As conversations about racism have become more common.

So has advice for whites about being thoughtful with questions.

So we asked our black friends, what are you most tired of being asked to explain?

- I'm not a history major.

I don't constantly study history.

And so to be asked to explain a whole historical event when Google exists or when they had the same, like education that I had, it's kind of exhausting and ridiculous.

It's like, I don't know how to explain all these concepts to you.

I don't know everything.

And some people kind of expect you to.

Because it dealt with black history.

And that's impossible.

It's impossible and it's a ridiculous standard for black people to have to live up to.

You know, I'm not going around and asking everyone to explain every single detail of the Boston Tea Party or every single detail of the Titanic sinking, just because white people were there.

Like it doesn't make any sense.

- I don't know.

There lots of questions like about my hair and you know, they don't understand why does your hair do that?

I don't know it's in my DNA.

I think they're surprised to know that my family is very close and not dysfunctional.

And you know, they're surprised that we get together for birthdays and you know.

I just don't, people don't understand that we're just a family, just like anyone else.

- For me being a community activist what they're asking me is, why can't you let it go?

Why is it important to you?

And I just have to tell...

Excuse me.

Because I have children and grandchildren.

And if we don't get it right.

I don't want them to have to go through this like, we're having to go through this.

They deserve better.

They've worked hard.

And they deserve to have a life that right, the right to life liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

So when they ask, why do I do this?

I cannot not do this.

I cannot keep silent.

I wasn't raised like that.

- Have you ever been fired from a job because you're black?

Or you thought that you were fired from a job because you're black?

Or have you ever been beat up because you were, you know, African-American?

The answer to everything is, absolutely yes.

Have you ever been mistreated on your job?

Have you ever been denied a promotion because you're African-American?

Absolutely yes.

So the answer to your question is, I get tired of it, but I'll never stop asking the questions 'cause people have to know.