an insight into my brother and sister and then all of a sudden it was taken away from me, it was gone.
It was terrible.
But as much as she wanted to, Carol never felt able to look for the other half of her family while her mother was still alive, fearing the upset it would cause, so her search had to wait until her mother died.
[Carol] As you're getting older, you want to know your past.
Now it seems to be an obsession with me to know them, to try and find out about them.
But then, two years ago, her search sadly revealed that her father died in 2002.
I felt so gutted that I'd left it so late to try and delve into it.
I wish I'd started all this a lot earlier so that I could have met him.
The discovery of her father's death has made finding her siblings all the more important.
I've tried everything to find my brother and sister.
I thought it would be quite an easy thing to find people on the internet now, and I feel devastated, really, that I can't get any further than I have.
I know that you can't make up for 50 years of being separated, but it would be nice to think that I could talk to them and they know me and I know them.
And call them my brother and my sister.
It would be amazing.
Fifty years is such a long time to be searching for a long lost brother and sister.
Carol was able to give us their names, Keith and Lynn Thomas, but beyond that it was a mystery.
[contemplative music playing] Ironically, the one thing we had going for us in this case was the fact that the man at the very heart of it, Carol's father, had died.
That meant there would be a death certificate.
And death certificates provide a wealth of information to the trained eye.
The most obvious thing was to check the address of where Gerald Thomas had been living when he died.
Either a widow or a member of the family could possibly still live in the family home.
But when we wrote to the address, no one had heard of the Thomases.
So, we went back to the death certificate and noticed that the death was recorded by an Olwen Camfield, who was listed as Gerald Thomas's daughter.
Here was a sister that Carol knew absolutely nothing about.
Now we were looking for three people, not just two.
We ran traces on Olwen, Lynn and Keith and drew a blank on Olwen and Lynn, but we found Keith.
Davina takes up the story.
So all her life Carol's thought that she had a brother and sister, and now with the discovery of Olwen, the extra sister...
I don't know, I think it's going to be completely amazing for Carol, three siblings.
And really I suppose I want to ask them, how much did they know about Carol?
And did they remember that day in the park?
I've arranged to meet the three of them at Olwen's flat in Ware, Hertfordshire.
[recording] Please wait, your call is in progress.
-[Olwen] Hello?
-Olwen?
It's Davina.
Hello, Davina.
Come up to the sixth floor.
-Okay, thanks.
-Bye.
-Olwen?
-Hello, yes, Olwen.
-Hi!
-Hi.
-How are you?
-Nice to meet you.
-Lovely to meet you too.
-Okay, like to go in?
-[Davina] Yes, please, thank you.
-[woman] Hi, how are you?
-Lovely to meet you too.
-[Olwen] That's Lynn, as you might have gathered.
-And that's Keith.
-Are you all right?
-How are you?
-All right, thank you.
-You're all right?
-Yes, yes, ta.
Oh, it's quite an excitement, isn't it?
[Olwen] It is, very.
Yes, we're all very excited.
So, Olly, were you aware of Carol's existence when you were younger?
Yes, I was.
Uh, I can remember from a time when I was quite small, probably four or five, posting a letter, and this was the letter that went to Cardiff, and it went every week, and in it was a postal order.
And, inquisitive child that I was, uh, I managed to get it out of Mum that this was a maintenance postal order for my dad's first wife and daughter.
And I seem to have always known her name was Carol, but I knew I had to keep it a secret.
Uh... Again, I don't know why.
It just was seen the natural thing to do, and I didn't tell anybody.
So, Keith, when did you learn about your sister?
I don't remember when I learnt.
I remember just one day going to a park somewhere on a boating lake and we was with this other girl, and it turns out to be Carol, I suppose.
[Davina] And you weren't told at the time?
No, I don't think so.
I can't remember.
-[Davina] How old were you?
-Uh...
I was about 11, I think.
And I remember Dad pointing up to there was a load of houses, and he turned around and said, "Oh, that's where Shirley Bassey lived."
Isn't it funny the things we remember?
Lynn, do you have any memories of Carol as a child?
The only thing I can remember is the day when we went to the park.
I don't remember what Carol looked like, nothing at all.
I can't picture anything about what she was like.
My grandparents never had photos up on the wall of Carol.
Never seen any wedding photos of... or photos of her or... -Isn't that sad, to think that-- -[Lynn] Yeah, you know.
-[Olwen] The thought that she was hidden away.
-[Lynn] Yeah.
And I think she must have felt that, that she was hidden away.
Especially because she lived in Cardiff, where our grandparents lived.
-[Keith] Well, we presume.
-Presume that she lives in Ca-- You know.
[Davina] Well, I can tell you she does.
-[Olwen] She's still in Cardiff?
-She's still in Cardiff.
So Carol was aware that you two were her brother and sister, but she didn't know about you.
I'm not surprised, because I just know that I was deliberately kept away from that day.
Why?
I don't think Mum would have been too happy about the day.
You know, and I just think that's why we never sort of went into it really, because it was part of Dad's life that had happened before, and we weren't to bring it up, you know.
Not that we were ever told that we couldn't bring it up, but it just... -It wasn't the done thing.
-And it was, you know, just not to be, you know, spoke about, really.
[Keith] I feel a bit guilty not finding her to tell her her dad had died now, really.
-Thinking, well, why didn't you tell her, you know?
-Because Mum was still alive.
But it's in the back of your mind still that, why didn't you...?
[Lynn] It all revolved on Mum still being alive.
-Now, I have some photographic... -[Keith laughs] ...proof of what she looks like, so would you like to see it?
[Keith] Yeah.
-Shall I show it to you first?
-[Lynn] Yes!
-Who's right?
-Does she look like me?
[gasps] Oh, my God!
[laughs] [Olwen] She's like you.
Go on, take it.
Oh, dear.
-Ready?
-[Olwen] I've got to be right about the blond then.
-It's amazing, isn't it?
-It's very amazing.
-It's amazing.
-It's very amazing.
It's me.
[Davina] It is.
[Olwen] Obviously she was blond.
[Keith] She's got, like, Dad's nose, but it's straight, because Dad's was broken, it was sort of... -[Lynn] He'd been a boxer.
-Carol's not been boxing.
-Yeah.
-What do you think, Olly?
I...
There's a familiarity.
-[Keith] It's a Thomas.
-[Olwen and Keith] Yeah.
[Davina] So, Carol would really like to meet you guys.
Would you like to meet up with her?
-Yes.
-Yes.
Absolutely, there's absolutely no hesitation.
Yeah, we do, very much.
Our second story starts in the market town of St Neots in Cambridgeshire and a woman who's spent the last ten years trying to find her father.
Twenty-five-year-old Samantha Gregolowicz lives with her husband Pavel and sons Luca and Isaac.
Luca, go and play with Isaac.
And Daddy.
[Samantha] Coming from a broken home, having your own children and seeing how nice it is for them to have their dad around, you know, just being a dad, it makes me really sad that I didn't have that.
[contemplative music playing] [Davina] Sam grew up 30 miles from St Neots in Peterborough.
Everyone in my whole family is white.
I've got two brothers and a sister and they're white.
All my aunties and uncles, all my cousins are all white.
When I have said to my mum about the color difference, she just shrugs it off because she can't understand how it feels.
I'm trying to describe it, I just can't.
I haven't got the words to describe how it feels not fitting in and feeling so different from your whole family, from everything.
Sam's father was called Patrick Lewis.
He married Sam's mum in 1982, and they lived in East London, but three years later, soon after Sam was born, they separated.
[Samantha] I didn't really ask my mum questions until I got older, but when you try asking so many times and, you know, you keep getting put off, and you can see that it makes her uncomfortable, so I don't want to keep pushing her because it's obviously a hard subject for her.
After her parents separated, Sam continued seeing her father.
My dad used to come and collect me at weekends to take me to his house.
I can remember going on the tube with him and I remember we'd sit side by side and he was holding my hand.
I was so young, I can't remember having any feelings, I just remember us holding hands, and I think we were happy.
I was happy.
[peaceful music playing] But when Sam was four and a half, her mum left London for Peterborough.
The relationship between her parents had become increasingly acrimonious.
The last memory Sam has of her father is when he called at their new address.
[Samantha] He'd come over to us, and I remember a big knocking on the door and my mum going to the door and looking out the peephole, and then she took us into the bedroom and she was saying, "Shh, get down on the floor," because she didn't want us to answer the door, and I could hear him calling my name and asking for my mum, and we were just hiding in the bedroom, and then he put a bobble and a hairbrush through the door for me, and that was the last time that I ever heard from him.
Sam's mother eventually remarried and started a new family, but Sam's never forgotten her real father.
[Samantha] It's strange because I have a sense of love for somebody that I don't even know, and it's strange to have that, but it's, maybe it just shows how much that I need him in my life.
Sam first started searching for her father ten years ago when she was just 15, and she's tried everything she knows.
[Samantha] Most people, you can find your birth certificate or a death certificate, but I've never been able to find his.
I've found people with the same name as him but they all come back white or in a different country and not looked like him, and I couldn't seem to find anything with a black man on it.
I know he exists, but he's not there.
He is like a mystery man, he's invisible to everyone, everyone.
He's like somebody that doesn't want to be found maybe.
[children shrieking, laughing] [Samantha] I'm hoping that I just have this person that I've been longing for and wanting to be part of my life, even if it's just a phone call.
Even if it's just for five minutes, I just want to see my dad.
I want to see what he looks like, I want to see if I look like him, if I laugh like him, I just want an opportunity just to see him.
The only hard fact Sam had about her father was his name, Patrick Lewis, and without his date of birth, finding him was never going to be easy as there are thousands of Patrick Lewises in the UK.
Nicky Campbell takes up the story.
[Nicky] Fortunately, Sam was able to give us two bits of biographical information about her father which were to prove crucial in the search: his last known whereabouts in East London and also the fact that he'd had another daughter after he'd split up from Sam's mum.
We started by focusing our search on East London, but also included Essex and Kent, as these are counties that people from this side of London often move out to.
We then eliminated every Patrick Lewis who was either too old, or too young, to be Sam's father.
Even after this, there were more than 20 to choose from.
But we still had Sam's other piece of information, that the Patrick we were looking for had another daughter, roughly four years younger than Sam.
Records show that only one of the Patrick Lewises had a daughter of round about that age.
He was living in Dagenham, Essex.
We'd found Sam's dad.
[intense music playing] Right, that's it.
-Thank you.
-Thank you so much.
Patrick now works as an ambulance driver and lives with his partner Sharon and their two young sons.
-Patrick.
-Hello there, all right?
-Nicky Campbell.
-Hello there, Nicky.
If you'd like to come in, mate.
-Yeah, thank you, how are you?
-After you.
Not too bad.
Thank you very much for having us.
[Patrick] Oh, this is quite good news.
-It's great, isn't it?
-It is.
And if you'd like to follow me, we'll take a seat just through here.
How was it for you when you found out that... Sam was looking for you?
This news is just, oh, it's really exciting.
It's like the last chapter of my life, it's all coming together, it's excellent.
Why did you lose touch?
It was just basically down to not being able to contact or... make an appointment to see her basically.
It was most definitely not from my side and not wanting to see my daughter.
She had actually moved away to Peterborough, and again, I actually went down there and dropped some Christmas presents or flowers and I didn't know whether she was there.
Somebody else answered the door, and I just basically gave them the presents.
She said I weren't allowed to come in, so that was that.
And the next time I went to contact, I actually come down, gone.
And that was a big-- quite a big wrench.
So you remember going around with a present?
-Oh, yeah.
-Was that present a hairbrush and some bobbles?
Yeah, that's it, yeah.
Really good that she remembers that after all that time.
Sorry, it's just... not seeing her for so long is...
I suppose it's worrying because she don't know what... the other parties actually talked about.
-That's not what this is about.
-No, I know, it's just...
This is about-- this isn't about what anyone said.
-No, no.
-This isn't about what anyone did.
-Yeah.
-This is about a blank sheet of paper.
And on the blank sheet of paper, if she's feeling like I'm feeling, it will be ever so good that we can rekindle a relationship with my daughter.
-Do you regret losing touch?
-Oh, very much so.
Very much so.
I suppose I feel a bit of guilt in not actually finding her first.
Within my heart, I think I could have tried harder.
How would you feel about seeing a photograph?
I'd be very happy to see a photograph if you've brought one with you.
That'd make me so happy.
-Are you ready?
-Uh-huh.
[Patrick] Oh.
She looks well.
Thank you.
Do you want this meeting to go ahead?
Oh, yeah, yeah, very much so.
I just can't wait to see her.
[peaceful music playing] [Davina] But before we tell Sam the good news, that her father's been found, I'm off to see Carol in South Wales.
To tell her the fantastic news that we've found Lynn and Keith, her brother and sister, but not only that, that we have discovered another sister called Olly who she was never aware of.
-Hello, I'm Davina.
-Oh, hello.
-Hi.
How are you?
-I'm fine, come on in.
Great.
Well, we have been searching for a long time to try and help you find your brother and sister.
[Carol] Yes.
And I'm here because I have some news.
We've found them.
[gasps] -Really?
-Yeah.
Oh, my gosh.
Do they want to know me?
Do they?
-They do.
-Oh!
Did they remember the day?
-They did.
-Really?
Yeah, they really did, especially Keith.
-So it's Lynn and Keith.
-Yes.
And Lynn doesn't really remember.
-She was little.
-Yes, she was very little.
-Quite tiny.
-Yeah, she was.
Oh, gosh.
-Fancy remembering.
-Yeah.
Would you like to see a photo?
Oh, please, have you got one?
Yes.
Oh, my goodness.
-I look... -Yes.
...similar to them!
[Davina] And there's such a strong family resemblance.
-Isn't there?
-Oh, gosh, yes, yes.
Even to the color of our hair!
It's amazing.
[sniffles] And they are thrilled about you getting in touch.
-Are they?
-Yes.
In our research and, uh... whilst we were uncovering your family history, we also discovered something else.
Something quite big, actually.
Oh?
That you have another sister.
Oh, my Lord!
They have an older sister who wasn't there that day, who stayed with her mother.
She's called Olly.
[sighs] And... she's no longer the oldest sister because of you.
-I'm the oldest sister?
-Yeah.
[Carol] So there's three?
-Three.
-There's three.
Wow!
Have you got a photograph of her?
-I have!
-Oh!
[Davina] And I think she looks exactly like you, but with darker hair.
[Carol] Yeah.
I'm shocked to start with, but thrilled to bits that I've got another sister!
I am just so amazed, after all these years I've found them.
Or you have!
You've done it for me.
[sniffling] Brilliant.
Brilliant.
[Davina] Fifty years ago, 14-year-old Carol Davies met her brother and sister, Keith and Lynn, for the first and last time.
We discovered that Carol also ha d another sister called Olwen who she didn't even know about.
Today they will all meet for the first time.
So, how are you feeling about seeing Carol?
Nervous, really nervous.
At the moment my heart's thumping!
Yeah, my stomach's going up in butterflies.
-Yeah, I just don't know.
-But I really can't wait to see her now.
Oh, I can't wait to see her, but you know, what are you going to say?
Hello?
[laughs] -Oh, there's the sign.
-Yeah, there we go.
-Here we go, into Wales.
-[Keith] "Welcome to Wales."
-Here we are.
-[Lynn] Hooray!
[Olwen] We're here.
[laughing] Olly, this is your last bit of being our eldest sister.
I'm not bothered by that, you know!
Because I am just going to pass-- I've said this dozens of times, I'm just going to pass all of it onto her.
We've now got an older sister.
[contemplative music playing] -You're shaking.
-Yes, I am!
[Davina] How important is this for you?
Oh, it's very important, very important.
This is real.
I've put names to the faces, and then when I found out I had another sister, and then read the letter and what he put on the bottom of it about me being the big sister and them coming, that made me feel very emotional.
I just hope it's all going to be okay, we're going to be very close.
-We're just going to go down here.
-Yep.
[Davina] Carol wants to meet her brother and sisters in Roath Park, where she first met Keith and Lynn over 50 years ago.
-Right, here we are, chaps.
-Right.
Here we are.
[Keith] There's the boating lake.
Look, there's swans on it, like I said.
[Davina] Does this bring back memories?
[Carol] Yes.
A lot of memories.
[Davina] I'm going to leave you here, and your family are just down there, up the stairs, sitting on the bench at the top of the stairs.
So, off you go.
[peaceful music playing] Oh!
[laughter] [Carol] Oh, it's so nice that I can meet you after all these years.
I remember you two, but nothing about you, nothing at all.
I didn't know anything about you until Davina... -Yeah.
-...gave me that photograph.
There's such a lot, it's all up in my head and I can't think.
-We've got plenty of time.
-There's plenty of time now.
We've got another 50 years to spend.
-[laughing] -I can't believe it.
Let's sit down.
Yeah.
That day when we come down here, all I remember is being in the middle of the boating lake and Dad saying that one of those houses up there Shirley Bassey used to live in.
And we didn't even know you were that... we wasn't even told that you were our sister.
And just that we were going out for the day.
You see, I knew your name all along.
I don't know how or when I knew, I just feel like I always did, so from a knowing age of four or five, I knew that you existed.
I was never sort of brought up in conversation or anything?
[Olwen] No.
[Lynn] When mum was still alive, she tried to get hold of us, but we wouldn't have gone through because it would have been too upsetting, you say the same about your mum.
I couldn't have because, you know, out of respect for my mum, I wouldn't have done that.
But there was a lot that I wanted to find out about my other half.
Yeah, you know, you can't really go back on the reasons why, can you?
No, you've got... this is it.
You've got to go forward, haven't you, and look to the future.
-Just that.
-All I thought, what a big party we could have.
-I know, I know.
-With everybody.
[Olwen] As soon as she came walking towards us, it didn't feel like a stranger.
You had a connection.
It was effortless, you know, and... it's so obvious how happy Carol is about all this.
We're so happy for her, I think.
[Carol] Keith now just caught hold of my hand and we were going down to the boat, and he said, "Come on, big sister," and I thought, "Oh, wow, yeah, I am, I am your big sister!"
-Oh, my God, he's quite strong now!
-[Lynn] Yeah!
Mind the ducks.
It was lovely.
It was brilliant, absolutely brilliant.
[Nicky] It's a few days since we found Sam Gregolowicz's dad, Patrick, alive and well in Dagenham.
I've now come to her hometown, St Neots, in Cambridgeshire.
I'm on my way to meet Sam to give her the news that she's been so desperate to hear for 20 years.
I'm going to tell her that we've found her father, and most importantly that he has never forgotten her.
[doorbell rings] -Sam, hi.
-Hi.
Come in.
-Nicky.
How are you?
-Pleased to meet you.
-Really good to see you.
-Thank you.
-Can I come in?
-Yeah, sure, take a seat.
[Nicky] How are you feeling?
Nervous.
I've been trying to find my dad for so long now that...
I've almost given up, and it's important for me because I want to know what it's like to have my real dad in my life and be part of my life and try and catch up on the things that we've missed out on.
Well, um, I do have some news for you.
Okay.
I'm scared!
[laughs] Are you ready to hear it?
Yeah.
We've found your dad.
He's, um... -He's very happy.
-Yeah?
Does he want to see me?
He absolutely wants to see you.
I always hoped that he'd want to see me, and to actually hear it from your mouth that he wants to is just... it's amazing.
[rubbing hands together] -A good day.
-A very good day.
A tearful day, but a very good day.
-Do you want to see a photo?
-Yeah.
A photo?
Yeah.
Wow.
[sniffles] He's brown!
[chuckles] It's nice to see that, a family member, in my hand, a picture.
He's got a big nose like me.
[laughs] Wow.
My dad!
[Nicky] Your dad's written you a letter.
-Yeah?
-Hm.
"Hi, Samantha.
I hope you feel as I do that our meeting is long overdue.
I have fond memories of you as a child and wish that we could have had more time together.
I think of you all the time, wondering how you are, and it will be so wonderful to meet you and speak to you again.
I know you must have many questions for me as I do too, and I hope that we can find time for each other as I would like that very much.
I have tried looking for you over the years and never forgotten you.
I miss you very much and I hope you feel the same way.
I'm so glad this has finally happened and I can't wait to meet you face to face.
Love, Dad."
-Isn't that great?
-Yeah.
-[Nicky chuckles] -[Samantha sniffles, sighs] I've never had so much happiness and so much good things come my way in ages, and to have this, you know, that you found him and he wants to see me, and I've got more family, is just amazing.
Misha, they found my dad.
He drives ambulances.
I've got two brothers and one of which is at university.
-[Pavel] That's unbelievable.
-[child coos] -They want to see me.
-When?
I don't know, soon!
-Granddad.
-[Samantha and Pavel] Yes!
[Pavel] I'm so happy for you.
[Nicky] The last time Sam Gregolowicz saw her father Patrick she was just six years old.
-[Pavel] Which one do you think?
-I like the red.
[Pavel] Yeah, it looks good.
Yeah, it will be nice with the jeans.
[Samantha] Yeah, okay, I'll do that then.
Today they'll meet for the first time in 20 years.
Come on, monkey.
-Yeah, it looks nice.
-Yeah?
Sure?
[Pavel] Yeah.
[Samantha] I've been counting down the days but not thinking too much about what it's going to be like, I just want it to be how it is, rather than giving myself scenarios and just feeling weird about it.
I'd rather just take it as it comes, and then when it happens, it happens.
[Patrick] It feels like I'm going to meet my little girl, but in reality she's a mature woman now, she's got kids.
As much as I want to involve myself with her life, I don't know what her life's all about, but I feel within my heart it's going to be a really good reunion.
And I'm hoping it's going to be one that lasts.
[doorbell rings] [door opens] -Hi.
-Hello.
-Oh, you look great.
-Thank you.
Hi, Pavel.
Hi, Luca.
How you doing?
-Hi.
-Bye.
-[Pavel] Bye.
-[Nicky] Car's just around here.
-So how are you?
-[Samantha] Very nervous.
Twenty years it's been since I've last seen him, and I've always wanted to see him, and now it's here, I can't believe it.
I was less nervous on my wedding day.
When I met my birth mother, it was the most scared I have ever been in my life.
It's just that not knowing and will they like me?
[Nicky] How can-- What's not to like for a start?
But he's got his own family, you know.
I don't want to feel like I'm just trying to rush in there.
[Nicky] I'm telling you, it's going to be fine!
Sam's arranged to meet her father close to her home in St Neots.
-[Samantha] Panicking!
-[Nicky] That's all right, because once you see him, it'll be fine, I promise you.
It'll be really good.
[Samantha] I don't have to go over the bridge on my own, do I?
I don't think I'll be able to do it.
Do you mind walking with me?
I'm just nervous.
I don't know what's at the other side, so I'm just... [Nicky] Okay, I'll come with you.
Thank you.
[exhaling sharply] [Nicky] Okay.
Go see your dad.
[Samantha] Okay, oh, God.
[Patrick] Oh, bless.
Come here, Sam.
Oh, don't worry.
Oh, so sorry it's taken so long.
It's okay, you'll be all right.
You ain't going to lose me again.
You okay?
-You okay?
-Yeah.
-Are you all right?
-Yeah.
[Patrick] Yeah?
-Do you want to sit down?
-Okay.
[Patrick] Oh.
[Samantha] Are you cold or nervous?
-[Patrick] Bit of both!
-[laughing] Come here.
Oh.
[Samantha] This is so strange!
Oh, strange, but it's been a long time overdue.
-Uh... -I just don't know what to say, I'm a bit shocked, like, just blown away by everything, so I feel a bit strange.
I know, it's going to take a while, it's strange for me too.
-But nice.
-I'm glad you wanted to see me.
-Yeah, yeah.
-I was always scared that you didn't want me.
Oh, no, no chance.
Oh, finally you'll meet the rest of the family.
-Yeah.
-You won't believe how much you get talked about.
-Yeah?
[laughs] -Yeah, yeah, never was a secret.
-Good.
-There's always a place in my heart and always will be, as my firstborn.
[laughs] Twenty-five years ago.
Even though it's been a long time, but it means so much to me that we are getting back together as a family.
It does mean a lot to me, probably more than what you think.
But I think you can see that now, it makes me feel complete in a way, so to speak.
Me too.
It was like the area of my life that it was just not there.
Yeah, it's like something you can see but you can't touch and... but now it's all, as they say, it's all gravy!
-Yes!
-[both laughing] [Samantha] Just having his arms around me just made me feel just wonderful, like all the questions that I had about if he cared, if he thought about me, just from that hug I could tell that I was always in his mind.
I've been searching for my dad since I was the age of 15, and to finally have this day here has just meant everything for me.
It's been the most important, scariest, overwhelming experience of my life and I'm just so happy that it's happened.
[contemplative music playing]
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