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♫♫ >>> WHAT´S UP, EVERYBODY.

THANK YOU FOR TUNING IN TO ANOTHER EPISODE OF THE WELCOME MAT.

RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER A PERFECT TIME TO SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT FATHERHOOD AND LIFE.

SO, WELCOME TO THE COUCH.

MY FATHER.

ANDREW DOUGLAS.

AND MY FATHER-IN-LAW.

HOW YOU DOING?

>> DOING GOOD.

>> FEELING ALL RIGHT?

SO HOW MUCH YEARS OF FATHERING YOU HAD IN YOU?

>> I THINK ABOUT 40.

42.

>> SO 42 YEARS AND YOU HAVE.

>> ABOUT 35.

YOU SURE?

YOU MIGHT HAVE ONE YOU´RE NOT SURE ABOUT.

>> I´M SURE.

>> I HAVE TWO.

I I´M CATCHING UP.

WE HAVE ABOUT OVER 70 YEARS OF FATHERING ON TODAY.

FATHERS LIKE MOTHERS ARE PILLARS IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF A CHILD EMOTIONAL WELL BEING.

WE MOST AUFB LOOK AT FATHERS TO LAY DOWN RULES AND ENFORCEMENT FOR THEM WHILE ALSO PROVIDING A FEEL OF SECURITY.

BOTH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL.

THE ROLE OF FATHERS HAVE BEEN CHANGING LONG BEFORE MODERN DAY.

INVOLVEMENT OF DADS INCREASE DS DRAMATICALLY OVER THE PAST SEVERAL DECADES.

THE ROLE OF FATHERS IN FAMILIES EVOLVED FROM FATHERS DISTANT BREADWINNERS TO EQUAL COPARENTS.

A GROWING INTEREST AMONG STUDYING ROLE OF FATHERS PLAYING IN THE LIVES OF CHILDREN.

SO, AS WE TALK ABOUT FATHERHOOD, I START OFF WITH YOU DADDY, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IS THE BEST THING ABOUT BEING A FATHER?

>> FOR ME, THE BEST THING IS JUST WATCHING YOUR CHILDREN GROW.

WATCH THEM EVOLVE FROM A BIB TO WATCH THEM GROW AND SPEND TIME WITH THEM.

>> LIKE RECENTLY WE HAVE BEEN HAVING MORE MANLY CONVERSATIONS.

>> TELL ME ABOUT IT.

>> IT´S DIFFERENT FROM WHEN YOU SMILE AND RUN AROUND.

>> I THINK MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A FATHER IS MORE SEEING THE DEVELOPMENT OF YOUR CHILDREN.

IN THE COMMUNITY.

WHAT THE CONTRIBUTE TO SOCIETY AND BRINGING IN GREAT GRAND KIDS IN THIS WORLD.

>> YOU ARE GRANDPARENTS AS WELL.

YOU HAVE THREE.

>> I HAVE FIVE.

>> WAIT A MINUTE.

>> YOU ARE AHEAD OF HIM IN PARENTING.

AND GRANDPARENTING.

HIS TRAIN IS BUSIER THAN YOURS.

AS FAR AS HAVING GRANDCHILDREN, I KNOW YOU PROBABLY SPOIL THEM.

WHAT´S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING A GRAND DAD AND A DAD?

>> BEING A GRAND DAD IS A SPECIAL FEELING.

SOMETHING THAT MOST ESPECIALLY MEN DON´T GET TO EXPERIENCE FOR WHATEVER REASON.

WHEN YOU GET THAT GRANDCHILD, THAT OTHER GENERATION COMING YOUR HANDS, THAT´S A TOTALLY DIFFERENT E EXPERIENCE.

AND GIVES AN OPPORTUNITY TO PAY BACK MY CHILDREN.

I CAN SPOIL MY GRANDCHILDREN AND TAKE THEM BACK AND SAY HERE, TAKE THEM.

>> DADDY, I NOTICE FOR SURE, I KNOW YOU WANT TO SEE ISSA EVERY DAY.

>> OH YES.

EVERY DAY.

I CAN´T GET TO SEE HER EVERY DAY.

I´LL TAKE WHAT I CAN GET.

>> YOU HAVE ALL BOYS.

YOU HAVE A LITTLE GIRL IN THE MIX.

OBVIOUSLY MY WIFE.

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RAISING BOYS AND GIRLS?

>> IF THERE´S ANY.

>> TOTALLY DIFFERENT.

MY OLDEST SON OBVIOUSLY WAS FIRST.

AND MY DAUGHTER.

MY YOUNGEST SON MILES.

HOWEVER, FROM A FATHER´S PERSPECTIVE FROM A MAN´S PERSPECTIVE, HAVING A GIRL IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT FEEL.

IT´S A DIFFERENT DYNAMIC.

ESPECIALLY IN THE COMMUNITY WHERE YOU WANT TO PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER ESPECIALLY.

YOU WANT TO PROTECT YOUR SON AS WELL.

BUT THE BOYS COME WITH THAT LITTLE ANIMAL INSTINCT.

THE DAUGHTERS ARE MORE DELICATE.

>> YOU DON´T KNOW THIS RIGHT.

I WENT TO SAINT CROIX.

SHE PICKED ME UP FROM THE AIRPORT.

>> HANDSOME GUY, SMART.

FALL IN LOVE WITH ME.

I GET BACK TO THE HOUSE AND I´M READING THE NEWSPAPER.

I SAID GOOD AFTERNOON.

HE´S LIKE HMM.

GRILLING ME HARD.

AND MADE CONVERSATION AND HE´S TALKING TO EVERYBODY ELSE IN THE ROOM BUT ME.

HE DIDN´T KNOW.

TRY TO SEE IF I´LL PASS THE TEST.

>> OBVIOUSLY IT´S SOMETHING THAT I SAID I´M GOING TO DO ANY YOUNG MAN COME TO MEET MY DAUGHTER, THAT´S MY ONLY DAUGHTER.

YOU HAVE TO COME RIGHT.

HE DID COME RIGHT.

I MUST SAY.

>> IF YOU LOOK AT HIM IN HIS EYES YOU CAN TELL.

HE´S A RIGHTEOUS MAN.

>> I STARTED GETTING THE INFORMATION AND WHO HE WAS.

I SAID OKAY, YOU´RE COOL.

IT WAS ALL GOOD.

>> WE HAD A GREAT -- SOMETHING THAT HE´S GOING TO PASS ON.

I´M SURE.

>> I FEEL LIKE -- I DON´T WANT TO DISAGREE.

I NEVER HAD A SON.

I FEEL AS THOUGH I KIND OF WANT TO GIVE MY DAUGHTER THE SAME SPACE THAT A BOY WOULD HAVE.

PROTECT HER AND PROTECT YOUR SON TOO.

BUT I WANT TO GIVE WHOEVER SHE BRING HOME.

>> WHEN THE YOUNG MAN COMES WITH HIS PANTS HANGING DOWN.

AND ALL THAT STUFF.

>> THE THING IS -- >> SPLIF IN HIS EAR.

>> I WILL WANT TO MAKE IT -- I UNDERSTAND.

I DON´T WANT TO MAKE IT SO SHE DOESN´T FEEL COMFORTABLE INTRODUCING ME TO WHOEVER SHE DEEMS WHO IS WANTING TO BRING HOME.

>> SOMETHING THAT MIGHT SURPRISE YOU, YOU WERE NOT THE FIRST.

COUNT YOURSELF BLESSED.

THE OTHERS WERE -- ON THE WAYSIDE.

>> BACK ON THE BUS.

>> I WANT TO ASK YOU WHO WAS THE BIGGEST INFLUENCE ON YOU AS A FATHER?

>> ACTUALLY, MY BIGGEST INFLUENCE WAS MY STEPFATHER.

HE RAISED ALL BOYS.

JUST LIKE ME.

I HAVE THREE BROTHERS.

>> YOU HAVE TO SNEAK A BOY IN.

NEXT ONE.

ONE GIRL AND ONE BOY.

>> ANYWAY.

>> YOU SAID ONE.

I COUNTED FIVE.

>> SIX IS WHAT BASICALLY -- REMEMBER.

>> ALL RIGHT.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR STEPFATHER.

>> HE WAS A WONDERFUL STEPFATHER.

HE RAISED ME JUST LIKE ONE OF HIS CHILDREN.

AND HE THERE´S A D THERE´S NOT TOO MUCH THINGS THAT NEVER REALLY DID FOR ME.

HE´S LIKE.

>> THAT´S SOMETHING SPEAKING AS YOUR SON, I KNOW FOR SURE AT LEAST I FEEL LIKE I HAVE IS YOUR GENEROSITY.

AND IF IT WAS THAT CASE WHERE YOUR STEPFATHER KIND OF SHOWS YOU WHOEVER LIVES IN THIS HOUSE IS MY CHILDREN.

I FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A SUPER GIVING PERSON.

AND THAT´S SOMETHING THAT I COULD SEE I GET FROM YOU.

I PROBABLY GIVE TOO MUCH.

>> THAT´S IT STEMS FROM MY MOTHER.

STEPFATHER.

WE ARE VERY GIVING PEOPLE.

IF SOMEBODY NEEDS AND WE HAVE, WE GIVE.

>> FOR SURE.

>> HOT SAUCE.

>> YOU WEREN´T RAISED BY YOUR BY-LOGICAL FATHER.

HOW DID THAT SET THE TONE FOR HOW YOU BECAME A FATHER?

>> I WAS RAISED ACTUALLY BY MY GRANDFATHER.

HE WAS A CONTRACTOR.

THE SKILLS HE TAUGHT ME WERE VERY VALUABLE.

AS THE YEARS GO BY.

HE ALSO TAUGHT ME RESPONSIBILITY.

AS A FATHER.

HOW TO PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY.

HE WAS ALSO A FISHERMAN.

WHEN HE FISHED HE DIDN´T JUST FISH FOR THE HOUSE.

HE FISHED FOR THE FAMILY.

WHEN HE COMES IN AND CALLS EVERYBODY.

COME GET YOUR CATCH.

SAME THING WITH LIFESTYLE.

LIVESTOCK.

SHARE WITH EVERYBODY IN THE FAMILY.

THAT CONCEPT OF PROVIDING.

YOU HAVE WELL SEEN IT WHEN YOU COME OVER, I USUALLY HAVE THE FAMILY OVER.

TO HAVE A MEAL.

>> RIGHT.

LIKE I MENTIONED FOR BOTH OF YOU, I SEE THE GENEROSITY AND BOTH OF YOU.

THE INSTINCT THAT MAKE IT HAPPEN FOR YOUR FAMILY.

I KNOW SOMETIMES THAT COMES AT THE EXPENSE OF KIND OF BEING THERE EMOTIONALLY.

SO I GUESS MY NEXT QUESTION TO EITHER OF YOU IS DO YOU FEEL LIKE AS YOU BECOME OLDER YOU HAVE GOTTEN A LOT BETTER WITH SPEAKING TO YOUR CHILDREN?

OR DO YOU THINK IT WAS SOMETHING THAT WAS YOU WERE SELL FROM THE BEGINNING.

>> I GOT OLDER, MY CHILDREN GOT OLDER, I LEARNED FROM THEM.

JUST AS MUCH AS THEY LEARN FROM ME.

OUR COMMUNICATION IS GREAT.

BUT THAT IT WAS A VERY REWARDING EXPERIENCE.

TO LEARN FROM THEM ESPECIALLY KNOWING THAT I DIDN´T GROW UP WITH WITH DAD.

ALSO GIVING THEM WHAT I DIDN´T HAVE.

GROWING UP.

I JUST FOCUS AND JUST PROVIDE AND WHAT I DIDN´T GET OR WHAT I WISH I HAD, I GIVE IT TO THEM.

>> RIGHT.

>> THE THING IS WITH I DON´T KNOW ABOUT RAISING GIRLS.

BUT BOYS, WHEN THEY ARE MUCH YOUNGER YOU HAVE TO TALK AT THEM.

UNTIL THEY GET TO AND TALK TO THEM.

WE LIKE -- >> MAN ON MAN TALKING.

AS YOU GET OLDER, YOU REALLY TALK MORE WITH YOUR CHILDREN.

THAN AT THEM.

>> WE´RE ALL SPEAKING AS MEN, DO YOU THINK THAT HOW WAS THE BALANCE BETWEEN YOU JUST KIND OF BEING A MAN AND BEING A FATHER BECAUSE OF COURSE, IT COULD BE SOMETIMES TWO SEPARATE JOBS.

DID YOU FIND THAT IT WAS DIFFICULT TO BALANCE THE TWO JUST KIND OF KEEPING TIME FOR YOURSELF, HAVING TIME FOR YOURSELF, DEVELOPING YOURSELF AND AT THE SAME TIME TRYING TO DEVELOP YOUNG ONES?

>> WELL, RESPONSIBILITY YOU TAKE ON WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN.

AND YOU HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO BALANCE IT.

THAT´S THE WAY I FEEL.

AND I THINK ABOUT IT YOU HAVE TO PROVIDE FOR MY CHILDREN.

THAT BALANCE YOU HAVE TO COME WHETHER I WANT TO OR NOT.

>> IT COMES NATURALLY.

I DIDN´T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THE TRANSITION.

AND MAN, FATHER, WHATNOT.

ONCE I PROVIDE AS A FATHER, YOU HAVE BEEN A MAN ALREADY.

IT TAKES A MAN PROVIDE FOR A FAMILY AND YOUR CHILDREN.

>> I THINK ABOUT SOCIETY NOW.

I THINK MAYBE A GENERATION BEFORE, ABSENT FATHERS.

THEY THINK PEOPLE MY AGE AND SEE A LOT OF THEM IN THE COMMUNITY.

JUST KIND OF BEING OUT.

THESE ARE MY CHILDREN.

AND THIS IS MY FAMILY AND SUCH AND SUCH.

DO YOU GUYS THINK THAT IT WAS MORE DIFFICULT TO BE A PARENT WHEN YOU WERE STARTING?

OR THINK IT´S MORE DIFFICULT TO BE A PARENT NOW.

>> I THINK IT´S EASIER TO BE A PARENT NOW.

WHEN YOU WATCH YOUNG MEN, YOUNG WOMEN WITH THE CHILDREN.

WAY BACK WHEN I WAS MY FATHER WAS -- I NEVER HAD THAT.

LET´S SAY IT I FEEL GOOD JUST WATCHING YOU WITH ISSA AND YOUNG MEN WITH CHILDREN AND PUSHING THEM IN THE STROLLER.

YOU DON´T SEE THAT.

I´M AN OLD GUY.

>> SO WHAT ABOUT YOU?

PARENTS AND EASIER THAN PARENTING NOW?

>> TO ME PERSONALLY, IT´S A LITTLE MORE TOUGHER THESE DAYS.

COST OF LIVING IS HIGHER.

CHILD CARE AND MORE EXPENSIVE.

SO, A LOT NOW WITH PARENTING.

AND ESPECIALLY BEING A FATHER THAT YOU HAVE TO STEP UP NOW AND AT LEAST DOUBLE WHAT YOU DID.

BACK THEN YOU COULD HAVE IMPROVISED.

GRANDPARENTS AT HOME CAN ASSIST.

TODAY YOU DON´T HAVE THAT.

>> GRANDPARENTS WALK IN AND -- >> THERE´S IT´S DIFFICULTY IN PARENTING TODAY.

>> AT LEAST WE CAN SAY DIFFERENT CHALLENGES.

>> THE ROLE A DAD PLAYS IN A CHILD LIFE CANNOT BE SIMPLY FILLED.

THEY IMPACT A CHILD AND SHAPE THEM INTO THE PERSON THEY BECOME.

ANYONE CAN FATHER A CHILD, BEING A DAD ACTUALLY TAKES A LIFETIME.

RESEARCH SHOWS INVOLVED FATHERHOOD IS LINKED TO BETTER OUT COMES ON NEARLY EVER MEASURE OF COGNITIVE TO SELF-ESTEEM AND DEVELOPMENT.

A STUDY DONE BY THE UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS FOUND THAT CHILDREN WHO GROW UP IN WITHIN INVOLVED FATHERS ARE 39% MORE LIKELY TO EARN MOSTLY As IN SCHOOL.

45% LESS LIKELY TO REPEAT A GRADE AND 60% LESS LIKELY TO BE SUSPENDED OR EXPELLED FROM SCHOOL.

ALSO TWICE AS LIKELY TO GO TO COLLEGE AND FIND STABLE EMPLOYMENT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL.

75% LESS LIKELY TO BECOME A TEEN PARENT.

AND 80% LESS LIKELY TO SPEND TIME IN JAIL.

HAVING BOTH PARENTS ACTIVELY AID IN A CHILD GROWING IS WELL ROUNDED INDIVIDUAL.

MEN AND WOMEN THINK DIFFERENTLY.

HAVING THAT DUAL PERSPECTIVE EXPOSES A CHILD TO PRICELESS LIFE SKILLS THAT CANNOT JUST BE SIMPLY TAUGHT.

POSITIVE FATHERLY ROLE MODELS REINFORCE GOOD BEHAVIOR AND CHOICES WHICH LEADS TO FEWER BEHAVIORAL CHALLENGES AND INCREASE COMPASSION, GENEROSITY AND AWARENESS OF OTHER NEEDS.

THE STEADY SUPPORT OF LOVE, SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT.

IN GROWING UP HEALTHY AND HAPPY.

I WOULD ASK IS THERE ANYTHING THAT YOU KIND OF WISH YOU COULD HAVE ASKED YOUR PARENTS?

OR YOUR GRANDPARENTS OR PEOPLE WHO RAISED YOU THAT YOU NEVER MAYBE HAD AN OPPORTUNITY TO ASK?

>> THAT´S A DIFFICULT QUESTION.

I THINK THAT THAT COMES LOADED.

>> OKAY -- SO LET ME BE SPECIFIC.

IF YOU HAD TO ASK A QUESTION, OR ASK ADVICE ABOUT BEING A PARENT.

THAT YOU WISH YOU HAD.

WHAT WOULD YOU ASK FOR?

MAYBE YOU FOUND YOURSELF IN A DIFFICULT POSITION.

OR MIGHT NOT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO MANEUVER.

LIKE WHAT DID YOU WISH YOU KNOW BEFORE YOU DIDN´T KNOW THAT YOU KNOW YOU NEEDED IT?

>> WHY AM I NOT RICH.

>> JUST FINANCIAL.

YOU HAD THREE.

PLANNED OR NOT.

AS YOU HAD MORE, YOU KIND OF FIGURED THAT THE FINANCES WERE -- >> IT WOULD HAVE BEEN MORE A LOT MORE EASIER FOR ME.

GROWING UP AND THINGS THAT I WOULD HAVE WANTED.

>> WHAT ABOUT YOU?

>> BASICALLY, IF I HAD TO REALLY ASK THEM, I WOULD ASK THEM WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR CHILDREN?

WHAT DO YOU HOW DO YOU TAKE CARE OF THEM?

HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO LIKE REALLY HANDLE FINANCIALLY IF YOU´RE NOT -- >> RIGHT.

>> IF YOU DON´T HAVE FINANCES.

>> YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE, I DID ASK SOME OF THOSE QUESTIONS.

PEOPLE JUST KIND OF USED TO TELL ME, IT WILL COME.

WAITING IF MONEY, MONEY WILL COME.

WAITING FOR TIME, TIME WILL COME.

EVERYTHING WILL FIGURE ITSELF OUT.

DID THAT HAPPEN WITH YOU?

>> YOU HAVE TO PUT IT IN GODS HANDS.

AND YOU WALK YOUR BUTT TO GET WHERE YOU WANT TO BE TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY.

IF YOU HAVE TO DO FIVE JOBS, YOU DO IT.

>> JUST IN SOME ADVICE I ASK ALSO, WE HAD THINGS WE WERE SET ON DOING OR NOT DOING.

WE ALREADY SAID WE WEREN´T GOING TO BE BEAT OR CHILDREN.

>> ONE TIME I GOT BEAT.

>> I NEVER GET BEAT.

THAT´S THE THING.

I HAVE MY VIEWS ON IT.

I WAS A NON-NEGOTIABLE AND ANOTHER THING WE SAID TO JUST ABOUT SOME PEOPLE SAID, YOU GET A BABY AND LEAVE THE BABY CRY.

WE WERE GOING TO BE COMFORTING PARENTS.

SOMETIMES YOU GET ADVICE, DON´T CODDLE THE CHILD AND YOU HAVE DISCIPLINE AND A CERTAIN TYPE OF WAY.

AS TIME PROGRESSES WE COULD SEE THINGS THAT MIGHT NOT HAVE BEEN BEST FOR US.

AND WE KIND OF WORK ON OUR PARENTING THAT WAY.

WOULD YOU SAY THE BLOWS YOU GOT HELPED YOU?

>> KIND OF.

WHAT I SAW IN MY CHILDREN, I SAID EARLIER I LEARN FROM MY CHILDREN AS WELL.

WHAT I SAW IN THEM, WHAT THEY WERE DOING.

ALSO HELPED ME OUT.

IN TERMS OF DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN, THERE ARE DIFFERENT WAYS TO DO IT NOW.

THAN BACK THEN.

OF COURSE, KNOWLEDGE OF DISCIPLINE BACK THEN WASN´T REALLY WHAT IT IS TODAY.

AS TIME GOES YOU EVOLVE.

I WOULDN´T PUT MY HANDS ON A CHILD TODAY.

IT´S NOT NECESSARY.

THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO DISCIPLINE A CHILD.

ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE OLDER AND LOVE THE ELECTRONICS.

>> TAKE THINGS.

THEY GO CRAZY.

>> IS THERE ANYTHING YOU WISH YOU DID DIFFERENTLY?

>> YES.

I WISH I SPENT A LOT MORE TIME WITH MY CHILDREN.

BECAUSE JUST WALK IN AND I USED TO TRAVEL.

TRAVELING AND DOING THIS AND THAT.

I WOULD LIKE TO IF I GET TO REDO THAT, THAT´S WHAT I WOULD DO.

>> WE´RE ALL STILL HERE.

AND I HAVE SAID THIS OUT LOUD BEFORE, MY FATHER PAID FOR PRIVATE SCHOOL FOR ME.

MY FATHER PROVIDED ANYTHING I WANTED.

I NEVER REALLY WANT TD ANYTHING.

AND MY ADULTHOOD, YOU HAVE GIVEN OF YOUR YOURSELF A LOT.

I ALWAYS SAY EVERY TIME I SPENT TIME WITH MY FATHER I LEARN SOMETHING ELSE ABOUT HIM.

AS YOU TALK ABOUT SPENDING MORE TIME, WE NEED TO SPEND MORE TIME AND I ENJOY THE MORE TIME THAT WE SPEND.

YOU WISH YOU DID ANYTHING DIFFERENTLY?

>> I DID THE BEST I COULD.

AT THE TIME.

I WOULDN´T CHANGE IT FOR THE WORLD.

COULD I HAVE DONE MORE?

MAYBE.

WITH THE PROFESSION I HAD THAT KEPT ME AWAY FROM HOME.

IN TERMS OF HOURS.

THE DAYS OFF I MADE UP WITH THEM.

SPENT A LOT OF TIME.

DO A LOT OF EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITY WITH THEM.

>> OKAY.

IS THERE ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE, NOT NECESSARILY TO ME.

I CAN TAKE IT TOO.

JUST FATHERS OUT THERE.

YOUNG FATHERS OUT THERE IT COULD BE PEOPLE WITH SMALL CHILDREN, WITH TEENAGERS, ANY ADVICE?

>> BE UNORTHODOX.

WHAT I MEAN, ALL OF THE GOOD STUFF.

THOSE ARE THE BIGGEST IMPACT YOU CAN MAKE IN A CHILD´S LIFE.

THEY WILL REMEMBER THAT MORE THAN GIVING THEM $100.

LET THEM JUST BE WITH YOU.

THEY WANT TO BE AND GROW WITH THEM.

TEEM THECH.

TEACH THEM.

HAVE THE PERSONAL SPACE WITH THEM.

AND NOT EVERY CHILD IS THE SAME.

>> INDIVIDUALLY GIVE THEM THEIR OWN ATTENTION.

PARTICULAR MOMENTS.

>> GIVE AS MUCH AS ATTENTION TO YOUR CHILDREN AS YOU CAN.

SPEND TIME WITH THEM.

I USED TO WATCH MY BROTHER.

HE HAS TWO DAUGHTERS AND FROM THE TIME THEY WERE TWO YEARS OLD HE BRAID THEIR HAIR.

EVERY WEEK.

AND WATCHING HIM DO THAT, I USED TO GET GOOSE BUMPS.

I NEVER HAD A DAUGHTER.

FOR YOUNG FATHERS AS A PARENT, SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.

>> OKAY.

>> LET´S TAKE IT OUTSIDE OF PARENTHOOD SPECIFICALLY.

JUST AS MEN, IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOU KIND OF ALWAYS WANTED TO DO THAT YOU NEVER HAD A CHANCE TO DO OR SOMETHING YOU LOOK FORWARD TO DOING THAT YOU´RE EXCITED ABOUT?

>> GETTING MY CAMERO.

HAVING FUN.

I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE CHILD DISNEY LANDS AND I HAVE MORE FUN THAN MY CHILDREN.

WHEN EVER I HAD THE OPPORTUNITY I GO FULL ON.

>> I NEED THAT CAR.

DEFINITELY.

>> ME BASICALLY, I WANT TO TRAVEL.

>> TRAVELING IS KNOWLEDGE.

I HAVE DONE SOME, THERE´S A LOT MORE.

>> ANY PLACE YOU WANT TO GO TO THAT YOU HAVEN´T?

>> ITALY.

I HAVE NEVER BEEN THERE.

WHERE ELSE.

ENGLAND.

>> OKAY.

THOSE ARE A LOT MORE ACCESSIBLE NOW.

THAN BEFORE.

>> I KNOW.

TRAVELING GIVE YOU YOU LEARN SO MUCH.

>> YEAH.

AND WE ENJOY TRAVELING AS WELL.

I ALWAYS TALK ABOUT GOING TO THE DOMINICAN REPUBLIC.

PLAN A GUYS TRIP.

I DON´T KNOW HOW MUCH.

>> I HAVE BEEN THERE.

I DON´T REALLY -- >> YOU DON´T LIKE IT ON TV.

>> I´M NOT GOING TO SAY THAT.

IT´S FUN.

I HAD A GOOD TIME.

>> TOO GOOD OF A TIME.

>> IT´S FUN.

WE HAVE TO KEEP TABS ON HIM.

DESIGNATED EVERYTHING.

>> COMING UP IN FATHER´S DAY.

HOW WOULD YOU WANT TO -- WHAT´S THE BEST FATHER´S DAY CELEBRATION FOR YOU?

>> HAVING ALL MY GRANDCHILDREN AROUND ME.

JUST PUSHING MY HAMMOCK AND MAKING NOISE IN THE YARD.

RUNNING UP AND DOWN.

THAT WOULD BE THE MOST SPECIAL FATHER´S DAY FOR ME.

>> ALL FIVE OF THEM.

>> I CAN´T HAVE ALL MY GRANDCHILDREN.

FATHER´S DAY I CAN HAVE MY CHILDREN.

WATCH THEM.

SIT THERE AND WATCH THEM.

JUST WATCH THEIR ACTION.

>> AS MY WIFE AND I TRY TO FIGURE THINGS OUT, BOTH OF YOU MY MOTHER THE MOST DIFFICULT PEOPLE TO SHOP FOR.

MY WIFE IS THE SAME WAY.

YOU NEVER WANT ANYTHING AND ANYTHING YOU WANT, YOU PROBABLY GET FOR YOURSELF.

JUST KNOW WHEN THE CAR COMES AROUND, THAT´S THE BEST WE CAN COME UP WITH.

>> PLANE TICKET AND A CARD.

>> KEYS FOR THE CAMERA.

>> THAT´S THE THING.

TO EXPRESS YOURSELF AS A CHILD TO YOUR PARENTS, TO SAY WE LOVE YOU AND WE APPRECIATE YOU.

IT´S NEVER REALLY ANY SPECIFIC THING THAT COULD DO THAT.

AND WE TRY TO PICK UP ON THINGS THAT YOU MIGHT SAY.

BUT IT´S LIKE WE NEVER SAY ANYTHING.

>> SO, AS YOU MENTION AND MY FATHER IS A MUSICIAN.

YOU MENTION YOUR NAME.

THE FIRST THING THAT COMES TO MINE, YOU ARE ALWAYS WEARING A HAT.

FOR YOU, AS YOU THIS IS MR. HOME DECOR.

HE WANTS TO GRILL AND A GRILL STATION.

ANYTHING WE CAN GET TO ACCENTUATE YOUR PROJECTS.

THAT´S SOMETHING YOU APPRECIATE.

>> OUT DOOR FUN.

>> YES.

IN BOTH OF YOUR CASES, LIKE I SAID YOU ARE READY TO DO EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOURSELF AND US.

IT´S DIFFICULT.

BUT TIME IS SOMETHING THAT WE CAN SPARE FOR SURE.

>> TIME.

TIME IS THE BIGGEST THING.

>> IT´S IMPORTANT.

IT´S SHORT.

>> YEAH.

>> THE ONE COMPONENT BEFORE I FORGET, IS BEING MENTOR TO OTHERS CHILDREN WHO DON´T HAVE FATHERS.

>> FATHER TO PEOPLE WHO AREN´T NECESSARILY FATHERS.

>> MY GOD DAUGHTERS AND SONS.

I LOVE JUST DOING WHAT I CAN DO TO HELP THEM AND MAKE SURE THEY´RE ON THE RIGHT PATH.

>> SURE.

THANK YOU FOR JOINING ME.

HAPPY FATHER´S DAY.

>> THANK YOU.

>> HAPPY FATHER´S DAY TO THE FATHERS OUT THERE AND MAKE SURE YOU TUNE IN.

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BIG UP MENTORS.

AND JOIN US ON ANOTHER EPISODE NEXT WEEK.

MONDAY.

UNTIL NEXT TIME, PEACE.

>>> THE VIEWS EXPRESSED ON THIS PROGRAM ARE NOT NECESSARILY THOSE OF WTJX, ITS BOARD, STAFF OR UNDERWRITERS.